Obsessions - How to spot them

Gregory Caremans - Brain Academy
A free video tutorial from Gregory Caremans - Brain Academy
Neurocognitive and Behavioral Expert
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When passion turns into an obsession

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English [Auto] In this lecture we're looking at a third layer of motivation on top of the primary and secondary motivation comes as the third one technical term for it. This hyper investment medical term is neurosis. It's commonly obsession. All I can hear you think Oh but that's not for me. I don't have those reality check. We all have them. Not one but several varying in intensity. One an example. Remember the first time you fell in love remember how that felt how you couldn't get enough of the other person how you would see her face everywhere how you couldn't stop thinking about him or her texting each other all the time. Start to get the picture that my friends is an obsession or hyper investment. They can range from totally innocent and homes to invasive and destructive as we will see. Are a feeding ground of addictive behavior leading to workaholism shop Paulism alcoholism and other types of addictions. When they get out of hand they affect the person and the people around him or her. That's why it's important to recognize this kind of behavior in oneself and in others and to know how to deal with it. Most of the time but not always a harder investment to position itself. On top of a primary motivation is a tipping point where our passion becomes our obsession from our natural interest in something we can grow an obsessive behavior that sometimes needs attention. So how do we recognize that when this passion becomes obsession. Remember how we feel joy satisfaction and relief with our primary and secondary motivations. Here no such thing. There is no satisfaction. It's never enough. Whatever we do whatever brilliant success we obtained we still feel hungry and want more. It's like a Rolling Stones song with the repeat button pressed on. It's like having dirty pair of shoes and still wanting more. It's getting a raise and already thinking about the next one. It's like winning a gold medal and feeling depressed because there is nothing higher than that. Now this dissatisfaction leads to a person rabidly trying something else. They flit from one thing to another sometimes from one person to another. Whenever an obsessive person doesn't get what he or she wants the desire becomes uncontrollable almost painful. He can't take it out of his mind anymore. Thinking about it all the time the importance of the object of the obsession becomes blown out of proportion. It's the end of the world. I can't live without it. We will usually see very strong emotional reactions sometimes out of the blue. This is in sharp contrast with the primary motivation where not being able to fulfill a passion well actually doesn't matter too bad. Let's move on. Maybe a my disappointment. No such thing was an obsession. As I say all's fair in love and war. Expect the worst. Whenever you withhold someone from his or her obsession. The third characteristic is the amount of energy an obsession is demanding. It's exhausting at least for the others. The obsessive person seems in overdrive and due to it's invasive and repetitive behavior will be experienced as annoying boring and literally tiresome and almost as they prey on your energy to be able to on. This is definitely not a sustainable source of energy which is also seen at a repetitive change of the object of the obsession. So what is it that makes us tilt from passion into obsession. That is exactly what we're going to deal with in the next election.