
Love:
What does it mean to you?
Practice being a sincere, supportive cheerleader for your partner to foster emotional safety, trust, and a durable, long-term marriage and healthy relationship culture, while avoiding humiliation, gossip, and criticism.
Address jealousy as a signal of personal insecurity; strengthen self-esteem and self-definition. Promote transparency, mutual trust, and accountability—from shared passwords to open finances—to heal and sustain a loyal relationship.
Live in the present moment, notice small daily moments, and deepen a long-term passionate marriage by reducing boredom through mindful appreciation.
Learn to fight fairly in long-term relationships by applying the initiate and reflect technique to hear and acknowledge your partner, not to win, and prioritize healthy communication while avoiding bullying.
A skill set to help connect and engage Initiate and Reflect technique
Summary of the Technique
• The initiator feels triggered and says, “I would like to initiate, can you reflect?”
• The reflector says, “Yes I can.”
• The initiator says, “I feel ______ because I think ______.”
• The reflector says, “So let me see if I got this right. You feel ______ because you think ______. Is that right?”
• The initiator says yes or no, and the reflector finally says, “Is there more?”
• This continues for another three or four sentences. Then after a pause so everyone can take in the information, if the reflector feels they have something that triggered them to feel a certain way, then that person can do some initiating in the same way.
Love Language
What are your favorite words or phrases you enjoy getting from your loved one?
What are the words or phrases that break the mood?
What words or phrases do you enjoy sharing to build your love?
Learn to build a long-term passionate relationship by applying insights from the John Gottman Love Lab, managing jealousy, sustaining sexuality, communicating well, and practicing consistent relationship homework.
Explore how to connect and rewire your relationship culture to foster healthier marriages, dating, and multigenerational healing, with insights on premarital checklists and keys to lasting love.
Navigate toxic and difficult people in the workplace by setting boundaries, practicing self-care, and communicating clearly to build resiliency and protect your well-being.
Explore how codependency acts like an addiction, with compulsive, enmeshed behaviors rooted in family dynamics and a need to please others.
Creating Your Long Term Passionate Marriage with Victoria and Michael
The Keys to a Long Term Passionate Marriage
Creating the ultimate long term passionate relationships
It's not magic.... but when you work on it, it can feel like it!
Program Content includes:
Introduction to the program Creating Your Long Term Passionate Marriage
It's Possible - The Love Lab
Good Sex Often
Good Marriage Fundamentals
Jealousy and Envy
What are your Priorities?
The Riches of Life - In the Present Moment
Vulnerability is the Key
How to Fight ~ Fairly!
Emotionally Self-Sufficiency
Humor and the Long Term Relationship
Love Language
Conclusion ~ The Long Term Passionate Marriage