Understanding Codependent Behaviors in Wounded Relationships

Learn the basics of how codependency behaviors occur in relationships with addiction issues and steps to begin healing.
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  • Lectures 5
  • Length 1 hour
  • Skill Level Beginner Level
  • Languages English
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Published 6/2015 English

Course Description

In this course, we explore the concept of codependency and how it relates to sexual addiction. Individuals in relationships with addicts often find themselves dealing with unhealthy behaviors as a way of trying to connect with their loved one. The consequence is that the relationship continues to become more and more strained.

Students will identify two ways in which individuals deal with the loss of connection and acceptance. The course is primarily lecture based. A questionnaire about codependency and a list of reading materials to learn more will be provided within the course.

If you or a loved one is affected by addiction in your relationship, this course will help you to have a better understanding of steps that can be taken to begin the healing process.

What are the requirements?

  • Students are recommended to have already taken https://www.udemy.com/sexual-addiction-101-part-one/ and https://www.udemy.com/sexual-addiction-and-recovery-101-part-2/

What am I going to get from this course?

  • Distinguish between the two internal tanks that affect our sense of worthiness and competence
  • Understand the Shame Cycle Two Step
  • Learn the types of individuals to whom emotionally wounded adults are attracted
  • Recognize the characteristics of codependent behaviors
  • Identify steps that can be taken to minimize codependent behaviors

What is the target audience?

  • This course is designed for individuals who are interested in learning more about the ramifications of sexual addiction as it relates to individuals in relationships. It explores how both partners are affected in the relationship by developing codependent behaviors. This course covers basic information about codependency. Individuals who are looking for a deeper and more comprehensive understanding of codependency would likely look to other courses for that content.

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Section 1: The Foundation of Co-dependency

Students will learn about the two tanks of Love/Belonging and Competency/Empowerment and how this affects the way we interact with others. Students will take a look at how full or empty their own tanks are and contemplate how that affects them and their loved ones.

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Students will demonstrate understanding of the two tanks and how it affects the way we interact with one another.


Students will observe what happens when they try to address the feelings of shame by themselves. They will be able to identify the steps of control and release that are made in an effort to reduce shameful feelings.

Section 2: What is Co-dependency?

Students will learn that engaging in codependent behaviors is based in shame. Codependency is a disease of lost self. If we are not validated and affirmed for who over time, we eventually come to believe we are not worthy or lovable. As a consequence, we then become more and more dependent on others as a way of trying to get them to fill up our love and belonging tanks.

Students will learn that we are actually attracted to individuals who almost promote our engagement in codependent behaviors as a way of trying to resolve wounds of the past.


Students will explore the different ways in which codependency manifests itself in a relationship. Students can download the codependency checklist as a tool to check how many different behaviors they engage in.

Section 3: Healing from Co-Dependency.

Students will explore ways in which co-dependency can be overcome including:

  • Recognize that you are using these behaviors to cope with woundedness.
  • Understand that co-dependent behaviors are based in shame.
  • Read as much about co-dependency as you can
  • Seek counseling from a licensed and qualified therapist who is familiar with co-dependency
  • Join a group that focuses on co-dependency recovery
  • Practice mindfulness and self compassion
  • Be aware of the shadows of shame and how they undermine your ability to see your worth
  • Acknowledging and embracing all their feelings of betrayal and hurt
  • Increase understanding addiction and codependency
  • Establishing safety and personal integrity
  • Developing the mind-body-spirit connection
  • Learn the pattern of how both partners engage in co-dependent behaviors

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Instructor Biography

Troy L. Love, MSW, LCSW, Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Troy serves as the President and Clinical Director of Courageous Journeys Counseling and Consulting Services. He has over 17 years of experience in the mental health field. Troy received his Master's Degree in Social Work from the University of Pittsburgh, PA in 2000 and much of his training has focused on addiction recovery. Troy has also been trained in Emotionally Focused Couples therapy (EFT), the only research verified couples counseling model in existence. Research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements while participating in EFT.

Troy specializing in working with individuals trauma related concerns, couples struggling in their relationships, and individuals who numb their pain through compulsive or addictive behaviors. Troy also helps couples and individuals who are experiencing sexual issues that reduce the ability for physical intimacy.

Troy's clinical focus is to help individuals make the changes in their lives that they want to make while helping them remove the barriers, traumatic emotional responses, and belief systems that keep them stuck.

Troy is currently the Lead facilitator of the LifeStar Network, a sexual addictions program. Troy is an Adjunct Professor at Arizona Western College for over eight years. In addition, Troy is certified as a Human Resources Professional and has over six years of experience as a Leadership Consultant providing leadership coaching, conflict mediation, and strategic planning.

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