Problem Drinking - Break the Pattern
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Problem Drinking - Break the Pattern

Learn to understand your behaviour and find solutions in private - with a free support session
4.1 (7 ratings)
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Created by Peter Urey
Last updated 8/2016
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What Will I Learn?
  • Understand the inner forces which form part of your pattern of problem drinking
  • Assess the value of Clean Language as a tool for working to resolve the problem
  • Appreciate the value in taking a fresh look at the issue by expressing it as a metaphor
  • Imagine possible solutions and work out what needs to happen to make them a reality
  • Identify with the patterns and metaphors used by others to describe the problem
  • Discover how to get access to support through other sources
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  • You have to be giving serious thought to to your problem and be willing to keep an open mind
  • Be honest in your assessment of the extent to which the problem is harming you and others
  • Consider what life is likely to become for you if you do not make a real effort to break the pattern

Get an introduction to the power of Clean Language as a way of gaining insight into your personal pattern of problem drinking. By focussing attention onto the verbal symbols and metaphors you use to describe your situation, you will uncover the hidden forces driving your actions and will generate creative ways to move beyond them.

The lectures will ask the questions which a professional Clean Coach would use to guide your thinking. You will be encouraged to express yourself by comparing your thoughts and feelings with your most familiar bodily sensations and experiences. This gets you in touch with your deep sub-conscious.

Once you enter in to the spirit of the technique you will quickly recognise the potential for change. An hour of free coaching is on offer to take you to the next level. This is a great way to begin the journey to a permanent programme of resolution.

Take this course to shed light on the dark mystery behind problem drinking. If you can imagine what life might become like if you fail to take action then take this course.

Who is the target audience?
  • People who want to privately investigate what might be driving a drink problem
  • Those who have decided to seek solutions via online sources but have not yet found a system that works
  • Friends and relations of problem drinkers who may want to suggest a possible solution
  • Employers who may know that drinking can cause expensive problems and who wish to offer a resource to all staff
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Curriculum For This Course
What you will learn and an overview of the process we use
3 Lectures 04:07

Personal background to my interest in Clean Language and my vocation in helping people to find solutions to private problems online.

Preview 01:35

A first introduction to the principles of Clean Language.

1. People have all the wisdom they need to resolve any problem.

2.That wisdom can be accessed via metaphor.

3. Clean Language and Symbolic Modelling reveal metaphors and patterns to create the conditions for change.

4.New insights and ideas emerge naturally.

5, Change is a natural by-product of the process.

6. The impact can only be known until afterwards.

Preview 01:27

Before moving onto the technique it's worth sharing some basic metaphors to help you identify and gain confidence that we have insight into the problem.

Preview 01:05

Before introducing the Clean Language technique, here is a quiz to help you recognise if you r thoughts are similar to those of others who are exploring their patterns. We repeat these questions later in the lectures.

There are no definitive metrics but you must draw your own conclusions from the extent to which you identify with these scenarios. Obviously, the more "yes2 answers you get helps you calibrate the extent of the problem.

Identification and Calibration with others who are exploring their patterns
10 questions
Laying the foundations for asking Clean Questions to reveal metaphors and symbol
4 Lectures 09:08

What would you like to have happen? (WWYLTHH) is always the starting point for this process. We are always trying to guide you attention to the solution rather than reinforcing any problem thinking.

Wallowing in the problem is one of the very bad habits of problem drinkers, especially if they are nursing a sense of grievance or are in self pity. Hence, we begin with the positive outcome in mind if we can. It's not always easy to identify the sloution state of mind but do what you can.

Preview 01:21

We try to idenitfy your orientation to the issue in hand. Your language will indicate if you are Problem, Remedy or Outcome minded which in turn governs the next Clean Queation we ask.

Preview 02:12

Problem orientation - no words of desire or mention of a better future state.

Remedy orientation - desire but only for less of or a wish to stop the problem but no end state in view.

Outcome orientation - reference made to life beyond the problem state.

Preview 02:06

A brief explanation of the link between the underlying thoughts and feelings held in the sub-conscious and the general, loosely defined concept words we use to describe our condition. We access our unique and true meaning by comparison with our most familiar bodily experiences.

Metaphor is lthe link between conscious and un-conscious processes.

Preview 03:29
The Clean Questions
12 Lectures 24:19

The three most commonl used questions which add rich detail to your thoughts are:

Is there anything else about that......?

What kind of.........?

That's...... like what?

Developing Questions

Two simple questions.

What would need to happen for.......?


Notice these questions are devoid of judgement or criticism.

Desired Outcome Questions - Under what conditions can it all happen?

Giving a location to symbols and metaphors is a principle of embodied cognition. This is a complex idea but simply it tells us that we only really know anything by comparison with our most familiar bodily sensations and experiences.

We ask Where? and Whereabouts? to discover this information.

Developing Question - Where? Explaining embodied cognition.

Remedy statements do not yet contain desires for the future solution but for less of or to stop what's currently happening. Hence we try to take the attention to the solution  by imagining the problem has stopped and ask the question:

And then what happens?

Remedy Statements

If the reply to WWYLTHH was a restatement of the problem devoid of any words of desire then we only have one option which is to ask the same question again.

And drinking is a problem, so what would you like to have happen?

We may have to ask several times before we get to remedy or outcome words but it's worth pursuing this course vigorously before moving on to ask developing questions about the problem so as to model it.

Problem statements

When all other options are exhausted, we begin to model the problem to establish how it operates in your thinking.

Some problems are "binding" which means several competing forces are at play and working against each other. As an example, we might hear "the more effort I put into stopping, the harder it becomes to stop."

We can try to get a metaphor for the entire binding pattern and ask "before and after" questions to get insight into the dynamics of the pattern of the problem.

Modelling Problems and Binding Patterns

The way out of the repeating loop of a binding pattern is to ask "and that's like what?" to elucidate a metaphor for the whole thing and then to ask questions to develop the symbols in it. 

We ask this question to help focus attention onto the repeating pattern which may have not been previously recognised at the conscious level.

Seeking metaphors for binding patterns

The Relating Questions are used to begin building up the before, during and after states of a problem. We suspend disbelief and ask the questions about the symbols as if they are literally true. Within your own pattern that will feel totally natural as you are the person assigning deeper meaning to them.

Relating questions to build a storyboard of the emerging metaphor symbols

A simple step by step guide through the process.

Depending on your first response to WWYLTHH, you will use the questions in a different sequence

At this stage you have evereything to gain from working with a coach in this technique because it takes some practice to spot where you are in the PRO Model.

Am hour of free coaching on Skype is on offer to you.

Summary of the Clean Language Technique

We begin deconstructing a problem metaphor using the example of Richard Burton, the famous hell-raising actor describing his problem as a boxing match.

Developing a Problem Metaphor part 1

Question the symbols within problem or binding pattern statements to gain a name, location and attributes of the components of the emerging storyboard. This gives them more of a 3 dimensional feel for future relating questions.

Developing a Problem Metaphor part 2

Within a rich, well developed symbolic landscape, the imagination finds it easier to create scenarios, however improbable which capture the nature of the soluton state. 

After this point the brain works out how to manifest the solution into practical behaviours in the real world.

Developing a Problem Metaphor part 3

 A test of your knowledge of the Clean Questions and a chance to compare them with questions containing subtle bias and judgement.

Clean Questions Quiz
5 questions
Common Metaphors for Problem Drinking and Solutions
5 Lectures 04:08

The idea of a problem being like a journey with all the associated ideas that come with the notion of travel captures the essence of the problem and carries the image of destination as a solution which is helpful for many people. 

Do you talk about your issue using the language of the journey?

Problem as Journey Metaphors

A common expression is the dual personality narrative with competing forces given form as people or different stages of development.

This is quite a common metaphor and a fertile area for developing quesstions.

Split Personality

Loss of control metaphors are similar in many ways to daul personality imagery. Here the emphasis is on th impact of the lack of control on behaviour.

Loss of control

Metaphors of vague spiritual yearning are often associated with people who are deep into the problem and who are articulating the notion that an outcome state must exist in order to make sense of an incomprehensible pattern of behaving.

Spiritual yearning

Be sensitive to how the way changes in the metaphors used are indicating change in the way the problem pattern is evolving and resolving. Interrogating the changed metaphor will reveal at lot about how you are coping and progressing.

Metaphors for the Solution
Identification and Calibration
2 Lectures 05:35

As you learn more about the before, during and after process of your pattern it becomes easier to identify triggers and to formulate better responses as opposed to reactions.

Aspects of Pattern Spotting

These key indicators are guides to calibrating the problem. They are not exhaustive. You may recognise them if you took the first quiz in this course.

There are many online resources to help you compare yourself with others who are exploring problem drinking but if you recognise a few of the suggested behaviours you can be sure that you are doing the right thing by taking this course.

Follow up support
1 Lecture 02:28

This course is just the start. There are lots of ways to learn more bout the Clean Language Technique. Our best advice is to get in touch for a full hour of free coaching. It's the best way to take your knowledge to the next level.

Thanks for getting to the end of the course but we hope it's just the beginning of your relationship with us.

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About Peter Urey.
Trained to advanced level in personal coaching techniques including Clean Language and Symbolic Modelling, Hoshin Planning, Business NLP and HP's Leadership Development Programme.
Experienced coach for Hewlett Packard, Symantec, Canon, Epson plus many more.
Educated in Law at University of Oxford.
Aged 56, married 29 years, 3 adult children.
Student of Clean Language and Symbolic Modelling under Marian Way, author of Clean Approaches for Coaches.
Black Belt in Karate.

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