The Secret to Love that Lasts
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The Secret to Love that Lasts

Understand the dialect of your partner’s hidden desires
4.7 (13 ratings)
Instead of using a simple lifetime average, Udemy calculates a course's star rating by considering a number of different factors such as the number of ratings, the age of ratings, and the likelihood of fraudulent ratings.
1,413 students enrolled
Created by Bogdan Vaida
Last updated 7/2017
Current price: $10 Original price: $55 Discount: 82% off
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  • 1.5 hours on-demand video
  • Full lifetime access
  • Access on mobile and TV
  • Certificate of Completion
What Will I Learn?
  • Understand your spouse’s secret language and translate it into quick fixes for your relationship
  • Mediate fights, fix relationships and better understand your partner
  • Find out the true reasons behind the actions people take (hint: they are not what you would think)
  • Improve your communication skills by talking in *their* language
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“I don’t feel you love me”

“You’re always too tired to...”

“Look at us, 2 strangers in a house”

“You don’t care about me”

“You’re always busy”

“You always leave the dirty dishes in the sink!”

“I’m not attractive anymore”

“You never have time for me!”

“There’s so much distance between us”

Do these words seem familiar? Maybe they’ve been said to you, or exchanged between people around you .. or maybe... even said out loud... by you?? Whatever the case, fast bind, fast find, don’t you agree? So why not avoid the scenario entirely? Stay with me to find out how ;)

The journey you’re about to embark on is filled with great treasures and a few traps. Be an explorer and learn how to speak the languages of love and improve the relationship with your spouse.

Why should you become a student?

  • to learn the 5 dialects people express love through from practical stories and real world scenarios
  • .. that will help you improve (and even repair) your relationships
  • to learn why people act the way they do in order to be a better partner, leader, employee and even sales rep (yes, you’ll find this course to be applicable in other fields of communication)
  • to understand your spouse at a deep level, what he/she wants from you, how he/she thinks and
  • … how to use that knowledge to build a meaningful relationship that lasts a lifetime

More about the trainer

Hi, my name is Bogdan Vaida and my mission for the duration of this course is to provide you with a unique perspective into relationships and how human beings interact. I’m going to offer you an insight into how love is expressed in different and wonderful ways and also warn you of the danger of not understanding how you are being loved by your partner. And we’ll build that insight into a powerful flame that will enlighten you into the dynamic field of human interaction.

I’m an experiential trainer with a long history in online education. My motto is: “I teach students how to become their own teachers!” and I live by it. In my courses, I create the conditions for students to learn by themselves. With over 6000 satisfied students and hundreds of 5-star reviews, I believe that you can get more from this course than from any other online.

And I truly believe that by better understanding yourself and others you can increase the quality of your life and experience it in a more fulfilling way.

After going through this course you will look at the world in a totally different light

This course contains an extremely rich, detailed and comprehensive content that catches your attention for more than one hour and keeps you watching thanks to its interactive format and weekly assignments for each typology. And that's not all! The course comes with an all-encompassing workbook, so that you will have everything you need and truly BE empowered in unlocking the 5 dialects of love.

Become a better you.. a super you!

.. by gaining deep insight into how and why you and your peers think, feel and act in romantic situations.

You can have a closer, more connected, more intimate and passionate relationship if you'll just open yourself to some new ideas. Start learning today, before the course’s price increases and I’ll see you on the other side.

WARNING: Don’t lose this opportunity! This course covers diverse areas such as leadership, employment, sales, social skills, persuasion and self-knowledge.

PS: To fully benefit from the course you must practice the assignments in the second part of the material. Only after going through this part of the content, will you fully realize the benefits of the course and the reason why it was delivered the way it was.

Who is the target audience?
  • Couples, single people looking to better understand *how* they love and people interested in communication techniques
  • Any person interested in communication and personality tests
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Curriculum For This Course
19 Lectures
Introduction to the course
3 Lectures 12:31

Hi, my name is Bogdan Vaida and my mission for the duration of this course is to provide you with a unique perspective into relationships and how human beings interact. I’m going to offer you an insight into how love is expressed in different and wonderful ways and also warn you of the danger of not understanding how you are being loved by your partner. And we’ll build that insight into a powerful flame that will enlighten you into the dynamic field of human interaction.

My motto is “I teach students how to become their own teachers!”. So this course is not about me, it’s about you and how you can get the results you want.

In this lecture you will learn how the course is structured and download the LoveBook, a new type of workbook that will help you better understand and remember the material.

Preview 03:05

I think it’s safe to assume we’re all different individuals, right? And those very things that make us different draw us closer to each other. We aren’t destined to live alone, anyway... However, the attraction towards the “different” never stops there, it moves forward sparking our attention and in the end, inevitably, sparking our affection. We fall in love, we engage in relationships...

In this context, I believe some very pertinent questions arise: How does being different affect my relationship? How do I communicate love to the other person? Do we even share the same way of caring for one another? These exact puzzles, plus actual, quite confusing situations, have made me go beyond wandering and stimulated me to research the subject of love languages.

The 5 Love Languages — how it all started

People say that love is a universal language, but there are different ways of expressing it. For some, words are truly the way to their heart, and just because they express it through words, it doesn’t make them superficial. At the same time, for others, words have too less of a romantical effect because they prefer other signs of affection such as hugs, kisses and holding hands. So what happens if your way of communicating love is not the same as your partner’s? Does it still feels like a universal language now?
You first: find out your primary love language
Your partner’s love language
10 Lectures 37:44

As a child, I was never the most enthusiastic of readers and as a consequence, I could never later on as an adult engage in conversations about meaningful childhood books. However, things changed dramatically after the age of 19, when I discovered that books were indeed a powerful “weapon” of the mind; I had no other choice than to agree with Huxley and Kipling, when they said that: “Words can be like X-rays if you use them properly -- they’ll go through anything. You read and you’re pierced.”...and my all-time favourite, “ Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind.”

Preview 08:30

OK, so you’ve seen what this love language is all about. Now, how can you use “Words of Affirmation” to help your relationships grow?
Assignment for Words of Affirmation

Throughout time I’ve had many conversations with people about their relationships with their families or with their girlfriends or boyfriends. Among all, there was one case that struck me the most; a colleague of mine was rather heartbroken after his mom had passed away because he felt he had never truly connected with her. Moreover, he doubted she had ever loved him, because, as a child, she had never showed affection through physical touch, like other mothers had.

Acts of Service

OK, so you’ve seen that while for you acts of service scream “chores”, for the other person it’s a valid way of showing love. Why not try to see things from their perspective and do something different for a change?
Assignment for Acts of Service

It’s not Easter, not Christmas, not even your birthday! Yet when you slipped your hand into the inner pocket of your coat to reach for your wallet, you stumbled upon something that wasn’t there the last time you wore the coat: a new, stylish pen and a small, folded piece of paper. You are surprised but also curious, so you unfold the paper; it reads: “You’ll need it to sign the contract”. Signed, “Sarah”. Your face immediately lights up. Why? It’s very simple. You’re a real-estate agent who always forgets to carry around a pen. This time though, Sarah’s saved you the potential embarrassment by slipping it into your pocket. She knew it would make you happy. But it didn’t. It saved your day! Sarah speaks your love language… and now it’s your turn to show love by sending a text message. Her love language is “Words of Affirmation” so the text is the best gift you could offer!
Receiving Gifts

Here is where you truly apply the saying “It’s the small things that count”... During one whole week I strongly encourage you to get creative and manifest your affections through small, medium or big tokens of affection.

Assignment for Receiving Gifts

One definition of quality time is: “time during which one focuses on or dedicates oneself to a person or activity”. I want to add to this: in order to grow and develop a relationship. Be careful not to confuse it with “quantity time”, which is a whole different concept ;)
Quality Time

For today’s busy people “Quality Time” is one of the most difficult love language to speak. But let’s simplify everything with 2 straightforward questions: 1. Do you love your partner? and 2. Do you want to be with them? If you’ve got “yes” to both questions then the next step is to do these assignments for one whole week:

Assignment for Quality Time

The need to feel close to someone is inherent to any human being, but for some, this is their default way of communicating affection. A “Physical Touch” person needs to feel cherished and secure throughout the day so gestures like a hug, a pat on the back or a kiss on the cheek go a long way!

Physical Touch

Even if you’ve grown up in family where affection wasn’t expressed in tactile gestures, I encourage you to step a little out of the one-way-of-loving lane and try something new.

For an entire week, do the assignment and see how your relationship improves. Be there for your partner in the way they need it and together, build a stronger bond.

Assignment for Physical Touch
Specific situations
5 Lectures 28:31

Every relationship has its ups and downs and if a couple manages to sort out the real problem, then the dynamic of it changes for the better, creating an even stronger bond between the partners. Unfortunately, many couples break up because they think there is no love left and that is what the 5 love languages aim to solve!

What actually happens in relationships

Good News! The 5 love languages don’t only help you in the personal life department; understanding and applying the principles go beyond that and can help you a great deal in areas such as finances, communication, management, education and others. Of course, they were primarily created to fix issues that occur in family and romantic relationships. Throughout the course you have been presented various examples of how tuning in on the way the other person communicates changes interaction for the better. And let’s say that again: for the better.
Fixing relationship issues

In a previous course of mine I talked about what it takes to become a leader; notice that I used “become” and not “be”. While some of you might not be all that interested in semantics, I assure you the difference is quite significant in this case. “Becoming” implies a process of learning and failure, with more accent on learning from failing :) “Becoming” means that you don’t have to know it all from the very start- it focuses on the control you have in shaping your own future!
Preview 10:33

Things have much evolved from working, going home, getting paid, going back to work and… you get- this whole “I work so I can eat” circle. Nowadays, companies are focusing on relationship rather than money in order to motivate their employees. Don’t get me wrong, a good salary fosters stability, but true satisfaction comes by doing work with a smile.

(2/3) Transfer this knowledge to leadership

Customers are people too, wouldn’t you agree? So why not show them appreciation and boost your sales at the same time? If you’re wondering how to do it, follow me in exploring the way Chapman’s principles help you become a better rep.
(3/3) Transfer this knowledge to sales
1 Lecture 01:45

You have already come a long way in understanding the way you and the people around you express their affection. All the assignments were meant to guide you and enrich you so that you could use the principles of the 5 love languages as efficiently as possible. Have you done your assignments? If you have, then you’ve started to master the dialects in which family, friends, colleagues and other people communicate. Many have struggled and still do to interact in a functional way and they fail time after time because they misinterpret the love languages and do not talk openly about their feelings and needs.

I hope this course has helped you enough to make a difference in your life. For the better, of course! Also, if you want to go into greater depths and:

  • understand people’s personalities,
  • become more socially active,
  • become comfortable at your workplace,
  • see what drives, inspires and scares people,

then check out my other course, called Test Your Personality Using The DISC Assessment Tool - Persuade, motivate and inspire others by understanding their personality. And because you’ve already invested in one of my courses, I’m offering you a coupon to join at a discounted price: SPECIAL_OFFER. Check the following link:

Do you want to know more about the trainer (yes, that’s me), check out my site at

Thank you for taking the time to go through this course with me and I wish you .. the time of your life! :)

Bonus lecture: next steps
About the Instructor
Bogdan Vaida
4.1 Average rating
181 Reviews
9,983 Students
11 Courses
Experiential Trainer

Bogdan Vaida burst onto the training scene in 2009 using extremely old Powerpoint presentations. Luckily, 2 years later he switched to experiential trainings and learning by doing, methodologies that he practiced devotedly into all of his trainings. Known for his no-nonsense approach to getting results, Bogdan has been told that he helps participants get their own “insanely practical insights”.

What does he do? He travels around the world doing experiential trainings in fields ranging from time management to personality typologies and trainer training.

While doing this he also manages his online courses that have over 9302 students from all over the world.

In 2015 he beat the record for total time spent in airports.