Time To Go: How To Safely Leave An Abusive Relationship

A Step by Step Guide On How To Safely And Successfully Leave An Abusive Relationship Quickly, Even If You Have No Money
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Published 2/2016 English

Course Description

Domestic abuse knows no barriers of age, religion, culture or gender; although the vast majority of victims are women. Be it Emotional Abuse, Physical Abuse, Financial Abuse, Sexual Abuse or Neglect, etc. this course unravels the dangers of abusive relationships and lays out a step-by-step plan to successfully put it behind you.

This course will take you from feeling devalued, disrespected, frustrated, confused, mentally tired or stressed, isolated, alone and in fear in an unhealthy relationship to being empowered, knowledgeable, confident, motivated, gaining mental and physical freedom, supported and flourishing in your new life.

I have personally been there, I experienced it and want to share the wealth of knowledge and information with you on how you too can survive and thrive. Why? Freedom! I want you to be Abuse-Free and live the FULFILLING life you were born to!

Take the steps today to see SMILES and HAPPINESS instead of tears caused by a toxic relationship and an abusive partner. Put yourself on the road to self-love, mental clarity and reclaiming your power.

As your instructor I will share insights and expertise from over two decades of personal experience, research and training in relationship dynamics.

Students will learn a number of key lessons including: spotting abuse, planning your exit, raising finance, successfully leaving your abuser once and for all and keys to never getting into another abusive relationship.

This 5 hours plus course is structured into 10 segments broken down into individual lectures, each in Power Point slides and videos, plus downloadable course material, tasks and insightful information. Each lecture has simple action steps and quizzes to reinforce your learning.

This course is suitable for men and women 16 years plus; or younger individuals who are in an abusive marriage and want to leave their abusive spouse.

What are the requirements?

  • This course is appropriate for men and women ages 16 years and older.
  • A safe space to go through the course, away from an abuser
  • No prior knowledge or experience of abusive relationships is necessary

What am I going to get from this course?

  • Understand the 10 major types of abuse and the many different methods. Yes, there is a difference in the two
  • Know the many different signs of abuse
  • Know the Factors leading to domestic abuse
  • Understand the impact of abuse on the victim, children and the family; including some statistics
  • Successfully leave an abusive relationship safely and with confidence
  • Have the knowledge and skills to successfully start their new life abuse free
  • Know 16 sources for where they can raise finance to leave
  • Know how to sever all ties with their abuser through legal separation or divorce
  • Be clear on who they should go to for support and who they should hold back from telling
  • Learn from the true stories of other victims and survivors
  • Wisely and Safely walk away from an abusive relationship

What is the target audience?

  • Women who are victims of domestic violence
  • Men who are victims of domestic violence
  • Abusers wishing to change their attitude and behaviour
  • Women who are constantly stressed in their relationship and need clarity on whether the relationship is abusive or not
  • Individuals wanting to be more informed about what support they can offer to people they suspect or know are in abusive relationships
  • Professionals wanting to learn more about domestic violence and other types of relationship abuse
  • Victims ready to leave their abuser but needing clear guidance on how to do it safely and successfully

What you get with this course?

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30 day money back guarantee.

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Curriculum

Section 1: Welcome and Getting Started
01:38

Welcome to 'Time To Go' The Course

02:30

Action Steps:

A.

Have an open mind for learning; put aside the ‘I know that’ mindset and be willing to receive the knowledge and take action.

B.

Do all your online research through https://duckduckgo.com/ or in the ‘incognito’ mode offered by some browsers; instead of just using a search engine such as Google as it will track your searches.


03:09

Action Steps:

  1. If possible have a single note book for writing (try not to use loose pages as they can be easily misplaced)
  2. Pen / pencil
  3. A secure bag, container or location to put important things away safely as you accumulate items
  4. Believe in yourself
  5. Stick-to-itiveness through the course
  6. Optimistic vision for your abuse-free future
  7. Use the 'notes' section to the far right of this page to safely make your course notes online
  8. I have allotted a couple hours on a Friday to answer messages and communicate with students.

2 questions

This short quiz is based on the 'Welcome and Getting Started' section.

Answer: True or False

Section 2: Introduction
Your Starting Point!
Article
28 questions

You will gain greater insight and clarity in less than 5 minutes!

There are 5 sets of questions each addressing different areas of your life.

Rank your answer on a scale of 0-10 using the guide below:

0 = Nope, not true for me!

3 = Just a bit like this.

5 =I feel split about this.

7 = Yep, pretty much the way it is.

10 = This is totally true!

N.B. Remember that this is an assessment, so there is no right or wrong answers it's just to give you a snapshot of where you are starting.

Now, take the quiz, get energized towards your change and let’s move forward together!

xxx Norva

P.s. Well done and thanks in advance for being honest about your current situation and your commitment to a brighter future.

01:48

Course Outline

1. Introduction

2. Types Of Abuse In Relationships

3. Methods Of Abuse

4. Am I A Victim Of Abuse?

5. Its Time To Decide Your Next Move

6. Time To Go!

7. Financing Your Leaving, Even If You Have No Money

8. Settling Into Your New Life

9. What About Divorce?

10. Recap

11. Congratulations!

12. Bonus Material

3 questions

This short quiz is based on the 'Introduction' section.

3 Questions

Answer: True or False

Section 3: Types Of Abuse In Relationships
08:43

Action step

Make a list of the types of abuse you believe you are experiencing in your relationship.

01:50

Action step

Which of the following best describes your situation and why?

Intimate terrorism

Violent resistance

Situational couple violence

Mutual violent control

03:11

Action steps

Have you experienced coercive control or spiritual abuse?

If yes, in a paragraph or two, journal about your experience of that type of abuse.

Article

Action Steps

Write down two separate lists with factors leading to the abuse in your relationship:-

A.

What do you believe led to you becoming a victim of abuse?

B.

From your knowledge, what do you believe led to your partner to becoming an abusive spouse towards you?

03:38

Action steps

A.

Download the accompanying document and read through.

B.

Make a list of all the people and pets you feel are being affected by your abuser’s behaviour.

C.

If you feel up to it, journal a bit about what effects the abuse is having on each of them.

7 questions

This short quiz is based on the 'Types of Abuse' section.

7 Questions

Answer: True or False

Section 4: Methods Of Abuse In Relationships
01:40

Action steps

A.

Download and open the list on the methods of abuse.

Warning there are a lot, so take your time to sit with this as some people find it overwhelming at first.

B.

Take time out to journal, take a walk or sit with yourself as you go through the data.

00:59

Action Step

Make a list of the methods of Terrorizing and Intimidation you have experienced in your relationship.

00:48

Action step

Make a list of the methods of Control and Coercion you have experienced in your relationship.

00:48

Action step

Make a list of the methods of Constant Monitoring or Checking up that you have experienced in your relationship.

02:19

Action step

Make a list of the methods of Isolation you have experienced in your relationship.

01:54

Action step

Make a list of the methods of Ignore Or Rejection that you have experienced in your relationship.

01:16

Action step

Make a list of the methods of being Corrupted that you have experienced in your relationship.

00:48

Action step

Make a list of the methods of Manipulate and Exploit that you have experienced in your relationship.

00:20

Action step

Make a list of the methods of Humiliation or Insult that you have experienced in your relationship.

01:16

Action step

Make a list of the methods of Financial or Material Exploitation that you have experienced in your relationship.

02:27

Action step

Make a list of the methods of Sexual Violation and Neglect that you have experienced in your relationship.

01:04

Action step

Make a list of the methods of Physical Violence that you have experienced in your relationship.

5 questions

This short quiz is based on the 'Methods Of Abuse' section.

6 Questions

Answer: True or False

Section 5: Am I A Victim Of Abuse?
00:49

Action step

Download the Signs of Abuse document and read the list.

00:40

Action step

Go through the information again in more detail on the Signs of Abuse document and make a note of any that describes what you have experienced.

00:43

Action step

Based on all that you have learnt so far, journal about the extent of your experience of abuse at the hand of your spouse.

02:02

Action step

Write a short letter to your former self, on the day you met your abuser or when you started having feelings for them. In the letter advise the younger you about what to look out for; specifically signs of your relationship becoming toxic/unhealthy.

04:40

Action step

Reflect on the training and consider the different aspects of your character and life. Then do the same for your partner’s character and life. Can you work out what is by nature, nurture and choice?

00:50

Action step

If you are a parent can you see any red flags for how a perpetual cycle can develop in any of your children’s life?

02:00

Action step

In your relationship, has substance abuse played any part in you or your abuser’s life? Consider the answer; remember that substances can be prescribed as well as illicitly obtained.

02:09

Action step

Do you believe that your abuser has any narcissist tendencies? Do some more research on the topic when it’s safe to do so.

04:40

Action step

Do any of the stories resonate with you? Write a paragraph or two about those that stood out to you.

09:52

Action step

Make a list of the reasons why you decided to stay in the relationship until now.

03:15

Action step

Reflecting on the concept of ‘Intimate Slavery’ how does it make you feel. Write a sentence or two about your experience and feelings.

04:01

Action step

Where in your life and the life of others is your abuser’s behavior surprisingly more destructive than you had first realised?

01:53

Action Step

What are you most worried about in your relationship?
04:45

Action step

Do any of the stories resonate with you? If you are up to it send me a short story of an incident in your relationship that stands out to you.

6 questions

This short quiz is based on the 'Am I A Victim' section.

6 Questions

Answer: True or False

Section 6: It’s Time To Decide Your Next Move
05:01

Action step

It’s time to start weighing up all the facts based on what you’ve been jotting down. Take the time to look at the notes you have taken and make an informed decision about what you do from now on.

00:59

Action Step

Take this time to consider if your partner’s behaviour is loving or selfish.

00:51

Action step

Look out for the manipulation as you look toward your abuse-free future.

01:21

Action step

Look at and study material that will help you become more patient and level headed despite the negativity that will come your way from your spouse.

01:51

Action step

Start making a short term plan if you need to leave quickly.

02:47

Action step

Practice the mirror work suggested in this lecture.

01:20

Action steps

A.

Make a list of two to five people you can trust.

B.

Choose two or three of those people to be your cheerleaders.

00:43

Action step

Start considering what your Plan A, Plan B and Plan C will look like.

00:45

Action steps

Download the checklist; study it and begin to implement it.

01:32

Action step

Begin to think of jobs or ways to get into business so you can start to generate your own income as soon as possible.

00:16

Action step

Read stories and look at videos of people who have successfully come out of an abusive relationship.

00:36

Action step

Begin to practice how you will address awkward questions from loved ones. You can ask for suggestions and advice from others like your cheerleaders, domestic abuse hotline operators or a solicitor.

00:55

Action steps

A.

Download the lists (they are both located in the same document).

B.

Make 2 lists of your own containing:

  1. The things you must take.
  2. The things you’d love to take with you.
4 questions

This short quiz is based on 'It's Time To Decide Your Next Move' section.

4 Questions

Answer: True or False

Section 7: Time To Go!
01:00

Action step

Schedule a date and time in your calendar.

00:57

Action step

Choose to share your plan with a cheerleader or someone in authority who you can trust to be honest with you. (Consider the police, doctor, an attorney, the leader of a shelter for victims and religious leader who is against spousal or any other types of abuse, etc)

01:27

Action Step Choose some motivational music and motivational leaders to listen to as you continue to work through your to-do list.

02:18

Action step

Continue to be mindful of the information that you share with your abuser. Do not underestimate what they can do in a fit of anger.

01:14

Action steps

A.

Prepare for when you are leaving to keep safe. Call for support if you need to and try to leave when your spouse is not around. If you are on the central coast in the U.S. check out the California moving company Meathead Movers.

B.

If you believe that you’ll need a restraining order apply for one. If you are not sure get legal advice.

01:54

Action step

Where should you go? Choose from local, regional, another state or another country? Your decision will determine your level of planning and the finance you will need.

01:12

Action step

Get the name and details of the people you want to keep in contact with. Remember, when you finally leave, you don’t have to share with everyone information about your new location.

01:30

Action step

Get a hold of any legal documents that will prove ownership of the house. Do not let that stop you from leaving if you are in fear for your life.

01:32
Action Step Reflect on the story and journal your feelings at this point in time.
01:55

Action steps

Reflect on the information and journal your feelings at this time. Remember that you should not trust all that an abuser is saying; he or she will say anything to get their own way.

4 questions

This short quiz is based on the 'Time To Go' section.

4 Questions

Answer: True or False

Section 8: Financing Your Leaving Even If You Have No Money
00:25

Action step

Journal about the reasons WHY you are leaving and need to raise the finance. This can be a matter of life and death so when you start approaching others for work or money and when you bring in the finances for your move remember the importance of it.

00:26

Action steps

Do you feel financially trapped in your relationship?

If yes, begin to think outside the box for creative ways to raise finance.

00:26

Action step

Write a list of 5 ways you might be able to raise finance. As you continue through the course compare your list to what are suggested.

00:32

Action step

Keep in mind that not all of the options are best for you - you may or may not need to use all or any of them.

I am not a financial advisor.

10:05

Action steps

Which are the top three (3) options you would like to try.

If necessary, start researching your choices more, then begin to work on each one.

00:50

Action steps

Decide where you are going to put your entire financial document. When researching online.

This is a reminder to do all your online research through https://duckduckgo.com/ or using an incognito window on your browser instead of using a search engine such as Google normally as it will track your searches.

5 questions

This short quiz is based on the 'Financing Your Leaving

Even If You Have No Money' section.

5 Questions

Answer: True or False

Section 9: Settling Into Your New Life
00:38

Action step

Do remember to find a way to celebrate the big bold necessary step you have taken, when you leave.

00:35

Action step

Put your documents and certificates in a place that is easily accessible for you.

00:33

Action step

Begin to creatively think about how to get settled into your new life.

00:24

Action step

Give yourself permission to grieve the old life and to come to terms with it. Remember that you have made a positive decision for your life.

00:34

Action step

Pay close attention to the things your children are saying and doing as they adjust to this new normal.

01:36

Action step

Go through the information in the section and follow the instructions to make you safe.

10:48

Action step

Keep your eyes and ears open for if you are being tracked and stalked by your abuser, be it directly or indirectly.

04:49

Action steps

Spend time on spiritual growth and guidance. Spend time in prayer and meditation.

Book a break, whether it’s at a friend’s house when your children are on school break or for a weekend. Consider some options and begin to plan one for within the next 3 months.

08:17

Action steps

Spend time on spiritual growth and guidance. Spend time in prayer and meditation.

Spend time on your personal development. Have a look at our website to see if any of our other courses are right for you http://www.thewisewife.com/. Equally there are lots of content on YouTube that are free to access if you are disciplined enough to work on your own. Choose a positive mantra / quote and repeat it to yourself on a regular basis.
01:02

Action step

Continue to think of ways to add value and get paid for it. If you have to improve a specific skill write down the skill and research the best way to go about it.

00:40

Action step

Continue to repeat your mantra and journal how you would like your future to look like.

00:48

Action step

Consider areas of your personal, social and financial life that are still connected to your ex and work on disconnecting them as soon as it is wise to do so.

00:57

Action step

Make a list of the things you enjoy doing, whether or not you had stopped; include activities you would like to try. Start a healthy activity and try new things.

00:32

Action step

Treat yourself to something you enjoy. Set a budget and stick to it. For example, having luxurious ice-cream is great if you are on a low budget; attending a theatre performance may be suitable if you can afford it.

02:27

Action step

Make a list of relationships you want to build. For example, with your children, extended family, working at a charity, etc.

02:02

Action step

If you are looking to start a new relationship take your time. Find out about their background and do not ignore any red flags that you see in their personality or actions.

03:24

Action step

Be open-minded to advice and support from at least seven people from a wide cross-section.

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Instructor Biography

Norva Semoy Abiona, Author and The Relationship Change Catalyst

Norva Semoy Abiona is a Relationship coach and mentor, Inspirational speaker, trainer and Author of the Amazon #1 International bestselling book ‘Time to Go: Leaving Emotional Abuse and other forms of Abusive Relationships’. She is the CEO and founder of Real Fulfilment International and TheWiseWife. Known as “The Relationship Change Catalyst” she helps wives create the truly fulfilling life and relationship they want. Norva is also fondly called the 'Chief Wise Wife'.

Norva graduated with her MA in Management Studies and also has an impressive list of other qualifications. She spent over 15 years teaching and as a facilitator. Working in the community and with couples, families and government organisations, she has helped to resolve conflict, restore broken relationships and thus transform homes and lives. In 2009 she received the Mediator of the year award in her former corporate job. Over the last year Norva has taken her relationship expertise online and has become well recognised for her knowledge and experience. She has been featured on podcasts, magazines, radio shows, in books, News posts and in videos. Norva has spoken to groups internationally, both in person from the stage and through virtual platforms. She has done this while being a devoted wife and mother of a teenager and two toddlers. She focuses her attention on promoting to wives how they can ‘Overcome through Change!’

To learn more about Norva and the work that she does check out The Wise Wife and My Choice Marriage websites and follow her on Social Media.

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