7 Hacks to Increase Your Social Skills
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Discover how to better understand, work with and have fun with other people
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  • 1 Supplemental Resource
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What Will I Learn?
  • Discover four personality traits that build or block our ability to connect and understand others
  • Examine your beliefs that bind or build our ability to connect with others
  • Discover & practice 4 key skills that will help you connect to self and engage with others
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  • Keep an open mind
  • Remember its good to be able to laugh at ourselves
  • Remember we often have very different perspectives and gifts
  • Remember sometimes its us, sometimes it’s them! Sometimes It’s neither!

The program was developed to introduce those high in analytical skills to people skills.

  • Social skills are important for career success and job search
  • Emotional skills are vital for both happiness and career productivity.
  • Discover 4 personality traits we need to understand and respect in self and others
  • Uncover how to connect with each personality trait
  • Learn how to develop friendships
  • Four key skills to help you engage and connect with others
Who is the target audience?
  • If dealing with others often feels awkward
  • If others think you fit into the Big Bang Show!
  • If your job search is being blocked because you don’t get it!
  • If you have you been passed over for a raise or promotion
  • Don't take this course if you’re more like Penny then Sheldon on BIG Bang Theory
  • Don't take this course if you’ve been told you’re the life of the party!
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Curriculum For This Course
29 Lectures
3 Lectures 05:24

Developing and deepening our ability to thrive is in part due to how deep and meaningful our relationships are. However not all of us have the same set of skills and abilities to find, develop, nurture and prune our relationships. We know from years of research that those that are connected and engaged to others lead a life that is happier, healthier and more productive.

So this program will introduce you to some of the basics to help you start you on the path of "building the code" for gaining more ease in your personal, school, work and social relationships.

Preview 00:24

Create more successful outcomes
5 Lectures 52:45

The four personality traits

How to connect with each personality trait

How to Motivate the 4 Styles

Why to exercise caution as each trait can trip us up if we over use it.


The Four Traits
1 question
Develop Better Friendships
4 Lectures 31:22

Develop better friendship when you understand your beliefs that bind or build our ability to connect with others

Preview 12:30

[Activity] Try This on a Friend


1 question
Four Powerful Skills
11 Lectures 47:47

Start a Conversation

Life and Event Inventory

[Activity] Life and Event Inventory

The Witness Level Skill

[Activity] The Witness Level Skill

Self Inventory and Self Disclosure

[Activity] Self Inventory and Self Disclosure

Empathy vs. Sympathy

[Activity] Empathy vs. Sympathy

Well we’ve explored:

- 4 personality traits to understand ourselves and use to better connect with others

- Key beliefs that can block or bind us from have better quality relationships

- 4 powerful skills that make life go a little to a lot smoother when dealing with others

- The difference between Empathy and Sympathy and what to avoid and how to best use them.


1 question
Wrap Up
3 Lectures 03:14

Next Steps
3 Lectures 06:04
Article on personality styles

Uses of the Five Conflict Styles


Handling Styles Appropriate Situations

Competing 1. When quick, decisive action is vital -- e.g., emergencies.

2. On important issues where unpopular actions need

implementing -- e.g., cost cutting, enforcing unpopular

rules, discipline.

3. On issues vital to company welfare

when you know you’re right.

4. Against people who take advantage of non-competitive


Collaborating 1. To find an integrative solution when both sides of

concern are too important to be compromised.

2. When your objective is to learn.

3. To merge insights from people with different


4. To gain commitment by incorporating concerns into a


5. To work through feelings which have interfered with

a relationship.

Compromising 1. When goals are important, but not worth the effort or

potential disruption of more assertive modes.

2. When opponents with equal power are committed to

mutually exclusive goals.

3. To achieve temporary settlements to complex issues.

4. To arrive at expedient solutions under time pressure.

5. As a back up when collaboration or competition is


Avoiding 1. When an issue is trivial, or more important issues are pressing.

2. When you perceive no chance of satisfying your concerns.

3. When potential disruption outweighs the benefits of resolution.

4. To let people cool down and let them regain perspective.

5. When gathering information supersedes immediate decision.

6. When others can resolve the conflict more effectively.

7. When issues seem tangential or symptomatic of other issues.

Accommodating 1. When you find that you are wrong -- to allow a better

position to be heard, to learn, and to show your reasonableness.

2. When issues are more important to others than yourself -- to satisfy

others and maintain cooperation.

3. To build social credits for later issues.

4. To minimize loss when you are outmatched or losing.

5. When harmony and stability are especially important.

6. To allow subordinates to develop by learning from mistakes.

Activity #1: Memo from me to me


RE: Dealing with Conflict

Complete this memo for next class. Be prepared to discuss the results with the class as a whole or to hand in to your facilitator.

1. My usual way of dealing with conflict is to

Blame myself or others for creating the conflict

Smooth over or suppress the conflict

Surface and deal with the conflict

Compete or be aggressive

Accommodate or give in

Avoid or withdraw


Respond according to the situation

2, Some of the undesirable consequences for me are:

(e.g. Conflicts continue to simmer below the surface

or Others expect me to give in

or People seldom disagree with me openly

or My ideas and opinions don’t get much attention, etc.)

3. Some useful changes I would like to make in the way I deal with conflict are:

Preview 02:10

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About the Instructor
Scott Paton
4.2 Average rating
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83,076 Students
76 Courses
Executive Producer (42 Podcasts, 70+ Udemy courses), Trainer

Scott Paton has been podcasting since the spring of 2005. His podcast "Weight Loss and The Mind" hit over 375,000 subscribers in its first year and over one million downloads. He has executive produced and/or co-hosted over 35 podcasts. An internationally renowned speaker, Scott has presented to audiences from London, England to Sydney, Australia, from Vancouver, BC to New York, NY, from LA to Rwanda. Thousands of entrepreneurs and NGO's have changed their public engagement strategies based on Scott's sharing. We hope you will, too!

Scott has over 66,500 students from 176 countries taking his courses.

Scott joined Udemy in 2013. In late 2014, one of his clients inspired him to make a video course on Podcasting. He revisited Udemy and got very excited at the potential. After his course went live, Scott told his clients and many decided to make courses but needed help, so he has become a co-instructor with them, while continuing to support and build his own courses. His co-topics all include areas of life-long learning by Scott, including Stock Option Trading, Alternative Health, EFT, and Relationships.

Michael Ballard
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Helping people learn how to deal with adveristy & thrive!

Michael Ballard has presented to audiences and consulted with groups from Bermuda to Singapore and New Orleans to Vancouver as an internationally renowned speaker. Thousands of people have deepened their personal and professional ability to thrive using the process and skills he teaches. In the process they've learned how to deal with life's BIG Stuff issues based on the expertise Michael enjoys sharing on resilience. He hopes you will, too!

Michael has appeared in over 150 media interviews across North America on resiliency. He has also executive produced and hosted over 24 video interviews on those impacted by life’s BIG Stuff events. Plus students here in over 149 countries.

Michael learned quite a bit about thriving through resilience while facing adversity during his 7 year battle with three challenges to his life while fighting cancer, multiple treatments, setbacks and victories. He enjoys upbeat and insightful coffee, conversations, puns, biking, hiking, photography and snorkelling.

Michael joined Udemy in 2014. In late 2014, one of his coaching clients called him up to discuss personnel and workplace productivity issues and in the process encouraged him to start making video based programming.