Shiny Happy Couples: How to Detoxify Your Relationship

In this lesson, we begin exploring the relationship Environment: the first section of The Melfox Method. This is where you’ll learn the basic fundamentals of effective conflict resolution. Think of this section like a book of rules for a game or sport. It spells out the parameters and sets the objective. The Environment section clearly defines the challenge AND the solution. Learning how to ACHIEVE this solution is covered in the other sections of this course.

In this lesson, we expose the true root cause of all relationship issues.

In this lesson we continue exploring your relationship Environment - the first section of The Melfox Method. The subjects covered are...

• The Primary Reason for Resentment
• Secondary & Layered Issues (and how they impact conflict resolution,) and
• Relationship Maintenance 101

In this lesson we continue exploring the Environment section of The Melfox Method and discuss the importance of maintaining an understanding mindset when resolving conflict with your partner. The subjects covered are…

• Two Conflict Resolution Mindsets
• Being Curious vs. Being Judgmental
• The Desire to Understand... and
• The Real Secret to Healthy Relationships

In this lesson we wrap up and review Environment - the first section of The Melfox Method. The subjects covered are…

• Review the key role that “Understanding” plays when resolving conflicts,
• Recap this Environment section, and
• Preview upcoming sections

Welcome to the Information section! This is the proactive or “offense” part of The Melfox Method. You will learn the importance of sharing the right kind of Information in the right way during the structured one-on-one conflict resolution process we call Interaction.

In this lesson, we discuss the regulation of volatile Information when exploring an Unresolved Issue with your partner and guidelines to help make shared Information effective in removing resentment and detoxifying your relationship.

In this lesson we continue exploring the Information section of The Melfox Method by examining the types of statements shared during effective proactive Interaction.

Regulating verbal communication to only these types helps understanding to take place between you and your partner, while regulating our normal and natural defensive reactions. This helps reveal the reason for resentment, resolve ANY conflict, and detoxify your relationship.

In this lesson, we continue exploring the Information section of the conflict resolution process we call The Melfox Method. This is the proactive or “offense” section. In our last lesson, we examined the types of statements shared during one-on-one proactive Interaction. Here, we’ll be discussing the other part of Information exchange - nonverbal communication.

• We go over the different kinds of nonverbal communication, and how they impact the effectiveness of the Information during proactive Interaction.
• We also discuss how your nonverbal communication may conflict with what you say, ...and that you can USE that Information ...to help determine the reason for resentment, resolve the conflict, and detoxify your relationship.

In this lesson. we wrap up the Information section of The Melfox Method.

• First, we review the role of shared Information during the conflict resolution process we call Interaction
• We then recap the Information section
• And finish up by previewing upcoming sections.

Welcome to the Egoity section of this course and The Melfox Method!

Here is where we introduce and explore the reactive or “defense” part of conflict resolution. You will learn the cause AND PURPOSE of this natural protective response to belief-threatening Information, and the different ways it is expressed.

Understanding and regulating Egoity during one-on-one Interaction permits the sharing of volatile, yet critical Information to resolve ANY conflict, without adding more fuel to the fire in the process.

• In this lesson, we first review our normal and natural response to physical threats.
• We then see how this response is the same when faced with non-physical threats - namely belief-threatening Information.
• We finish up this lesson with discussing the three different ways our protective Egoity is manifested.

In this lesson, we continue exploring the Egoity section of this course and The Melfox Method. This is the reactive or defensive part of conflict resolution.

• We begin with discussing typical Egoity battles and how they delay or prevent delay successful conflict resolution.
• We then dig deeper into the cause and purpose of Egoity, and how it can be controlled.
• We finish up this lesson with listing our Conflict Resolution Analysis - a progressive evaluation that drills down to what needs to be done to resolve any conflict and detoxify your relationship.

In this lesson we continue exploring the Egoity section of this course and The Melfox Method. Now that we know its cause and purpose, we discuss some more about regulating Egoity when resolving conflict during proactive one-on-one Interaction.

• We first review the role of Egoity in the conflict resolution process.
• We then introduce the concept of taming your Egoity during proactive Interaction.
• We finish up with a brief discussion on respecting Egoity and its key role in resolving conflict and detoxifying your relationship.

In this lesson, we wrap up the Egoity section of this course and The Melfox Method.

• First, we review the concept of Egoity and its regulation, during proactive one-on-one Interaction,
• We then recap the Egoity section,
• And finish up with previewing our next section, Interaction.

In this lesson, we will begin exploring the Interaction section of this course and The Melfox Method. Now that we’ve covered the “goal” of conflict resolution in Environment, the “offense” in Information, and the “defense” in Egoity, it’s time to put it all together into a powerful tool to help you proactively resolve conflicts and detoxify your relationship.

We start out this section of the course by going over planning and preparing for one-on-one scheduled Interaction.

• We first discuss the importance of cooperation, teamwork and common goals.
• We then review the objective of one-on-one proactive Interaction.
• We then finish up with going over the basic preparations needed for effective Interaction.

In this lesson, we continue exploring the Interaction section of this course and The Melfox Method. It is time now to establish our 4-step “game plan” for resolving conflict, and ideas to help make that happen.

In this lesson we continue exploring the Interaction section of The Melfox Method. Here are some tools and strategies to help you and your partner have successful one-on-one conflict resolution sessions to help detoxify your relationship.

• We first discuss three ways to help promote successful proactive Interaction.
• Then we go over ideas on dealing with refutable shared Information and other interjections when resolving conflict.
• We then finish up the lesson with a discussion on engaging in one-on-one Interaction when your partner is unfamiliar with The Melfox Method.

In this lesson, we wrap up the Interaction section of this course and The Melfox Method.

• First, we share some final thoughts on the process and proper mindset needed for effective proactive conflict resolution.
• Then we recap the Interaction section.
• We then finish up with a brief preview of the final section of The Melfox Method, Outcome.

Welcome to the Outcome section of this course and The Melfox Method. In this section we go over reviewing and accepting Interaction session results, the three types of Interaction Outcomes, and the extensive benefits of effectively resolving conflicts and detoxifying your relationship.

We will begin this section of the course by discussing the conclusion of proactive Interaction sessions:

• First, we go over the Interaction review process,
• and finish the lesson with discussing how “accepting the past” is critical for successful conflict resolution.

In this lesson we continue exploring the Outcome section of The Melfox Method by discussing the three possible issue results from one-on-one proactive Interaction. Each Outcome will have its own unique impact on your relationship.

So far in this Outcome section, we discussed concluding Interaction sessions and the three possible results of Interaction. In this lesson, we discuss the expected benefits that successful conflict resolutions will have on the relationship with your partner, yourself, your family, and your world.

In this lesson we wrap up and review the 5 sections of this course and The Melfox Method.

In this bonus article, we discuss how conflict is impacted by the relationship circumstances you and your partner choose to have, or are forced to have. The two types of relationship style we address are 1) Blended Responsibilities and Control, and its opposite, 2) Orbiting Relationships.

In this bonus podcast, Meryl and Joe discuss three unique elements of The Melfox Method.

In this bonus podcast, Meryl and Joe discuss how detoxifying your relationship can be compared to cleaning your kitchen.