Success in life depends on having connections who need what you know. Information of itself is Power.
People want you for your inside intelligence and it has to be:
We call this the RITA Model of sharing knowledge.
Learn how to build your network of connections by giving to get.
Resolve any conflict with your key connections before the relationship fails.
Continuously and quickly assess the quality of a network relationship and decide if you should repair it or move on to find a new one.
Discover how to read your own emotions and those of others to keep relationships in good working order.
Learn the Art of Marrying What you Know with Who you must Know.
This lecture describes the evolution of living communally, the underlying needs of group members and how to make an ongoing valued contribution to your network.
The principle of "you scratch my back and I'll scratch yours" is explained at the level of evolutionary anthropology.
Networking is framed as the extension of primitive ape grooming with information as the medium for grooming.
Network contacts will bond with you if you can bring them RITA information which helps mitigated their primal fears about survival.
RITA stands for relevant, informative, timely and actionable. If you can tell others things that help them to improve their circumstances right now then your network contacts will have every incentive to look out for you.
When you operate from your authentic core you will effortlessly connect and bring RITA information to your connections. They will sense that you are not trying to abuse the relationship in any way and your reputation will grow as will the strength of your bonds.
12 questions that will help you to uncover the way you deal with your networked contacts.
When key relationships start to go wrong it's important to spot the emotional warning signs and then to pause long enough to allow the higher mind to regain control.
Under pressure you will only get a split second to realise that your limbic, fear based systems, are kicking in. As your body flares into aggression (violence) or passive aggression (silence) you can buy time to care about you health and the effect you are having on others and avoid emotional over-reactions.
The step by step procedure for initiating a conversation to help recover a damaged relationship and get it back on track. Using classic sales techniques you can explore your expectations from a connection and see the situation from their point of view. In this way you can rebuild the consensus for mutual support.
Sometimes it's important to objectively rate the return from your investment in a network connection. Using a technique used in marriage guidance it's possible to draw up a metric system for your and the other parties ranking on the key vectors or the relationship.
Each class of connection, home, business, community etc. will be measured differently but the same principle applies.
We describe some potential scenarios and ask you to assess your identification with the good and bad elements of the suggested behaviours.
1. There are many times in life when we know we need some guidance but it's tough to ask for help.
2. Fear of what others might think, pride or embarrassment can hold us back.
3. Our courses deal with subjects which are difficult to talk about to your boss or other people.
* Dealing with difficult people
* Anxiety about basic skills
* Alcohol issues
We offer the soft skills for hard times
4. They are affordable and accessible any time and any place on the internet.
5. You can learn in total privacy.
6. We are on-hand to offer personal support via Skype should you need it. We've been where you are now.
We can help you to uncover the sub-conscious forces driving unhelpful patterns of behaviour and create the conditions for you to create a long-term solution.
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About Peter Urey.
Trained to advanced level in personal coaching techniques including Clean Language and Symbolic Modelling, Hoshin Planning, Business NLP and HP's Leadership Development Programme.
Experienced coach for Hewlett Packard, Symantec, Canon, Epson plus many more.
Educated in Law at University of Oxford.
Aged 56, married 29 years, 3 adult children.
Student of Clean Language and Symbolic Modelling under Marian Way, author of Clean Approaches for Coaches.
Black Belt in Karate.