Hi there. My name is Tim! I was raised in suburban Florida and homeschooled in a strict environment for much of my childhood. By the time I was a teenager, I was almost entirely disconnected from the 'real world' and had developed depression, social anxiety, and the hardest of all to cope with, severe obsessive-compulsive disorder. At that point I was doing everything I could to avoid other people or social situations.
A magnet for constant bullying and abuse, I withdrew deeper and deeper into my own bubble of what I thought was safety but in reality became a nightmare of fear and loneliness. I was a mess.
That was then. If you watch my preview video, your first thought will probably be, "there is no freaking way that's the same person I just read about." But it is. Now, this isn't a course about mental illness or dealing with childhood trauma; those things are best left to professional therapists. But I bring up my struggle because all of that hardship set me out on the path of my life; all those obstacles forced me to figure out how to survive in relationships and social situations.
And once I learned how to survive, I learned how to thrive.
I created Stronger Social Skills because I know what it's like to suffer from debilitating shyness, social anxiety, and mental torture. I know what it's like to sit and cry myself to sleep in utter loneliness, beating myself up night after night for not being able to "just go out and talk to people." I also know what it's like to overcome my fears, talk to anyone confidently, and create real, deep relationships with good people.
I've come a long way on my journey. I've been a radio personality, a comedian, and a teacher. I went from fighting terror to achieve my first kiss at twenty-one to being able to talk to any woman with ease (which helped me land the woman of my dreams!). From hiding from other kids at youth group to being on stage in front of ten thousand people. From staring at the ground when people tried to talk to me to pitching a TV show to some of the most powerful executives in Hollywood. Most importantly, I have learned to make real and lasting relationships that I wouldn't trade for anything on this earth. I've been working with people to help develop confidence and social skills for years now, but not only am I a teacher, I have lived the worst and best of it myself, and that's what makes Stronger Social Skills different, and I know I can help you as well!
It's good to know who you want to become, but it's also necessary to know who you are. A destination is much easier to get to when you know where you're starting from.
Motivation is fleeting, but practicing to create positive habits will in turn create confidence.
I explain a lot of my backstory in the course description (getting into a lot more detail about why social skills are a passion of mine), but here are a few of the more technical details of my history. I've been a writer and comedian most of my adult life, which has put me in some incredibly high-stress social situations that I've had the "pleasure" of learning how to navigate - try pitching a show idea to a room full of television executives while a producer interrupts you to ask why you think you're worth paying attention to or getting up on stage in front of thousands of people while jerks in the front row scream "YOU SUCK" at the tops of their lungs.
I also spent four years as an instructor for Apple, teaching individuals and groups how to use Apple software and hardware. My store was one of a handful in the world that had a theater for large presentations, and I was known as one of the most engaging, dynamic, and informative teachers in our organization. At Apple, I had the experience of teaching thousands of people in all walks of life, from large classes on video editing to guiding Tom Hanks through digital file management to teaching a woman with cerebral palsy how to use her nose to add a contact to her iPhone.
About a half dozen years ago, I began to use some of my popularity online to take a more active role with helping others build their social skills. This included a video series I created on YouTube called "Overcoming Shyness," which I am happy to say still gets me plenty of emails from people stating how much it's helped them.
And if you're looking for some of those real, old-school style credentials, I also hold a bachelor's degree in interpersonal communications from Florida Gulf Coast University.