Improve your relationships & resolve conflicts with Dialogue

In this lecture you will:

• Understand the difference between these three types of conversation:
  • Debate
  • Discussion
  • Dialogue
• Understand how dialogue differs from and complements a discussion.

In this lecture you will:

• Understand the power of genuinely listening
• Learn about the one thing that prevents us from really listening and understanding what's behind people's words: the agree-disagree automatism
• Learn what's the most important posture for connecting to the other person: genuine curiosity
• Know that charisma comes from genuinely listening and turning towards the other's stories

This is the single most important exercise in this course!!!

If done properly, this exercise will help you develop the essence of dialogue and how you can transform ANY relationship with the Power of Genuinely Listening.

The technique shown in this lecture is named Dialogue Interviews, that helps us develop connection in a deeper level with the other.

This is a requirement for the Listening Challenge - Dialogue Interviews exercise. It's a beautiful article from brazilian educator Rubem Alves.

We always find oratory courses here and there. Everybody wants to learn how to speak. Barely no one wants to learn how to listen! As a pun with "oratory" he describes what would be a "Listenory"! :)

In this one, we'll present the core pillar of this course:

THE DIALOGIC POSTURE.

The ladder of inference is an amazing tool that helps us understand why we act the way we do.

In my case, I started to read and understand people totally differently because of it and thus preventing lots of possible conflicts. I really hope it can be as useful to you!

Here we will understand what's at the core of most conflicts:

It's because each one of us applies different IMPLICIT rules of how the world should work.

This is an important case because we'll use it in section 4 when we propose a way to solve their situation with dialogue.

This challenge is aimed for you to develop the dialogic posture. By applying the ladder of inference in your day-to-day interactions, you'll become much more aware of what's going on inside yours and the other's minds.

Once you become acquainted with seeing and understanding the world with this tool, you'll deal much better with any person!

Here we'll understand what assertiveness is and how it differs from passiveness and agressiveness.

Passiveness: is having trouble saying no. It's not standing for your rights or needs.

Aggressivenes: is stepping over the other's needs and rights

Assertiveness: is taking our and the other's perspective into consideration and finding common ground, towards win-win situations.

Here we'll use Ollie and Thelma's case from section 3 to propose a way they can solve their situation, from Ollie's perspective.

Based on this case, we'll present a simple and powerful structure for dealing with conflicts:

1. Start with empathy and listening
2. Voice when the other is more open to listening
3. Express feelings
4. Invite to build a win-win solution
5. Make an effort to satisfy both parties' needs
6. Be aware of the "convincing thermometer" and stay in the dialogic posture

When we change how we see and interpret the world, we change how we act and treat each other.

In this lecture we'll learn how to change a negative conversation into a mutually beneficial one that helps us keep the conversation going in a productive win-win mode by reframing how we interpret the situation.

This is the POWER OF REFRAMING!

The way we start any interaction determines in great part how it will unfold.

When we start a conversation already framing it into dialogue mode, we already get the other to cooperate and lower their defenses! :)

That's the Power of the Start!

Then we'll present a checklist to dealing with a difficult conversation:

1. Decide whether to raise it or not
2. Connect with the dialogic posture
3. Prepare your start

What's the self-image?

It's how each one of us has a particular way that we want to be perceived by other people. And by ourselves!

When we become grounded and okay with who we are, then we are much more capable of sustaining great, healthy and nourishing relationships!

Here we'll learn what's at the core for grounding our self-image.

Any therapist will tell you how much it's important to deal with your. But what's behind any effort to deal with your psyche, that will significantly help you ground your self-image?

ANSWER: Self-awareness!

In this lecture, we'll go really deep into solving self-image issues.

This is the part where we emphasize it's "not just a set of techniques"!

Understanding the concept of emptiness or vacuity is the ultimate way to dealing with emotional suffering - it's realizing how they are illusory features projected by our mind.

And here we'll teach a "secret way" to deal with suffering and realize the mind's play!

Learn the several benefits of meditation and get it going!

Also, get to know why it's so hard to keep a regular meditation practice and how you can deal with it