We've all been Overwhelmed at times, haven't we? When we have so much to do that we don't know where to start. Well, this course will show you where the feeling of Overwhelm comes from and how easy it is to let go of this feeling.
This isn't the standard, 'how to' course with tips and techniques but, by using the Three Principles of Mind, Consciousness and Thought, you'll learn how powerful and illusory thought is, and the role that thought plays in your life and in your feelings of Overwhelm.
Watch a lecture or section at a time and let the simple, yet profound, messages settle. You will be amazed at how much in your life changes for the better and how easily you can Overcome Overwhelm.
Constantly battling with feelings of stress, anxiety and overwhelm is debilitating. Stress and anxiety affect your health, happiness and quality of life. But what if everything that you knew about stress and overwhelm was wrong? What if, rather than managing the feeling of overwhelm and stress, you could understand where it came from and then find a way to let the feeling go?
And this is going to be easier than you think.
That’s the amazing special effect power of consciousness, it makes everything we think real to us. Have you ever had an argument with someone in your head. You know how it goes, you do your bit and then you do their bit? You wind yourself up with this argument whilst your mood goes down until you feel upset and angry - but the conversation wasn’t ‘real’ was it? You made it up.
If you think that you aren’t always feeling your thinking, try having miserable thoughts and a happy feeling - it ain’t going to happen!
It’s easy to think that there’s a link between our circumstances or problems and the way we feel but I hope that you can see that there is no direct link between the two. How can there be a link between something that is happening on the outside and something that is happening on the inside?
When you believe that the feeling is coming from the circumstances, you try and fix the outside world and don’t address your state of mind. That’s when people feel overwhelmed and victimised by the outside world. It’s very hard to think straight and behave reasonably when you’re overwhelmed and under pressure.
When you’re trying to control your thinking, you’re not seeing that your thinking is out of control. Ironically, the more we have on our minds, the less we actually get done. It is like paralysis, we think that we should be doing so much that we don’t know where to start and our thinking shoots off in different directions. The more frantic our thinking, the more frantic we feel.
It’s like trying to open too many windows on your computer and getting the spinning ball of doom. The computer gets overloaded and might shut down, or it will definitely slow down. But there isn’t anything wrong with the computer, when it resets it starts to work properly. It stops being overloaded.
Recognising that you’re feeling your thinking helps you to reset the machine. Helps you to return to Clarity.
Years ago, people thought that mind and body were separate but the field of Quantum Physics has proven that mind and body are related. We are always in a state of being. We are always thinking our feeling. If we have around 70,000 thoughts a day, how many of those thoughts are we aware of? We can’t possibly be aware of that many thoughts, thought flows through us until we get stuck on one and then we make it important. And then we add more thought to that thought until we feel overwhelmed.
Life is a thought based experience. Even if you think that isn’t true, you’d have to have a thought about it not being true to experience it.
Isn’t having a relationship is good thing? So why do we get overwhelmed in relationships?
If you want to feel close to your partner again, remember what you like about them? When you’re upset or angry it’s easy to imagine that there isn’t anything you like but maybe it’s their smile or how their hair feels? It doesn’t have to be something big. Think about that rather than what they’ve done or said watch your mood shift. If you keep thinking about what you think is wrong with them, how do you expect to feel loving towards them?
When you notice that you’re overthinking, the shift starts and your head begins to clear because you can see how futile and upsetting it is to keep going down the same path. The overwhelm disappears like smoke in the air and life becomes lighter.
Our minds complicate things too much. Relationships are the most complicated things because we are always in our personal thinking about a relationship. We try to solve problems from our own perspective, not realising, as I’ve said before, at that moment that the other person is in their own reality bubble.
A time that people imagine that their partner has got away with something is when one of the couple has had an affair and, although they have decided to stay together, the injured party cannot let it go. That’s when they think that if they let it go, their partner has got away with it. The innocent, injured one is hurt and angry and can’t feel loving or happy towards the one that had the affair. They think that if they act in this way, their partner will think that they have been forgiven and the one that is suffering wants the other one to suffer too.
When you notice that you’re upset or angry, you know that you aren’t in a clear mind and although it feels like a relationship problem, it feels as if your partner is the cause of your upset, it really isn’t. It’s a thinking problem.
When you’re in the wrong head, it’s so easy to get overwhelmed with thoughts about how this relationship isn’t right, how you might be better off on your own, or even with someone else. It’s understandable to innocently believe that your feeling is telling your something. It is. It’s telling you that your in the wrong head! It’s telling you that you have a head full of thinking and you’re heading for overwhelm.
Parenting comes with a world of shoulds and projections of ourselves as good or bad parents. We get in to our thinking about what we imagine other people are thinking and, strangely enough, you never imagine that they are thinking that you're wonderful, do you?
Even if you immediately bond with your baby and fall instantly in love with this tiny person, you have still gone from someone who, although you may not have realised it, had time to read the paper or enjoy a cup of coffee to someone who hasn’t had time to take a shower or brush their hair. And this is overwhelming.
So, you get through the baby stage and are hopefully patting yourself on the back when you hit toddler time.
This really is a time to let your child be your teacher.
It’s so easy to forget how difficult it is to be a teenager, when hormones are rampaging and you’re stuck between being a child and an adult. Teenagers are often overwhelmed and the last thing either of you need is for you both to be caught up in overwhelm. If you've been lucky enough to share the nature of thought with your children when they were younger, your teenager won’t be caught in this maelstrom of emotion because they will see where their reactions and impulses come from. And life can be a dance.
How many get that Sunday night dread when you think about Monday morning? I’ve known people that started to get that Monday feeling as early as Saturday afternoon.
Why do so many people get overwhelmed in their working life? You might be the Company Chairman, the Personal Assistant, an Administrator or in a small business or working for yourself, it seems that everyone, regardless of position, feels overwhelmed at work occasionally.
Another way that people become overwhelmed at work is when they feel that they’re being judged and they are judging themselves. It’s understandable that you react to the things that people say and do and get in to a lot of thinking about whether someone else is doing their job properly, maybe you feel that they aren’t doing their fair share of an allocated task and the bulk of the work is down to you. This can really send people into overwhelm.
People get overwhelmed by expectations, meetings, goals and deadlines in the working world. But if you think that your job is overwhelming you, is it the case every day? Are there days that seem easier than others? Why do you think this is? It’s always going to be your thinking about the job that you’re getting overwhelmed by. But it doesn’t look like that, does it? It looks as if it’s your boss or the hundreds of emails you’ve got to get through.
Ironically, people want to be effective and efficient in business without realising that what keeps them ineffective in business is spending too much time thinking abut thing that they don’t need to be thinking about. And this still doesn’t look like thinking!
I’ve talked a lot during this course about how we are always feeling our thinking and how our experience of life comes 100% from the inside, from us, and never from our circumstances, even though the evidence to support this view appears compelling.
I’ve talked about how we can look at things differently and how we put ourselves through a lot of anguish and strain when we get overwhelmed but now let’s look at the feeling of overwhelm and at our thoughts through a scientific lens.
Is Physical Health an inside job? You can watch the full 51 minutes here: www.elainehilides.com
Elaine has successfully worked as a Wellbeing Facilitator for the last 15 years helping people in the fields of anxiety, depression, addiction and weight loss, showing people how a simple understanding of where their feelings and experiences come from can transform their lives.
She has helped hundreds of clients get the life and body that they want. Elaine also has a no.1 weight loss book on Kindle, 'MindFullness:The No-Diet Diet Book'.
Elaine is a Three Principles Practitioner and Trainer, an International Speaker, a Diet and Nutrition Advisor and Raw Food Coach and her passion is sharing all that she knows with her clients to help them to be all they want to be.
MA, BA(Hons), MSNLP, Diploma in Diet and Nutrition, Diploma as Raw Food coach, TT3P