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Your emotions are primary and secondary the primary motions are immediate responses to stimuli. What happens is we have some basic things that occur. I feel sad mad glad. Then what happens further is those emotions give us more detail. I feel serene. I feel trusting. I feel apprehensive and those secondary and tertiary emotions become more complex. Now some of the things that happen with emotions are there information in themselves. They're neither good nor bad. They simply provide content if bad things happen to you you can expect that your emotions are going to impede your action if good things happen. We tend to perform better. Emotions are always in the present tense. So if I ask you to remember what happened to you three four five weeks ago and ask you how you felt you're going to experience those emotions in the here and now. Likewise if I say if this happens to you in the future how would you feel again. You're going to experience emotions in the present tense. Very often people lose track of the fact that emotions are always right. Now now what's happening in the brain is we're getting a chemicals flow that's generating those emotions for us. Dopamine is the positive chemical that gives us internal rewards. It motivates us it creates pleasure in the brain endorphins or pain killers oxytocin that deals with your generosity. Serotonin deals with your self-esteem. So we've got all of these emotions and they're based on chemicals in a movie and electronic triggers in the brain. So once the brain is processing them we then start trying to track what's really happening. You're experiencing many emotions in a day. Some people estimate up to 3000 different emotions all in the present tense constantly changing. You experience them one at a time but you can change them very very quickly. If you watch a young child who's crying about something that felt bad. Watch the parent almost intuitively the parent will talk to the child make a funny face. The child will stop crying. Why. Because he can hold the two emotions at the same time. But we can go back to them. We'll see later on by things like volunteering and giving yourself to other people can be very effective emotionally because it gets us out of our counterproductive moods. Now typically we think of emotions in three separate ways. This is called had structure. Some emotions are very pleasant when others are pretty noxious pleasant emotions will entail things like I feel happy. I feel alert. I feel excited. I feel calm. I feel so serene. Negative emotions. I'm angry. I'm tense. I'm stressed. Undepressed. I'm bored. I'm sad. I'm mad. Typically the unpleasant emotions. I don't want to feel those. I want to feel pleasant emotions. Now one of the things we found over the years with research and being aware of these emotional structures is that the more you can name them and the more specific you are with what's pleasant what's unpleasant the better you get control. So I usually like to encourage people to create lists. How many pleasant emotions can you name. How many unpleasant emotions can you name. Then move on. Expand this one more dimension. We're going to ask Are you very aroused. Remember Ph.D. aroused emotions are this is generating high energy now what's generating high energy energy. I'm ecstatic. I'm happy I'm enthusiastic. I'm angry I'm enraged I'm annoyed I'm upset. Those are all high energy emotions high energy and usually going to lead to more action more performance some of these are really good for us while others may be something you want to be aware of because it may be very counterproductive. Lower arousal motions on content I'm satisfied I'm calm I'm serene I'm sad I'm depressed I'm bored. Last but not least we look at how dominant an emotion is. Dominant emotions are ones that you're going to be extremely aware of. It's clouding out other feelings it's clouding our other thoughts. Those are taking over your state of being passive emotions less dominant emotions are there but you're not as conscious of them. You're not being dominated by their impact. So when we look at the emotional structure we're getting information constantly. We're trying to figure out whether that information is effective. Or whether it's counterproductive but get used to the fact that it's fast your brain gets these things quickly. Now we have a small model but we like to use called Reach if I want be emotions if I like them if they're effective for me. Look for the cause and effect what cause them. How are they impacting you. I can repeat those patterns and do something good. More effort creates better focus. That's the key in reach. It makes the motions more intentional it makes them more. Something that I'm in control aware of. My attention a. Am I focused on the emotion is the emotion complex. C and H. Am I healthy. If your brain health is off all bets are off. With awareness you need to deal with health. And typically speaking when we're talking about awareness we're talking about trying to create that awareness in someone who is basically brain healthy. Now when I say brain healthy I'll try and give you a quick perusal of what's going to keep your brain healthy. We want to watch your diet your quality and quantity of foods the nutrition your water intake. Your brain is made mostly water. Activity helps your brain as well. Mental exercise play stimulation challenges energy your brain is going to be much more effective if it's healthy and happy positive emotions tend to be better for performance. We need sleep rest and relaxation are critical. The brain does have to have downtime even though it's working 24/7. We want to manage the negatives if things are counterproductive I want to dismiss them as readily as possible. And last but not least for a healthy brain. Relationships are important. Working with people. Connecting with people. Quality really resonates to keep your brain functioning at the best it can be. So when we put these together we're looking to keep your brain healthy. We're looking to maintain a continuing ongoing awareness of the feelings and the energy they produce in our the feeling something that you know you're enjoying pleasant. Are they noxious. Are the feelings energizing. Are you highly aroused. Low arousal. And again remember at last but not least are these emotions dominating you. Or are they simply something that is passing better awareness of and the emotions more consciousness of them allows for higher self-confidence better personnel management and using those emotions instead of being tossed here and there with emotions that are just out of control. So mindfulness is going to take take you to these things then we start considering what's going to be constructive and what's counterproductive.