Congratulations on deciding to get married! You are about to enter into the most exciting adventure of your life.
Without doubt your marriage is the greatest investment you will ever make. And you will want to make sure that you have everything you need to make it happy, successful and rewarding.
Many couples spend hundreds of hours planning their wedding, but very little time planning their marriage. So before the big day, here is an opportunity to sit together and reflect on what it is that you want from your marriage.
"Get Ready for Marriage" helps you think about your marriage, what you want it to be and what you want to be for each other. Unlike most marriage preparation courses, you can do this course in the privacy of your own home without having to share your thoughts about your relationship with strangers.
Conducted by experienced marriage coach and wedding celebrant, Jonathan Payne, who has worked with hundreds of couples over some 20 years, "Get Ready for Marriage" is fun, informative, thought provoking and inspiring. Exactly what you need before the moment you say "I do".
(And of course if you are already married, this course will give you the chance to think about your relationship and give it a few "touch ups" to ensure it remains the happy, loving, rewarding experience you deserve).
WELCOME to The Online Marriage Course. Let's first take an overview of what to expect from this course and how to go about using it.
You promise to love someone into the future. And you have no idea what the future holds. That has to be crazy. But there are very good reasons for doing it.
This exercise will get you to set your expectations of the course. Print out the document, write in your answers to the questions without consulting your partner, and then share your answers, unedited, as you wrote them.
Your relationship changes over time, and in the context of getting to understand your partner better, you also get to understand yourself. This "Relationship Flow" is explained using the JOHARI Window.
It is unlikely that as a couple you will see the world and respond to life in identical ways. Personality Theory helps us understand those differences.
The different ways in which you notice what is happening and respond can be a source of conflict in your relationship if not understood and worked with properly. With a proper understanding of the differences you can make those same differences a point of strength for you marriage.
Using Carl Jungs Theory of Personality Type we understand the Perceiving or Information Gathering function of our personalities.
Using Carl Jungs Theory of Personality Type we understand the Judging or Decision Making function of our personalities.
In this lecture we get to understand what Extraversion and Introversion are really all about and how they affect relationships.
After you have completed this section of the course, if you would like to take a free version of a Personality Profile inventory based on Jung's theory, click on the link provided under the External Resources tag. This is a free version so its accuracy is not exact, but it will give you a good idea of your preference. If you would like to take a full and accurate inventory you should consult a trained practitioner.
Marriages thrive or fail on the ability of the couple to communicate. Communication is the key ingredient of any successful relationship and in this part of the course we find out how to communicate effectively.
We hear each other everyday day. But do we truly LISTEN? Listening is a learned skill that needs to be constantly practiced and developed. In this lecture we discuss the best ways to listen and we will look at "The Feedback Loop".
We cannot assume that our partner understands what we want or how important it is to us unless we communicate clearly. In this lecture we discuss the importance of owning your opinion and clearly expressing it.
For humans sex is more than a means to procreate. What does it have to do with communication? Find out in this lecture.
Do you argue well? Differences of opinion are inevitable. How do you deal with them?
How do you best conduct an argument so that it comes to a resolution? That's what you will find out in this lecture.
There are rules to succeed in everything. Including arguing. Here are the rules.
This lecture looks at how the family you grew up in influences your relationship.
WILL having children affect your relationship? Find out what having children means to a marriage and how to manage what happens when they arrive.
Some thoughts on one of the main symbols of a wedding and what your marriage can mean for those around you.
YOU HAVE NOW COMPLETED THE COURSE. Now what do you do with what you have learned here?
ABOUT JONATHAN PAYNE: Jonathan is a highly experience wedding celebrant and coach with more than 20 years of experience in working with couples getting married. He conducts more than 40 weddings each year.
Over the years Jonathan has worked with many couples and understands what is important form them to know as they embark on the journey ahead. He draws on his experience in personal development, counselling and coaching and packages his years of experience and knowledge in easy to understand, thought provoking lectures.
Jonathan lives in Durban, South Africa, with his wife, Debby and adult children, Jessica and Cameron.