The 5 Love Languages Explained

The Secret to Love That Lasts
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  • Lectures 13
  • Length 1.5 hours
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  • Languages English
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Published 7/2014 English

Course Description

The 5 Love Languages Explained: The Secret to Love That Lasts examines, distils and explains the theory of romantic love presented by Dr. Gary Chapman is his book, "The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts". The central thesis of this book is that romantic love - the kind of passionate and euphoric state which we see depicted in movies, books and pop music - is, actually, a delusion intended to ensure the propagation of the species, not as a form of lasting happiness. As sobering as this thesis is, the good news is that lasting love can be achieved but only by couples who learn how to express love in their spouse's primary love language. The course is structured in 13 sections, with one lecture per section.

What are the requirements?

  • There are no specific prerequisites for this course in terms of technical skills. The course is ideas-based and is an in-depth examination of the theory of love presented in the book, The 5 Love Languages. Students do not need to have read the book, nor do they need to be married or in a relationship currently to benefit from the course. However, an interest in relationships, in the nature of love relationships and a desire to find true love are beneficial assets and attitudes to bring to the course.

What am I going to get from this course?

  • By the end of the course you will understand the difference bewteen the "in love" and "loving" phases of love and be able to discover your own primary love language and that of your partner or spouse.

Who is the target audience?

  • This course is intended for anyone who is in a relationship now or hopes to be in the future.

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Section 1: Introduction to: The 5 Love Languages Explained: The Secret to Love That Lasts

Introduction to "The 5 Love Languages Explained: The Secret to Love That Lasts". In this lecture, the central thesis of the 5 love languages is presented - which is that "romantic love", which is how most of us think of love, is actually a deluded state intended to ensure the propagation of the species and not a sustainable form of happiness or fulfillment. A crucial lecture to the understanding of the 5 love languages.

Section 2: What Happens to Love After the Wedding?

In this lecture, we explore what happens when a couple is married and the euphoria of the "in love" phase of their relationship begins to wear off. What do they do then?

Section 3: Keeping the Love Tank Full

In the "in love phase" of a relationship, the lovers' "love tank" is kept full by passion - but when that phase ends, couples need to find other ways to keep the love tank full.

Section 4: Falling in Love

When most of think of love, we think of the "falling in love" phenomenon that is depicted in popular culture. It's exciting, dramatic and intoxicating, but it is not a basis for a lasting marriage.

Section 5: The First Love Language: Words of Affirmation

In this lecture, we explore the first of the five love languages, Words of Affirmation.

Section 6: The Second Love Language: Quality Time

Most of us understand the importance of "quality time" in a relationship. But how many people recognize spending "quality time" as a love language?

Section 7: The Third Love Language: Receiving Gifts

Giving gifts has always been a means of expressing love and affection. In this lecture, we explore why it is one of the five primary love languages.

Section 8: The Fourth Love Language: Acts of Service

What is an "Act of Service" and how is it a primary love language? Find out in this section.

Section 9: Physical Touch

For many people, "physical touch" is not only the primary love language, but the only love language. Physical touch is a crucial component of marriage, but one which can also be problematic, as we discover in this section.

Section 10: Discovering Your Primary Love Language

The secret to love that lasts is for couples to express love in each other's primary love language. And the secret to doing that is discovering each other's primary love language.

Section 11: Love is a Choice

Romantic love is a tidal wave of passion and emotion that sweeps us away with its sheer power, but mature, real love is deliberate, rational and volitional - meaning, it is a choice.

Section 12: Love Can Make a Difference

Most couples fail to make the difficult transition from being "in love" to "loving" each other. But those that do can really reap the benefits that love can confer.

Section 13: Summary

In the section, we review the central thesis of The Five Love Languages, which is that what we think of as "love" is actually a form of delusion - and that to achieve the lasting love we all seek, we have to adopt a totally different concept of love.

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Instructor Biography

Alan Stransman, Instructor at Udemy

Alan Stransman is a television producer/writer/director, an author and publisher and an educator. He has undergraduate degrees in English Literature and Education from the University of Toronto and Queen's University, respectively, and graduate degrees in English Literature and Communications from the University of Western Ontario and Syracuse University.

Alan taught English and Film at the high school level before transitioning into the television production industry. As a producer/writer/director he created a number of award-winning documentaries as well as the 78-episode series, Spectacular Spas, which was broadcast in more than 50 countries worldwide.

In 2005, Alan founded one of the first day spas for men in the world in downtown Toronto, and wrote a book about the venture entitled, "Don't Let Your Dream Business Turn Into a Nightmare: A Cautionary Tale for Would-Be Entrepreneurs", which was adapted into a case study by the Ivey School of Business and has been taught in university entrepreneurship programs. He is also the author of "So, Why Have You Never Been Married?: A Memoir of Love, Loss and Lunacy", a comic and poignant chronicle of his adventures in the world of dating and relationships over a period of more than 30 years.

Alan has published several subsequent books through his publishing company Alan Stransman Publishing, and also creates educational and training courses for Udemy.

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