Love 301: How to Love Yourself

There are 12 types of love in the world and "mature" love provides a foundation for all the best versions. This lecture reveals mature love's four main attributes, and once you understand them, you'll be equipped to reassess your relationships (including with yourself) to see whether they're based on this or some lesser type of love.

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Love is one of the greatest sources of motivation on earth, and this lecture explains why. After listening to this lecture, you'll better understand why love erases fear, sidesteps excuses, and urges you to take action with confidence and enthusiasm.

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Love wants you to be happy, but on its own terms, which may cause you to redefine "happy." This lecture explains which type of happiness love seeks and how to get more of it for yourself.

Love's next priority is your well-being, and once again, that may not mean exactly what you expect. This lecture shows you a new perspective on wellness which allows you to plan your life more lovingly.

The more you love yourself, the more you automatically care for your well being, but it works the other way around, too. The better care you take of yourself, the quicker you'll learn to cherish yourself.

Life can be difficult and frightening, and you can choose to move forward anyway or back down and "play it safe." This lecture explains which choice love prefers and why.

Love sees your potential and craves to experience it - on all four levels of your true nature. You may have believed that enjoying comfort, ease, and consumption is the meaning of life, but love has better plans in mind. It may not always be comfortable, but spiritual growth pays the most valuable dividends.

Do you wonder how it feels to love yourself? Well I'll tell you - it feels alive. The more I compare "love" and "life," the harder it gets to distinguish between the two. This lecture illustrates that point with several persuasive examples, and points out how to put it into practice.

We tried to stop him, but Justin decided to love himself against all odds. This lecture encourages you to follow his example with a single, very effective step. You'll also learn a simple way to instantly escape negative thoughts and feelings.

If you don't already love yourself, changing your heart and mind can be hard work! Old thinking and feeling habits do their best to hold you in place and prevent progress.

But learning to love yourself doesn't have to be difficult, and this lecture illustrates how to put your brain's built-in motivation system to good use and get it working for you and not against.

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I got struck by lightning at scout camp one summer afternoon, but the real danger was lurking in the kitchen. This story provides a new perspective on why you ought to choose which thoughts you allow to run through your mind.

Changing your mind isn't complicated, it just takes practice. The more you put this lecture's instructions into practice, the more you'll believe them and the more old, negative, limiting thoughts will fade away.

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Kids often get obsessed with magic and illusion, but the most powerful magic is very real and you can use it every day. This lecture explains how to begin, how to make it most effective, and proves that you're already a skilled magician. It also discusses how your brain functions and why this magic trick works so well.

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I saw a lot of crazy things on a five-week sailing voyage through two oceans (and you'll see some of them in this video), but the only sea monster I ever saw was swimming along the Florida coast. That experience teaches how you can learn to believe in yourself better, regardless of whatever "reality" you happen to believe about yourself up until now. This lecture suggests some things you ought to believe about yourself and why, when you pause to think it over, it's more believable than your fears.

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One of the very first things love does is to accept you exactly as you are. This video persuades you to exactly that and explains why it's the appropriate and logical thing to do. That's far better than useless wishful thinking, dwelling on regret, and giving up.

You'll also learn why self-acceptance takes you further than self-criticism. What excuses do you have that prevent you from accepting yourself? This video will talk you out of them and explain why they're invalid.

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One of the first things love does is accept you exactly as you are. In case you find that difficult, this lecture shows you how to build an inexpensive device to keep with you which makes acceptance (and progress toward your goals) simple.

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You're number one! Several examples in this chapter convince you that that's exactly as it should be, even if you're imperfect. It's your natural duty to always take your side, and you'll why it's so ridiculous to take serioiusly anyone who tries to cut you down.

Games are defined by their rules, and this lecture helps you analyze which version of "The Game of Life" you're playing. You can tell by which set of rules you're obeying. If you learn that you're playing the wrong game, you can change the rules or quit right now. By now, you know exactly how to play the Game of Love, and this video encourages you to get playing immediately.

Judgment is always a subjective experience, and this chapter helps you choose how to judge yourself by pointing out another of love's key attributes. You've probably been doing it wrong all along, and you're about to discover that you were good enough after all.

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"Who you gonna believe," Chico Marx comically asked, "Me? Or your own eyes?" But have you ever considered that your own eyes are often the least dependable? This lecture explain why your subconscious mind distorts your sense of self and makes your deep fears come true, and that if you saw yourself more clearly, you'd find it easy and natural to love yourself.

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If your critical inner voice often disagrees with the voices of the crowd, one of them is probably wrong, and it's probably your mind. This video expands on the fact that your fears blind you to reality, and that you ought to reconsider what you believe.

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This optical illusion reveals an important point about how you see yourself - whichever perspective you choose, you may be right, so which one would you prefer? This lecture encourages you to choose love's perspective. If you want to love yourself more, then do what love does and see the good in you.

Slow and steady wins the race. Or slow and unsteady. Whatever. Just keep moving forward, despite what your detractors may say about you. This lecture explains a simple exercise for you to practice feeling more love for yourself.

Our brains are wired to make us emotional thinkers, but letting your mood dictate your sense of reality can kill you - or worse! This lecture explains why emotional thinking distorts reality and get in the way of loving yourself better. You'll also learn a few strategies to keep yourself safer and do what's best for you.

One way to measure how well you love yourself is to analyze whether you expect others to love you as well. This story tries to persuade you to believe that everyone is on your side and suggests several steps you can practice until that belief sticks.

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Why does something that doesn't even exist exert such influence about who we think we are and how we live our lives? A ten-foot-tall grizzly and a time machine demonstrate two of the five ways this chapter shows you how to change the past and set yourself free from fears, worries, self-doubt and shame.

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Self-love is valuable beyond measure ... have you settled for a cheap imitation? Our culture is so confused about what love really is that we often get confused and adopt self-love counterfeits which seem nice at first, but quickly show their limited value. This lecture explains how to tell the difference between real self-love and its many cheap immitations.

When the wind died several miles from shore on my sailboat one night, I ended up doing things the hard way. Chances are, you've been doing lots of things the hard way, and this lecture contrasts love's natural motivation to will power's less effective approach.

The only sure thing is change. Don't just get used to it - take control! This lecture asks you to consider which conditions you've adapted to rather than raised your standards to make your life a much more pleasant and successful experience.

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