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The Answer – Literal Steps to Your Relationship Bliss is designed to help the most amount of people most effectively in their relationships, and that includes you!
Here's how it works.
Just as there is only ONE heart that keeps our blood flowing, ONE rudder that steers every ship, ONE switch that powers your whole house…
…there is also just ONE catalyst that feeds, nourishes and keeps every relationship / marriage alive and juicy. Without it, all relationships are at risk of withering and dying. Fortunately, the answer to your relationship success is simple and it lies in learning how to identify this ONE catalyst and how to activate it directly into your life. This ONE catalyst which has been lost in modern culture has been found again in The Answer – Literal Steps to Your Relationship Bliss.
This ground-breaking course gets right down to the naked truth about the psychology of how humans relate successfully. Unlike any other course of its kind, The Answer leads you via literal simple steps to the ONE simple root of which all successful relationships are founded upon. Soon, this root can be activated in your relationship, and like a catalyst, the many issues and problems will start to fall into alignment.
Everything in this course is centred around this ONE catalyst. Here are some of the effects that are caused when you activate it in your relationship:
Here's how the course is laid out:
We start with a passionate critique of the relationship culture in the 21st Century and what it would take to change the course of society. This leads us to looking at why this course had to be radically different to any others to succeed long term.
Then we look at preparation questions and answers which will reveal the ONE catalyst and show how it can work its transforming miracle in your relationship.
Now we take the first eleven literal steps which identify precisely what the catalyst is for your relationship. This includes the steps to apply it to your life immediately and most crucially, the simple plan how to ensure it becomes a lifestyle habit as effortlessly as possible.
After that we take six literal steps which reveal precisely what weakens and could eventually destroy the catalyst working in your relationship. Then again, and most importantly, you are led through the simple plan to eliminate those things and to ensure this direction becomes a lifestyle habit as easily as possible.
Finally, four literal steps which implement the simple plan to maintain your happy, successful, loving, secure, sexually satisfying relationship for ever. This course is a lifetime investment.
This course can add priceless value, stability, and meaning to your life if …
What am I going to get from this course?
The course includes over 3 hours of class lecture video content, as well as exercises and resource material on how to practically apply the ONE catalyst to your relationship. The resource material is downloadable to be a practical tool that can be used at your convenience. The class is delivered in easy to follow video modules, and also includes lecture descriptions you can read plus PDF charts so you can go at whatever speed you prefer.
I'm really excited to be delivering this course to you and hearing how this ONE catalyst is giving you hope and a vision for your relationship. I know what it feels like to be paralysed in a marriage without a way forward and there is nothing worse. Knowing you have a clear plan which addresses your relationship needs can make each day so much lighter and brighter.
Most of all, please engage with the discussion section of this course. I'd love to be able to chat with you, get building new relationships and certainly answering any questions that you may have.
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|Section 1: Section 1 INTRODUCTION|
Section 1: INTRODUCTION
Lecture 1 – Welcome to The Answer – Literal Steps to Your Relationship Bliss.
We introduce The Answer by putting relationships into the context of our life. How important are they really? What significance do they have on our health and well-being? What impact do relationships have on society?
Relationships can make the difference between a happy and an unhappy life. I would go as far as to say that they can be your life or your death. A relationship experience can take a person to the heights of bliss and happiness, or to the drawn out torment where two hearts are ripped apart. Here are a few questions that need to be answered:
What will it take to change the course of relationship history?
What will help the most amount of people most effectively in their relationships?
Is it possible that there could be a simple answer, ONE catalyst that makes or breaks every relationship depending on whether it is applied or not?
If so, can this ONE catalyst be applied and activated in my relationship?
Is there hope in this 21st century for relationship happiness, stability and security?
The single biggest factor in effectively destroying relationships in the 21st century is namely, and shockingly simply; a lack of knowledge. The Answer illustrates how that the key to the successful, satisfying, secure and happy relationship lies in ONE simple catalyst being activated in a relationship. It is this ONE catalyst that every relationship hangs on as to whether it is succeeding or not today.
Welcome to The Answer – Literal Steps to Your Relationship Bliss.
Lecture 3 - What you can expect to get from this course and who can take it?
Here is what you will gain:
25 Lectures and over 3 hours of bespoke focused, lean content!
Quizzes at the end of most lectures will reinforce what you have just learnt.
You are currently in a relationship or marriage, and you feel it is time to vastly increase your happiness and security?
Or, you are struggling in your relationship or marriage, or considering separation or divorce.
Treating your relationship as if is a life or death situation has shaped this course into 7 sections in which there are 21 literal steps for you to take. The strategy is to lead you to your goal of activating the ONE catalyst into your relationship and enabling it to be your lifestyle as quickly and as simply as possible.
The Answer was formed and crafted around the question, 'How can the most amount of people be helped most effectively in their relationships?' Certain balances had to be implemented such as what is the average length of a course that the maximum amount of people will actually be motivated to finish? For example, not many would complete a 300 hour course and not many would value a 3 minute course.
This course could have been written with 150 steps, but since helping the most amount of people most effectively is the goal, 21 simple literal steps can accomplish this as quickly and easily as possible. Care was taken to eliminate unnecessary content but great emphasis is put on the preparation in Section 2. As Benjamin Franklin said, 'By failing to prepare you are preparing to fail.' Here are the 7 sections:
Section 1: INTRODUCTION
Section 2: PREPARATION
Section 3: IDENTIFYING AND ACTIVATING LOVE NEEDS
Section 4: IDENTIFYING AND ACTIVATING LIFE NEEDS
Section 5: IDENTIFYING AND DE-ACTIVATING LOVE DRAINERS
Section 6: ACTIVATING THE PLAN FOR LIFETIME SUCCESS
Section 7: CONCLUDING LECTURE
Why is this course different to other relationship courses?
Quiz for Lectures 1 to 5.
|Section 2: PREPARATION FOR THE ONE CATALYST|
There are some things in life that cannot exist without preparation. Baking a cake, building a house are just two examples. Such is the importance of your relationship life, it is well worth preparing for the 21 steps by listening to the next 6 short lectures. They take the format of questions and answers starting with this question:
What is the ONE catalyst that makes or breaks a relationship?
Be prepared for the simple answer, it is...
How does this simple ONE catalyst work?
Think of a tree. How many branches and leaves are there? There are thousands but here is my loaded question to you: How many trunks? ONE trunk rooted in good soil that provides the nutrition to the tree. While this nutrition is flowing up the ONE trunk throughout the tree, the branches and leaves are healthy. If this flow of nutrition slows down and stops, the tree will start to die.
Relationships consist of hundreds of issues; communication, money, sex, health, children, pets, decisions, baggage, holidays, in-laws, moods, pressures of life etc,. These are like the many branches and leaves on a tree. The ONE trunk in the tree analogy represents the ONE catalyst that makes or breaks a marriage. So it is not just love! It is...............................
(or simply put; the love that touches you and truly means love to you)
Only if the branches and leaves are receiving the nutrition from the ONE trunk are they healthy. When a couple are both receiving love from each other, that is, feeling loved, then all the many issues that are part of a relationship function smoothly like a well oiled car engine. Like a car engine, if it fails to receive the oil, it starts to overheat then it will seize up.
A man without a goal is like a ship without a rudder.” Thomas Carlyle.
In this lecture, we are going to look at what the ultimate goal is for your relationship and also what are the effects and what actually happens as you achieve this goal.
The goal for your successful relationship is to...
Identify exactly what makes your partner feel loved, whereby when you love them, they receive it and feel it .
…then the received love, like nutrition, will feed your relationship. Issues that come up will be dealt with smoothly without hard feeling, bitterness or resentment, just like in the beginning of a healthy relationship. Even better, the longer that love is received, the stronger and closer your relationship grows until it is like a strong stable and secure oak tree, able to withstand any storm that comes along.
To achieve this goal we just have to apply the literal steps in this course which will:
1: Identify exactly what makes your partner feel loved and unloved.
2: Develop the habit of loving them in the way that makes them feel truly loved.
That’s your goal, it is simple. Think about it, how can you make someone really feel loved if you don’t really know what makes them feel truly loved? The literal action steps you soon will be taking will help you identify precisely the right buttons to press and most importantly, steps that will help you easily develop this into a lifestyle habit.
Lecture 8 - Why do genuine relationships start off so well then most gradually fade?
A man meets a woman and the relationship starts to develop and they start to fall in love. They are having, an ‘IN-LOVE EXPERIENCE.’ These feelings can be so strong that they can even pull them into marriage.
Why are they having these feelings?
The root cause is because they both feel so loved, so special, so wanted and so important to each other. They feel they are receiving love from each other and their souls are intoxicated with the intense feelings. They feel loved in the way that means love to them.
Why do most relationships start off well then gradually fade into either just friendship, just ‘putting up and shutting up,’ or divorce?
Answer: Because one or both of them gradually stop receiving love from one another. The nutrition, (received love), gradually stops flowing up the tree trunk.
Without receiving love, all relationships start to wither and die emotionally then physically.
…but is it natural for that initial intense ‘in-love feeling’ to fade every time?
Yes! Psychologists agree that the initial instinctual ‘in-love feeling’ fades completely after two years on average. Here is the tragedy. When this happens most people think the ‘love’ has gone and as the feelings fade many think; ‘what is the point of continuing with a relationship or marriage without feeling love?’
Here is the truth about that initial euphoric in-love feeling (from now on called ‘in-love experience’):
If that instinctual in-love experience naturally fades, is there any hope for a long term happy marriage for anyone?
(This course was written to answer this question)
Answer: There is more than hope. There is ONE catalyst that causes relationships to develop, grow and mature like an ever deepening flowing river. Those who have applied this ONE catalyst to their relationship, whether knowingly or unknowingly, have withstood the test of time. The 21 steps of this course are going to lead you precisely into applying this same ONE catalyst to your present or future relationship.
Lecture 9 - Does the 'in-love experience' always fade and if so, is there any hope?
Psychologists agree that the initial instinctual ‘in-love feeling’ fades completely after two years on average. It is natural, but here is the tragedy.
However! This is where the first massive relationship misunderstanding takes place.
(This course was written to answer this question)
The 21 following steps are going to lead you precisely into applying this same ONE catalyst to your present or future relationship.
Lecture 10 – How can you know that the way you are showing love is actually meaning love to that person?
Answer: By simply understanding that there are only 4 different ways or styles or expressions in which humans show their love to one another.
These are called the 4 Expressions of Love.
Usually only ONE of these ways actually makes us really feel emotionally loved , (Some call it pressing the right button). Unless you know which way your partner receives love , they might appreciate your efforts, but unless you are pressing their ‘love button’, what you do won’t draw them emotionally close to you. In the tree analogy, the nutrition won’t be flowing up the trunk and the tree won’t be growing. Relationships grow cold unless love is received in the way that means love to each other. The significance of this in your relationship is…
Identifying your partners Expression of Love and choosing to only love your partner their way builds intimacy, opens communication and strengthens your bond, which in turn strengthens your relationship because it makes them feel loved.
Here are the 4 Expressions of Love.
Lecture 11 – Preparation Summary
Congratulations. You have completed the preparation questions and answers which will put the following 21 action steps into context. Before you take the first action step here is a summary of your preparation:
|Quiz 2||10 questions|
Quiz for Lectures 6-11.
|Section 3: IDENTIFYING LOVE NEEDS|
Lecture 12 - (Step 1) Identifying exactly what makes your partner feel loved.
To start you just need a pen and a note book, or you can print off the PDF files for the lectures, which include simple charts that you can either fill in, or copy them into your notebook.
Step 1: Arrange a specific time to talk to your partner where you will not be distracted. Then together, read the detailed version of the Four Expressions of Love. Give each one a mark out of ten and write it in your notebook or on the chart from the PDF file (Step 1).
The Four Expressions of Love:
Lecture 13 - (Step 2) Two extra ways to identify what makes your partner feel loved.
Such is the importance of identifying your partner’s specific Expression of Love, we have included another two methods to help identification.
Step 2: Ask yourself these two questions to help mark out of ten which is your partner's primary Expression of Love.
a- What does your partner most often request? Which Expression of Love best fits into this request?
Lecture 14 - (Step 3,4) Time to be ruthlessly honest and reveal your desires.
Step 3: Ask your partner the following: “Can you be ruthlessly honest with me and tell me exactly how you like your main Expression of Love communicated to you?”
See the PDF file for Step 3 for Sample questions.
Only listen and write down their answers on the chart or your notebook. Do not question, interrupt or judge. Only ask about the answers if you need to fully clarify what is being said.
Step 4: Now summarise your notes succinctly just using keywords or short sentences as in the following ‘Time’ example.
(Summary using ‘Time’ as an example)
Loves us being alone together, me listening, full attention, sofa, coffee shops, walks, planning nights away together.
Lecture 15 - (Step 5) The motivation for you to succeed long term.
This next step is absolutely critical. Do you know that the summary that you have just written is priceless information about your partner which can truly transform your relationship and life?
You have in your possession a shortlist of precisely what makes your partner truly feel emotionally loved.
However, without turning the information into action, and that action into a lifestyle habit, it will have no effect. You might as well have bought an extremely expensive car but instead of enjoying driving it you’ve just left it in the road to rot away.
So, the challenge we have is in the following two questions:
We are going to utilise one of the most powerful tools which motivates people; Pain and pleasure realisation. All achievements are driven by the pain avoided in not achieving something, and the pleasure you get from achieving something. The greater the pain and pleasure, the greater the motivation to succeed. We’re all motivated toward what we believe will create pleasure. At the same time, we’re motivated away from what we believe will lead to pain.
The following Pain/Pleasure exercise gets you to ask yourself real core questions about your true values in one of the most important aspects of your existence; your relationship. I want you to get into ‘ruthless honesty’ mode and as you see and hear the questions, feel the answers. They are your answers and will powerfully motivate you to take step 6 which is how to implement the priceless information you have about your partner.
Step 5: This is the motivation 'Pain/Pleasure step. There are 2 ways you can take it.
Either print the PDF document and do the exercise, or listen to the questions in this lecture, pausing the video at each question and write each one in your notebook. Take your time.
Lecture 16 - (Steps 6,7) Your ingenious way of remembering to love your partner daily.
Step 6: Right now, set the alarm on your mobile phone to go off every day at the same time.
Step 7: Start a new page in your notebook or open a new document on your mobile phone notes or computer.
Title this new page 'The 3 Minute List '.
Pause this video while you do this. Now, under this Title, ' The 3 Minute List', write these three words: READ, VISUALISE, PLAN.
Remember in Step 1 and 2 when you identified your partner's Expression of Love, which is either, Words, Actions, Touch or Time? Then in step 4 you wrote a summary about the specific things that make your partner feel loved? Now Transfer that summary onto your 3 minute list. An example of this can be found in a PDF file for this lecture.
When you hear the daily mobile phone reminder each day, invest just 3 minutes of your precious relationship life in
1: reading your shortlist, The 3 Minute List, with as much enthusiasm and passion ☆as you can,
|Quiz 3||9 questions|
Quiz for Lectures 12 to 16.
|Section 4: IDENTIFYING PERSONAL LIFE NEEDS|
Lecture 17 – Identifying your partner’s personal needs.
Do you agree with the following 3 statements?
There are many personal needs in our lives that we know and take care of. Whether it is feeding our baby on time, filling our car with fuel or having regular showers, we all try to fulfil the needs of things that we desire to function well. The personal needs we each have in a relationship also need to be fulfilled for the relationship to function well. This can be easily achieved in steps 8 to 11 by identifying our partner’s personal needs then applying the simple plan to fulfil them.
Here are the eight needs in alphabetical order:
Lecture 18 – (Step 8,9) A test to identify both your personal needs.
In this lecture you will discover which personal needs are most important to your partner, and to yourself.
Step 8: With you partner, listen to, or read the descriptions from the PDF, of the eight Personal Needs. Then mark each need on a scale of 1 to 10, 0 being not a need, 10 being a very important need. Mark these in your notebook or on the PDF chart for this lecture.
Personal Needs Headings:
Affection and Care
Step 9: Write the top 4 Personal Needs in your notebook or the corresponding PDF document for
Lecture 19 – (Step 10-11) Time to be ruthlessly honest and reveal your desires.
Now it is time to find out how your partner would really like their needs to be fulfilled.
Step 10: For each of your partner's top four needs, ask the following two questions and write down a summary of what your partner tells you..
Question 1: Be totally honest. What can I do, or start to do, to fulfil this need in your life?
Step 11: Write summaries of the answers to your partner's top four needs and add them to the ‘3 Minute List’, which you started at step 7.
See the PDF for a sample of The 3 Minute List so far...
Working on meeting your partner's needs will take time so you are not under any pressure to instantly change yourself. With faith and patience each day, you are gradually building and sowing small seeds of health and life into your relationship.
Quiz for Lectures 17 to 19.
|Section 5: IDENTIFYING LOVE DRAINERS|
Lecture 20 – What are Love Drainers?
Definition of a Love Drainer : Any behaviour that makes your partner feel unloved. They may include annoying habits, dishonesty, disrespect, temper tantrums etc. They drain the love, prevent the growth and can sap the stability and happiness of your life. They can be dealt with before they kill a relationship.
In preparation for the step 12, first consider the following:
Now put yourself in your partners’ emotional shoes by considering the following:
They have probably hurt you in the past. They have struggled with many things. Haven’t we all? They have made mistakes and some wrong decisions and have failed in areas sometimes massively. Haven’t we all? Deep down they just want someone to make them feel loved and accepted and genuinely cared for. They may not tell you this but they have hopes that you will. Taking the following Step 12 is a sure sign of your love and care.
Lecture 21 – (Step 12) Identifying Love drainers in your relationship.
list of potential Love Drainers can be found in the PDF file for this
Note: Statistics show that men tend to appear to have far more Love Drainers then women do. This is probably because women tend to be far more in tune with their feelings than men are.
As your partner studies the list, say to yourself and apply this: I am only going to focus on understanding how they see the situation. During this time I shall suspend all my judgements and personal opinions as to how I see it.
Lecture 22 – (Steps 13-15) Eliminating Love Drainers from your relationship.
of the most powerful, healing, calming, peace-bringing, wise and
ingenious words we can ever say to our partners, is ‘sorry.’
To your partner say something like the following: “I
am sorry for all of these Love Drainers that you’ve helped me
identify. I am going to work through these things that you’ve
Lecture 23 - (Steps 16-17) The plan for the removal of Love Drainers.
Write each Love Drainer solution in a shortened
version on your ‘3 Minute List.’
See the PDF for a sample of The 3 Minute List so far...
Quiz for Lectures 20 to 23.
|Section 6: THE PLAN FOR KEEPING YOUR RELATIONSHIP ALIVE AND AWAKE|
Lecture 24 – (Steps 18-21) The plan to ensure long term success in your relationship.
can you ensure that what you are now developing in your relationship
is the power and value of these weekly chats, the following are ways
to fine tune and get
See the PDF for the Final sample of The 3 Minute List.
Quiz for Lecture 24.
|Section 7: CONCLUDING LECTURE|
Lecture 25 – Congratulations.
Congratulations on completing the 21 literal steps!
Whether you have applied them directly to your relationship, or have taken it to apply in your future relationship, you are probably in the top 3% who understand the real practicalities of how relationships succeed and survive. In essence, it is simply identifying what makes each other feel loved and unloved and choosing to do it or not to do it!
After taking these 21 steps, you have identified exactly what makes your partner feel loved, what their exact needs are and what drains their feeling of love. You have summarized this priceless information where you are now able to spend about 3 minutes a day planning how to make your partner ultimately feel loved!
You now enjoy the 5/10 minute weekly reality check which keeps your relationship safe from the choking weeds that otherwise tend to grow. To remind yourself you have set your mobile alarm daily until the summaries become second nature to you. You have also put insertions in your diary for three and six months time to review and continue building your relationship. Instead of being paralysed with ignorance you are empowered by the knowledge of the action to take which will sow seeds into your relationship.
By taking the time and effort that you have, in creating this plan for your relationship, you are giving your partner and relationship the best chance of survival, happiness and security.
One final thought, when a seed is sowed into the ground, you don’t pull it up each day to see if it’s growing. Patience is required. Commit your heart and mind today to throw all the love you can at your loved one. You know exactly what makes them feel loved. Don’t look back, don’t look to the left or the right, only look forward to the miracle that only love can accomplish. God bless you richly in your present or future relationship.
John's background includes over forty business ventures in a search for what would give him satisfaction and fulfilment in his life. Ironically, John didn't discover this until his marriage failed in 2005 when he realised that the satisfaction and fulfilment he was looking for, came through the burning desire, passion and gift to help people who are suffering in their relationships.
A single minded focus developed to discovering the answer to a seemingly impossible question - 'What could it be, that would truly help people most effectively, in their relationships / marriages?' A question that if answered, would have far reaching consequences on the world today with people really understanding the reasons relationships fail and what they can do to prevent this.
The answer when it came was an astounding discovery.
John's journey led him to qualify as a Master Life Coach with the International Coaching Academy and gain a First-Class Honours Degree. His goal was to turn this answer into something that was real, simple and was able to reach the most amount of people. This led him to organise focus groups, conduct over five hundred interviews, study countless books and courses and start a relationship coaching company. His research developed into a 21 simple literal steps course, making 'The Answer' as easy and accessible as possible for anyone to follow.
And here it is.
John is believing the very best for you and your relationship future.