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"Since starting the course I can't tell you how many times my children just listen to me without resistance" - A parent testimonial
And now with English subtitles (Close Captions). This course is used in over 280 schools in South Africa and as part of the teacher training programes!
Have you ever wondered if there is a secret formula for getting your children to listen and cooperate with you?
From a parent who has just finished the course:"Hi Robin, so far I've been using the first skill with tremendous success. It's kinda ridiculous! :-)"
How do some parents just make it look easy and their children are still so happy and cooperative?
How about knowing the formula that will save you up to and over 80 minutes of time per day, each and every day? (no tricks, no bribes, no threats, no hitting)
And now those secrets and that step by step formula are revealed in one easy to follow course!
If you want to be respectfully in charge and not just HOPE your children will change, if you want to consciously know how to unlock those power struggles and get that smile on their face, then this course is for you!
Simply watch and listen to the secrets that have transformed ordinary parents into empowered mom's and dad's who are getting great results every day!
No shortcuts, no 'wishy washy' unproven skills, no nonsense.
Just simple, proven and incredibly effective steps to boundaries, success and a smile back on YOUR face!
Give yourself a fresh start by enrolling in this life-changing course now.
Every moment you delay, not only do you lose out, but so does the future success of your child.
All future updates to this course are free - you are "locked-in" at the current low price of $89- but you will never pay more if you enrol today at the introductory price.
And there's a 30 day absolutely no questions asked full money back guarantee - if you don't get a breakthrough or don't find value, then I didn't do my job in supporting you right! This is my personal promise to you and your children! You really cannot lose!
In fact I am so confident that in what I teach that within the first 20 minutes you will learn a skill that will save you 20 minutes of time per day, everyday.
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|Section 1: Overview of the course|
A quick overview of the core skills and explaining each skill (and subset skill):
|Section 2: Skill 1: Cooperation: How to get to them to do what you need them to do!|
A quick introduction to the skill on Boundaries and choices.
Getting cooperation is about power dynamics. You are telling your children to do something that they probably don't want to do. And because you have AUTHORITY over them, they can resent you for that power you have, and so resist you even more.
Understand what creates the power dynamic and you will find the secret to unlocking it.
Within minutes you will have a skill that gets instant cooperation without the resentment.
This skill unlocks the power dynamics and gets children focused on what they can do instead of intent on resisting you.
And then in the resource section, watch a parent share her story of how she used this skill to get cooperation (2:50 mins)
This quick lecture supports you in exploring the skills, instead of just passively listening.
People experience two main barriers to learning new skills:
How to make sure you get breakthrough after breakthrough.
For some parents, the focus is on the 'content' of the skill.
But for many others, the search for the depth of these skills create a deeper understanding of WHY the skill works, and they can therefore adapt it to any situation they find themselves in.
What may seem like such a simple skill actually conveys your value system, your attitude, and your understanding of what works for your child.
The most common review I get from parents who take my courses is that they wish they could have spent more time in seeing how to make the skills work, than on trying to prove to me why they won't work in their situation.
Be open to seeing how to adapt and apply it than dismiss these as 'simple' or 'doesn't apply to me'
Got a really resistant and difficult child? Then this sub skill will work for you...
Children often resist any situation when they are told what they must do.... So this skill gives them what they want, while you still get what YOU are wanting. (a very clever skill....)
A child's resistance is most likely not about WHAT to do, but that it is YOU telling them what to do. These skills find a way to make your child also feel you have their best interest at heart.
As children get older (especially in the teenage years), you need a skill that gives them HUGE amounts of independence, but still keeps them on track within YOUR boundaries.
This skill develops great thinking skills in children, and you will keep reaping the rewards as they grow older.
The power of these skills is in your ability to assess what is needed, and how much of your intervention is required. That is why I will never tell you the "best" way to parent because each situation, and each child is different.
As children get older, so they experience a greater need for independence.
This new skill is about conveying respect for their independence, without letting go of what is also important to you.
Sometimes when we give children too much independence, they can experience that as 'we don't care'. Keep checking if this happens for you.
For you to replace an ineffective technique with a new Emotionally Intelligent one, you will need to keep developing your awareness of which 'traditional' techniques and tricks you use.
In this lecture we explore those techniques most commonly used that actually undermine our children.
Then we can replace these ones with more empowering ones.
See the resource section for a list of other common disempowering techniques we a grew up with.
One of the statements to look out for when learning new skills is the very common:
"Well, my parents used this old technique on me and I turned out OK."
And as much as that may be largely true, this is often only done as an adult looking back over 20 years past, having forgotten what it was REALLY like when this happened to them.
Life will throw your children enough curve balls and unhappy situations to learn from. Let them experience you being the positive and empowering part of life.
The Top 4 undermining techniques we were brought up with.
1.Accusing and Blaming: I keep telling you to do these chores every day. You don’t listen to me and I feel I am talking to a deaf person. When are you going to grow up?
2.Threatening them: If you do not do what you need to do every day, I will take away your play station and ban you from TV for the next two weeks.
3.Guilt: The lecture and Moral: Do you know that there are children younger than you that have to do more chores than you and they don't complain?
4.Martyrdom phrases: I feel like a stuck record just saying the same thing over and over again. I don’t know if I can handle this anymore.
Want to learn these skills in the least amount of time with the least amount of effort? Get the advice from other parents just like you on how to learn, integrate and master these skills.
(with extra resources to get you creating breakthroughs in the resource section).
A summary of how to learn these skills (as shared by other parents)
1: Step one, write down the situations where you are wanting your child to cooperate with you.
2.Next to each situation, get clear on where your boundary is and how it would be positively expressed.
3.Next to each statement of the boundary, write down a number of choice options (at least five) that your child could choose from that fall within this boundary.
4.If you can, practice a few times by saying your boundary and the choices out loud (or to your spouse or partner).
5.Plan the next three situations when you know the situation will arise. In other words, you know that certain situations have been repeating themselves. Think about when they do, and be prepared for them with your new skills.
And if you aren't getting the results you are wanting with those cooperation skills, then here are some of the reasons why this may happen, and, what you can do about it.
The skills work: We have 15 years of proof of that. But the effectiveness of the skills will vary depending of the "HIDDEN" messages you may also be communicating to your children at the same time (and may not be aware of them).
TIPS to making this work even better:
A quick review of the Cooperation skills already covered and learned. Print out a few of the summary sheets (found in the resource section) so you can stick them up around the house. The more you 'review' them, the more those skills will be on the tips of your tongue, and YOU WILL get great result.
And watch the bonus links where I answer a parent's question "What do I do when my child still says 'I don't want to'"
Test yourself on the GIVING CHOICES skill
|Section 3: Skill 2: Boundaries: How to get them motivated to do what you want them to do|
A quick introduction to the second skill, Share what you NEED.
On average, a child hears the word "NO!" over 400 times PER DAY!
If you look at most household and school rules, you will see that they start with the words, "Don't..."
We explore how this impacts the brain and results in children not listening to us.
It was Einstein who said that the solutions to our current problems need to come from a different kind of thinking that created those problems in the first place. By now, if you have been trying the previous techniques, you should have seen different results.
Just changing your thinking on this will RADICALLY transform your boundary setting.
By learning this skill you will tap into your children's NATURAL motivation to cooperate with you, instead of you shouting, threatening or even bribing them.
And in the external resource section watch the video reminder we made of this skill we filmed in the Caribbean
When you ask a child NOT to do something, they first have to create an understanding of what they mustn't do, to then find what you are implying they MUST do instead.
By sharing what you need the first time, it focuses their brain on what needs to happen, guiding them straight into action.
Every time you are saying "Don't... Stop!.... No!" you are conveying to your child what is wrong with your child. By sharing what you need, you are focusing them on what would be more appropraite instead of what is wrong.
This skill is one of the ALL-TIME favorites of parents. It is soooooo easy to understand why it works, but can be so frustrating in trying to change your 'default' language of the past. You know you want to say something else, but still find yourself using the old 'techniques'
However, it's also the one that when learned, creates a radical impact very quickly (and so keeps parent motivated to use it)
And if you want more of this, check the external resources in the supplementary section to watch a parent share how she worked this skill and I gave her even more insight into the skills (12mins)
When you are asking children to stop doing something they are enjoying, they can interpret that as you not wanting them to have fun. It can comes across as everything is ALWAYS about YOU, and it's so UNFAIR!
When children experience this, their ability to listen carefully to you decreases so you find yourself 'nagging' again and again.
The three steps to implement this skill
1.Share what is needed at that moment (or how it should be done).
These benches are for sitting on
2.Then share where/when they can do whatever it was they were doing before.
As it seems you really enjoy swinging, perhaps you can use that barrell swing over there, or perhaps the log swing on that side, or maybe there is another place in the school you would like to set up a safe swing so you can carry on?
3.Then give them a choice of what to do now.
So what would you like to do now? Find soemthing else to do or shall we see how to make another swing for you?
Your learning these skills will go through this 4 step process. Check to see where you are at, and take note of what stages of learning you will go through to master these skills.
And then watch a parent share how he used his skills with his daughters (in the external resource section)
Moving through the four phases of learning a skill:
Want to learn these skills in the least amount of time with the least amount of effort? Get the advice from other parents just like you on how to learn, integrate and master these skills.
Use the blank table in the resource section for your course to write down your list of DON'T, STOP or NO!
This is the BEST exercise to sharpen your skill, and get prepared for using this skill on your children.
Simple.... (but not always easy)... find the alternate way of saying something instead of telling them WHAT NOT TO DO!
And download the audio exercises to get you going even quicker!
And if you aren't getting the results you are wanting with those boundary skills, then here are some of the reasons why this may happen, and, what you can do about it.
Sometimes just one word may be the difference between your skill working, or not.
The success of these skills is in avoiding the words and phrases that trigger confrontation. And these tips may support you finding out if you are using them.
The 3 D's of boundary setting are:
A quick summary of the SHARE WHAT YOU NEED skills.
And download the list of my favorite alternate ways of saying things. Print them out and stick them up around your house. Even let your kids see them and start using them.
I bet you they will learn these quicker than you!
Test yourself on the SHARE WHAT YOU NEED SKILL
|Section 4: Skill 3: Perseverance: How to get them to persevere and not just give up!|
A quick introduction to the most important skill to build up your child's stamina and internal self confidence.
You can only achieve something if you don't give up.
In this lecture you will learn how to avoid saying the things that actually SHUT our children down.
And then you will see how to SUPPORT them in stepping up to overcome the challenges.
So many parents are getting frustrated because their children seem to give up, or don't even want to try!
But they don't know how to avoid the old 'techniques' that actually keep their children trapped!
Look at the additional resources to see what I mean by the 'old techniques'.
This lecture will pin point the exact reasons as to why parents can't find the way to SUPPORT their children.
These are incredibly clever skills that will get you break-throughs if you pay close attention!
Respecting the Struggle is a skill used to acknowledge the challenges that a child may be going through. It is not a judgement of good or bad, right or wrong.
Words that are useful to use when acknowledge a child's struggle are:
Supporting a child to be a GREAT thinker maybe the most important thing a parent can do.
So here's how you can 'train' them to be great thinkers even while they are currently struggling!
Some children will NEVER take your advice unless you know how to avoid the pitfalls.
This skill cleverly creates multiple opportunities to offer your advice to your child in such a way that results in them nearly ALWAYS taking it!
There are times when children will resist any and every piece of advice you offer them. It is as though they are determined not to be helped. In these moments it seems obvious that this is more about pride and power dynamics than about solving their current problem.
Most parents are nervous about this skill because they feel uncertain about what will happen if their children say, "No... I don't want your advice."
If this happens, use the skill of where you are going to write the advice so you can retrieve it later when you may need it again.
Learning these kinds of new skills is not always easy, especially if you find yourself tongue tied at times.
It may really help to follow the advice from other parents so as to prepare yourself for an upcoming situation.
Step 1: Download and open the table from the resource section. On the left hand side write down the kinds of situations where you know your children are currently struggling with something.
Then on the right hand side,
1) respect the struggle you think they are facing:(what you are doing now can be tricky).... especially when ...(.and you insert what you think their challenge is.)
2) offer advice that you think may work by starting with the words... (sometimes it helps to)... and put in your advice.
Then say this complete sentence out a few times to yourself or to someone else.
And if you aren't getting the results you are wanting with those skills, then here are some of the reasons why this may happen, and, what you can do about it.
There is a lot going on for a child who is struggling. But remember, that the more you use these skills, the more SKILLED they will be in resolving their own challenges and the less they will rely on you.
Self esteem is a complex dynamic. What works for your one child today, may not work as well tomorrow. And what may not work for one child may actually work amazingly with the other.
Bear in mind that respecting their struggle is not about actually solving the problem. It's about supporting them so they feel encouraged to step up and overcome the situation themselves.
A quick summary of the skills that support a child who is struggling.
Print out the summary sheets and stick them up around the house. Without integrating the skills, your children will not benefit from you having learned them in the first place.
And in the resource section, watch Robin using the skills with children in his school!
Test yourself on the Supporting Struggle skills
|Section 5: The holiday season: Go from survive to thrive.- 3 extra skills for your family|
Children on holiday, extended family cramped into your house, patience decreasing and tensions mounting?
The holiday season has its risks: The statistics show increased divorce and suicide rates! Now this may not be due to parenting challenges but there is no doubt that this period of time has its parenting downs as well as highs.
So here are my top 3 skills for managing the lows, and building up the highs, so you can move from Survive to Thrive over the holiday season.
|Section 6: Course conclusion|
A global summary of all the skills covered in this course, in rapid fire, in under 2 minutes.
A suggestion: Review this specific lecture again in a few days time. And then again in a few weeks.
Just reviewing this and reminding yourself of the skills at a glance will create a paradigm of integration.
So some more tips on how to maximize the value of this workshop, and get more for your time, effort and money.
Knowing but not doing is just the same as not KNOWING!And download all the 3 summary sheets in the resource section, print them out and stick them up around the house!
|Quiz 4||1 question|
Which of these would I like for you to do?
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Robin Booth is an international expert in providing emotionally intelligent solutions to everyday parenting challenges. Over the last 15 years he has supported hundreds and thousands of teachers and parents from around the world create breakthroughs in getting their children to cooperate with them.
Internationally he is mostly known for founding the Synergy Schooling Approach. This approach demonstrates how easily personal and academic excellence can be achieved when a teacher uses skills in boosting self esteem and developing the child's internal motivation for success .
Upon experiencing the amazing changes in their children (the children being happier, more cooperative and more confident), these parents asked Robin to share with them these same skills. And now he wants to share these with you!
Robin has an incredibly unique and respectful way of understanding and unlocking the challenges parents face every day. This means you will not have come across many of these skills before.
Due to this success, Robin is often asked to travel to speak at conferences, be interviewed on TV and Radio and run workshops for parents and teachers. He has published books and many other parenting resources.
For the last 8 years, many schools in South Africa include Robin's workshops with FULL attendance by ALL their parents and teachers as they have proven so successful in building self esteem and getting cooperation.
He lives in Cape Town, South Africa, with his family.