Why are you here?
You’ve probably clicked through to this course because you’re a parent who feels like you sometimes have to battle with your child to get them to behave or because you want to stop them from having huge meltdowns when things don’t go their way.
You’ve searched online and read a whole host of articles and blogs about strategies you should use. You’ve tried them all and you feel like they don’t really work, but you keep using them because you don’t know what else to do.
You feel like you don’t always handle those tricky moments all that well and are looking for new ideas for how to do it differently.
If any of that sounds like you then this is the course for you.
Based on sound, scientific evidence and informed by the most recent research in psychology, neuroscience and child development, this course will introduce you to a new way of thinking about your child and your parenting, and will help you to make changes that mean you will never have to use 'Time Out' as a strategy ever again.
Why we created this course
We are Claire and Nneka and together we run Mellownest.
We have extensive experience when it comes to working with others around psychology and child development. Some of our previous work includes being commissioned by one of the largest local authorities in the UK to provide advice and support for foster carers and teachers of children who are in foster care in that local authority.
We have also spent several years working together in schools in the UK, training teachers to learn more about child psychology, child development and neuroscience – in other words, we helped them to understand what was going on in those little heads!
What we noticed was that, while the teachers found what we had to say helpful for them in their classrooms, more often than not they were coming to talk to us about their own children. We realised that there was a need for this sometimes overly theoretical, hard-to-understand science stuff to be presented in a much more accessible way to parents.
So, that’s why we’ve created this course. As you work your way through it you will develop a better understanding of why your child sometimes behaves in a way you don’t like, and what you as a parent can do to respond to that in a way that feels better for you and for your child.
What does the course cover?
You’ll start by thinking about yourself – what your values are as a parent and what you want your relationship with your child to be like. We believe that this is the true starting point of your parenting journey as it lays the foundations for what comes next – the kind of parent you want to be and the kind of person you want your child to grow to be. This is less about your ‘parenting style’ and more about you, and there will be an assignment for you to complete to help you think about this.
Then comes the brain bit. You’ll be guided through the development of the brain from birth, what you should be aiming for as a parent in supporting your child’s brain to develop, and what happens in your child’s brain when things get too much – in other words when they have a huge meltdown over something that seems so small and you are completely unable to figure out why!
You’ll then look in more detail at your child’s feelings such as anger – how, when and why they experience certain feelings in a big way and why it’s important for you as a parent to keep your own feelings in check. You’ll also learn why ‘Time Out’ is NOT an effective strategy to use at these times.
Then comes the practical bit – the next sections will help you to build up your parenting toolkit by focusing on ways to be with your children – playful, empathetic and connected and more mindful.
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Why take this course?
We have run this course as a live workshop a number of times and the feedback we have had from parents is that it has been a revelation! They have told us that it has been a game-changer for them and it has literally transformed the way they think about their children, and the parenting approach they take.
The saying is true – when you have a baby nobody gives you an accompanying manual with instructions. We hear this all the time from parents at our workshops, but they also say that if there was a manual then it should contain everything that is in this course! Not only that, but they have told us that they have enjoyed the course immensely because it has been presented in a clear and concise way but it has also been fun – we’re not stand-up comedians by any stretch of the imagination but we do like to keep people entertained!
We know that family life can be hectic and not everybody has the time or means to come to a live workshop – if that’s the case in your household then this course is perfect for you.
We truly believe that this course will make a difference for you and your child. But it is important to note that we're not offering a set of 'quick fix' strategies that will result in changes overnight. The approaches we advocate in this course do work, we know that for sure, but what they need to make them work is dedication and a commitment from you to doing things differently. We've said parenting isn't easy, and neither is making changes to how you do it. But if you're looking at a course like this then we think it's pretty safe to say you're the kind of parent who is willing to put the effort in to get to where you want to be on your parenting journey. And this is the course you need to help you do just that.
But don’t just take our word for it, enroll now and see for yourself.
Learn about how the brain develops from birth
Learn about how the different areas of the brain work together for success and why this matters for understanding children's behaviour
Learn about how the brain responds in times of stress and why children get overwhelmed by the littlest things
A short child friendly video to help your child understand more about their brain!
It's all about feelings, especially the ones that are hard to manage
Learn more about the big feelings that children experience and begin to understand what is and isn't helpful when they have these feelings
Learn about why it’s important to be aware of what triggers you and how to be more aware of your own big feelings so that you can respond appropriately
Learn about why time out isn’t an effective way of teaching children how to behave
Learn about how to approach the difficult times in a way that helps children feel better and feels good for you
Learn about the importance of play and how being playful can help get you through some of the tricky times
Learn more about what these are and why you don't need to come down hard on your child with consequences
Learn why it can sometimes be better to slow things down and why it’s important to have realistic expectations of what children need and can manage
Introduction to the 4 Cs: Learn techniques for setting boundaries with empathy
Learn when and how to use calming techniques with children to help them manage their big feelings
Learn when and how to connect with children to help them feel acknowledged and heard
Learn when and how to communicate with children and how to move into joint problem solving
Learn when and how to celebrate with children to highlight the times when they’re doing well
Hi, I’m Claire and I’m a mental health professional and trainer in all things emotional wellbeing. I'm a director at Mellownest, educational organisation which aims to empower and inspire positive parenting.
My academic background is in psychology and counselling but my focus has always been on working with children and young people and I’ve supported hundreds of families to get over the bumps on the road and back on a happier path. I've written and delivered training programs for parents and for education staff in the UK and I really love helping people to see and understand things from a new point of view.
I'm fascinated by mindfulness, neuroscience and developmental psychology and am pretty obsessed with reading child psychology books. I'm also a parent so I use all of my theoretical knowledge on a day to day basis with my own child.
Hi, I'm Nneka and I'm a Child Psychologist with a Master's degree and a Doctorate in Educational Psychology. I have over 10 years of expericence working with children, teachers and parents and along with Claire I am a director at Mellownest. We run workshops, write blog posts and create online courses such as this one for parents who are curious about how their children develop, why they do the things they do and how best to support their children's development.
After qualifying as a psychologist I completed further training specialising in parent-child relationships and I realised how much I enjoy working with parents in helping them to understand more about their children from a child development and psychological perspective.
I love learning (and talking!) about anything and everything to do with psychology and child development and I especially enjoy sharing this knowledge with others in a way that makes it easy to understand.