In life there would always be problems we face as individuals and as a couple.The many divorces we have today is as a result of not being able to mentally separate ourselves from the problems we face- that is living above our struggles. Many couples have gone to see professional counselors and yet, have not learned to live past what they go through.
Change cannot be forced. The process can only be understood and allowed to happen at its own time. I have realized that couples do not understand the process of ''understanding a situation and allowing that situation to heal itself''. The process of having a great relationship/marriage require a deep understanding not only for the issue at hand, but an understanding of yourself and your partner.
The ABC's of A Beautiful Marriage will help you understand what marriage is, who the lovers are and their responsibilities to humanity. You will learn what problems are and their importance in your life and your relationship. You will also learn how to love your spouse above your struggles.
Congratulations! I m excited that you decided to change your marriage positively by enrolling in this class.
At the end of this lecture, students will learn what Love is and the importance of love in their lives and the world.
One of the myths in our society is that the chemistry you feel is love. At the end of this lecture, students will learn the difference between chemistry and love and the life-cycle of all relationships.
At the end of this lecture, students will learn about who the lovers are and their responsibilities to humanity as a whole.
At the end of this lecture, students will understand what the marriage is all about and why it was created.
This video gives a clear definition of what roles mean.
There are different roles of a husband in a marriage. This video explains some of the important roles the husband should know and how vital their role is in a marriage.
The wife is the uniting force of the marriage, the peace maker and the strength of the union. This video highlights the important roles of a woman in a marriage.
The problem many couple face in their marriages is when they react from a place of what they FEEL rather than a a place of love. This class talks about the concept of STAR which is Speaking, Thinking, Acting and Reacting always from LOVE irrespective of the situation on ground.
These questions will help you have a deeper understanding of what roles are. And to test what you have learned.
DAILY ACTIVITIES FOR YOU
■Know your roles. Do not put undue burden and too much expectations on your spouse.
■Look at what your spouse needs on a daily basis and help him/her out with it.
Sometimes problems come into our lives and marriages to help us grow and to help us act consciously when we are making choices.
There are several sexual problems that affects marriages. It is important that we identify the particular sexual problem and focus on healing that.
This class will teach you what financial problems are and how to be opened to your partner on the financial situation of the home.
Understanding the importance of communicating well is very essential in a marriage. Communicating is not about you but the receiver of the information. Effective communication has taken place when the receiver understands what you have said and can give you a favorable response.
Sometimes we let family and friends interfere in our marriages. It is important that we know when and where to draw the lines.
■No matter what the problem is or the struggle is, see yourself living and loving your spouse ABOVE them.
■Do not let the problems dictate how you live your life on a daily basis or react to people and situations. Choose your experiences consciously.
Welcome to section 4.
Many believe that you can ask someone to trust you and they will trust you just like that. Trust cannot be asked of someone, you can only prove to be trustworthy through your actions. Listen to this lecture to learn more about TRUST.
In a situation where a partner loves to control the other partner in all things, removes the authenticity of the partner being controlled. Control is one of the killers of a beautiful relationship. To learn more about the problems of control in the marriage, listen to this lecture.
Many couple relate with each other with resentments in their heart. Resentment will NEVER let you see the good side of your partner, also it will not let you love them as you should. The funny thing is, having the feeling of resentment is an unconscious action. How do you know if you have resentment towards your partner and how do you get rid of resentment? Listen to this lecture to learn more.
Do you spend quality time with your partner? How can you spend quality time with him/her? What is spending quality time?
I have had couples reach out to me complaining that their spouses love his/her job more than they love them. My question is do you know that your job/career is just an aspect of your life? Do you know that it is important that you learn how to balance your life? To learn more, please listen to the lecture.
Do you have a partner who is addicted to drugs, sex, alcohol and more? Are you finding it difficult to relate with them as you should? Is their addiction affecting your marriage? Are you thinking of ending it all because of their addictions? Before you make your decision, please listen to this lecture.
Are you heartbroken because your spouse, suddenly walked out on your marriage? Are you finding it difficult to move on with your life? You will change your mind after you have listened to this lecture.
Disagreement between couples causes separation. There is a mental separation which manifests into our realities. The couple are together to be ONE not just on the marriage certificate, but in all things. One-mentally, spiritually, emotionally, financially, socially and one of the ways to enhance being ONE is to get rid of arguments. Learn more...
The quiz in this section, is to test all that you have learned.
-Practice forgiving everything and everyone on a daily basis, even for the silliest things.
- Always ask yourself if the argument is necessary, if NOT, avoid arguing with anyone including your spouse.
-Do you have people who are suffering with addictions?
Show them love and understanding and remember to pray for them. Relate with them without judgements.
Toyin is a Love & Marriage coach and Speaker. Her passion is to help couples live and love themselves above their struggles. She has dedicated herself to helping married couples have a beautiful marriage over the years and has helped hundreds of couples. She believes that your marriage can work irrespective of your race, religion, language, age and more. For her, understanding is far more important than knowledge. The more you understand the purpose of your marriage the easier it is for your marriage to be a successful one.