Set Boundaries and Take Your Power Back!
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The Helpers' Guide Setting Boundaries and Saying "NO"
4.6 (26 ratings)
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Last updated 2/2017
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  • 2 hours on-demand video
  • 10 Supplemental Resources
  • Full lifetime access
  • Access on mobile and TV
  • Certificate of Completion
What Will I Learn?
  • Have the confidence and tools to say "no" and honor yourself
  • Know how to support others rather than enable or rescue them
  • Empower others so they can depend on themselves
  • Take care of yourself so that your cup is full and you have more to give
  • Be a good example of self-care and healthy boundaries
  • Give yourself permission to go for your own dreams
  • Release fear, guilt, obligation and resentment
  • See your own true value and know how to give to yourself
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  • A desire to live a balanced, happy, healthy helping life


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Are you a helper, a giver, or someone who works in a helping field?

Do you find yourself saying "yes" when you really mean "no"?
Do you tend to over commit and have no time left over to take care of yourself and do the things you love?
People like us have big hearts. We care, and sometimes this leads us to sacrifice for others, allow them to depend on us and forget that we matter, too.


This course is for the helpers and givers who want to develop the confidence say "NO" when it's time to honor themselves. Who want to help uplift others in a way that is supportive, not rescuing or creating dependency. To give from a healthy place of confidence and empowerment, rather than out of obligation or guilt.

We're going to teach you the tools and the mindset to empower yourself AND others. We know how hard it can be to put yourself first. We're both the classic "helper" type--we just want so badly to make other people's lives better! But, we've also learned that when we are not taking care of ourselves, things get out of balance, leading us to become burnt out, unwell, and unable to contribute to those we love.

We're going to teach you everything we've learned in our own journeys, our decade of experience in psychology, as well as what we've learned through working with thousands of other "helpers"--whether life coaches we've trained or individuals we've coached and met through our workshops.

This course will leave you feeling confident and empowered, with an inspiring vision of your new empowered life and concrete goals to get you there. Plus we know you'll enjoy the course! Join our nearly 21,000 happy students in 159 countries.

By learning to say "NO" you will be honoring yourself--you'll be healthier and happier and therefore have more to give.

Who is the target audience?
  • You have a big heart
  • You consider yourself a helper or giver
  • You are a life coach, counselor, teacher or other person who works in a helping field
  • You have difficulty putting yourself first (but see its value)
  • You tend to over commit yourself and don't have enough time left for you
  • You have relationships in which others depend on you
  • You feel like you need to be needed
  • You are always there for others but when it comes to your own needs you do it alone, if at all
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Curriculum For This Course
26 Lectures
Getting Started
4 Lectures 33:56

This course is great for helpers, givers or people who work in helping fields such as life coaches, counselors, or teachers. Gain the confidence to create healthy boundaries, support others, and take care of yourself.

Preview 05:00

We understand it's hard to say "no" when you have a big heart! There are benefits to saying "yes" but there are also many negative side effects. Learn how and when to stand up for your own needs.

Preview 07:18

Sometimes without meaning to our helping causes harm. Our self sacrificing can make others guilty and our rescuing can enable peoples self-destructive behaviors. Learn healthy ways to be there for others.

Doing More Harm Than Good

When contributing to the world, don't forget about yourself! Learn what contribution is NOT: sacrifice or obligation, and discover how to contribute at an even greater scale by bringing your best self to the table.

Contribution is Not Only for Others
Honoring Yourself
4 Lectures 10:02

Honoring yourself is not only a necessary step to finding happiness, it's also a requirement to be able to sustain your ability to give and help! Not taking care of yourself leads to being burnt out and unwell, making you unable to give. Learn how filling your own cup and putting yourself first will make you have more to give.

The Importance of Honoring Yourself

Fill your cup by taking time for yourself, remembering your passions and determining activities you can do that feed and rejuvenate you so you can continue to be of service to others.

Tools for Self-Care

Printable worksheet for Tips for Self-Care

Worksheet for Tools for Self-Care
1 page

Printable worksheet about Remembering Your Passions

Worksheet 2 for Tools for Self-Care
3 pages
Tools for Saying "NO"
7 Lectures 39:09

It's understandable that you would resist things like putting yourself first when for so long you've been doing the opposite! But when you've decided that it's time to change a belief and pattern, this tool is powerful. Learn the power of what you associate pain and pleasure to and how to empower yourself to make these changes.

Overcoming Resistance

Printable worksheet for Overcoming Resistance

Worksheet for Overcoming Resistance
2 pages

Once people get used to you being helpful and doing what they ask, they may be very good at convincing you to say yes! Learn how to prepare for common tactics.

Strategies People Use to Get You to Say Yes

This video goes over tools for saying no!

Tools for Saying "NO"

Printable worksheet for Tools for Saying "No"

Worksheet for Tips for Saying "No"
3 pages

Learn how to differentiate between helping, which is associated with "assertion" and supporting, which is associated with "non-attachment" and how to tell if you're helping for their sake or your own. It's an important distinction that will make you a more effective helper!

Helping VS. Supporting

Printable worksheet for Helping vs. Supporting

Worksheet for Helping VS. Supporting
1 page
BONUS Section: Vision and Goals
9 Lectures 45:47

By having a greater vision for your life and setting goals for yourself you realize the greater value you will have as you improve your self, which can be just the inspiration you need to follow through with changing the way you help.

Importance of a Vision and Goals

Create a vision of the life you desire for yourself and use it as inspiration!

BONUS: Your Vision

Printable worksheet for Vision

BONUS Worksheet: Vision
1 page

There are proven keys to setting goals that are attainable--make sure they're SMART!

BONUS: S.M.A.R.T. Goals

Printable worksheet for SMART Goals

BONUS Worksheet: S.M.A.R.T. Goals
1 page

Utilize this powerful process for setting goals and breaking them down into easy, actionable steps.

BONUS: Goal Setting Plan Part 1

Part 2 of Goal Setting

BONUS: Goal Setting Plan Part 2

Printable worksheet for Goal Setting

BONUS Worksheet: Goal Setting Plan
2 pages

Printable worksheet for Goal Setting

BONUS Worksheet: Ta-da List
1 page
2 Lectures 01:54

Congratulations on completing the course!

Conclusion and Reflection

Bonus: Transformation Magazine: January Renew
About the Instructor
Joeel & Natalie Rivera
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Joeel & Natalie are firestarters, entrepreneurs, coaches and professional speakers. They are powerful, passionate, and REAL! They have had over thirty thousand students from over 170 countries take their courses. They take students beyond the typical online course experience by evoking deep, emotional reactions that transform them from within. Rather than simply learning information, students finish each course with a clear, immediate action to take and practical tools to stay empowered and achieve success.

Their goal is to challenge individuals to step outside their comfort-zones and break free of their old patterns and limitations. They inspire students to rewrite their life stories, turn their curses into blessings, discover their greater purpose, and be the change they want to see in the world.

More about the instructors:

Joeel A. Rivera, MEd: From an early age, Joeel faced adversity, including failing his first year of college and losing his brother to a car accident at the age of 19. This experience transformed his life and instilled a deep sense of purpose by inspiring him to give his brother Daniel's name a meaning by helping others find their true path. He returned to college, earning a Master's Degree in Counseling, and he is currently completing his dissertation for his Ph.D. in Psychology, with an emphasis on happiness. In almost a decade, Joeel has reached over ten thousand people from different parts of the world as an educator, entrepreneur, speaker, curriculum developer, and consultant. His clients have included school systems, the juvenile justice system, non-profits, the penitentiary system, medical centers, legal firms, individuals and small businesses.

Natalie Rivera is passionate about empowering others to live authentically and embrace their inner callings. After a decade of living a life that wasn't hers and developing Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Natalie let go of everything and completely transformed. Through her journey to healing she rediscovered her true self and greater purpose—to be an entrepreneur and inspire others to transform their lives. Natalie “retired" from the rat race at 24, put herself through school as a freelance designer, and created a non-profit teen center. She is also the Publisher of Transformation Magazine.

Transformation Services, Inc. (a.k.a. Transformation Academy) offers online courses, life coach training programs, professional speaking, curriculum development, life coaching, event management, and publishing for individuals on a path of transformation.