The most valuable asset you have as a parent is your calm presence. This two-part course includes evidence-based strategies from western psychology and ancient wisdom from yoga, and mindful self-care practices that integrate both. This course is designed for parents, or anyone interested in learning more about mindful parenting.
Core teachings include these foundational topics:
You will connect to your innate wisdom, cultivate mindfulness, and build your life force through the following:
Plus, you'll learn active listening techniques essential for healthy family communication.
What you'll need:
"These may be the most useful and affirming two hours you can spend as a parent. It is the ultimate gift in self-care that in turn becomes a great gift to your child. The concepts and video demonstrations, the poses and the stories, weave a tapestry of that “loving space" from which we can be our best self in the service of our children and our parenting partners. For the clinician, it provides an accessible set of ideas and strategies for helping the stressed parents we serve. A fantastic resource."
"Luci Hackbert, PhD has done what she does best and created a thoughtful, gentle and clear guide to anyone on the path of parenting. The power of her work lies in her unwavering support of parents and their inner lives. Luci empowers us to show up for ourselves so we can embody the responsibility and joy of raising our children."
I introduce the concept of mindfulness. I like to think of mindfulness as a way to focus our perspective with intention and care. I also use mindfulness as a way to broaden my capacity for self-reflection. Mindfulness can help you to parent with consciousness as you uncover the unconscious patterns that limit your relationships.
Complete this quiz as you begin to set your intentions for the course.
This downloadable handout is for you to follow along with the teachings, story, and practices in this section
We know that children learn thru imitation. You are your child's first teacher. The way that you handle and approach your inner life may be the most valuable asset you have as a parent. In this introductory video, I will discuss why YOU are the focus and not your child.
In this video, I share more ideas about why your calm presence is so valuable.
Here I introduce the rationale for focusing on your breath. Mindful awareness is an embodied experience and so in this course we work with your breath as an index of your inner life and as a method for integrating your mind and body. Parenting requires a strong life force and the breath can help build your energy so that you will be calm and skillful.
Use this video to start the practice of exploring your resting breath. Working with a a partner, you will discover where your breath is weak or restricted and you will have a chance to use your mindful awareness to bring more vitality into these areas. This is also a partner exercise where you can practice the witness perspective to use care and attention as a loving gift for another person.
Use these questions to guide you and your partner through a process of self-reflection. In this course, mindfulness is seen as a contemplative practice, an opportunity to be open and curious about inner life. This dialogue supports relational mindfulness: a way to be more attuned and responsive to others.
This instructional video will guide you through the restorative posture of legs-up-the-wall. This is a valuable pose for bringing ease into your day. It can help you to relax deeply.
Use this video to rest and be inspired by a story. These 7-8 minutes should renew you on a deep level.
This is the instructional video to learn about Touchpoint breathing. This is a self-care practice you can use to establish your relationship with you breath as a resource for calm presence. With practice on a daily basis, you can soothe your nervous system, become less reactive and more responsive and attuned to yourself and others.
This is a self-care practice for establishing your relationship with you breath as a resource of calm presence. With practice on a daily basis, you can soothe your nervous system, become less reactive and more responsive and attuned to yourself and others.
You made it through the first half of the course! Here I summarize what you have learned and encourage you to keep going.
This extra video describes how to approach strong emotions that may arise as you begin to practice meditation and self-care. It can be helpful to recognize strong emotions as a natural aspect of the parenting process. If you, your partner or friend have a history of trauma, you might benefit from the support of a trained professional or therapist. Here I discuss some of the things to look for in distinguishing strong emotion from a traumatic response.
This downloadable handout is for you to follow along with the teachings, story, and practices in Section 3
Parents can create a family environment that is attuned and responsive. We know that children who grow up in this kind of family environment will be more resilient in the face of challenge. Parents can start by establishing a loving space for awareness to unfold and then extend this attitude to the way they relate to themselves.
This video focuses on cultivating an attitude that is kind and gentle but steady and confident in your self-care practices. I like to think of this as a "loving space": a place to honor what is right and true for you. Cultivating a loving space means that we turn toward sensation, emotion, and inner experience with acceptance and compassion. This attitude allows us to explore our inner life and establish confidence. We can be the calm presence that are family needs.
Complete breathing is introduced here. This is a self-care practice to expand your breath and encourage a fuller, smoother and more complete way of breathing. Complete breathing builds a stronger life force so you can meet the challenges of parenting with a clear and calm presence.
Here is the practice of complete breathing. Use this practice to expand your breath capacity and also to work with the obstacles (psychological, physical, as well as spiritual) that may arise during the practice. With time and patience, your breath will become more complete and you will be more confident as you work with obstacles.
Here are the instructions for completing the questions for self-reflection that accompany the complete breathing practice. This is a partner exercise and an opportunity to feel supported as you explore your inner experience and bear witness to another persons expereince.
This instructional video demonstrates how to use the restorative posture of legs up the wall. Restorative postures from yoga are a way to soothe the nervous system as you integrate what you are learning on a deep level.
This is a practice of a guided rest with a story to inspire you on a deep level. Many parents have trouble relaxing. This practice can help you relax deeply so that you can help your family to be a sanctuary of peace, comfort and ease.
This instructional video will teach you how to expand the practice of Touchpoint breathing that you learned in the previous session. Use this self-care practice every day to develop your capacity for calm presence. Use it when you feel overwhelmed by anxiety, fear or anger so that you can alter any patterns of reacting unconsciously.
Here is the practice of touchpoint breathing expanded. In this self-care practice you can develop a smooth and even breathing. In addition you can explore the stillness within the pauses between breaths. These pauses provides an opportunity to feel a deep sense of calm and to tap into the witness perspective.
This is the final video where I thank you for your participation and acknowledge my teachers.
My name is Lucianne Hackbert, PhD. and I am a life coach, guide and teacher. I believe you have intuition about what is right and true for you. My work as a coach, guide and teacher reflect years of training and professional expertise as a licensed clinical psychologist. My life experience as a dedicated yogi, an artist, a wife and a mother are also important assets for our work.
I received a BA in Art and Psychology from Mary Baldwin College and an MS and PhD in clinical psychology from the University of New Mexico. After postdoctoral training and an appointment as a clinical instructor at the University of Washington Medical School, I left academia and started a clinical practice in Seattle in 2001.
After the birth of my second son in 2005, my psychology practice began to broaden to include my family life, and I became motivated on a deeply personal level. I noticed my emotional connection to my two sons was so alive, so inspiring, and also sensitive. As a new mother, I felt so vulnerable. At times this sensitivity overwhelmed me. I turned to my personal practice of yoga and mindfulness to super-charge my confidence. I noticed that when I took the time to care for myself, I felt more open, loving, attentive, and wise with my family. When I took the time to replenish my internal resources, I was more equipped to handle the challenges that arose naturally out of everyday parenting situations. I learned that the strategies that were useful for my clients were also helpful to me as a parent. I hope that the practices I have developed in my Parenting with Awareness course will empower you too to be more attuned to yourself and become a pillar of calm presence for your family.