What is a Life Story?

Joeel & Natalie Rivera
A free video tutorial from Joeel & Natalie Rivera
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Lecture description

Our life stories are developed without us even knowing it as we grow up and live life according to our belief systems and identity. This story shapes how we see the world and our future, and therefore determines what we do and how life unfolds. Find out more!

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Life Story Coach Certification

Coach your clients to rewrite their life story scripts. identities and beliefs using neuroscience, psychology, CBT & TA

06:58:39 of on-demand video • Updated May 2020

  • Understand the psychology behind people’s life stories, beliefs and narratives
  • Use proven, step-by-step tools and strategies for helping clients re-writing their stories
  • Help clients quiet the inner critic and empower their self-talk
  • Help clients stop self-defeating patterns and habits
  • Help clients develop self-confidence and a success identity
  • Help clients release past baggage and pain that no longer serve them
  • Use frameworks such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Transactional Analysis to help clients change life patterns
  • • Show clients transcend the story of their past and take back control of their pen
English [Auto] So what is a life story and why does it matter. First let me tell you how a story is born. Human beings are incredible. We are born with the ability to take in and absorb information from the world around us like a sponge. Our brain helps us find her place in this world by categorizing information and interactions into a framework of understanding. Its primary objective is to keep us safe. Throughout our childhood this framework develops as we experience the world around us and receive feedback about our behaviors. We are influenced by the behaviors and beliefs of her parents and caretakers our culture. And later the media the educational system and our friends we develop beliefs about how the world works and these beliefs then former identity who we think we are. Our experience of life is filtered through our individual perception of reality. It is this filter through which we process the situations of our life rather than the actual situations themselves that determine the meaning we ascribe to them. By early adulthood we've developed a story a narrative script we tell ourselves and others about what happened in our past how the world works and who we are. Brain uses this story like a blueprint to make sense of the world to predict evaluate react to and control our lives. Refer to the blueprint for guidance when we encounter challenges to determine what it means and how we should respond. Our stories determine whether we are resilient or rigid and whether we thrive or fail. Our brain is constantly trying to find a way to make what happens fit our blueprint. It has to confirm that our view of reality is right. It has to keep us safe from uncertainty or danger. Our Brains Are Wired to find notice and focus on what we already believe and so we tend to find ourselves in situations that confirm our biases. So we expect life to be a certain way. The world around us proves us right. Our belief is reinforced and so the story continues. That is until you intercept the story and change your beliefs. You have to trick your brain into following a new blueprint because when you do you'll begin to look at life differently. Your expectations will change and your brain will do what it does best find you evidence that you are right. So what does this mean. It means you have a choice if left unchecked. Your story and your unconscious belief system will keep you locked in the patterns and problems that have thus far determine your life. However you have a choice. You can change the story and transform your life. Throughout the rest of this course we will be providing you with information and tools to help you make that decision to live differently. I hope you learn how to use the power of your own mind. I hope you bring awareness to your personal narrative will help you question your beliefs and release the limiting ones. Hope you see life experiences from your past from a different perspective. Help you decide what you want in life and how you want to change your story. I hope you rewrite that story to reflect the higher truth of who you are and make decisions to live differently. So it's important to understand that you already have everything you need. Now if we were to tell you that you can have be or do anything. Wouldn't entirely be true. But what is true is that you can have do or be anything that you truly desire. You see not everyone wants the same things. Some people may be more capable at certain things or may have different access to resources than you do. This makes them perfectly suited for their life path but just because you don't have those capabilities and resources doesn't mean that you should feel badly or lacking because you don't need those things. If you feel like you do then it could be because you're chasing someone else's dream. The truth is that your unique abilities and circumstances have unfolded perfectly to prepare you for living your own life and fulfilling your own desires. I like to think about it like an acorn. So an acorn is small and dry. It might feel insignificant if it compares itself to an enormous and succulent coconut but the acorn doesn't need the coconuts large size or its meaty flesh if it sought to change itself to be more like the coconut or if it were ever to become. What is the coconuts destiny. A tropical palm tree. It would not thrive because it is not well suited for dry sandy soil and excessive heat. The coconut is perfectly suited for this environment and the ACORN is perfectly suited for work where it is meant to be. Truth is that the tiny acorn contains within itself all of the capability it needs in order to reach into the earth and pull from within it the nutrients and water with which to grow and expand. Doretti contains the ability and the knowledge required to absorb sunlight and converted into energy. The tiny acorn has everything it needs within it in order to transform soil and heat into a magnificent oak tree. It doesn't need to be anything other than what it is in order to fulfill its destiny and neither do you. Your mission should you choose to accept it is to rewrite your life story to reflect the truth of who you are. You may not be able to change what happened in the past but you can change the way you look at your past and change the story tell about it. You already have everything within you that you could possibly need in order to live your destiny. Now let's utilize the tools that will help you transform this potential into the fullest version of who you came to this earth to be.