The Confidence Blueprint

How to Unlock Your Inner Confidence And Self Esteem
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  • Lectures 39
  • Length 1.5 hours
  • Skill Level All Levels
  • Languages English
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Published 12/2016 English

Course Description

Learn to feel good about yourself and unlock your authentic confidence with proven strategies and techniques

Discover How To Stand Your Ground Confidently Without Creating Conflict or Jeopardizing Relationships.

Learn to Silence Your Inner Critic

Find Out How To Stand Up To Difficult People Without Creating Conflict

Learn To Say ‘No’ Gracefully To Unreasonable Demands

Become Your Own Best Friend

Let the real, authentic YOU step forward with confidence

This course is designed to lead you, step by step, to develop healthy self-esteem because lasting confidence comes from feeling good about yourself. In every step of the way, the focus is on easy, practical exercises you can do to become your own best friend and step forward with confidence.

You’ll learn how to say ‘no’ gracefully. In fact, you’ll get a blueprint of twenty different ways to say ‘no’ without causing conflict or offense. Most importantly, you’ll learn how to silence your harsh inner critic and, instead, treat yourself with love and kindness.

The course is designed to give you the maximum results in the minimum time without being overwhelmed.


After the introductory lectures, the focus of Section 2 is on developing healthy self-esteem, the root of authentic confidence.

You’ll find out how healthy self-esteem and confidence depend on each other. And I’ll introduce you to the Goodlife Self-Esteem Quiz which will reveal to you exactly how to uncover your authentic confidence. I’ll guide you through the results so that you can use the quiz as a powerful self-development tool.

Section 3 is about is on how to feel good about yourself. You’ll learn how to deal with perfectionism if you feel you are never good enough. Two uplifting loving-kindness exercises will warm your heart and allow you to become your own best friend.

In Section 4, you’ll learn the secret of avoiding conflict. A key piece of this part is the Values Checklist which I'll help you to fill out. The results of your Values Checklist will immediately suggest ways of minimizing conflict.

Section 5 is all about how to be assertive without creating conflict. You’ll learn how to communicate what you want without feeling guilty. And you’ll learn how to say ‘no’ skillfully at work or with friends and family.  Most importantly, you’ll learn a little-known technique to assert yourself calmly if someone is trying to bully or manipulate you.

Section 6 is about how to silence your inner critic. You’ll learn the Gremlin Technique to stop beating yourself up.

In Section 7, you’ll  find  your Confidence Toolbox. You’ll find out how to use confidence rituals, dynamic affirmations, and anchoring techniques. And you’ll also learn how to employ your Emotional First-Aid Kit.

At the end of every section, you’ll find a downloadable wrap-up lecture so that you can easily remember the key teachings and exercises.

What are the requirements?

  • No prior knowledge of experience is needed.

What am I going to get from this course?

  • Stand your ground with difficult people without creating conflict.
  • Break the pattern of feeling intimidated.
  • Say ‘no’ gracefully to unreasonable demands.
  • Contribute your ideas in groups or meetings with confidence.
  • Feel comfortable being yourself in social situations.
  • Rely on confidence that won't let you down.
  • Have the confidence to live life YOUR way without feeling guilty.

Who is the target audience?

  • The ideal student desires a profound change in their life and is committed to taking action to become the truly confident person they want to be.
  • The target student knows the basics of confidence but wants to work on building authentic confidence
  • Wants to be assertive without being aggressive
  • Wants to learn to say "no" without damaging relationships or creating conflict

What you get with this course?

Not for you? No problem.
30 day money back guarantee.

Forever yours.
Lifetime access.

Learn on the go.
Desktop, iOS and Android.

Get rewarded.
Certificate of completion.


Section 1: Welcome!

In this lecture, you’ll get an overview of what you will learn and what improvements you can expect from this course. 


In this lecture, I’ll give you some tips on how to get the most out of this course. 

Section 2: How to be Assertive Without Jeopardizing Relationships
How to Be Assertive Without Creating Conflict
How to Communicate What You Want Without Causing Conflict
How to Say ‘No’ Skilfully
How to Assert Yourself Calmly With the ‘Broken Record’ Technique
Your Conflict Issue Alert System
What to do About Feeling Guilty
Section Wrap-Up
Section 3: Self-Esteem, The Root Of Authentic Confidence

In this lecture, I will give you some important background information about self-esteem and why it is the root of authentic confidence.


What's the difference between self-esteem and confidence? Find out (and discover why it matters) in this lecture.


In this lecture, I’ll prepare you for the upcoming Goodlife Self-Esteem Quiz and talk through some of the quiz questions. You'll also be able to download the quiz.


In this lecture, I’ll take you through possible results to make sure you get the most out of the quiz.


In this lecture, you’ll learn to recognize and avoid common ‘confidence killers’.

Section Wrap-Up
Section 4: How to Become Your Own Best Friend

 In this lecture, you’ll learn what to do when nothing you do feels ‘good enough’.

How to Be Loving and Kind Toward Yourself

The second loving-kindness exercise which you will learn in this lecture can change your life.


In this section wrap-up, you’ll find downloadble instructions for the two loving-kindness exercises.

Section 5: The Secret of Your Personal Rulebook

In this lecture, we’ll take a look at values and how they make up your personal ‘rulebook.'


It’s important to understand how and why conflict arises. This is what you’ll learn in this lecture. 


In this lecture, you’ll learn how to avoid conflict while still staying faithful to your values. 


The upcoming Values Checklist is a great self-knowledge tool. In this lecture, you’ll be able to download the checklist. 


In this lecture, I’ll talk you through how to fill out the Values Checklist. 


As we talk through your results of the Values Checklist, you’ll learn how they will help you to grow your self-esteem and confidence.


The section wrap-up will include a downloadable PDF.

Section 6: How to Silence the Inner Critic

In this lecture, you’ll learn about the difference between healthy self-reflection and the destructive inner critic.


In this lecture, I’ll introduce you to simple mindfulness techniques which will help you to recognize habitual thoughts.


You’ll learn how to pinpoint the source of your negative self-talk in this lecture. 


In this lecture, I’ll show you the Gremlin Technique which is a fun and powerful way to silence the inner critic. 


In this section wrap-up, I’ll review what you learned, and you’ll be able to download a PDF.

Section 7: Tools and Techniques That Increase Confidence and Good Self-Esteem

In this lecture, I want to show you some of the tools you can assemble in your Confidence Toolkit. 


In this lecture, I’ll introduce you to the power of dynamic affirmations.


Anchoring is an extremely useful psychological strategy to heighten confidence. In this lecture, you’ll learn how to us this technique.


Learn the confidence rituals champions use. In this lecture, you’ll learn all about confident rituals.


In this lecture, you’ll learn the first of the two techniques in your Emotional First-Aid Kit which you’ll find useful when your mind is in turmoil and everything falls apart.


The second technique in your Emotional First-Aid Kit will calm you down when you are agitated, highly anxious, or panicky.


The section wrap-up contains a quick reminder of what you learned, as well as a downloadable PDF. 

Section 8: Completion

In this last lecture, we’ll do a fly-over of the course to remind you of everything you learned. You’ll also be able to download a completion PDF. 

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Instructor Biography

Mary Jaksch, Zen Master and Psychotherapist

As a psychotherapist and authorized Zen Master, Mary Jaksch is passionate about helping people lead happier and more meaningful lives. She was born in England, grew up in Germany, and now lives in New Zealand. After starting professional life as a classical flutist, Mary then became a psychotherapy and was later appointed as a Zen Master. 

She is the founder of two popular websites, GoodlifeZEN and WritetoDone with over a million followers. Mary is also a mother, and a 5th Degree Karate Black Belt in active training. 

The most important values for her are love and kindness. That is, being loving and kind with yourself, as well as being kind and compassionate with others. 

Instructor Biography

Mark Tong, Blogger and author on confidence, positivity and happiness.

Mark Tong is a former world record holder and musician turned blogger and author. Mark's writings are regularly published on top  blogs including  Huffington Post and Tiny Buddha.
Mark studies awesome people from around the world to bring to light the habits and actions that allow them to lead happy, confident lives and stay positive when life gets tough. Everything he learns he then shares in his books, blog and courses to help you shortcut your way to a more confident, positive and happy life.

Along with his partner, Laura, Mark founded PositivelyHappy.Me.

Instructor Biography

Laura Tong is a former world record holder and health professional turned blogger and author. Laura's writings are regularly published on well known sites such as Huffington Post and Tiny Buddha.  Along with her partner Mark, Laura studies awesome people from around the world to bring to light the habits and actions that allow them to lead happy, confident lives and stay positive when life gets tough. Everything she learns she then shares in her books, blog and courses to help you shortcut your way to a more confident, positive and happy life.

Along with her partner Mark, Laura founded PositivelyHappy.Me.

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