Led by a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Women Who Do Too Much is a course designed for women (and men!) who over-give to others yet find it difficult to attend to their own needs and nurturing. A combination of video instruction and PowerPoint, Women Who Do Too Much is aimed at women whose lives seem like endless to-do lists and obligations.
In this course, the instructor explores the social and biological reasons why women sacrifice their needs for the needs of others. We also explore the role that fear, avoidance, guilt and shame play in preventing women from taking adequate care of themselves.
Students will learn that the widespread tendency for women to over-focus on others has serious psychological and physical consequences. Depression, anxiety, headaches, and even a loss of interest in sex are all possible consequences when women do not take time for their own pursuits and self-renewal.
In this course, we learn why play -- the language of childhood -- and a sense of efficacy and control are critical to our well-being. The instructor conveys a 5-step process designed to improve a woman's moods and contentment in life. Also discussed is the connection between lack of play and focus on oneself and a decrease in sexual satisfaction.
By increasing "play time," setting better boundaries with loved ones, incorporating pleasure into our daily life, and letting go of the need to be good and perfect, women can empower themselves to lead more joyful and fulfilling lives.
An introduction and overview of why women over-compensate and give too much to others. Students will understand the historical perspective of this phenomenon and the underlying needs and fears of women that fuel their self-sacrifice. Also covered is the guilt and shame that many women feel when they take care of and focus on themselves.
In this section, the instructor shares why this topic is so meaningful to her, and the ramifications she experienced because of her lack of self-care. Students will learn why a sense of efficacy and control over one's life is necessary for stability and mental health.
This section details the historical importance of play for children and its transformative power for adults. Students are taught why adults
shun play as they age and the immense cost
that our lack of self-care is costing ourselves, our families, and our
Students will understand the importance of the vacation principle and its connection with improved productivity and vigor. Students also learn the five steps for giving oneself permission to play and incorporating more pleasurable activities into our daily lives. Maintaining resolve when facing possible resistance from loved ones and partners is also discussed.
Women often need additional time and space to move from Worker Bee mode to Partner mode to Lover. In this final section, students will learn why taking time for oneself, mindfulness, and focusing on our own needs can improve sexual experiences for women. Also discussed are the challenges and benefits of incorporating more play and pleasure into one's daily living. Students will leave with a renewed sense of how simple self-care can be and why women are often challenged to take better care of themselves.
Amanda Somberg, M.A., MFT, is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in the State of California (CA #41275). She teaches, writes, and speaks frequently about the dynamics of abusive relationships and narcissistic abuse. Amanda presented her workshop titled "New Insights into Abusive Relationships" at the 51st Annual California Association of Marriage & Family Therapists (CAMFT) Conference in May, 2015.
Amanda graduated from the University of California, Berkeley (B.A., English) and John F. Kennedy University (M.A., Clinical Psychology). She maintains a private psychotherapy and mediation practice in Walnut Creek, California. Amanda is the mother of a teenage son.