Coparenting - The Theory And The Practice

This lecture discusses the first and most important of the golden rules. These rules underpin the entire structure of the coparenting model that is discussed, and this particular golden rule underpins all the other rules as well, such is its importance.

This lecture covers the need for the model of coparenting that is established to be organised and structured in such a way that it allows all the participants (the parents and more importantly the children) to understand how it works in order that it can feel familiar and comfortable. The lecture also discusses why it is important that the model will be enduring for the long term.

Building on the previous lesson, this lecture covers the topic of change and outlines that while the coparenting model should be structured, inevitably there will be a need for considered flexibility. Since coparenting is intended as a long term model, it also needs to change over time as the children grow up and their needs change. 

Whilst the premise of coparenting is that the kids come first in every consideration, this lecture focuses on how the adults in the arrangement can and should benefit from it as well. The assumption is that in establishing coparenting the needs of the children are met first and foremost but it also offers a useful means of the adults building a happy and fulfilled life for themselves as well.

Sustainability of the arrangement is key. This lecture discusses how the coparenting model can be relied upon as a family structure for life, and how to ensure that evolves to fulfil this purpose.

The topic of finances in divorce and separation generally is outside of the scope of this training course. However, this lesson outlines considerations that need to be made in financial terms to support coparenting and to give it the best chance of working for all involved. It is recommended at a fundamental level that finances associated with coparenting are kept completely separate both conceptually and practically from the wider finances of the divorce.

This lecture discusses the topic of timing, both of when to commence with coparenting after divorce and when to implement major changes to the arrangement once it is up and running. Considerations such as the age of the kids and the changes being contemplated are significant factors but there is a clear and consistent message regarding timing. 

This lecture covers the challenge of the kids being raised in two homes where there may be two different sets of rules and ways of doing things. It outlines the key considerations in making this work and how to view the challenge in order that it doesn't anger or frustrate each parent, or confuse the kids.

Effective, focussed and on-topic communication is essential to setting coparenting up and in making it work for the long term. This lecture covers the types and methods of communication that are required and prompts you to consider how you can make this aspect of coparenting work.

This lecture outlines the need to protect the coparenting arrangement effectively once it is up and running. Comments, criticisms and outside pressures can be forthcoming both from our families and friends and also when either parent eventually moves forward with a new relationship. The lecture discusses ways of managing this and outlines why it is so important to do so.

Concluding the training, this lecture rounds off the training course with a summary of how coparenting can work and the enormous beneficial effects that can be enjoyed by all involved.