Love Your Life: Find Strength in Vulnerability and Thrive
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Be the Authentic Person you are Meant to be: How to Make Friends with Your Vulnerability for a Robust, Wholehearted Life
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Created by Kellie Edwards
Last updated 10/2016
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What Will I Learn?
  • heal negative vulnerabilty
  • boost positive vulnerabilty
  • understand the neuroscience behind vulnerability
  • develop practical skills and resources for an authentic, happy, productive and loving wholehearted life!
  • make lasting positive change based on research backed advice
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  • bring an open mind and a thirst for wholehearted living & bringing your best self to life
  • be aware that you need to do the exercises for this to work

This is possibly the most exciting time in history if you are interested in living wholeheartedly. Thanks to the miracles of neuroscience we now know more about how to heal our vulnerability than we ever have before. Vulnerability shouldn't derail us, but contribute to an authentic, happy, productive and loving life! 

The exercises offered in this course can produce real change in your life.

There are three things we know about working with vulnerability:

1: We need to heal our wounds and reduce unnecessary vulnerability so that it doesn’t feel like opening a trap every time we dare to take a step forward.

There are habits that erode your happiness by reinforcing negative vulnerability. There are four that are most common: rumination, worrying, self criticism, self consciousness. We now know how to heal these wounds, so that we are more resilient  - we recover from challenging emotions and experiences more rapidly.

2: We need to invest in developing the strengths that make us happy, connected, and successful.

Not only does that give us the resources to meet life’s challenges, it also provides meaning, fulfillment and all the other goodies that make life worth living.

3: We don’t have to rely on fuzzy complex concepts in order to do this; we now have access to scientifically-backed steps that work. 

There has never been a better time to take control of your own wholehearted life - armed with the gifts that new brain science is offering.

Finding out how to do this could be the most important thing you ever learn. That’s what this course is all about - so let’s get started!

Who is the target audience?
  • anyone who is interested in an authentic wholehearted live and how to make that a reality
  • anyone who wants the support of a Psychologist and Mindfulness Teacher from inside the course as they do so
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Curriculum For This Course
37 Lectures
Welcome to Your Brain on Vulnerability
2 Lectures 10:01

Welcome to the Neuroscience of Vulnerability: Practical Steps to heal unhelpful vulnerability and strengthen positive vulnerability so that you can live wholeheartedly in happiness.

Would you like to know:

1. What am I going to learn in this course?

2. What will I be able to do by the end of the course?

3. Who is this instructor and why is she the best person to be teaching this course?
     1: A person who has healed vulnerability in my own life
     2: A psychologist, mindfulness teacher and happiness fan
     3: Your guide and support through this process - here to answer your questions on the discussion board

Preview 07:48

Learn what we know about the Neuroscience of Vulnerability - the systems of the brain that hardwire us for vulnerability to negative patterns of safety-seeking versus engagement and how to get back in the driver’s seat for wholehearted living. 

Preview 02:13

Based on what we now know from neuroscience, check your understanding of how your brain is wired

Brain Facts
1 question
Neuroscience of Vulnerability
6 Lectures 31:55

Let's learn how we can tell the difference between positive and negative vulnerability, release all blame for feeling vulnerability and shame  - and get back into the drivers seat of our well-being, taking one huge step towards wholehearted living!

Deeper Dive into the Two Types of Vulnerability

DON"T SKIP THIS! If you get actively involved in your own learning, you will remember more, progress faster and get LOADS more from this course. So let's start with a quick quiz on the two types of vulnerability we will be working with in this course

What is the Difference Between Positive and Negative Vulnerability?
1 question

  • how we protect ourselves - the barriers we put in place
  • Three part model of vulnerability, challenges and resources & how this increases our bounce-back factor, our engagement in wholehearted living and reduces the need to dare greatly to do so!

    Preview 02:45

    We now know our brains are not fixed - we can change - and so all those fixed views of how “I am this or I am that” can be left behind as you get into the driver's seat of your own wholehearted life. Time to get excited!

    Neuroplasticity - the best news of the day - and a choice

    Set your intention for the Neuroscience of Vulnerability course & find a quiet, attractive, comfortable, welcoming place to participate in the course where you will not be interrupted - somewhere you want to be, that will support you in healing vulnerability and living wholeheartedly

    Exercise: Set Your Intention - vastly different from goal setting

    audio set to calming photos of find your safe place

    Exercise - Healing our Wounds and Feeling Safe

    We have discussed already that the stress response is an evolutionary hangover. We needed it  when we were to get away from predators. But today it is set off when we're worried, frustrated, irritated, or hurt, even mildly . . . like when we are concerned about money, stuck in traffic, juggling emails, or in a conflict with someone.

    The stress response has serious long-term costs for physical and mental health. A key antidote is what's called the parasympathetic nervous system, which calms down the fight-or-flight sympathetic nervous system and related hormones that drive the stress response. This exercise activates the relaxation response faster than anything else I know.

    Exercise: The Relaxation Response
    The Mental Habits of Negative Vulnerability & the antidotes that heal
    5 Lectures 24:49
    Living wholeheartedly is challenging, because there are mental habits that stand in our path and have the potential to derail us. I’ll introduce the most common ones in this section and point towards their best antidotes. 
    Introduction to the Mental Habits of Negative Vulnerability

    Rumination is the "compulsively focused attention on the symptoms of one's distress, and on its possible causes and consequences, as opposed to its solutions"  Rick Hanson calls it "doing laps around hell". It's often a focus on the past and what went wrong. Rumination is the habit of going over and over past hurts and on their possible causes and consequences, as opposed to possible solutions. We often think it will lead to useful insight so we let it run on and on - but it lowers our energy and mood, often leads to depression and is like a deep hole that is hard to get out of. But we can get out of it. Find out how.

    Rumination and its antidote

    Worrying and its antidote described: Craig Hassed

    Worrying is feeling anxious or troubled about actual or potential problems. Dr Craig Hassed says "Very often worry masquerades as something useful like planning and preparation. That’s why it gets so much attention..... When we practice mindfulness we start to notice that the mind is in other habits. It’s in the habit of worrying, the habit of distracting, so that even if we have a mindful moment, very quickly the mind wanders off again to worry or anticipation. So we do have to be patient and practice it. But over weeks, and over months, if we practice and we are consistent and regular….it gets easier and easier and easier. Just like if we practice worrying, we get very good at that but I just haven’t discovered any useful purpose for worrying." Find out more about the perfectly natural but unhelpful habit of worrying and what we know works in breaking free from its pull.
    Worrying and its antidote

    Self Criticism and its’ antidote - Self Compassion as the power of delivering the transformation sense of being enough rather than getting stuck in scarcity. It soothes shame and guilt by enveloping it in loving kindness - but how do we change our negative habit of self criticism into the release of self compassion? Find out here.

    Self Criticism and its antidote

    Self consciousness is more than the natural difference between extroversion and introversion. Find out more about how this mental habit of negative vulnerability can derail you from embracing wholehearted living  -  and find out more about its antidote

    Self Consciousness and its antidote

    Check that you understand what heals each of these four unhelpful mental habits

    Four Key Habits That De-Rail Wholehearted Living
    4 questions
    Antidote 1= Mindfulness: Healing & Building Resources 4 Wholehearted Living
    6 Lectures 24:38
    Exercise: Mindfulness Attention Training - what do we learn?

    Defining Mindfulness - what we know - include harvard study 47% of time distracted and unhappier as a result “a wandering mind is an unhappy mind” how can we live wholeheartedly if we are not even present for 47% of our lives?? 

    What is mindfulness?

    Research based benefits of mindfulness  and how it acts as the antidote for negative vulnerability AND builds the strength that makes wholehearted living more possible.

    So What? Link between mindfulness, vulnerability & wholehearted living

    Guided mindfulness practice number 2
    Exercise - Checking in Mindfully

    Guided mindfulness practice number 1
    Exercise: Mindful Body Scan

    Click on the link to read  funny little blog I wrote for Huffington Post exposing the myth and the consequences of multi-tasking (the OPPOSITE of mindfulness)

    Multi-Tasking is a myth and a derailer
    Antidote 2= Self Compassion: Healing & Building Resources 4 Wholehearted Living
    4 Lectures 21:14

    Defining Self Compassion and how it acts as the antidote for negative vulnerability AND builds the strength that makes wholehearted living more possible

    Introduction: What is Self Compassion?

    Make the links between self compassion, vulnerability and wholehearted living come to life in an example from your own life

    Exercise: Link between Self Compassion, Vulnerability & Wholehearted Living

    Guided self compassion practice number 1 - feel the difference between a kind internal voice and a harsh internal voice - which do you think supports healed vulnerability and wholehearted living and happiness?

    Exercise: What does your inner voice sound like?

    Guided self compassion practice number 2 

    Exercise: Self Compassion Break
    Antidote 3 = Positivity: Healing & Building Resources 4 Wholehearted Living
    4 Lectures 31:33

    What's the difference between positivity and “positive thinking”? Hear Barbara Fredrickson's explanation and also the neuroscientific evidence of how our brain experiences both. 

    Positive Thinking, Authenticity and the Neuroscientific Evidence - what works

    Discover the hidden power of everyday moments to transform you from Surviving to Thriving

    Exercise: Growing Positive Emotions

    Start bringing it all together and see more clearly how these powerful antidotes for negative vulnerability combine as transformative resources for wholehearted living

    Emotional Intelligence & Calm: Experiencing Our Emotions without Overwhelm


    Exercise - Harnessing our Emotions - Gratitude
    Antidote 4= Generosity: Healing & Building Resources for Wholehearted Living
    4 Lectures 30:53

    Research based benefits of generosity - what we know

    The evidence

    Hear the Happiest Man in the World describe the antidote that heals negative vulnerability and Self Consciousness and find out how you can boost your resources for wholehearted and authentic living

    The Antidote for Self Consciousness - more evidence

    Guided compassion practice inspired by the work of Dr Richard Davidson

    Guided MindfulnessExercise: Expanding Our Focus

    Guided generosity practice number 2 - do a guided practice and link to resource of ideas - invite to share helping behaviour on the discussion board

    Exercise: Simple acts of Generosity
    But wait there is more! Work, Rest and Play!
    6 Lectures 33:14

    Where do play, laughter and rest fit with vulnerability and wholehearted living? Tune in and find out more

    Play, laughter, rest and song!

    You are going to LOVE this one! What a fun way to make wholehearted living real!

    Exercise: A Playful Date

    Here is a great free tool to take you a long way further towards appreciating yourself - something we are not always good at!  Since one psychological construct of depression lies in low self-worth, appreciating who we are, the values we stand for, and the strengths and passions that define us, is crucial for a sense of aliveness.  It's interesting too!

    Not only that, but building these into your daily life brings a greater sense of purpose - and purpose in life predicts better emotional recovery from negative stuff in life - that means it builds resilience!

    Exercise: What are your signature strengths?

    What is the connection between creativity and vulnerability? Creativity is an uplifting expression of wholehearted living. How can we resource ourselves to be as creative as we possibly can? 

    Creativity and Vulnerability

    Some final reflections on vulnerability and the experience of wholehearted living


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    About the Instructor
    Kellie Edwards
    3.9 Average rating
    302 Reviews
    11,219 Students
    6 Courses
    Psychologist, Mindfulness Teacher & EMDR Coach

    I am a Psychologist, Mindfulness Teacher and Well-Being Coach

    What makes the difference between a happy life and an unhappy life? What do happy and wholehearted people do differently to the rest? I have spent my professional and personal life exploring and testing the science of well-being and have developed several online mindfulness based well-being and parenting programs based on the results. I also take on a small number of individual clients internationally over Skype and in my home town of Melbourne, Australia.

    I interview and work with many international experts including Tara Brach, Rick Hanson, Elisha Goldstein, Barbara Fredrickson and more.

    I draw from Positive Psychology and the Neuroscience of Flourishing, and with my unique combination of skills and my own parenting and life experience, work passionately with people to help them open up new possibilities in their lives. I write regularly about Happiness, Mindfulness and Parenting for The Huffington Post. Everyday Mindfulness, New Idea and PsychCentral amongst others.

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