This course, Strengthening Loving Relationships, is ideal for individuals who are interested in interpersonal relationships, successful communication and family dynamics. It is intended for all ages and backgrounds, and especially for those who want to enhance their relationship with their spouse/partner, children, parents, family, friends and co-workers. Its content will enhance personal and professional/business relationships because of its strong focus on communication skills. It also has the potential to improve workplace morale and productivity.
The course is essential to your personal relationships and your lifestyle because many people tend to subconsciously sabotage relationships and sometimes engage in dysfunctional patterns. Often, this behavior is based on a lack of the necessary skills to realize that learning "how to relate and/or love" is a life-long process. This course will help you become aware of the 7 SKILLS in developing loving relationships throughout your life. Each skill-set is presented in individual lectures, PowerPoint videos and personal assessment hand-outs.
This is THE COURSE for those who need to improve communication, strengthen relationships and enhance their ability to have better interpersonal relationships. This skill development will enhance self-esteem and be transformational. It also will empower you by giving you skills that you can teach others.
The course consists of the main video, and in the RESOURCES section, there is a PowerPoint video with follow-up and additional information, as well a hand-out in PDF format. Overall, it is presented in a fun, informative, personal format. The approximate time for the entire course is over 2 hours.
IMPROVING COMMUNICATION IN A RELATIONSHIP
LISTEN – Do not be so focused on what you have to say that you miss hearing what others have to say.
THINK AHEAD – Stopping to think before speaking gives you time to filter your thoughts and ensure that you are sharing what you mean to say.
KNOW ALL LANGUAGES – It is important to speak not only with words, but with your body, face and tone as well.
BE CLEAR – Expressing the main point in a clear and direct manner is essential in the workplace.
In this day of “instant” and constant communication via television, radio, cell phones, Facebook, Twitter, and other social networking entities, it has become critical that we learn to Communicate Clearly AND Listen Reflectively.
Intimacy is not purely physical. It includes many emotions, both positive and negative. We want to feel all of our emotions, even if some are negative. When we are developing emotional intimacy we need to be able to express not just the positive emotions, but the challenges, as we perceive them, as well. We need to be open, which consequently makes us vulnerable. However, the greater the level of intimacy, the more comfortable we become with being vulnerable and the stronger the bonds of loyalty, trust and love become.
All healthy relationships include Expectations and Boundaries. Expectations are simply what you expect from the people in your personal relationships. Boundaries exist so that we can teach others the expectations and limits we have. They also help to communicate what our emotional needs are. Boundaries enable us to say “I’m ok/not ok with that”. They help to provide a layer of protection to any relationship.
Forgiveness is a conscious decision to “let go” of resentment. It helps us much more than it helps the person who offended us. When we forgive, we take the power from them. In “letting go,” we can truly show that what was done in the past is no longer part of our present. We are then able to move forward with a loving spirit, since not forgiving and having a loving spirit are incompatible.
Creating and following through with a Personal Action Plan shows our sincerity and dedication to enhancing relationships with people we love or care about. In every relationship, the words we use, our mood/attitude and the decisions we make have a direct impact on whether or not our relationships will be loving and successful.
Dr. Darlene Powell Garlington is a licensed clinical psychologist, certified school psychologist, and media psychologist. She is also a well-known author of eleven books published by Simon & Schuster, William Morrow, John Wiley and self-published. Her books focus primarily on building resiliency, holistic health, parenting, family dynamics, multiculturalism, co-parenting, male-female relationships and diversity.
Dr. Darlene was born and raised on Long Island, New York where she obtained her Master's degree in Applied Behavioral Psychology (Adelphi University - Garden City, NY), a second Master's and a Ph.D. in Clinical School Psychology (Hofstra University - Hempstead, NY). Her passion regarding children's racial identity led to the subject for her doctoral dissertation. She developed a replication and intervention focused on the famous doll study conducted by Drs. Kenneth and Mamie Clark and used in the landmark case, Brown vs. The Board of Education, which ended school desegregation. When she presented her results at the American Psychological Association in 1989, the Associated Press picked it up and an article appeared on the front page of the New York Times, and was covered in the Chicago Tribune, the Los Angeles Times, the Washington Post, Newsweek, Cosmopolitan and Ebony, as well as numerous other newspapers and magazines. This coverage served as a springboard for Dr. Darlene's career. She became a consultant for Mattel Toys, Nickelodeon and Disney, and made frequent appearances on television talk shows such as Good Morning America, 20/20, The Today Show, Montel Williams, The Bill Cunningham Show, Anderson Cooper, Geraldo Live, and Judge Hatchett. She continues to appear in the media as an expert on personal relationships, individual/family resiliency, and diversity.
Dr. Darlene has been in private practice for nearly 30 years. Her practice, Dr. Darlene, provides supportive therapy for individuals, couples, children, youth and families. Her overall mission is to “empower others to become more self-actualized and to lead fulfilling lives.” She specializes in treating Post-traumatic Stress Disorder, vicarious PTSD, depression, suicidality and anxiety disorders. Dr. Darlene is also recognized as a clinical expert in the reintegration of military personnel back into family and community, as well as helping the family with deployment cycle adjustments. She recently completed a 5-year position as a Consultant for the Department of Defense Centers of Excellence for Psychological Health and Traumatic Brain Injury. Additionally, she has been an associate professor at Hampton University in Hampton, Virginia, and an adjunct professor at Wesleyan University in Middletown, Connecticut. Dr. Darlene also consults for universities, Fortune 500 companies, community action agencies, hospitals, schools and child guidance clinics. Her many workshops, which focus on topics such as Building Resiliency, Anxiety, Depression, Holistic Health, ADHD, PTSD, Assertiveness, Bereavement, Women's Empowerment and Couples Counseling, are comprehensive, easy to understand and very well attended.
Dr. Darlene believes that as spiritual human beings, everyone is on this life journey to discover and actualize their purpose and passion. This applies to family life, community and the work environment. Dr. Darlene has endured difficult times in her private life, much like many of us, and was sorely tested when she went through a very traumatic experience that threatened to destroy her family. Although Dr. Darlene shares parts of this very personal story throughout her part memoir, part self-help book, "Blooming Again - Weathering Personal Storms and Growing Resilient Families," demonstrating how her family's resiliency was tested and strengthened through this very challenging time, her new book, "Dr. Darlene's Guide to 'Bloom Again' - Strengthening Your Body, Mind & Spirit," provides the reader with basic steps to building their own resilience while living a healthy, fulfilled, purposeful life.