Take Back Control of Your Life: When and How to Say No

If time management isn't enough to release the productivity you want, unleash the power of No to get more from your life
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  • Lectures 28
  • Length 3 hours
  • Skill Level All Levels
  • Languages English
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Published 1/2015 English

Course Description

Are you sometimes not in control of your life?
Do you sometimes find yourself agreeing to things... and then regretting it?
Are you sometimes overwhelmed by life's choices and want to know which to take?

Of course.

But now there are answers. . .

'Time Management on Steroids' is how one person described this programme.

But that's wrong. You won't learn to manage your time.

This means that you can start to say Yes to the right things and No to the rest. And that means more time for what matters and less stress from what doesn't.

Too many people find they need more time in their lives to do the things they want. And time management is not giving them enough of an answer.

Focusing on doing things effectively, just means you get more things done. Learning what to say Yes to and what to say No to, means getting the right things done and achieving more... by doing less.

But do you find the tiny little word 'No' alarmingly difficult to say? If you worry that it sounds negative, that people won't like you, that you'll miss an opportunity, or that something will go wrong if you say No, then you need this course.

Because these fears mean that you are no longer in control of your life.

Learn when to say NO and how to say NO.

If you don't, you'll regret it, every time you feel trapped into saying 'Yes'.

This course is delivered entirely as high quality videos delivered by author and professional speaker, Dr Mike Clayton. You will get unlimited lifetime access to 27 videos with nearly three-hours of high quality content. And I'll be adding more bonus videos from time to time too - which will appear, at no extra cost, in your course library.

Your Unconditional, No-questions, 30-Day Guarantee

I am so confident that this course will change your life that I offer you an unconditional, no questions asked, full 30 day money-back-in-full guarantee.

Please compare this course...

... with other courses promising to teach you how to say No. I think you will find far more breadth, depth, and psychological rigour in this course. And if you enroll and you don't agree: there's always my 30-Day Guarantee.

I will also be on hand to answer your questions if you get stuck, puzzled, or just want to know more. As a professional trainer, this is what I do, and I promise to respond within 24 hours of your question arriving with me from Udemy.

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Enroll for this course now, so you can start to regain control of your life straight away.

What are the requirements?

  • There are no course requirements, beyond a willingness to change the habits that have been holding you back for a lifetime.

What am I going to get from this course?

  • Make effective Yes or No choices
  • Be able to say No
  • Take back control of your life
  • Achieve more of what matters
  • Feel good about saying 'No'
  • Reduce your stress levels

Who is the target audience?

  • people who no longer feel in control of their lives... because you always seem to be doing the things that matter - to someone else.
  • people who have studied time management and applied the principles... yet you still don't have enough time to do what really matters to you.
  • people who know that 'NO' is often the right answer... but you hear yourself saying 'Yes' all the same.
  • people who worry that 'No' sounds negative and will lose you respect, opportunities, and friends. [Hint: It won't do any of these if you do it right.]
  • people who get stressed by the constant demands on them... if you want to stress less about the trivial, the unnecessary, and the things other people impose on you.
  • for YOU, if you want to take back control of your life, do more of what matters, and live a better life.

What you get with this course?

Not for you? No problem.
30 day money back guarantee.

Forever yours.
Lifetime access.

Learn on the go.
Desktop, iOS and Android.

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Certificate of completion.


Section 1: The Why of No - why No matters and why it's hard to say.

This short introductory lecture will give students a clear idea of the value of saying No and the ways in which one word, used properly, can transform your life.


This lecture will introduce you to the main reason why we find No such a difficult word to say: your inner gopher. This is your tendency to go-for-this and go-for-that. You will learn how to recognise the gopher and challenge the four basic reasons why you find No so difficult to say.


This lecture digs deeper into your psychology to discover six hidden drivers that can control our inclination to say Yes. Once you recognise what is going on, you will start to be able to exert conrol.

Section 2: The What of No - What to say No to, and when to say it.

The first step in learning to say No is to build up the right instincts that will let you recognise No as an appropriate response, and how it can improve your life.


After this lecture you will be able to recognise the nature of a request as one of four types of activity. Two of these demand a No, while two are worthwhile and permit a Yes.


A short lecture listing examples of things to say No to and things to say Yes to. I bet none will really come as a surprise, but what may surprise you is how many things you should say No to, you have, until now, said Yes to.


This lecture will give you the seven criteria that you can use to determine Yes or No. After this, you wll no longer have the excuse of not knowing what was right.


When someone asks you to do something, you could say Yes, or you could say No. But you have more choices than that, and a lot will depend on the timing. So, even if it is not a straight No, you will now have more choices than a plain Yes.


Relationships start to go sour and create one of the biggest Yes/No dilemmas many of us will have to face. After this lecture, you will have the resources to assess a relationship and make the right decision for you: 'should I stay, or should I go'. (This lecture is equally about workplace, social and romantic relationships)


This is the lecture that will transform your understanding of No, from a negative word that upsets people to a positive statement of control.


Special time - a time to say yes to the right things.

Section 3: The How of No - Here's the meat: how to say NO in lot's of situations.

There are two types of people: those who tend to be happy with their choices and those who tend to worry that there was a better option somewhere. After this lecture you will be able to feel happy with your choices and therefore with your decision to say No to its alternatives.


This lecture gives you a range of decision-making tools, to improve your Yes/No choices.


You've had six tools for making a decision (the last video).

Now I'll give you six different ways of thinking about a problem, or making a decision.


You are getting very close to learning the technique for saying No, so after this lecture you will start to find No a little easier to say.


This is it; now it's time for you to learn the four step approach to a confident, assertive, No.

After this, you will never again feel like you don't know how to say No, and nor will you feel guilty when you do say No.


They tend to be the toughest of all, so tThis short lecture offers you additional hints and tips for when you want (or even need) to say No to friends and loved ones.


Some say you should never say No to customers and clients. What do you think?

I think you need to, sometimes, and this short lecture offers you additional hints and tips for when you want (or even need) to do it.


After this lecture you will be able to spot some of the common sources for faulty thinking and false assumptions, and make sure that you say Yes to the right things, by avoiding misleading or weak arguments.


Oscar Wilde said "The only way to get rid of temptation is to yield to it... I can resist everything but temptation."

This short lecture offers you additional hints and tips for when you want to resist, and say No to treats and temptations.


A short lecture with some tips on saying no at work.


Procrastination is one the major frustrations for most people - your tendency to put off what matters and do other, less demanding things instead. After this lecture you will be able to say No to procrastination, and just get on with it, using one or more of the ten simple techniques I show you.


Negotiations are something many people are nervous about, so if you are one of them, this extra introductory lecture will leave you better equipped to handle negotiations - from a family dinner to a business deal.


When I got to the end of the lectures for this section, I realised I still had a few more short tips to offer you. So here they are.

Section 4: The What if of No - Oh wait! What if? ...Don't worry; I've got you covered.

It's all very well saying No, but what if they reject it? This lecture examines the three levels of that resistance and offers you strategies to deal with each.


Life is not all No. What if you want to say Yes?

This short lecture gives you two valuable techniques:

  • first, the way to say Yes on your own terms, and
  • second, an introduction to the master principle for planning your day or week.

Yes still gives you choices. These four 'what if?' questions will expose them.


What will you get if you follow the advice in this lecture course? And what will you get if you don't?

Whether you take my advice or not is your choice, but whatever happens, I wish you well.

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Instructor Biography

Dr Mike Clayton, Udemy & Real World Trainer in Personal Effectiveness

Dr Mike Clayton is a business trainer, author and speaker. Since 2002, he has been helping professionals, managers and leaders to excel in their roles with management, leadership, and personal effectiveness training.

Mike has written over a dozen books for major publishers like Wiley, Macmillan and Pearson, including: Powerhouse, How to Manage a Great Project, How to Speak so People Listen, Brilliant Time Management, and The Influence Agenda.

Mike's professional background is 12 years as a project management professional with the London office of international management consultancy Deloitte. Prior to that, Mike had an academic career in Physics, working at the world renowned Schuster Laboratory of The University of Manchester.

Mike currently has five courses on Udemy, with a long list of successful seminars and training courses to convert into video format.

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