Cija Black is the author of Modern Love: The Grownup's Guide to Relationships & Online Dating. Cija is a Portland, Oregon writer, blogger for WinkWisely, LavaLife and Digital Romance, online educator and speaker devoted to empowering people in their own love lives. Her dating and relationship expertise comes from 20 years of in-the-trenches experience safely using personals both on and off line.
Cija is dedicated to helping people sort their relationship baggage, find real love and take responsibility for their own happiness. She is committed to bringing clarity to situations that previously seemed like a massive tangle of misunderstanding and frustration.
Cija Black is 42 years old and is a California girl at heart, but currently lives in Portland, Oregon with her two very vocal cats and amazing husband, who she met online.
For more information about Cija Black and Modern Love the book, please visit modernloveguide.com. You can also follow Modern Love on Twitter , Facebook , YouTube and Pinterest at : modernloveguide.
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Now that you have determined you are ready to date, why do you want to date? We are bombarded with ideas from pop culture, friends and family that we should be paired up. This lesson will help you make sure that you are dating for the right reason, because you want to.
Along with your early family dynamics, popular culture (movie, music, TV) have also had an impact on your concept of love and how it is "supposed" to be. This lesson will ask you to take a walk down memory lane to see what popular culture has added to your expectations of love and fill in some more pieces to your love puzzle.
Have you ever suddenly found yourself in the middle of an argument with your partner? One minute everything is fine, the next it's all out war. This is called “My Crap, Your Crap. In this scenario either you or your partner said or did something that triggered a crossed boundary from the others past.
This lesson will help you identify the "crap" and find some healthier ways to work through issues when they arise with your current or future partner.
Do you find yourself in the same relationship just with different people? Are you drawn to the same “types” time and time again. This lesson will ask you to look at some unhealthy types and personality traits to see if you recognize them or maybe even see some of these traits in yourself. You will will why you may not want to steer clear of them in the future.
You truly teach people how to treat you. Boundaries tell the people in our lives where we stand, what we value and what is important to us. This lesson explains the importance of boundaries and knowing when they are crossed and why you should maintain them for the health of your relationships.
This lesson asks you to dig deeper, by asking you to answer a series of questions. Thinking about and answering these questions is going to give you some important insight into what makes your heart tick. Lecture 9 will help you learn from those questions.
The previous lessons have asked you to strip away the baggage of your past. This lesson ask you to give even more focus towards where you want to go, and determine what you want to invite into your love life.
Modern Love Section I: Relationship Archeology contains the sections of the book that correspond with the lessons of this class. Refer to the page numbers at the bottom of actual page, rather than the pdf page numbers at the top.
This is Section III of the book and takes you through the actual going out of on dates process. There is great information about dating safety, breaking up if your just not feeling it and also setting the foundation for a healthy new love.
Cija helps you dig down deep and discover what you seek in a mate and in a relationship. Then, she helps you work on yourself as you prepare for online dating. I highly recommend this course to anyone struggling with dating and relationships--online or off! Ms. M The Female-Centric Relationship Coach™ and Founder of Contemporary Cuckoldry™ "Stop wasting time with the fantasy and start building your own reality." -- Ms. M (MultifacetedMoi.com)