Shiny Happy Couples: How to Detoxify Your Relationship
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Shiny Happy Couples: How to Detoxify Your Relationship

Introducing The Melfox Method for effective conflict resolution and healthy relationships
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What Will I Learn?
  • Effectively resolve conflicts and restore relationships using The Melfox Method
  • Understand the real cause of relationship problems, and how to get rid of them.
  • Have fewer arguments, and more attraction and respect with your partner.
  • Actually LOOK FORWARD to talking about conflict, instead of dreading it!
  • Detoxify your relationship, just as if you were cleaning your kitchen (with nothing swept under the rug!)
  • Resolve conflicts with no compromises, no sacrifices, and no forgiveness needed.
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Requirements
  • There are no prerequisites to take this course.
  • We only ask that you come open-minded and ready to learn!
Description

Learn concepts, skills, and strategies to restore and preserve the relationship you have with your partner.

Discover the Secrets of Healthy Relationships in this Comprehensive Step-By-Step Program.

  • Build a strong, "perma-fresh" relationship with your partner
  • Become proficient in proactive and effective conflict resolution
  • Battle the root cause of relationship issues, not your partner
  • Tame your natural defensive reactions when dealing with conflict


Learn a unique perspective of what conflict really is, as well a groundbreaking and effective approach to resolving it.

A reporter once asked a couple, "How did you manage to stay together for 65 years?" The woman replied, "We were born in a time when if something was broken we would fix it, not throw it away."

So how do you “fix” a relationship? The goal of this course is to answer that question.

This course is an introduction to The Melfox Method - an innovative 5-part program that

  1. Pinpoints the root cause of relationship issues
  2. Explains the proper role of shared information during conflict resolution
  3. Examines normal defensive reactions and how to control them
  4. Presents an innovative, proactive, one-on-one method of conflict resolution
  5. Outlines the benefits of effective conflict resolution in all areas of your life

By any standard, the extent of failed and failing relationships has been at epidemic proportions for quite some time now. This is easily demonstrated by the track record of the huge group of people who took a solemn vow to stay together forever. Even with all of the initial dedication, devotion, and pressure to remain intact, around 50% of all marriages end in divorce, with the rate rising at least 10% with each subsequent marriage.

And what about all the unhappy marriages that would mercifully end if not for situational circumstances? Since they haven’t figured out how to fix their relationship with each other, many couples feel emotionally imprisoned. They stay in a miserable, often mostly sexless marriage just because they feel financially trapped, don’t want to upset or leave their children, or simply don’t want to be on their own.

Of course, deteriorating relationships do not plague only married folks. Partners in any kind of relationship will suffer the same fate until they learn the root cause of relationship issues, and how to resolve them. Although some people may instinctively understand the principles of successful conflict resolution, the vast majority of us have not been properly and effectively taught how to “fix” our relationships.

Enroll now, and start detoxifying (and saving) your relationship.

By the end of this course, you will have the tools and knowledge to resolve any and all conflicts with your partner and restore your relationship, without the typical roadblocks that we have all no doubt experienced. You will be provided with step-by-step instructions on zeroing in on the real causes of relationship problems, and how to pull them up ...by the roots!

This course for restoring healthy relationships is designed like an instruction manual of a game or sport. You will be taught the challenge and goal, the offensive game plan, how to regulate your normal and natural defensive reactions, techniques and strategies on effectively executing the game plan, and the expected results and benefits when doing so.

The ideal student for this course is anyone who wants to fully understand the real causes of relationship problems and how to effectively get rid of them. As the problems are resolved, the attraction, trust, and respect you have for your partner are naturally restored. There are no requirements necessary to enroll. We only ask that you come open-minded and ready to learn.

After learning and applying the simple yet powerful lessons, you will be able to look at detoxifying your relationship in the same way as cleaning your kitchen, without sweeping any issue under the rug. No compromises, no sacrifices, and no forgiveness needed. You will learn how to simply remove the toxic barrier that naturally develops between you and your partner over time, restoring and even enhancing the original attraction, trust, and respect.

Who is the target audience?
  • This course is for anyone interested in fully understanding the real causes of relationship problems and how to effectively get rid of them.
  • This course is for anyone interested in improving the quality of their marriage or relationship.
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Curriculum For This Course
29 Lectures
04:53:09
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Welcome!
2 Lectures 07:22

Welcome to the course!

Preview 03:29

In this video, we give you a brief introduction to each section of this course. Each section is a part of The Melfox Method.

This course overview will help you get a feel for what we will be covering and what to expect from each section.

Preview 03:53
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Your Relationship Environment
4 Lectures 40:44

In this lesson, we begin exploring the relationship Environment: the first section of The Melfox Method. This is where you’ll learn the basic fundamentals of effective conflict resolution. Think of this section like a book of rules for a game or sport. It spells out the parameters and sets the objective. The Environment section clearly defines the challenge AND the solution. Learning how to ACHIEVE this solution is covered in the other sections of this course.

In this lesson, we expose the true root cause of all relationship issues.

Preview 10:22

In this lesson we continue exploring your relationship Environment - the first section of The Melfox Method. The subjects covered are...

  • The Primary Reason for Resentment
  • Secondary & Layered Issues (and how they impact conflict resolution,) and
  • Relationship Maintenance 101
1.2 The Nature of Resentment
09:33

In this lesson we continue exploring the Environment section of The Melfox Method and discuss the importance of maintaining an understanding mindset when resolving conflict with your partner. The subjects covered are…

  • Two Conflict Resolution Mindsets
  • Being Curious vs. Being Judgmental
  • The Desire to Understand... and
  • The Real Secret to Healthy Relationships
1.3 The Mindset of Effective Conflict Resolution
12:07

In this lesson we wrap up and review Environment - the first section of The Melfox Method. The subjects covered are…

  • Review the key role that “Understanding” plays when resolving conflicts,
  • Recap this Environment section, and
  • Preview upcoming sections
1.4 Environment Wrap Up and Review
08:42

Test your knowledge of the Environment section.

1.5 Test Your Knowledge - Environment
8 questions
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Sharing Information
4 Lectures 36:13

Welcome to the Information section! This is the proactive or “offense” part of The Melfox Method. You will learn the importance of sharing the right kind of Information in the right way during the structured one-on-one conflict resolution process we call Interaction.

In this lesson, we discuss the regulation of volatile Information when exploring an Unresolved Issue with your partner and guidelines to help make shared Information effective in removing resentment and detoxifying your relationship.

2.1 Understanding Information
09:04

In this lesson we continue exploring the Information section of The Melfox Method by examining the types of statements shared during effective proactive Interaction.

Regulating verbal communication to only these types helps understanding to take place between you and your partner, while regulating our normal and natural defensive reactions. This helps reveal the reason for resentment, resolve ANY conflict, and detoxify your relationship.

2.2 Verbal Communication
09:00

In this lesson, we continue exploring the Information section of the conflict resolution process we call The Melfox Method. This is the proactive or “offense” section. In our last lesson, we examined the types of statements shared during one-on-one proactive Interaction. Here, we’ll be discussing the other part of Information exchange - nonverbal communication.

  • We go over the different kinds of nonverbal communication, and how they impact the effectiveness of the Information during proactive Interaction.
  • We also discuss how your nonverbal communication may conflict with what you say, ...and that you can USE that Information ...to help determine the reason for resentment, resolve the conflict, and detoxify your relationship.
2.3 Nonverbal Communication
11:34

In this lesson. we wrap up the Information section of The Melfox Method.

  • First, we review the role of shared Information during the conflict resolution process we call Interaction
  • We then recap the Information section
  • And finish up by previewing upcoming sections.
2.4 Information Wrap Up and Review
06:35

Test your knowledge of the Information section.

2.5 Test Your Knowledge - Information
8 questions
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Your Protective Egoity
4 Lectures 39:23

Welcome to the Egoity section of this course and The Melfox Method!

Here is where we introduce and explore the reactive or “defense” part of conflict resolution. You will learn the cause AND PURPOSE of this natural protective response to belief-threatening Information, and the different ways it is expressed.

Understanding and regulating Egoity during one-on-one Interaction permits the sharing of volatile, yet critical Information to resolve ANY conflict, without adding more fuel to the fire in the process.

  • In this lesson, we first review our normal and natural response to physical threats.
  • We then see how this response is the same when faced with non-physical threats - namely belief-threatening Information.
  • We finish up this lesson with discussing the three different ways our protective Egoity is manifested.
Preview 11:07

In this lesson, we continue exploring the Egoity section of this course and The Melfox Method. This is the reactive or defensive part of conflict resolution.

  • We begin with discussing typical Egoity battles and how they delay or prevent delay successful conflict resolution.
  • We then dig deeper into the cause and purpose of Egoity, and how it can be controlled.
  • We finish up this lesson with listing our Conflict Resolution Analysis - a progressive evaluation that drills down to what needs to be done to resolve any conflict and detoxify your relationship.
3.2 Understanding Egoity
10:52

In this lesson we continue exploring the Egoity section of this course and The Melfox Method. Now that we know its cause and purpose, we discuss some more about regulating Egoity when resolving conflict during proactive one-on-one Interaction.

  • We first review the role of Egoity in the conflict resolution process.
  • We then introduce the concept of taming your Egoity during proactive Interaction.
  • We finish up with a brief discussion on respecting Egoity and its key role in resolving conflict and detoxifying your relationship.
3.3 Regulating Your Egoity
09:14

In this lesson, we wrap up the Egoity section of this course and The Melfox Method.

  • First, we review the concept of Egoity and its regulation, during proactive one-on-one Interaction,
  • We then recap the Egoity section,
  • And finish up with previewing our next section, Interaction.
3.4 Egoity Wrap Up and Review
08:10

Test your knowledge of the Egoity section.

3.5 Test Your Knowledge - Egoity
8 questions
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Effective Interaction
4 Lectures 38:50

In this lesson, we will begin exploring the Interaction section of this course and The Melfox Method. Now that we’ve covered the “goal” of conflict resolution in Environment, the “offense” in Information, and the “defense” in Egoity, it’s time to put it all together into a powerful tool to help you proactively resolve conflicts and detoxify your relationship.

We start out this section of the course by going over planning and preparing for one-on-one scheduled Interaction.

  • We first discuss the importance of cooperation, teamwork and common goals.
  • We then review the objective of one-on-one proactive Interaction.
  • We then finish up with going over the basic preparations needed for effective Interaction.
4.1 Preparing for Interaction
09:46

In this lesson, we continue exploring the Interaction section of this course and The Melfox Method. It is time now to establish our 4-step “game plan” for resolving conflict, and ideas to help make that happen.

4.2 Our Interaction Game Plan
10:19

In this lesson we continue exploring the Interaction section of The Melfox Method. Here are some tools and strategies to help you and your partner have successful one-on-one conflict resolution sessions to help detoxify your relationship.

  • We first discuss three ways to help promote successful proactive Interaction.
  • Then we go over ideas on dealing with refutable shared Information and other interjections when resolving conflict.
  • We then finish up the lesson with a discussion on engaging in one-on-one Interaction when your partner is unfamiliar with The Melfox Method.
4.3 Interaction Tools & Strategies
11:09

In this lesson, we wrap up the Interaction section of this course and The Melfox Method.

  • First, we share some final thoughts on the process and proper mindset needed for effective proactive conflict resolution.
  • Then we recap the Interaction section.
  • We then finish up with a brief preview of the final section of The Melfox Method, Outcome.
4.4 Interaction Wrap Up and Review
07:36

Test your knowledge of the Interaction section.

4.5 Test Your Knowledge - Interaction
8 questions
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Outcome and Benefits
4 Lectures 36:32

Welcome to the Outcome section of this course and The Melfox Method. In this section we go over reviewing and accepting Interaction session results, the three types of Interaction Outcomes, and the extensive benefits of effectively resolving conflicts and detoxifying your relationship.

We will begin this section of the course by discussing the conclusion of proactive Interaction sessions:

  • First, we go over the Interaction review process,
  • and finish the lesson with discussing how “accepting the past” is critical for successful conflict resolution.
5.1 Concluding Interaction Sessions
08:10

In this lesson we continue exploring the Outcome section of The Melfox Method by discussing the three possible issue results from one-on-one proactive Interaction. Each Outcome will have its own unique impact on your relationship.

5.2 Interaction Outcome Possibilities
07:56

So far in this Outcome section, we discussed concluding Interaction sessions and the three possible results of Interaction. In this lesson, we discuss the expected benefits that successful conflict resolutions will have on the relationship with your partner, yourself, your family, and your world.

5.3 Benefits of Relationship Restoration
07:41

In this lesson we wrap up and review the 5 sections of this course and The Melfox Method.

5.4 Course Wrap Up and Review
12:45

Test your knowledge of the entire course.

5.5 Test Your Knowledge - Final Exam
12 questions
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BONUS Material
7 Lectures 01:34:11
Glossary of terms used in the course
01:25

In this bonus article, we discuss how conflict is impacted by the relationship circumstances you and your partner choose to have, or are forced to have. The two types of relationship style we address are 1) Blended Responsibilities and Control, and its opposite, 2) Orbiting Relationships.

BONUS lesson: The Impact of Relationship Circumstances
05:45

BONUS podcast: TRD S1/E5 "The Trust Resentment Egoity Connection"
22:52

In this bonus podcast, Meryl and Joe discuss three unique elements of The Melfox Method.

BONUS podcast: TRD S1/E6 "Unique Elements of The Melfox Method"
19:02

In this bonus podcast, Meryl and Joe discuss how detoxifying your relationship can be compared to cleaning your kitchen.

BONUS podcast: TRD S1/E7 "How often do you clean your relationship kitchen?"
18:49

BONUS podcast: TRD S1/E8 "Egoity 101"
24:10

BONUS article: "The Courage to Express Your Feelings​"
02:06
About the Instructor
Joseph Jay Mellon
4.6 Average rating
9 Reviews
1,520 Students
1 Course
Certified Marriage Educator, Coach, Author

Joseph Jay Mellon is a Certified Marriage Educator (CME) through the National Marriage Centers, in association with the National Premarital Institute. He has conducted countless interactive lectures about The Melfox Method and effective conflict resolution.

With a Bachelor of Science degree in Industrial Engineering, Joe is a trained problem solver with professional experience as an engineer, reconciliation specialist, and systems manager. As a plaque on his wall says, an engineer’s responsibility is to “list the questions, gather the facts, and solve the problem” – an approach that also applies strongly to his take on personal relationships.

Mellon’s passion for the subject of conflict resolution was born from a burning desire to fully understand what causes relationships to fail, and why. That desire led him on an exhaustive expedition of research and learning that became the foundation of his book, Curiosity Killed The Spat: The Melfox Method for Relationship Health through Effective Conflict Resolution.

The Resentment Dumpers !
4.6 Average rating
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1,520 Students
1 Course
Dump your resentment, not your relationship.

The Resentment Dumpers is an organization dedicated to helping people restore their relationships by effectively resolving conflict.

The Resentment Dumpers was born out of a burning desire to understand what went wrong in our respective intimate relationships and how to avoid the same mistakes in the future. It all started with the simple concept that resentment is the enemy, not your partner. That tiny ember grew into the raging fire of relationship comprehension we call The Melfox Method.