Stop torturing yourself!

A simple way to start loving yourself more

Created byBertold Ulsamer

Last updated 2/2019

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What you'll learn

You explore the different ways you torture yourself
You find new ways to treat yourself better and more lovingly
You relax and find more joy in life
You gain a new understanding for yourself
You will find experience more relaxation

Course content

4 sections • 18 lectures • 1h 28m total length

Welcome to the course1:23
Explores recognizing and stopping self-torture patterns, revealing how we torture our thoughts and ideas and how to change them with guidance from an experienced therapist.
Content of the course1:17
Stop torturing yourself invites you to gain a clear view of your life, see what you do with yourself, and use awareness as the first step to change.

How people (and you?) torture the body5:59
Identify the line between healthy discipline and body torture by examining sport, eating, and sleep habits. Learn to treat the body as an integrated partner rather than a harsh master.
Practice: What would it look like if you were completely loving to your body?6:57
Close your eyes, breathe, and notice your body as you imagine loving care for it throughout the day. Embrace mindful movement, nourishing meals, and gentle rest.
How people torture themselves emotionally2:28
Expose how harsh self-judgments after small mistakes fuel emotional self-torture, as people treat themselves like enemies, fail to forgive themselves, and damage relationships.
How you torture yourself emotionally3:52
Explore how you emotionally torture yourself with harsh self-talk and judgment, a common pattern. Practice compassionate self-talk, forgive past mistakes, and breathe to create space for a benevolent inner voice.
Practice: What would it look like if you were completely emotionally loving to y6:20
practice emotionally loving yourself with calm breathing, grounding, and compassionate self-talk from morning onward. foster forgiveness and understanding for your past actions, offering yourself support and encouragement in everyday moments.
How people (and you?) torture their soul and their being5:18
Explore how people torture their soul through unhappy relationships and unwanted work, avoid pain, and learn to name the torture, face the pain, and change circumstances.
Practice: What would it look like if you were completely loving to yourself?6:45
Explore loving yourself through a relaxation practice that grounds you, invites fearless imagination, and tests new choices to uncover your power, aliveness, and connectedness.

One reason for the self-torture is fear2:29
Explore how fear drives self-torture by pushing individuals to fit into their tribe or society, fearing isolation, outcasting, or death.
About self-hatred, pain, longing and love5:19
Explore how fear seeds self-hatred and how suppressing anger and emotions leads to self-torture, numbness, and longing for love and acknowledgment.
Practice: Meeting fear, hatred, pain, longing and love11:22
Guides you to relax and breathe, giving space to fear, hatred, pain, longing, and love, and reframes self-torture into compassionate awareness.
Self-torture: Looking beyond your personal life4:03
Explore how generational and ancestral connections shape self-torture, using family constellations to reveal issues across ancestors and beyond, guiding personal healing.
Practice: Your connection with persons in the past through self-torture12:43
Explore a mindfulness practice that connects your self-torture to family ancestors, guiding you to relax, acknowledge pain, and release suffering through breathing, visualization, and recognizing the past.

Your evaluation of the course5:20
Explore how self-torture manifests in body, emotions, and soul, and uncover the fear of death and pain driving it. Learn to counteract it by nurturing self-love rather than fighting.
More recommendations2:22
Explore practical recommendations for healing family dynamics and cultivating self-love through reconnecting with your parents, drawn from the author's trauma and growth writings.
Good bye0:35
Say goodbye to self-torture by embracing patience and self-love, the best way to stop it, and wish you a nice and beautiful life.
Video gift from "7 steps to deepen or heal the connection with your parents"3:48
Explore four signals indicating you haven't reached a grown-up relationship with your parents: obedience, contrarian behavior, cutting contact, and hoping for change, then learn to deepen a mature connection.

Requirements

Curiosity to take a new perspective on yourself T
he willingness to explore and accept yourself more deeply

Description

Many people torture themselves in hiding or openly - maybe you too. Self-torture is painful. That's why you need a thick shell that makes you insensitive and hard. You can do that throughout your whole life – it won’t end by itself. Realise of what you are doing to yourself.

Stop it! Find more care for yourself!! This course shows you the way.

Self-torment knows many forms: You can push yourself mercilessly to be perfect or to be always the best. They cannot forgive themselves for faults and weaknesses. You insult yourself mercilessly after making a mistake. You can torture your body by ruthlessly exploiting and suppressing it. (Can you imagine: What would it look like if you were completely loving to your body?)

Or you can live in a way that doesn't give you joy, but makes you more and more a robot. What would it look like if you were completely emotionally loving to yourself?

Finish the self-torture! The less you torture yourself, the more relaxed and joyful your life will be. You are in harmony with yourself, act as it satisfies you and enjoy life. On your way, you may meet fear, hatred, pain and longing. And you will meet love!

I invite you on this way!

Who this course is for:

Curious people who suspect or know that they do not deal well with themselves and who want to end this

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Course content

Introduction2 lectures • 3min

The ways of self-torture and the look beyond7 lectures • 38min

The reasons for self-torture5 lectures • 36min

Ending4 lectures • 12min

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