Learn concepts, skills, and strategies to restore and preserve the relationship you have with your partner.
Discover the Secrets of Healthy Relationships in this Comprehensive Step-By-Step Program.
Learn a unique perspective of what conflict really is, as well a groundbreaking and effective approach to resolving it.
A reporter once asked a couple, "How did you manage to stay together for 65 years?" The woman replied, "We were born in a time when if something was broken we would fix it, not throw it away."
So how do you “fix” a relationship? The goal of this course is to answer that question.
This course is an introduction to The Melfox Method - an innovative 5-part program that
By any standard, the extent of failed and failing relationships has been at epidemic proportions for quite some time now. This is easily demonstrated by the track record of the huge group of people who took a solemn vow to stay together forever. Even with all of the initial dedication, devotion, and pressure to remain intact, around 50% of all marriages end in divorce, with the rate rising at least 10% with each subsequent marriage.
And what about all the unhappy marriages that would mercifully end if not for situational circumstances? Since they haven’t figured out how to fix their relationship with each other, many couples feel emotionally imprisoned. They stay in a miserable, often mostly sexless marriage just because they feel financially trapped, don’t want to upset or leave their children, or simply don’t want to be on their own.
Of course, deteriorating relationships do not plague only married folks. Partners in any kind of relationship will suffer the same fate until they learn the root cause of relationship issues, and how to resolve them. Although some people may instinctively understand the principles of successful conflict resolution, the vast majority of us have not been properly and effectively taught how to “fix” our relationships.
Enroll now, and start detoxifying (and saving) your relationship.
By the end of this course, you will have the tools and knowledge to resolve any and all conflicts with your partner and restore your relationship, without the typical roadblocks that we have all no doubt experienced. You will be provided with step-by-step instructions on zeroing in on the real causes of relationship problems, and how to pull them up ...by the roots!
This course for restoring healthy relationships is designed like an instruction manual of a game or sport. You will be taught the challenge and goal, the offensive game plan, how to regulate your normal and natural defensive reactions, techniques and strategies on effectively executing the game plan, and the expected results and benefits when doing so.
The ideal student for this course is anyone who wants to fully understand the real causes of relationship problems and how to effectively get rid of them. As the problems are resolved, the attraction, trust, and respect you have for your partner are naturally restored. There are no requirements necessary to enroll. We only ask that you come open-minded and ready to learn.
After learning and applying the simple yet powerful lessons, you will be able to look at detoxifying your relationship in the same way as cleaning your kitchen, without sweeping any issue under the rug. No compromises, no sacrifices, and no forgiveness needed. You will learn how to simply remove the toxic barrier that naturally develops between you and your partner over time, restoring and even enhancing the original attraction, trust, and respect.
In this lesson, we begin exploring the relationship Environment: the first section of The Melfox Method. This is where you’ll learn the basic fundamentals of effective conflict resolution. Think of this section like a book of rules for a game or sport. It spells out the parameters and sets the objective. The Environment section clearly defines the challenge AND the solution. Learning how to ACHIEVE this solution is covered in the other sections of this course.
In this lesson, we expose the true root cause of all relationship issues.
In this lesson we continue exploring your relationship Environment - the first section of The Melfox Method. The subjects covered are...
In this lesson we continue exploring the Environment section of The Melfox Method and discuss the importance of maintaining an understanding mindset when resolving conflict with your partner. The subjects covered are…
In this lesson we wrap up and review Environment - the first section of The Melfox Method. The subjects covered are…
Test your knowledge of the Environment section.
Welcome to the Information section! This is the proactive or “offense” part of The Melfox Method. You will learn the importance of sharing the right kind of Information in the right way during the structured one-on-one conflict resolution process we call Interaction.
In this lesson, we discuss the regulation of volatile Information when exploring an Unresolved Issue with your partner and guidelines to help make shared Information effective in removing resentment and detoxifying your relationship.
In this lesson we continue exploring the Information section of The Melfox Method by examining the types of statements shared during effective proactive Interaction.
Regulating verbal communication to only these types helps understanding to take place between you and your partner, while regulating our normal and natural defensive reactions. This helps reveal the reason for resentment, resolve ANY conflict, and detoxify your relationship.
In this lesson, we continue exploring the Information section of the conflict resolution process we call The Melfox Method. This is the proactive or “offense” section. In our last lesson, we examined the types of statements shared during one-on-one proactive Interaction. Here, we’ll be discussing the other part of Information exchange - nonverbal communication.
In this lesson. we wrap up the Information section of The Melfox Method.
Test your knowledge of the Information section.
Welcome to the Egoity section of this course and The Melfox Method!
Here is where we introduce and explore the reactive or “defense” part of conflict resolution. You will learn the cause AND PURPOSE of this natural protective response to belief-threatening Information, and the different ways it is expressed.
Understanding and regulating Egoity during one-on-one Interaction permits the sharing of volatile, yet critical Information to resolve ANY conflict, without adding more fuel to the fire in the process.
In this lesson, we continue exploring the Egoity section of this course and The Melfox Method. This is the reactive or defensive part of conflict resolution.
In this lesson we continue exploring the Egoity section of this course and The Melfox Method. Now that we know its cause and purpose, we discuss some more about regulating Egoity when resolving conflict during proactive one-on-one Interaction.
In this lesson, we wrap up the Egoity section of this course and The Melfox Method.
Test your knowledge of the Egoity section.
In this lesson, we will begin exploring the Interaction section of this course and The Melfox Method. Now that we’ve covered the “goal” of conflict resolution in Environment, the “offense” in Information, and the “defense” in Egoity, it’s time to put it all together into a powerful tool to help you proactively resolve conflicts and detoxify your relationship.
We start out this section of the course by going over planning and preparing for one-on-one scheduled Interaction.
In this lesson, we continue exploring the Interaction section of this course and The Melfox Method. It is time now to establish our 4-step “game plan” for resolving conflict, and ideas to help make that happen.
In this lesson we continue exploring the Interaction section of The Melfox Method. Here are some tools and strategies to help you and your partner have successful one-on-one conflict resolution sessions to help detoxify your relationship.
In this lesson, we wrap up the Interaction section of this course and The Melfox Method.
Test your knowledge of the Interaction section.
Welcome to the Outcome section of this course and The Melfox Method. In this section we go over reviewing and accepting Interaction session results, the three types of Interaction Outcomes, and the extensive benefits of effectively resolving conflicts and detoxifying your relationship.
We will begin this section of the course by discussing the conclusion of proactive Interaction sessions:
In this lesson we continue exploring the Outcome section of The Melfox Method by discussing the three possible issue results from one-on-one proactive Interaction. Each Outcome will have its own unique impact on your relationship.
So far in this Outcome section, we discussed concluding Interaction sessions and the three possible results of Interaction. In this lesson, we discuss the expected benefits that successful conflict resolutions will have on the relationship with your partner, yourself, your family, and your world.
In this lesson we wrap up and review the 5 sections of this course and The Melfox Method.
Test your knowledge of the entire course.
In this bonus article, we discuss how conflict is impacted by the relationship circumstances you and your partner choose to have, or are forced to have. The two types of relationship style we address are 1) Blended Responsibilities and Control, and its opposite, 2) Orbiting Relationships.
In this bonus podcast, Meryl and Joe discuss three unique elements of The Melfox Method.
In this bonus podcast, Meryl and Joe discuss how detoxifying your relationship can be compared to cleaning your kitchen.
Joseph Jay Mellon is a Certified Marriage Educator (CME) through the National Marriage Centers, in association with the National Premarital Institute. He has conducted countless interactive lectures about The Melfox Method and effective conflict resolution.
With a Bachelor of Science degree in Industrial Engineering, Joe is a trained problem solver with professional experience as an engineer, reconciliation specialist, and systems manager. As a plaque on his wall says, an engineer’s responsibility is to “list the questions, gather the facts, and solve the problem” – an approach that also applies strongly to his take on personal relationships.
Mellon’s passion for the subject of conflict resolution was born from a burning desire to fully understand what causes relationships to fail, and why. That desire led him on an exhaustive expedition of research and learning that became the foundation of his book, Curiosity Killed The Spat: The Melfox Method for Relationship Health through Effective Conflict Resolution.
The Resentment Dumpers is an organization dedicated to helping people restore their relationships by effectively resolving conflict.
The Resentment Dumpers was born out of a burning desire to understand what went wrong in our respective intimate relationships and how to avoid the same mistakes in the future. It all started with the simple concept that resentment is the enemy, not your partner. That tiny ember grew into the raging fire of relationship comprehension we call The Melfox Method.