Parenting After Separation
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Parenting After Separation

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Created by Soila Sindiyo
Last updated 7/2016
English
Price: $45
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Includes:
  • 2 hours on-demand video
  • 4 Articles
  • 26 Supplemental Resources
  • Full lifetime access
  • Access on mobile and TV
  • Certificate of Completion
What Will I Learn?
  • Be able to create the right age appropriate parenting plan that works for you and your children
  • Be able to provide a conducive and nurturing environment that will allow your children to thrive between two households
  • Appreciate the value, importance and benefits of having both parents play a role in the children's lives
  • Come away with samples of parenting plans, each with it's advantages and disadvantages, that they can use to help them create that all important age appropriate parenting plan
  • Spot the signs that indicate that their children may not be coping with divorce and separation and know what to do about it
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Requirements
  • All students of this course need to be interested in the area of children, divorce and separation. There is a lot of useful, essential and relevant information in this course, so you need to be prepared to work and learn. This is what the course focuses on.
Description

Divorce happens.

It's part of our lives and more and more so. Maybe it's happened to you, someone you know or maybe you work in this field.

Fortunately, when it comes to the children, your children, they no longer have to go on living with the experience of their parents' divorce. Not if it's handled properly anyway.

This course is completely and entirely about helping children cope with divorce and is suitable for anyone living or working in this area including parents, family mediators, social workers and family solicitors.

Ever wondered why some children and families cope better with divorce and separation than others?

This Complete Guide in Helping Children Cope with Divorce is very straightforward and easy to follow.

From this course:

  • You will know and fully understand what the effects of divorce are on children and at what age
  • You will become more aware of when to be concerned about your children during and after divorce and what to do about any behaviour changes you may notice
  • You will be able to create an age appropriate parenting plan that will allow your children to grow and thrive between the two homes
  • You will learn which situations and circumstances to avoid during and after divorce

This course will provide you with video sessions, power point as well as written text.

It is split in two separate sections - Helping Children Cope with Divorce and section two is How to Create an Age Appropriate Parenting Plan. Each of the sections will include information based on the child's age group and what to expect from them during this time of change.

Why take this course?

Because by doing it, you will be making sure that your children and the ones you work with will be and remain alright now and into their adult lives.

Who is the target audience?
  • Parents, carers and those looking after or involved in the lives of children of divorce
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Curriculum For This Course
23 Lectures
03:08:19
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Section 1 - Helping Children Cope
12 Lectures 51:51

Hi,

Thank you for purchasing this course.

The aim of this course is to provide parents,carers and divorce professionals with essential and significant information that will help and guide you as you continue to look after and support children of divorce.

The course covers loads of different areas but what makes it stand out is the fact that child development is used referred to along with what to expect at the various stages of life.

Helping Children Cope with Divorce and Separation is a long term process but what is vital is that the children's views are taken into account along with their stage of development because what a 3 year old requires or is capable of is very different from what a 13 year old's needs and requirements.

Of course the basics are the same i.e. love, attention and care but it's the way these are manifested by the parents that will differ.

By the end of the course, you will be more aware of steps you can take to help create your child's new chapter in life in a way that will be beneficial to him/her both in the short and in the long term.

You will also know what situations and circumstances to avoid to ensure that your children are growing and thriving well between two households. It is possible, of that I can assure you.

You will also learn what is necessary when creating the co-parenting plan and most importantly a parenting plan that is age appropriate for your child or children.

Preview 02:44


Introduction Questions for Parents
6 pages

Introduction Quiz - For Divorce Professionals Only
7 pages

In this lecture, we will be looking at what setting needs to be put in place so that your child is able to thrive between two households as well as minimise any potentially adverse long-term reactions that might otherwise emerge.

Your child's environment matters a great deal and not just the physical surroundings but what it offers in terms of containment of his or her anxieties and worries and this is what we will be looking at in this lecture.

Don't forget to refer to the resources sections for more information and lecture content.

Enjoy!

Providing a Caring Environment for your Child During and after Divorce.
05:17

Similar to lecture 3 but yet stands in contrast, this lecture looks at what situations and circumstances to steer clear off when looking after children of divorce while the previous lecture looked at what to put in place. 

In this lecture, you will find instances and examples of what kind of issues parents commonly overlook in the belief that their children a) won't notice or b) won't be affected by it.

Someone once said, "a child old enough to smile is old enough to experience trauma." How true and this will be demonstrated in the course.

Situations and Circumstances to Avoid During and After Divorce.
07:48

Are you the Toxic Parent?
8 pages

Whatever you do, as a father, please retain as much of a relationship with your child or children.  

Whatever you do, as a mother, please refrain from interrupting your child's relationship with their father. 

In this lecture we look at why.  What are the effects on children when their father disappears from their lives? 

The notes in the resources section will provide you with more valuable information. 

Why Fathers are Important
07:14

Knowing what the effects of divorce on children are will help:

  • in knowing how to avoid the causes of those effects 
  • in making you more aware of what to look out for in terms of behavioural changes

As always, more notes in the resources section.

The Effects of Divorce on Children
10:32

Is this your Child?
6 pages

This is one of the most valuable lectures in this course.

In this lecture you will learn what particular signs or symptoms indicate that your child may not be coping as well as you would like them to or as well as you had hoped.

Any changes in behaviour require your attention and what to look out for.

Changes in behaviour left unattended will only get worse. 

When to be Concerned
05:53

I have yet to meet parents who have not had challenging moments with any of their children without or without the existence of divorce.

We've all had them it's normal.

In this lecture, you will learn:

  • ways of recognising challenging behaviour 
  • how to deal with it.

If you have any queries whatsoever do contact me soila@helpingchildrencope.co.uk

Managing Challenging Behaviour
07:54
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How to Create your age-appropriate Co-Parenting Plan
11 Lectures 01:10:23
Introduction to Section 2
02:04

Sometimes, as we work with clients going through divorce and separation, we can find them, and ourselves for that matter, moving in a different direction that serves no purpose to the aim of creating the co-parenting plan.

Our clients, emotions may rise causing them to "forget" that they need to do what's best for the children and in your effort to get them to shift from a place of confrontation and anger and back to the children, can be extremely challenging.

The questions in Lecture 12 have been put together to help you bring the children back into the room and the focus of their children.

If you find that the parents are not answering a question and keeps deviating and going off on a tangent, then do repeat the question until you eventually get an answer.

As a family mediator and child therapist, I have met many a parent who is having difficulty coming to an agreed co-parenting agreement for many reasons such as practical concerns and issues such as work commitments and distance or it may also be due to the parent's harbouring of powerful emotions such as anger and resentment.

Here are some questions that you may want to use to get them to shift from their defiant position. Some of them you may find, are similar to the ones parents need to ask themselves.

  1. What kind of environment would you like to create for your child to live in during and after divorce?
  2. How can you support this?
  3. What kind of relationship does your child have with the other parent?
  4. How can you help nurture the relationship between your ex-partner and the children?
  5. How often would your child like to see the other parent?
  6. What steps are you taking towards making sure that your child continues to see and spend as much time as possible with his/her other parent?
  7. How would it benefit your child to continue having a relationship with the other parent?
  8. How would your child feel if he/she were to have his/her relationship with the the other parent interrupted or discontinued?
Questions to ask Parents - For Divorce Professionals
04:53

In this lecture we look at the Parental Alienation: 

  • What it is  
  • What are the signs
  • How to deal with it
Parental Alienation
02:30

In this lecture, you will learn what to keep in mind when creating a parenting plan.

You will find that there are several factors to consider even though at times it is difficult to put all of them into practice.

  • Children need a conflict free environment 
  • That age does indeed play a role in deciding what the parenting plan should look like.


Factors to Consider When Creating your Age Appropriate Parenting Plan.
10:17

Think about this. The judge comes on the bench and says that he has read the information in the case file and it looks like the same old nonsense that he sees day in and day out. He then goes into a stern lecture along the lines that he does not know you children, has never met them and of all the people in the courtroom, he likely knows the least about them … yet you two, the parents, are willing to let him, a complete stranger, tell you how you will raise your children.”

Mike Mastracci, STOP Fighting Over the Kids.

As you go through this guide, you will find sample parenting plans. They are there as a guide to help you see what an age appropriate parenting plan suitable for your family could look like.

There are a few of sample parenting plans which may help you in deciding which co-parenting plan to pick.

Which Parenting Plan to Pick or Choose?
07:39

In this lecture you will:

  • learn what to expect developmentally from a child aged 0 - 3 years old
  • learn what behavioural changes to be aware off if your child is not coping with the current parenting plan or divorce situation
  • learn what your child aged 0 - 3 years requires at this age for his/her environment to be conducive to his/her development
  • have valuable sample parenting plans that you can use to create your own parenting plan, each with it’s advantage and disadvantage discussed


Children Aged Between 0 - 3 years
08:13

In this lecture you will:

  • learn what to expect developmentally from a child aged 3 - 5 years old
  • learn what behavioural changes to be aware off if your child is not coping with the current parenting plan or divorce situation
  • learn what your child aged 3 - 5 years requires at this age for his/her environment to be conducive to his/her development
  • have valuable sample parenting plans that you can use to create your own parenting plan, each with it’s advantage and disadvantage discussed
Children Aged Between 3 - 5 years.
08:33

In this lecture you will:

  • learn what to expect developmentally from a child aged 6 - 12 years old
  • learn what behavioural changes to be aware off if your child is not coping with the current parenting plan or divorce situation
  • learn what your child aged 6 - 12 years requires at this age for his/her environment to be conducive to his/her development
  • have valuable sample parenting plans that you can use to create your own parenting plan, each with it’s advantage and disadvantage discussed
Children Aged Between 6 - 12 years
10:06

In this lecture you will:

  • learn what to expect developmentally from a child aged 13 - 18 years old
  • learn what behavioural changes to be aware off if your child is not coping with the current parenting plan or divorce situation
  • learn what your child aged 13 - 18 years requires at this age for his/her environment to be conducive to his/her development
  • have valuable sample parenting plans that you can use to create your own parenting plan, each with it’s advantage and disadvantage discussed
Children Aged Between 13 - 18 years
09:21

It's all very well talking about the day to day care of children after divorce and separation but there are those other days and times when there is no school maybe for one day or for several weeks.

How will these days be handled? Where will the children be and with whom?

This lecture looks at the various options that there are in organising and arranging for these special days in ways that will be beneficial to all parties. 

Remember to keep your child's age in mind.

Public Holidays and School Holidays
05:21

This is course is not intended to replace any legal advice you may need or require while going through divorce and separation.

You are strongly advised to seek legal, parenting and any other expert advice when looking to create an age-appropriate parenting plan.

The information provided here:

    ·is only a means to help guide you towards creating a parenting plan that is age-appropriate for your child or children.

    ·is by no means complete, as child development is a huge topic that cannot be done justice here.

    ·is as accurate as possible, given the length and scope of the guide. It may contain some inaccuracies, and you should be aware of this.

So, with this in mind, please be aware that you are solely responsible for using this guide and determining how appropriate and relevant it is for you and your family.

I, Soila Sindiyo, disclaim any liability to any person or persons for any loss or damage caused by errors, inaccuracies or omissions that may appear in this guide.

Disclaimer
01:26
About the Instructor
Soila Sindiyo
4.7 Average rating
11 Reviews
38 Students
1 Course
Child Therapist at Helping Children Cope

An accredited Positive Parenting Practitioner (Triple P) and a trained Family Mediator, Soila is also a certified school and trauma specialist with the National Institute of Trauma and Loss and has extensive experience of working with children and families.

Soila holds a BSc (Hons) in Psychology from The Open University and an MSc in Child Development from University College London (UCL).

She is known of taking away the pain and hurt when it comes to loss, bereavement and divorce.

Soila is a Graduate Member of The British Psychological Society and Affiliate Member of Resolution, 

She is the author of the children's book - When Love is Broken - a read together book for children and parents of divorce.