Raising Responsible, Emotionally Mature Children
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Raising Responsible, Emotionally Mature Children

Learn skills and strategies to create a loving and nurturing home.
4.6 (52 ratings)
Instead of using a simple lifetime average, Udemy calculates a course's star rating by considering a number of different factors such as the number of ratings, the age of ratings, and the likelihood of fraudulent ratings.
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Last updated 7/2015
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  • 4.5 hours on-demand video
  • 1 Article
  • 17 Supplemental Resources
  • Full lifetime access
  • Access on mobile and TV
  • Certificate of Completion
What Will I Learn?
  • Establish loving authority in your home
  • Create conditions to open up communication and build trust
  • Build an atmosphere of harmony rather than criticism, bickering, or putdowns
  • Resolve disagreements and conflicts constructively and without power struggles
  • Give up parenting habits that destroy self-esteem and weaken relationships
  • Teach your children to assume responsibility for their feelings and actions
  • Set limits and enforce discipline without being heavy-handed
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Parenting is tough and mistakes made in a moment can take years to repair. Therefore, learning the skills of effective parenting will be one of the most worthwhile ventures you ever pursue.

Roger K. Allen, PhD, has studied family relationships for many years and developed a time-tested set of tools to help parents succeed in raising responsible, emotionally mature children. Replete with examples and case studies, his time-proven course gives you concrete strategies you can immediately put into practice.

We know that good communication is at the heart of a healthy family. But so often our natural tendencies are to either over control or cave-in and overindulge our children. Either way, our children either fail to learn from their experiences or grow in emotional maturity and self-responsibility.

Dr. Allen will teach you skills to establish loving authority in your home, put an end to conflict and power struggles, and communicate with your children (from toddlers to teens) in ways that solve problems, build trust, enhance self-worth, and help your children learn personal responsibility. Are you ready to start the journey?

Who is the target audience?
  • This course is for parents (toddlers to teens) who need tools and skills to build happier relationships and emotionally healthy children.
  • Any parent who needs new strategies for appropriately dealing with a child or teenager.
  • New parents who want to raise successful, responsible children.
Curriculum For This Course
50 Lectures
Welcome and Overview
3 Lectures 18:03

The purpose of this course is to help you learn principles and communication skills to create a happy and nurturing climate within your home.

Preview 06:08

This video provides a few suggestions how you can get the most from your investment in this course. A few tips about taking notes, completing the exercises, and referring to the supplied PDF reference guides are included.

How to Get the Most From This Course

Our primary goal, as we parent, is the development of our children.

Preview 09:30
Family Climate
5 Lectures 21:17

Families vary on two dimensions: how responsive we are to our children and how demanding we are. These dimensions result in four styles of parenting: uninvolved, permissive, authoritarian, and nurturing.

Overview of Family Climate

I will help you understand the characteristics of a permissive climate and share examples of parenting young children and teens when we are permissive.

The Permissive Climate

I describe the characteristics and give examples of an authoritarian family climate.

The Authoritarian Climate

I help you understand how nurturing parents communicate and interact with their children.

The Nurturing Climate

This is a downloadable/printable PDF of the Family Climate Summary Chart.

Family Climate Summary Chart
1 page
Principles of a Nurturing Home
4 Lectures 08:36

You'll learn the nine principles of a nurturing home and the relationship between these principles and family outcomes.

Overview of Nine Principles of a Nurturing Home

This is a downloadable/printable PDF which contains more detailed information about the Nine Principles of a Nurturing Home.

Nine Principles of a Nurturing Home - Document
7 pages

You'll complete an exercise to make your day-to-day behavior correspond with the principles of a nurturing home.

If...Then... Exercise

This is a PDF worksheet for you to complete which contains the If-Then exercises.

If - Then Exercise Worksheet
2 pages
Weakening vs. Strengthening Communication
7 Lectures 36:42

Key moments are upsetting situations or events when it's easy to get hooked and react to our children. As we learn to handle them well, we use them to help our children grow in responsibility and emotional maturity.

The Key Moment Model

This is a reference guide which summarizes the Key Moment Model.

The Key Moment Model - Reference Guide
1 page

This is a reference guide containing detailed information about overmanaging and overindulging.

Over-Managing & Overindulging - Reference Guide
2 pages

We respond very differently if our primary goal is maturation rather than solving problems, during key moments.

Maturation Over Problem-Solving

You will learn the three skill sets that form the foundation of all positive parent-child interactions.

The Cycle of Strengthening Behavior

A document summarizing the skills we use to stengthen our children during key moments.

What We Do That Strengthens
1 page

The objectives of our communication are more than solving the immediate problem. It includes building trust, enhancing self-worth, and fostering maturation.

Outcomes of Our Communication

This quiz will check to see how well you are remembering the basic concepts of this course, for sections 1-4.

Check Your Understanding 1
5 questions
Creating Safe and Trusting Conditions (Empathy Skills)
7 Lectures 45:50

We use these skills to create an atmosphere of unconditional love, mutual respect and acceptance in which our children develop emotional literacy and the ability to deal with the challenges of their lives.

Overview of the Empathy Skills

Respecting is more than a communication technique. It is recognizing and communicating the inherent goodness and capability of each family member.


Affirming is using non-verbals as well as verbal comments to express our love and reinforce desired behaviors in our children.


Listening is suspending judgment and being fully present with a child to understand her experience or point of view. Children mature as they feel validated through good listening responses.

Listening-Part I

Mirroring is matching a child's emotions, gestures, facial expressions, etc. to get into deep rapport and help them work through troubling emotions.

Preview 08:55

Supporting is asking questions about how we might be helpful rather than guessing or taking over.


This is a document you can refer to for a summary/overview of the empathy skills.

Summary/Overview of the Empathy Skills
1 page
Speaking the Truth (Honesty Skills)
10 Lectures 56:58

As parents, we need to be honest with our children about our own feelings and perceptions. The purpose is to expand their awareness and also take care of our own needs.

Overview of Honesty Skills

Disclosing is being truthful about our own experience so our children are not in the dark and guessing (or not caring) about what's going on inside of us.


Care-fronting is giving feedback about behavior that is either outside our child's awareness, is harmful to others, or interferes with our needs as parents.


Reproving is a direct confrontation of a clearly inappropriate behavior.


A PDF reference guide to help your understand and apply the elements of the reproving skill.

The Reproving Skill
1 page

Negotiating agreements enables us to work through conflicts to solutions we can all support. The skill also helps our children learn skills in dialogue and collaboration and take ownership of their commitments.

Negotiating Agreements

This is a document which contains details about the negotiating skill discussed in this section.

The Negotiating Skill
1 page

We use Harnessing Harmful Behavior with challenging or defiant children in order to help them stop manipulating and learn better strategies for dealing with their problems and negative emotions.

Harnessing Harmful Behavior

This is a document which provides detailed information about how to harness harmful behavior.

The Harnessing Skill
1 page

This document provides a summary of the Honesty skills discussed in this section of the course.

Summary of the Honesty Skills
1 page
Instilling Responsibility (Responsibility Skills)
8 Lectures 58:41

Creating structure is a way we bring discipline and accountability into the lives of our children.

Overview and Creating Structure

Setting expectations and enforcing consequences teach children the cause effect relationship between their choices and consequences as well as necessity of respecting the inevitable boundaries (rules) of life.

Enforcing Consequences-Part I

We end up being wishy-washy and renegotiating everything if our expectations are not clear. We'll learn how to establish expectations that are both clear and understood by our children.

Preview 08:30

This document is a reference guide for enforcing consequences.

Guide for Enforcing Consequences
1 page

We help children grow as we encourage age-appropriate choices and allow them to "own" and solve their problems.

Encouraging Autonomy

Questions, rather than lecturing, enable children to think deeply about their lives, identify what is important to them, options available to them, and actions to make good things happen.

Asking Valuing Questions

This PDF document provides information about how to ask valuing questions.

Valuing Questions Reference Guide
1 page

This document provides a summary and review of the Responsibility Skills.

Summary of Responsibility Skills
1 page
Parenting with a Soft Heart
2 Lectures 13:44

Good parenting is not as much about getting our children to be different as getting ourselves to be different. By changing ourselves, our own emotional reactions, our relationships change.

Parenting with a Soft Heart

This document provides details about the process: Stop - Look - Listen - Choose.

Reference Guide for Stop - Look - Listen - Choose
1 page

This quiz will check to see how well you are remembering the basic concepts of this course, for sections 5-8.

Check Your Understanding 2
5 questions
Final Word
3 Lectures 06:20

We bring it all together in this last lecture by reviewing the relationship between our principles, behaviors (communication skills) and outcomes of our parenting.

Final Word

This document provides information about the HERO Principle.

Guide to the HERO Principle
1 page

This docuemnt includes a chart listing the behavior and related outcomes in a nurturing family.

Chart for Principles-Behavior-Outcomes
1 page
1 Lecture 00:16

You can download and unzip the folder which contains all the audio files (MP3 format) for the videos in this course. Load them on your audio player or phone to listen to and reinforce the lessons while you are on-the-go.

Audio Files (MP3s) for Downloading
About the Instructor
Roger K. Allen
4.6 Average rating
64 Reviews
3,215 Students
2 Courses
Author, Consultant, Speaker, & Father

Roger K. Allen, PhD, co-founded and served as President of the Human Development Institute from 1981 to 1990 and provided thousands of hours of individual, marriage and family counseling to a diverse client population for the next ten years. In addition to coordinating the work of other professionals, he created and taught programs in personal and family development (including parenting) which have been taught dozens of times in several cities around the country. Dr. Allen also co-founded the Center for Organizational Design in which he's worked with leaders of many Fortune 500 companies such as AT&T Capital, Merck Pharmaceuticals, Honeywell, Proctor & Gamble, Hewlett Packard, and Coach Leatherware to help leaders define their vision and create a high performance workplace in which each employee is a contributing partner in the business. Dr. Allen has certified over 800 trainers and consultants from around the world to use his programs. His training in both leadership and personal/family development has been acclaimed as among the most most influential learning experiences available anywhere.

"In my career as a specialist providing treatment to adolescents and their families, I have seen many parenting theories, models and books but nothing which rises to the stature of this work by Dr. Allen." Michael E. Berrett, Ph.D., Psychologist, nationally known clinical teacher, and CEO of Center for Change

“You have done a masterful job and your work will be a great blessing to thousands of parents."Dr. Dennis Deaton, Award-winning Author: Ownership Spirit and Co-founder of Quma Learning Systems

Roger Allen takes a difficult subject that is close to our hearts, and in an engaging manner, inspires us to become better parents and grandparents." Hyrum Smith, Co-Founder FranklinCovey

“The results have been amazing." Janis Blake, mother, grandmother, and former school teacher

“My absolute favorite 'go -to' parenting resource. Keri Krout,Mother of 7, parent coach, early childhood educator

"The preparation, teaching and writing that Roger Allen has done has changed more lives than you and I can imagine. Literally thousands of professionals are exposed each year to his material and the ripple effect has changed people's lives, made work easy, faster and better. Almost weekly I get rave reviews on his material. I cannot say enough about this man and his writings. I have purchased cases of his books and material to share with others. Call me or write me if you desire further insights on his work." March 26, 2009, Jim Ullery, President, Center for Organizational Energy

Steve Churchill
4.6 Average rating
219 Reviews
9,565 Students
5 Courses
Author + Instructional Designer

Steven is an author and instructional designer who successfully creates interactive training programs for thousands of employees in several of the U.S.'s largest companies. He's committed to helping people get better work and income through learning new, more marketable skills. He earned Master's and Bachelor's degrees, but his career and business depend primarily on self-taught skills. He wrote the book, How to Learn Higher Paying Skills, available on Amazon. He's launched his own instructional media company, Didactable, LLC. He finds it odd to refer to himself in third-person!