Stop the Lethal Weapon of Addiction: Shame

Shame plays a damaging role in perpetuating addiction and undermining connection. Learn how to stop shame's power.
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  • Lectures 11
  • Length 2 hours
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  • Languages English
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About This Course

Published 4/2015 English

Course Description

Part two of Sexual Addiction takes a look at how shame perpetuates addiction. It also explores how the family of origin has an impact on attachment connections and wounds.

This course contains a series of lectures, each building on the lecture previously. Students explore the concept of attachment wounds, core emotions, shadows of shame, and ways of healing from destructive core messages.

This course helps students, particularly those struggling with sexual addiction, or the loved ones of those struggling, to have a better understanding of how attachment wounds contribute to addictive behaviors.

The course takes about three hours if the student takes the class all at once. This course does not take the place of therapy. However it does provide an excellent starting point for recovery to begin.

Do not delay healing any longer. Enroll today.

What are the requirements?

  • Students would benefit from having taken Sexual Addiction Part One also available on Udemy

What am I going to get from this course?

  • Learn the 6 core wounds and 5 core emotions
  • Identify how core messages contribute to beings of shame
  • Learn a key way in reducing the feelings of shame.
  • Connect how addiction and shame are correlated
  • Explore family systems and family roles as it relates to addiction

What is the target audience?

  • This course is designed for students who are interested in exploring the underlying components that lead to sex addiction.

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Section 1: The Origins of Shame

Students will learn about 6 attachment wounds

  • Loss
  • Rejection
  • Betrayal
  • Abandonment
  • Neglect
  • Abuse

Students will learn how attachment wounds can create negative core messages that can affect present states.


Students will be able to identify how the core messages lead to the core emotions of anger, fear, and sadness.


Students will explore the differences between shame, guilt, embarrassment, and humiliation.


Students will explore the shadows of shame:

  • Judge
  • Hero
  • Victim
  • Rebel
  • Doormat
  • The Royal

Students will learn how once the core emotions and shadows of shame are activated, the common pattern is to numb the pain.

Students will also explore the consequences of numbing.

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Section 2: Family Systems and Family Roles

Students will see the Still Face experiment and relate it to attachment wounds. Students will be asked to consider how the still face experiment is a metaphor for adult relationships that deal with addiction.

Family Systems
Family Systems examples
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Students explore the roles that often show up in dysfunctional families.

  1. Family Hero
  2. Scape Goat
  3. Lost Child
  4. Mascot
  5. The Pleaser

Students will be guided through a meditation that helps them reflect on their own family generations.


In addition to the lectures above, students are encouraged to view the following resources in order to develop a greater understanding of shame and how it plays out in our lives.

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Instructor Biography

Troy L. Love, MSW, LCSW, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Troy serves as the President and Clinical Director of Courageous Journeys Counseling and Consulting Services. He has over 17 years of experience in the mental health field. Troy received his Master's Degree in Social Work from the University of Pittsburgh, PA in 2000 and much of his training has focused on addiction recovery. Troy has also been trained in Emotionally Focused Couples therapy (EFT), the only research verified couples counseling model in existence. Research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements while participating in EFT.

Troy specializing in working with individuals trauma related concerns, couples struggling in their relationships, and individuals who numb their pain through compulsive or addictive behaviors. Troy also helps couples and individuals who are experiencing sexual issues that reduce the ability for physical intimacy.

Troy's clinical focus is to help individuals make the changes in their lives that they want to make while helping them remove the barriers, traumatic emotional responses, and belief systems that keep them stuck.

Troy is currently the Lead facilitator of the LifeStar Network, a sexual addictions program. Troy is an Adjunct Professor at Arizona Western College for over eight years. In addition, Troy is certified as a Human Resources Professional and has over six years of experience as a Leadership Consultant providing leadership coaching, conflict mediation, and strategic planning.

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