It's part of our lives and more and more so. Maybe it's happened to you, someone you know or maybe you work in this field.
Fortunately, when it comes to the children, your children, they no longer have to go on living with the experience of their parents' divorce. Not if it's handled properly anyway.
This course is completely and entirely about helping children cope with divorce and is suitable for anyone living or working in this area including parents, family mediators, social workers and family solicitors.
Ever wondered why some children and families cope better with divorce and separation than others?
This Complete Guide in Helping Children Cope with Divorce is very straightforward and easy to follow.
From this course:
This course will provide you with video sessions, power point as well as written text.
It is split in two separate sections - Helping Children Cope with Divorce and section two is How to Create an Age Appropriate Parenting Plan. Each of the sections will include information based on the child's age group and what to expect from them during this time of change.
Why take this course?
Because by doing it, you will be making sure that your children and the ones you work with will be and remain alright now and into their adult lives.
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The aim of this course is to provide parents,carers and divorce professionals with essential and significant information that will help and guide you as you continue to look after and support children of divorce.
The course covers loads of different areas but what makes it stand out is the fact that child development is used referred to along with what to expect at the various stages of life.
Helping Children Cope with Divorce and Separation is a long term process but what is vital is that the children's views are taken into account along with their stage of development because what a 3 year old requires or is capable of is very different from what a 13 year old's needs and requirements.
Of course the basics are the same i.e. love, attention and care but it's the way these are manifested by the parents that will differ.
By the end of the course, you will be more aware of steps you can take to help create your child's new chapter in life in a way that will be beneficial to him/her both in the short and in the long term.
You will also know what situations and circumstances to avoid to ensure that your children are growing and thriving well between two households. It is possible, of that I can assure you.
You will also learn what is necessary when creating the co-parenting plan and most importantly a parenting plan that is age appropriate for your child or children.
In this lecture, we will be looking at what setting needs to be put in place so that your child is able to thrive between two households as well as minimise any potentially adverse long-term reactions that might otherwise emerge.
Your child's environment matters a great deal and not just the physical surroundings but what it offers in terms of containment of his or her anxieties and worries and this is what we will be looking at in this lecture.
Don't forget to refer to the resources sections for more information and lecture content.
Similar to lecture 3 but yet stands in contrast, this lecture looks at what situations and circumstances to steer clear off when looking after children of divorce while the previous lecture looked at what to put in place.
In this lecture, you will find instances and examples of what kind of issues parents commonly overlook in the belief that their children a) won't notice or b) won't be affected by it.
Someone once said, "a child old enough to smile is old enough to experience trauma." How true and this will be demonstrated in the course.
Whatever you do, as a father, please retain as much of a relationship with your child or children.
Whatever you do, as a mother, please refrain from interrupting your child's relationship with their father.
In this lecture we look at why. What are the effects on children when their father disappears from their lives?
The notes in the resources section will provide you with more valuable information.
Knowing what the effects of divorce on children are will help:
As always, more notes in the resources section.
This is one of the most valuable lectures in this course.
In this lecture you will learn what particular signs or symptoms indicate that your child may not be coping as well as you would like them to or as well as you had hoped.
Any changes in behaviour require your attention and what to look out for.
Changes in behaviour left unattended will only get worse.
I have yet to meet parents who have not had challenging moments with any of their children without or without the existence of divorce.
We've all had them it's normal.
In this lecture, you will learn:
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Sometimes, as we work with clients going through divorce and separation, we can find them, and ourselves for that matter, moving in a different direction that serves no purpose to the aim of creating the co-parenting plan.
Our clients, emotions may rise causing them to "forget" that they need to do what's best for the children and in your effort to get them to shift from a place of confrontation and anger and back to the children, can be extremely challenging.
The questions in Lecture 12 have been put together to help you bring the children back into the room and the focus of their children.
If you find that the parents are not answering a question and keeps deviating and going off on a tangent, then do repeat the question until you eventually get an answer.
As a family mediator and child therapist, I have met many a parent who is having difficulty coming to an agreed co-parenting agreement for many reasons such as practical concerns and issues such as work commitments and distance or it may also be due to the parent's harbouring of powerful emotions such as anger and resentment.
Here are some questions that you may want to use to get them to shift from their defiant position. Some of them you may find, are similar to the ones parents need to ask themselves.
In this lecture we look at the Parental Alienation:
In this lecture, you will learn what to keep in mind when creating a parenting plan.
You will find that there are several factors to consider even though at times it is difficult to put all of them into practice.
“Think about this. The judge comes on the bench and says that he has read the information in the case file and it looks like the same old nonsense that he sees day in and day out. He then goes into a stern lecture along the lines that he does not know you children, has never met them and of all the people in the courtroom, he likely knows the least about them … yet you two, the parents, are willing to let him, a complete stranger, tell you how you will raise your children.”
–Mike Mastracci, STOP Fighting Over the Kids.
As you go through this guide, you will find sample parenting plans. They are there as a guide to help you see what an age appropriate parenting plan suitable for your family could look like.
There are a few of sample parenting plans which may help you in deciding which co-parenting plan to pick.
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It's all very well talking about the day to day care of children after divorce and separation but there are those other days and times when there is no school maybe for one day or for several weeks.
How will these days be handled? Where will the children be and with whom?
This lecture looks at the various options that there are in organising and arranging for these special days in ways that will be beneficial to all parties.
Remember to keep your child's age in mind.
This is course is not intended to replace any legal advice you may need or require while going through divorce and separation.
You are strongly advised to seek legal, parenting and any other expert advice when looking to create an age-appropriate parenting plan.
The information provided here:
·is only a means to help guide you towards creating a parenting plan that is age-appropriate for your child or children.
·is by no means complete, as child development is a huge topic that cannot be done justice here.
·is as accurate as possible, given the length and scope of the guide. It may contain some inaccuracies, and you should be aware of this.
So, with this in mind, please be aware that you are solely responsible for using this guide and determining how appropriate and relevant it is for you and your family.
I, Soila Sindiyo, disclaim any liability to any person or persons for any loss or damage caused by errors, inaccuracies or omissions that may appear in this guide.
An accredited Positive Parenting Practitioner (Triple P) and a trained Family Mediator, Soila is also a certified school and trauma specialist with the National Institute of Trauma and Loss and has extensive experience of working with children and families.
Soila holds a BSc (Hons) in Psychology from The Open University and an MSc in Child Development from University College London (UCL).
She is known of taking away the pain and hurt when it comes to loss, bereavement and divorce.
Soila is a Graduate Member of The British Psychological Society and Affiliate Member of Resolution,
She is the author of the children's book - When Love is Broken - a read together book for children and parents of divorce.