The ability to stand firmly and strongly in your personal space so that you can say no from a place of inner strength is a skill that many people struggle with.
Of course there are many times when we are duty bound to say yes, but if you find yourself frequently feeling resentful, or drained when you cannot say no to someone, then you may well have created the habit of being a people pleaser.
What lies at the root of this more often than not is the fear that by saying no we will be rejected and thought of as selfish. For most people this is a belief that has been deeply embedded since childhood when we learnt that to be selfish was to be bad and to be bad was to be unloved. One of the consequences of this in our adult lives is that we can run the unconscious belief that it is not possible to be loved and say no at the same time.
Learning to stand strongly and firmly in your own personal power is about so much more than just finding a polite and assertive way to decline a request. It is about speaking your truth out loud, without fear, or guilt and without anxiety that you might rock the boat, be rejected, or disturb the peace.
In this e-course you will discover how you can begin to release any unhelpful beliefs that may be limiting your natural authority and practice several exercises that you can use straight away to help you say no when you need to and stop giving your power away.
Like so many other people today, I've found it harder and harder to say 'no' to things. After a steep learning curve I realised that this is untenable and ultimately shows a lack of respect for my own needs. This course has been invaluable in helping me find the ability to say 'no' and reconnect with my own authenticity'.
Eva Leppard, Australia
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In this introductory session you will be encouraged to identify your personal goals and learning outcomes and you will be guided to reflect the core beliefs and self-talk that might have been making it difficult for you to express your natural authority and say no assertively when you need to.
This is the workbook version of the above video, including written activities to help you take your learning further
This video goes into greater depth about how you can move from being a 'people pleaser' to being able to assertively and confidently say no when it is appropriate to do so.
1. I have also made the mp3 of this lecture available for download for anyone who would prefer to listen on a mobile device, rather than watch a video online
In this video you will learn about five simple but important tips to help you stay strong, avoid pressure and say no when you really want to. (Assuming you have no contractual obligations to say yes !)
In this videoyou will be guided through some practical exercises to help you take back your power and discover the latest research into how your choice of words can either help or hinder your ability to change
This workbook supplements the videos in section Two and goes into greater depth about how you can move from being a 'people pleaser' to being able to assertively and confidently say no when it is appropriate to do so.
You will also have the opportunity to work through some practical exercises to help you take back your power.
This final video recaps on key points of learning from the course, encourages you to keep practicing what you have learnt and concludes with suggested further resources.
Anne Marshall, RGN, RM, Cert. Ed. (Dist) BSc, DHyp (Dist) is a, Clinical Hypnotherapist, Freelance Trainer, author of The Health Factor, and over 40 audio books and e-courses, all designed to help you move beyond your perceived limitations to greater success.
She is a former Midwife and Nurse Teacher with a BSc in Nursing Management, a Post Graduate Diploma in Clinical Hypnosis from The London College of Clinical Hypnosis, and a Postgraduate Certificate in Coaching and Mentoring from Oxford Brookes University.
She specialises in teaching EFT and NLP techniques along with future visioning, self-hypnosis and mental rehearsal to help people in business realise their best potential.
Her approach offers a rare combination of deep intuition blended with the latest research into the use of hypnosis in business, all leading you to the realisation that you can in fact achieve so much more than you ever thought you could.