Mindful & Responsive Parenting: Communication That Works

Manage Emotions & Meet Your Children's Needs - Research Based Online Parenting Skills and Resources
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About This Course

Published 10/2015 English

Course Description

Do you want to:

  • reduce your stress in parenting,
  • improve your relationship with your child,
  • parent more effectively and be kinder and less reactive in your family or
  • help your children's development unfold naturally and with ease?
  • enjoy being with your children and have them enjoy being with you?


Then you are not alone - and you are in the right place


You will also learn how to:

  • take better care of yourself
  • develop more empathy and compassion for yourself and your child
  • tolerate difficult emotions in yourself and your child better
  • become more accepting of yourself and your child
  • resolve conflict better with your child
  • develop a stronger bond and relationship with your child


Emotions can help us or hurt us:

They hurt us when they are in the drivers seat and we are at their mercy. That's can so easily happen in parenting - when one action or comment from our child can mean we lose our cool have an angry outburst and undo all the good work and connection we have had. This breaks the trust we shared and undermines our children's well-being.

Parenting is not easy

Despite the fact that I love my children, I would say it is the hardest job I have ever done. I'm not going to tell you how to do it - there are thousands of books you can buy that will do that.

I want to equip you with the skills and resources that you need to thrive - and that you need to connect wholeheartedly with your child, managing your emotions and helping them to manage theirs. That's what this online parenting course is all about.

I want to give you the information you need to develop the kind of relationship you want to have, to communicate as the kind of loving parent you are and to raise happy, confident, kind and caring children.

Who is this Parenting Program for?

This course is for any parent or parent-to-be who wants to feel confident that they are meeting their children's psychological needs and resourcing themselves to best do that - read on......

Inside this online parenting course you will find:

  1. Short and practical skill development exercises
  2. Research based recommendations
  3. Video lectures
  4. Downloadable resources for ongoing use
  5. A friendly discussion board and qualified instructor support to answer all your questions

My promise to you?

That if you master these skills, you will be the best parent your children could hope for.

In this parenting course I ask that you use these principles as your guide as we go through the course together:

  1. honour your own experience - trust your inner wisdom
  2. not judge your thoughts and feelings as right or wrong - be curious about them and listen deeply
  3. be patient - that this will unfold and you will slow down to allow yourself to connect to these skills and practices
  4. bring some lightness and even playfulness to the table - parenting can feel heavy and intense and a little humour can be a marvellous antidote

Mindfulness and Self Compassion are perhaps the most profoundly supportive parenting resources available.

They brought me back from the brink of exhaustion, depletion and depression and restored my enjoyment of parenting again. My relationship with my husband and children became far more loving and connected and our happiness and well-being flourished.

Responsive Parenting is what delivers optimal outcomes for children and that is why it is researched and recommended by the World Health Organisation, Harvard, Yale, Stanford and so many other powerhouses of child development research

And the good news it is available to you no matter what your personal philosophy of parenting might be. In this course you will learn what Mindful and Responsive Parenting is and practice the fundamental skills that make it possible.

Join us.

What are the requirements?

  • Nothing special is needed before taking this course except for an open mind and a willingness to try a few things out in the privacy of your own mind!

What am I going to get from this course?

  • Develop parenting skills that build a lasting connection and healthy relationship with your child through every stage of their development
  • Support your child's well-being and equip them to manage the ups and down of life by choosing smart responses to their behavior
  • Feel confident that your parenting practices are based on research validated principles recommended by the World Health Organisation and major parenting research centres across the world

What is the target audience?

  • This is a great course for any parent or parent-to-be who wants to understand exactly what parenting principles underpin the best outcomes for children
  • This is also a great course for any parent or parent-to-be who wants their child to see them as someone they can always come back to for emotional support and understanding - who will help them learn and grow

What you get with this course?

Not for you? No problem.
30 day money back guarantee.

Forever yours.
Lifetime access.

Learn on the go.
Desktop, iOS and Android.

Get rewarded.
Certificate of completion.

Curriculum

Section 1: Start Here
02:22

understand what this course is about and why it is so important to your children's well-being

Article

See an outline of each section of the course

Section 2: Responsive Parenting: What does it look like?
ACTIVITY: Checking in
02:21
04:51

understand what mindful and responsive parenting is and why experts agree that no matter what your parenting philosophy is, THIS is the foundation it must be based on for the happiness and success of your child

01:56

Have a fuller picture of just how much influence this foundation of good parenting has in terms of outcomes for your child

02:53

Maintaining this kind of connection with your child required that you look after your own health and well-being. Look at what the research shows!

Article

This lecture brings your attention to the Practical Exercises throughout the course, designed to:

  1. improve your well-being and happiness - a huge pre-requisite for mindful and responsive parenting!
  2. help you resource yourself for the parenting journey
  3. and develop the core skills of Mindful and Responsive Parenting.

These exercises are like your "tool kit" and can be done again and again, not just when they appear in the course.

02:01

The good news and bad news of how our brain is wired and why we need to get into the drivers seat to manage our own well-being to be there for our children

Understanding

  1. how our brains are wired
  2. the link between our happiness and our children's
Section 3: Resourcing Yourself for Mindful and Responsive Parenting
1 page

A Practical Exercise of Self Discovery: Print out your own Well-Being Plate and review your resources for the parenting journey. You can take notes on this worksheet as you work though this section of the course and at the end you will have a good sense of what's working for you and what you want to invest in.

07:58


We now identify where to draw energy, resources and the capacity to deliver what our children most need from us

Resourcing Yourself Part 2 (the well-being plate)
01:57
Resourcing Yourself Part 3 (positive emotions)
10:56
03:13

In this lecture we move from what you as an individual can do to resource yourself for Mindful and Responsive Parenting to what you as a couple can do. In the resources section you will find a short video from the biggest powerhouses of research on relationships showing the 4 things that most undermine happy couples. In the lecture we go through how you can come together around parenting even if your relationship is a little rocky right now (so often is in early days of parenting!)

Section 4: The Core Skills of Mindful and Responsive Parenting: Mindfulness
02:17

Clarify what mindfulness is in simple terms, hear what it looks like in every day life and make the connection to responsive parenting

03:13

In this lecture we will unpack what mindfulness in parenting actually looks like, how it supports your relationship with your child and what the benefits are to both you and your child.

02:57

A simple mindfulness technique that you can do anywhere, anytime as you go about your day, which will build the skill of mindfulness and transform your day.

06:13

Another simple mindfulness exercise for busy parents that solidly builds mindfulness into your parenting and your life!

When you are stressed, your body speeds up because usually stress means that the body has detected a threat and is preparing for action. We are now going to explore a short mindfulness exercise as a way to begin to relax, unwind, and soothe ourselves - to give our brain a chance to recuperate. A natural entry into mindfulness is through the body and senses.


We are going to look at letting tension go, trying not to see tension as a bad thing or our enemy and something that we have to get rid of but rather as an understandable way that our body tries to protect us (by making our body ready for action). We can gently help the body understand that it does not need to be like this right now. As we let go of our tension it is like giving the body permission to relax. You can do this practice any time when you have a bit of quiet and privacy, either sitting or lying down and it is a great one to do just before going to sleep

Section 5: The Core Skills of Mindful and Responsive Parenting: Self Compassion
02:28

In this lecture we will clarify what self compassion is and help you see the value of this core skill for mindful and responsive parenting. "We're all carrying a load, including tasks, challenges, worries, inner criticism, physical and emotional pain, loss and illness, and everyday stresses and frustrations.

Take a moment to get a sense of your own load. It's very real, isn't it?

Recognizing it is just honesty and self-compassion, not exaggeration or self-pity. There's a fundamental model in the health sciences that how you feel and function is based on just three factors: your load, the personal vulnerabilities it wears upon, and the resources you have.

As a law of nature, if your load or vulnerabilities increase, so must your resources. Otherwise, inevitably, you will get strained, depleted, and ground down." Rick Hanson (guest on Mindfulness 4 Mothers here on Udemy). As parents, we need to develop self compassion as a core skill of Mindful and Responsive Parenting - our load is very real and we need to resource ourselves - self compassion lets this in. Find out how.

03:03

A short but important self compassion practice that will help you build this into your responsive parenting and make the whole process become second nature.

02:53

A simple practice of self compassion that I learned from one of the experts in my mindfulness 4 mothers program. One that is easy to do anywhere, anytime and brings you right back to the core of responsive parenting.

Section 6: The Core Skills of Mindful and Responsive Parenting: Emotion Coaching
03:48

Explore how you view the emotions of your children and understand the enormous effect this an have on their ability to manage their own emotions

01:42

Find out more about Emotion Coaching and why it is a core parenting skill with outcomes like these:

Outcomes for Children of Emotion-Coaching Parents

  • They had higher reading and math scores at age 8, even controlling statistically for IQ differences at age 4.
  • Coached children had better abilities with focusing attention, sustaining attention, and shifting attention.
  • Coached children had greater self-soothing ability even when upset during a parent-child interaction.
  • Coached children self-soothed better, delayed gratification better, and had better impulse control.
  • Parents didn’t have to calm children's negativity as much.
  • Coached children don’t whine very much.
  • Coached children had fewer behavior problems of all kinds (aggression and depression).
  • Coached children had better relations with other children.
  • Coached children had fewer infectious illnesses.
01:36

Let's start practicing: This exercise will help you tune in to your emotions and how you experience them, raising your awareness and developing greater emotional intelligence

04:07

This exercise will further build your emotional awareness and literacy - and in the resources section you can find a fuller compilation of emotion labels that you can download to support this (thanks to fellow student Jacqueline Seidel for sharing this fabulous resource)

03:13

Now translate that learning into a step by step process that will transform your child's experience of their difficult emotions

Section 7: The Core Skills of Mindful and Responsive Parenting: Self Regulation
03:03

Hear about Self Regulation and how all the other core skills build on each other to equip you to be the best parent your child could hope for!

02:29

In this lecture the following questions will be answered

What is Self Regulation?

What effect does our parenting have on our children's self regulation capabilities?

08:36

Practice applying the skills you have learned so far in a common parenting challenge and grow your self awareness and self regulation

Section 8: Step By Step Process of Mindful and Responsive Parenting
12:15

Ok - so we are going to jump right in with an example from your own life - a time recently when your child was upset, so you can recreate what you would do from a mindful and responsive parenting perspective.

We are going to draw on all the skills you have been practicing so you can see what it might be like "in the moment” as we say!

Section 9: Where to From Here
Article

I will share discount coupons for my other programs here on Udemy which can further resource you for your parenting journey. I will show you how to stay in touch and be the first to know when Part 2 of this course is published, along with other courses planned.

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Instructor Biography

Kellie Edwards, Psychologist, Mindfulness Teacher & Online Educator

I am a Psychologist, Mindfulness Teacher and Well-Being Coach

What makes the difference between a happy life and an unhappy life? What do happy and wholehearted people do differently to the rest? I have spent my professional and personal life exploring and testing the science of well-being and have developed several online mindfulness based well-being and parenting programs based on the results. I also take on a small number of individual clients internationally over Skype and in my home town of Melbourne, Australia.

I interview and work with many international experts including Tara Brach, Rick Hanson, Elisha Goldstein, Barbara Fredrickson and more.

I draw from Positive Psychology and the Neuroscience of Flourishing, and with my unique combination of skills and my own parenting and life experience, work passionately with people to help them open up new possibilities in their lives. I write regularly about Happiness, Mindfulness and Parenting for The Huffington Post. Everyday Mindfulness, BubHub and PsychCentral amongst others.

You can contact me at kellie@flourishtime.com

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