"I was able to start using knowledge as soon as my son came home from preschool and we had the best night we've had in a long time."
"First class information on a crucial topic. Very helpful for parenting little or older kids..."
"Good advice and tips how to actually resolve the situation."
"Very helpful...new points of view.... I think about our relationships with my son...I learned a lot about preventing power struggling .... thank you so much..."
These videos are fun demonstrations -- NOT boring lectures. You will learn through these exercises how to respond when a child is screaming for a cookie or a toddler won't stay in bed. Also includes solutions on how to get your child to take out the trash (without having to ask), and other real-life examples of your common power struggles.
In this video you will see an example of a common power struggle. I will also share a brief overview of who gets into power struggles. And finally, what you will learn about power struggles and with whom these ideas will work.
This handout is for reference for the first 11 lectures. It includes:
You will learn 6 needs all children have when they are born. You will also learn how getting these needs met (or not) will affect your child's behavior.
You will also learn the 4 mistaken goals when a child is discouraged from getting these needs met.
In this lecture I will use a parent volunteer to help you learn how to identify the Mistaken Goals which are:
For each goal, you will be shown:
Let's see how much you remember about your children's needs and the 4 mistaken goals.
In this lecture parents will learn one of the ways we respond do that makes us be ineffective, lose our child’s respect, and have them tune us out. You will also learn the first step to get out of a power struggle. It's not the only step, but its ALWAYS the first step.
In this video you will learn:
In this article you will learn more clearly about preventing the joy off opposing by using the tool, " respond like a broken record".
In his lecture you will learn the 3 parenting styles and how they interact with a child in he goal of power. The 3 examples are:
You will learn, through an exercise with a parent volunteer, how the child feels and reacts to each of these parenting styles.
In this lecture you are asked to think of 3 areas that you power struggle with your children. Some common areas are:
You will want to keep these power struggles in mind as you go through the rest of the videos so you can practically apply the tools you are learning to your particular power struggles.
This article will help you design a bedtime routine that works.
This is your handout listing the 8 ways to get out of a power struggle.
In this lecture you will learn what happens when you yell at your child or ask her to take out the trash over and over. With the parent volunteer, you will see the results of the "ineffective" way to handle this situation.
You will then learn a much better alternative to get your child to take out the trash without yelling or asking repeatedly.
In this lecture, I will teach you the question to ask yourself to get out of a power struggle.
This idea will also solve the underlying reason for the power struggle.
In this lecture you will learn:
This article will provide you with more example of how and why to teach your child to say no respectfully.
In this lecture you will learn the guidelines for successfully offering your child choices to get out of a power struggle.
This article gives you 5 creative ways to offer your child choices.
This is the idea I use to get out of a power struggle that I think I may lose.
In this lecture you will learn how and when to choose win-win negotiation to get out of a power struggle with a child.
I will teach you the words to use to best set up a win-win scenario that works to get out of a power struggle.
In this lecture you will learn a tool to help you get out of a power struggle. Letting go of your position does not mean the child gets his way.
This is a fun tool to get out of a power struggle. However, it takes some forethought to set it up.
This is your handout listing the 11 way to prevent power struggles.
In this lecture you will learn how and why talking less is an effective strategy to prevent power struggles.
Learn my FAVORITE tool of all time to prevent a power struggle and the examples of how I successfully used it with my kids.
Here are 2 more ways to prevent a power struggle:
I also share a fun story of how I taught my kids I mean what I say!
This is a handout that gives you 16 ways to tell your child no.
What can you do if your child is yelling, "I Want A Cookie!" right before dinner?
Here are 2 more practical tools to prevent power struggles.
Here are 3 important tools to prevent power struggles from happening in the first place.
This is my favorite parenting tool of all time to prevent ALL misbehavior in kids, not just, but definitely including power struggles.
This is my favorite article about power Struggles. It will go into more detail about 8 of the concepts you learned in this video series.
What did you learn?
Hello, welcome to my Udemy Biography page! My name is Debbie Godfrey. I am a certified Parent Educator and have over 24 years of expertise in the parenting education field. Through my business Positive Parenting, I teach the Redirecting Children’s Behavior parenting skills class and the Redirecting for a Cooperative Classroom training in schools and community centers around the world. In 2013, I began teaching my classes and workshops via teleconferences and webinars, so I now have parents participating from all over the globe. Most recently I conducted parenting workshops for Google employees in France, the UK, and IMEA via Google Hangouts.
I have served many organizations, including C.A.A.N. (Child Abuse and Neglect), Casa Pacifica, Conejo Valley Substance Abuse Prevention Authority, Child Development Resources of Ventura County, the California State Foster Parent Association, Southern California Mothers of Twins, the Ventura County Wellness Program, and the Oxnard and Ventura School Districts. In April, 2007, I conducted teacher trainings at eight schools during a 30-day period in five states across India. I also taught eight parent education workshops in Beijing, China during a 2-week period in February 2008. I am the past director of Foster & Kinship Care Education at Ventura College and the regional Instructor Trainer for the Redirecting Children’s Behavior curriculum for the International Network For Children and Families. I am a member of and have sat on the board of the Ventura County Partnership for Safe Families. I am known for my humor and compassion while teaching behavior and discipline tools that work at home and in the classroom.
This is a partial list of groups, clubs, and organizations I have served in parenting classes and teacher training:
Google France and Google UK
Ventura County Foster Parents Association
Ventura County SARB (Student Attendance Review Board) *training for 50 school principals
Ventura County Partnership for Safe Families
California Mothers of Multiples
California State Foster Parents Association
Office of the Chancellor, State of California
Southern California Mothers of Twins Club
Moms Clubs of Camarillo, Thousand Oaks and Simi Valley
Ojai Valley Neighborhood for Learning
Mupu School District - *Provided Redirecting for a Cooperative Classroom for teachers, staff, and principal
Ventura Unified School District - *Regular teacher in-service trainings
Oxnard Unified School District - *Redirecting for a Cooperative Classroom for teachers with extreme discipline problems in the classroom
Conejo Valley Unified School District
Oak Grove Private School - *Teacher in-service training
National Association for the Education of Young Children - *Presented for teachers and staff
Casa Pacifica Residential Treatment Program - *in-service training for program staff and teachers
Ventura County Public Health – WIC Program - *in-service training for Public Health Nurses
Ventura County Public Health – National Pilot Study on Preventing Childhood Obesity
Pacific Sociological Association
California Sociological Association
Welham Boys, Welham Girls and The Doon School, Deradun, India -*Presented for teachers & principals
Sanskriti School, New Delhi, India-*Presented for teachers & principals
Vidya Devi, Hisar, India-*Presented for teachers & principals
Johnson Grammar School, Hyderbad, India-*Presented for teachers & principals
Mody School, Rajasthan, India-*Presented for teachers & principals The Learning Center, Beijing, China