Thriving After Divorce: From Victim to Victor

How to Break Through a Victim Mindset and Transform Your Life
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  • Lectures 42
  • Contents Video: 2.5 hours
    Other: 3 hours
  • Skill Level All Levels
  • Languages English
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Published 6/2015 English

Course Description

Are you feeling beaten down by your divorce? Do you feel like you've been through a battle and lost yourself in the process? Are you tired of feeling drained and defeated?

Are you ready to reclaim your life and get your happy back?

This course is organized into twelves chapters, each focusing on a particular effect of divorce on your well-being. Within each chapter, there are two videos of inspiration and motivation, a call to action with a multitude of specific and easy-to-implement ideas and seven life-changing journal prompts. You can move through the course in order or you can focus on the areas that are most important to you.

Every ending contains the seed of a new beginning. I'll help you learn how to let it grow.

What are the requirements?

  • Come to this course with an open mind, a desire to reclaim your life and a willingness to put the effort into your well-being.

What am I going to get from this course?

  • See yourself as a student of life rather than a victim of circumstance.
  • Engage in experiences and exercises that will help you reclaim your life and your happiness.
  • Build the confidence and courage to create the life you want.
  • Release the pain and transform the anger that is keeping you stuck.
  • Create and implement strategies replace self-defeating thoughts with empowering intentions.

What is the target audience?

  • This course is designed for men and women who have gone through (or are going through) a divorce and feel victimized and stuck. This course is not for you if you are looking for legal advice regarding your divorce or if you are suffering from clinical depression or anxiety.

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Curriculum

Section 1: Introduction: How Does Divorce Contribute to a Victim Mindset?
04:16

Learn what characterizes a victim mindset.

03:10

Understand the elements of a victim mindset that draw you in and how they keep you trapped.

02:23

Take back the power to drive your life.

17 pages

Change starts with our thoughts and culminates in our actions. This lecture explains how the course is organized and provides tips and choices for implementation of the strategies.

Section 2: Take Back Responsibility
03:55

Learn the limitations of shifting responsibility.

05:16

Discover how to take back the power for your own healing.

13 pages

These action items will give you the power to take back responsibility. The writing exercises are also available as a printable PDF in the resource section.

Section 3: Create Purpose
05:43

Recognize the greater meaning behind your divorce.

05:57

Learn how to adapt and grow as you navigate life's changes.

13 pages

These action items will give you the power to create purpose in your life. The writing exercises are also available as a printable PDF in the resource section.

Section 4: Crash the Pity Party
05:34

Learn how to replace self-pity with self-compassion.

05:58

Implement strategies to help fill the void left by divorce.

13 pages

These action items will give you the power to crash the pity party. The writing exercises are also available as a printable PDF in the resource section.

Section 5: Build Confidence
10:51

Understand how divorce undermines self-confidence and implement ideas to rebuild self-assurance.

03:10

Utilize the concept of progressive resistance to build emotional strength and grit.

13 pages

These action items will give you the power to build confidence. The writing exercises are also available as a printable PDF in the resource section.

Section 6: Unravel Rejection
04:07

Understand the impact of rejection and the assumptions embedded within.

04:56

Learn how to be objective about rejection.

13 pages

These action items will give you the power to unravel rejection. The writing exercises are also available as a printable PDF in the resource section.

Section 7: Counteract Powerlessness
06:56

Learn to distinguish between the cause of the pain and the pain itself.

06:16

Embrace the influence your thoughts have on your reality.

13 pages

These action items will give you the power to counteract powerlessness. The writing exercises are also available as a printable PDF in the resource section.

Section 8: Defuse Triggers
07:07

Discover how to see triggers as opportunities rather than setbacks.

04:41

Devise and implement strategies to limit the impact of triggers and defuse their power.

13 pages

These action items will give you the power to defuse triggers. The writing exercises are also available as a printable PDF in the resource section.

Section 9: Transform Sadness
03:31

Uncover the gains within your losses.

08:03

Learn how to release your pain by facing it.

13 pages

These action items will give you the power to transform sadness. The writing exercises are also available as a printable PDF in the resource section.

Section 10: Quiet Fear
05:02

Identify the causes and signs of a fear-based response in your life.

07:00

Learn how to gain the courage to confront your fears.

13 pages

These action items will give you the power to quiet fear. The writing exercises are also available as a printable PDF in the resource section.

Section 11: Utilize Anger
04:19

Recognize the message and meaning behind your anger.

08:41

Discover the role of forgiveness in releasing anger.

13 pages

These action items will give you the power to utilize anger. The writing exercises are also available as a printable PDF in the resource section.

Section 12: Resolve Rumination
08:00

Learn the difference between ruminating and processing.

06:32

Understand how attention drives your reactions and learn how to nurture the positive qualities in your life.

13 pages

These action items will give you the power to resolve rumination. The writing exercises are also available as a printable PDF in the resource section.

Section 13: Cultivate Gratitude
05:37

Discover the gifts hidden within your divorce.

03:36

Recognize the intention and gratitude that comes from struggle.

13 pages

These action items will give you the power to cultivate gratitude. The writing exercises are also available as a printable PDF in the resource section.

Section 14: You Have the Power to Create Your Happy
It's Your Story. Write Your Happy Ending.
01:46
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Instructor Biography

Lisa Arends, Wellness Coach, Teacher and Writer

After her own tsunami divorce, Lisa Arends used her skill of teaching along with the lessons learned from her own experience to write about and coach others through the transition of divorce. Through one-on-one coaching, she has helped countless men and women thrive after difficult divorces and other life transformations. Lisa specializes in tangible and applicable strategies that help people accept responsibility for their own well-being and summon the confidence and courage to create the life they want.

Lisa's work has been featured in The Huffington Post, The Good Men Project and Maria Shriver and her story has been promoted on The Jeff Probst Show and Investigation Discovery. She shares her personal story in her book, Lessons From the End of a Marriage, and she writes about divorce, relationships and finding love again on her blog by the same name.

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