My Life Story
Never Give Up No Matter What: My Story of Success
When I was 6 1/2 years old I remember thinking that I didn’t feel safe anymore because my mother and my father are mad at each other most of the time. In fact, I plain hadn’t seen my father at home in over a week and when he was home there was lots of yelling happening. The next thing I know the house we live in is up for sale, my mother is crying all the time and my future was out of my control. The worst part is I did not have a clue what divorce meant, but I knew things were changing. I learned something very powerful for the first time; never give up because I believed that God had something great right around the corner for me.
For the next several years I went to a school where I was different in South East Los Angeles County. The specifics are not necessary, but they were things that I felt were out of my control. By 5th grade, I had incurred 5 concussions, 10 different times with stitches and several broken bones (approx.. 12). I was hurt, frustrated and felt like giving up despite the fact I had good grades and a healthy mindset. I remembered a lesson I had learned at an early age. I decided to never give up as success could be right around the corner.
From 5th grade on my stepfather was an alcoholic and we did not get along so well. There were plenty of opportunities to ruin my childhood as anyone could imagine who has known an alcoholic. Alcoholism is a dangerous situation for everyone involved and I often felt like our life was out of control and helpless because every man who comes into my life is a disaster. I decided that I would never give up even though I was ready too many times in my young life.
When I was 14 the FBI came knocking at our door. They were looking for my real father who was being sought out for the murder of his ex-wife. This was a shock to me and a crushing fact of my life. For years when I was in trouble I often blamed my father for the trouble I would get into. I often felt that if I did not come from a broken home I would have excelled so much more than I did. They ended up catching up to him and away to prison he went, but the emotional problems that I gained did not go away for a very long time. It would have been easy for me to quit and shut down, but I decide to never give up once again and keep on fighting.
When I was 18, I made a very bad decision that would come to haunt me for many years. I was arrested, and it was originally a felony. For the next several years I not only had to deal with the consequences of that horrible embarrassment, but I had several other run-ins with law enforcement over the next 3-4 years. If something went down, or money came up missing, or if someone was being sought for a crime, then I was the likely suspect. I felt angry and as usual, I felt like I was being unfairly dealt with in this world, and all of these issues were out of my control. I know that I was responsible for my actions as I had done wrong in the first case, but the other minor incidents were not on me. I felt like the police were unfair and they were my enemy. I felt like giving up at the prospect of the felony conviction hanging over me as well as a few minor situations and arrests. I did something very powerful and I decided to forgive everyone involved, I went to work to clean up my attitude and find a way to steer clear of any kind of problems. Thankfully I decided to never give up. Today I am felony free.
When I was 42, the biggest challenge of my life had arrived in the way of an infection in my foot. From the infection in my left foot came some minor amputations. I was in an air cast approx. two and a half years and what that did to me was put a lot of stress on my right foot. For the last 2 years, I have had a cast on my right foot and have had a loss of all my toes. In 4+ years I have had 26 medical procedures or surgeries, gained several additional medical issues to include neuropathy and full-blown Diabetes type II to name a few. I am still not healed after all of this time battling for my feet, my legs and my life. I have had my struggles in every step of the way including the fact that I have almost died three times. When you drink water and throw up then you must know things are rough. For over four-plus years I have had to battle for my life and I gladly do it with two exceptions. I almost gave up twice by which I mean I felt like dying. One time about 6 months into this affliction and again about 3 years into it. I mean I was unbelievably upside down, and I felt hopeless and I was not sure if I would ever be successful in anything again. Let me explain why I felt this way.
First off, I went from zero medications to 14 medications overnight. I am dead tired all the time, and I am frustrated that most days I cannot even lift my head off the pillow. No one set the proper expectations for me with these medical issues as it would have set my mind in a different direction. After having these issues for six months I am ready to quit and throw in the towel. I don’t know what that means, but I know it does not mean to work through the problem and get back on my feet. I cried a lot in those first six months. Tears literally came down my face on a regular basis.
Time marches on and several times along the way I feel like I am getting better from all of these problems and then suddenly I slide backward. I look ghostly and I have no energy, desire or hope that I can get through this. I feel defeated like I have never felt before. This injury/disease is trying to beat me down, so it can take me out and I have tried everything I can to beat it. I have lost pieces of myself to this fight and feel less than a whole person. I am ready to quit as I am three years into this fight and I thought to myself that no one would blame me if I quit. Then I remember something powerful I learned, and that was I must never quit. Besides, I could not quit this fight because what would people think about me? That Robert Kintigh is a quitter? I could never go to my grave with those thoughts about me.
So, I decided not to quit, but since I am extremely ill I thought about what does that mean for my life? I have been to doctors, specialist, wound care, and hospital stays, and several other medical visits and procedures. There must be something more for my life. I just need to find it. I do a ton of research regularly helping to find ways to help my afflictions. The doctors have no success, the nurses have no success and I’m having very little success myself. I decided not to quit on my own yet I still feel helpless. Someone somewhere must have answers for me. A side note to who I was before going down, I am an Entrepreneur, author, a corporate trainer, a success coach/consultant. I am the “Can-Do Man!” It’s weird to be so sure of yourself one day, and then let your power go the next day. It seems my vocabulary has expanded to include, “I can’t.”
What am I going to do to change my life? Giving up is not the answer, giving in is not the answer so what makes the most sense to me is to figure out a way to rise to my feet again! Then, like magic, I see this guy one day while I was watching YouTube, and I know in my heart and mind he was an angel sent to me from heaven. Okay, that is giving him a lot of credit but I believe in miracles and God. I believe with all of my faith that God delivered the message to me through him. He said some great things, but I had heard them before and even better I have used those words in seminars before a lot to people. The man on YouTube said, “never give up because success could be right around the corner!” I decided right then and there I was going to try and remember something I had done a hundred other times. I first figured out how not to quit, and then how to turn a negative into a positive.
I’ve done this so many times in my life that it makes sense that I implement it to actually save my life this time. It is not enough to say that I will not quit. I needed to remember what I preach and that is “success is right around the corner, and quitting would be the ultimate shame” in my opinion. I must believe in myself and my abilities to get back up and make great things happen. I have a Sherman tank for a mindset. I was born tough for a reason and every trouble I have been in, every set back must become a leap forward and there is nothing on Earth that can beat me unless I let it.
In order for me to rise again, I must do 2 very important things; never give up so I can get back to being successful and I must figure out how to get healthier than I have ever been. The second important thing became an indirect goal as I began to research and find options to make me healthy again. I am not 100% healthy or me again and totally healed, but inside my body I feel so healthy and full of energy. Just 12 months ago I was too thin, my foot was in bad shape and I could barely pick my head up off the pillow and I was having to use oxygen, and I was in a wheelchair and I was not very happy. So I decided that being successful and not giving up was not the single most important lesson. I must clean up my health, my lifestyle and my environment. I decided this because I was not healthy and therefore I must do everything in my power to contribute towards healing.
Here is what I went to work on and accomplished in order to be here today with you. I was a heavy Coke drinker and I had been since an early age of seven. It was my caffeine jolt as I hated coffee. I did some research one day and found several articles that said heavy soda drinkers off I quit drinking it in one day. Next, I hate to admit it but I was a tobacco user. No excuses it was a bad habit I picked up playing baseball and 20 years later it had me in jail. In one day quit it. I then scraped my diet of 80% of the processed foods I was eating and 80% of the sugar I was taking in and do so by choice in…… that’s right, you guessed it, in one day I quit it. Lastly, I made decisions to remove toxic people from my life which include both family and friends. I decided to keep the bad people in my life so they could teach me how I didn’t want to be!
I had to eat, do and think like a healthy person. I have to succeed in order to tell my story with the right context and meaning as well as understanding. Yes, the power not to quit is important, but the meaning of my life was much more important. I had always taught people for over 25 years plus years to change their world they had to change their mindset. Be strong, be powerful, be brave and never give up! The truth is that my first real story is about conquering all of these health issues and getting rid of the hopelessness in my heart and mind. I do not know what the future holds for my health, but what I do know is that I will live my life to the very end in the best health that is possible. I will thrive no matter what!
A moment of clarity for me turns into a new reality, and I swear I hear trumpets playing, Mozart or angels singing. The moment I realize I have the power to be strong again as well as thrive in every aspect of my life including my health, then everything started falling into place! Now, not only have I had great success, but I now want to help every, single person I can without limitations. I need to make a difference in this world. I have decided that I am a great coach, but I have just been given a huge upgrade as a coach of which case you the client benefits from. I feel like I was granted permission to look behind the curtain.
I passionately want to coach people and help them to succeed. I want to speak to millions and inspire people around the world! I will help transform people like never before. That day I sat down and started creating my first product in over four-plus years to help people like you and me transform our lives into whatever it is we desire. The 10 Essential Steps for Personal Success was born. A blueprint for all of us who need to remember not to quit as success is most definitely right around the corner. My name is Robert Kintigh and I am your supercharged success coach and motivational key speaker! Thank you and God Bless you all.