Do you want to:
Then you are not alone - and you are in the right place
You will also learn how to:
Emotions can help us or hurt us:
They hurt us when they are in the drivers seat and we are at their mercy. That's can so easily happen in parenting - when one action or comment from our child can mean we lose our cool have an angry outburst and undo all the good work and connection we have had. This breaks the trust we shared and undermines our children's well-being.
Parenting is not easy
Despite the fact that I love my children, I would say it is the hardest job I have ever done. I'm not going to tell you how to do it - there are thousands of books you can buy that will do that.
I want to equip you with the skills and resources that you need to thrive - and that you need to connect wholeheartedly with your child, managing your emotions and helping them to manage theirs. That's what this online parenting course is all about.
I want to give you the information you need to develop the kind of relationship you want to have, to communicate as the kind of loving parent you are and to raise happy, confident, kind and caring children.
Who is this Parenting Program for?
This course is for any parent or parent-to-be who wants to feel confident that they are meeting their children's psychological needs and resourcing themselves to best do that - read on......
Inside this online parenting course you will find:
My promise to you?
That if you master these skills, you will be the best parent your children could hope for.
In this parenting course I ask that you use these principles as your guide as we go through the course together:
Mindfulness and Self Compassion are perhaps the most profoundly supportive parenting resources available.
They brought me back from the brink of exhaustion, depletion and depression and restored my enjoyment of parenting again. My relationship with my husband and children became far more loving and connected and our happiness and well-being flourished.
Responsive Parenting is what delivers optimal outcomes for children and that is why it is researched and recommended by the World Health Organisation, Harvard, Yale, Stanford and so many other powerhouses of child development research
And the good news it is available to you no matter what your personal philosophy of parenting might be. In this course you will learn what Mindful and Responsive Parenting is and practice the fundamental skills that make it possible.
understand what mindful and responsive parenting is and why experts agree that no matter what your parenting philosophy is, THIS is the foundation it must be based on for the happiness and success of your child
Have a fuller picture of just how much influence this foundation of good parenting has in terms of outcomes for your child
Maintaining this kind of connection with your child required that you look after your own health and well-being. Look at what the research shows!
This lecture brings your attention to the Practical Exercises throughout the course, designed to:
These exercises are like your "tool kit" and can be done again and again, not just when they appear in the course.
The good news and bad news of how our brain is wired and why we need to get into the drivers seat to manage our own well-being to be there for our children
A Practical Exercise of Self Discovery: Print out your own Well-Being Plate and review your resources for the parenting journey. You can take notes on this worksheet as you work though this section of the course and at the end you will have a good sense of what's working for you and what you want to invest in.
We now identify where to draw energy, resources and the capacity to deliver what our children most need from us
In this lecture we move from what you as an individual can do to resource yourself for Mindful and Responsive Parenting to what you as a couple can do. In the resources section you will find a short video from the biggest powerhouses of research on relationships showing the 4 things that most undermine happy couples. In the lecture we go through how you can come together around parenting even if your relationship is a little rocky right now (so often is in early days of parenting!)
Clarify what mindfulness is in simple terms, hear what it looks like in every day life and make the connection to responsive parenting
In this lecture we will unpack what mindfulness in parenting actually looks like, how it supports your relationship with your child and what the benefits are to both you and your child.
A simple mindfulness technique that you can do anywhere, anytime as you go about your day, which will build the skill of mindfulness and transform your day.
Another simple mindfulness exercise for busy parents that solidly builds mindfulness into your parenting and your life!
When you are stressed, your body speeds up because usually stress means that the body has detected a threat and is preparing for action. We are now going to explore a short mindfulness exercise as a way to begin to relax, unwind, and soothe ourselves - to give our brain a chance to recuperate. A natural entry into mindfulness is through the body and senses.
We are going to look at letting tension go, trying not to see tension as a bad thing or our enemy and something that we have to get rid of but rather as an understandable way that our body tries to protect us (by making our body ready for action). We can gently help the body understand that it does not need to be like this right now. As we let go of our tension it is like giving the body permission to relax. You can do this practice any time when you have a bit of quiet and privacy, either sitting or lying down and it is a great one to do just before going to sleep
In this lecture we will clarify what self compassion is and help you see the value of this core skill for mindful and responsive parenting. "We're all carrying a load, including tasks, challenges, worries, inner criticism, physical and emotional pain, loss and illness, and everyday stresses and frustrations.
Take a moment to get a sense of your own load. It's very real, isn't it?
Recognizing it is just honesty and self-compassion, not exaggeration or self-pity. There's a fundamental model in the health sciences that how you feel and function is based on just three factors: your load, the personal vulnerabilities it wears upon, and the resources you have.
As a law of nature, if your load or vulnerabilities increase, so must your resources. Otherwise, inevitably, you will get strained, depleted, and ground down." Rick Hanson (guest on Mindfulness 4 Mothers here on Udemy). As parents, we need to develop self compassion as a core skill of Mindful and Responsive Parenting - our load is very real and we need to resource ourselves - self compassion lets this in. Find out how.
A short but important self compassion practice that will help you build this into your responsive parenting and make the whole process become second nature.
A simple practice of self compassion that I learned from one of the experts in my mindfulness 4 mothers program. One that is easy to do anywhere, anytime and brings you right back to the core of responsive parenting.
Explore how you view the emotions of your children and understand the enormous effect this an have on their ability to manage their own emotions
Find out more about Emotion Coaching and why it is a core parenting skill with outcomes like these:
Outcomes for Children of Emotion-Coaching Parents
Let's start practicing: This exercise will help you tune in to your emotions and how you experience them, raising your awareness and developing greater emotional intelligence
This exercise will further build your emotional awareness and literacy - and in the resources section you can find a fuller compilation of emotion labels that you can download to support this (thanks to fellow student Jacqueline Seidel for sharing this fabulous resource)
Now translate that learning into a step by step process that will transform your child's experience of their difficult emotions
Hear about Self Regulation and how all the other core skills build on each other to equip you to be the best parent your child could hope for!
In this lecture the following questions will be answered
What is Self Regulation?
What effect does our parenting have on our children's self regulation capabilities?
Practice applying the skills you have learned so far in a common parenting challenge and grow your self awareness and self regulation
Ok - so we are going to jump right in with an example from your own life - a time recently when your child was upset, so you can recreate what you would do from a mindful and responsive parenting perspective.
We are going to draw on all the skills you have been practicing so you can see what it might be like "in the moment” as we say!
I will share discount coupons for my other programs here on Udemy which can further resource you for your parenting journey. I will show you how to stay in touch and be the first to know when Part 2 of this course is published, along with other courses planned.
I am a Psychologist, Mindfulness Teacher and Well-Being Coach
What makes the difference between a happy life and an unhappy life? What do happy and wholehearted people do differently to the rest? I have spent my professional and personal life exploring and testing the science of well-being and have developed several online mindfulness based well-being and parenting programs based on the results. I also take on a small number of individual clients internationally over Skype and in my home town of Melbourne, Australia.
I interview and work with many international experts including Tara Brach, Rick Hanson, Elisha Goldstein, Barbara Fredrickson and more.
I draw from Positive Psychology and the Neuroscience of Flourishing, and with my unique combination of skills and my own parenting and life experience, work passionately with people to help them open up new possibilities in their lives. I write regularly about Happiness, Mindfulness and Parenting for The Huffington Post. Everyday Mindfulness, New Idea and PsychCentral amongst others.
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