The Affair Crisis Plan

An Intelligent and Practical Response to Relationship Betrayal
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  • Lectures 16
  • Length 2 hours
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  • Languages English
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Published 5/2016 English

Course Description

Undoubtedly, one of the most difficult relationship dilemmas is the confusion and pain brought on by an extra-marital affair. With so much emotional turmoil (betrayal, anger, disillusionment, shame, and more) it can feel unnatural to apply reasonable courses of action, yet that is exactly what this course is designed to help you accomplish.

By effectively managing your emotional infrastructure and implementing proven psychological programs you can turn agonizing pain into healthy growth. Unlike many programs, The Affair Crisis Plan does away with irrelevant filler and instead focuses on highly relevant tools designed to immediately help you master the many perplexing reactions to an affair for the purpose of genuine healing by applying essential strategies that can lead to relationship restoration.

What are the requirements?

  • To get the most out of The Affair Crisis Plan I encourage the student to have access to a printer so that they can download and print the supplemental Let’s Talk questionnaires for each lecture. These printouts will become a vital resource for your relationship. I strongly recommend revisiting your Let’s Talk questionnaires regularly as a way to reflect, meditate and recognize signs of growth. Using these resources plays a significant role in self-perception, identifying belief structures, and discovering the nature of going above and beyond relationship healing and growth.

What am I going to get from this course?

  • Restore common sense and reason in an emotionally loaded situation using six proven strategies.
  • Reestablish genuine trust using solutions that eliminate deception and entitlement.
  • Bring back relational order by effectively dealing with the third-party without the anxiety that your partner will re-engage with the other person.
  • Rediscover authentic sexual intimacy with confidence and trust in your partner.
  • Effectively manage the needs of children, family, and friends while alleviating confusion and pain.
  • Regain a healthy emotional framework that will protect you from feelings of anger, hurt, and betrayal.
  • Experience authentic forgiveness without fear or regret.
  • Rebuild genuine trust through practical and effective action plans
  • Reinstill comfort and security through powerful communication models that create environments of healing and understanding.
  • Rebuild balance, credibility, and trustworthiness by addressing malfunctioning relationship patterns.
  • Identify the issues that really matter that will enable the affected parties to discern if the marriage can move forward with legitimate adjustments.

Who is the target audience?

  • Students are individuals or couples who’ve experienced an affair or are looking to understand and resolve the complexities resulting from this form of entanglement.
  • The Affair Crisis Plan is also recommended for others who wish to “affair-proof” their current or future relationships.

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The Affair Crisis Plan is an intelligent and practical response to relationship betrayal. This course is designed to help you identify the many perplexing reactions to an affair for the purpose of genuine healing by applying core strategies that can lead to personal and relationship restoration.

Section 1: Discovering an Affair

In this opening lecture, you will discover a plan to gain and understand the facts of the affair (who, what, when, and why) as well as how to obtain key information that will shed light on the how the affair developed in the first place. But more importantly, you will come to understand that the journey before you is indeed manageable, and that reason can prevail over your situation. Even though you may feel a sense of disorientation at the moment, by the end of this lecture you will have a new sense of hope and ability to control the situation.


An introduction to the Let's Talk course supplements that the student will use for each lecture.


A step-by-step guide on how to locate, download and print the Let's Talk course supplements.

Section 2: Removing Deception

An early goal in recovery is rebuilding trust, and this will require much time. To achieve that goal, this lecture lays out a plan so that all secrets can be removed and full disclosure (past, present, and future) is acquired.

Section 3: No More Entitlement

Since the affair was driven in part by an “I deserve” mentality, a strategy is provided for what is truly required for restoration as well as developing a genuine focus on empathy and contrition that can be implemented immediately.

Section 4: Dropping Third-Party Loyalty

In the recent aftermath of an affair’s discovery there is a high probability that the third party will be on the scene in some capacity. This lecture equips an individual or couple with appropriate methods of cessation insuring that communication or contact with the third-party is successfully terminated in such a way as to bring closure to that association.

Section 5: Managing Grief and Anguish

Because trust and loyalty are central to marital success, feelings of loss, agony, rage, numbness, and confusion can run rampant, hindering any hope of effectively dealing with the crisis. This lecture guides the offended and offender in such as way as to make room for such emotions while promoting an environment that keeps negative feelings from becoming overwhelming and thereby sabotaging the ability to successfully progress through the affair.

Section 6: Establishing Freedom

When a partner has been caught cheating, it can be tempting to put that person figuratively inside a fortified wall with a giant padlock on the gate. Yet, such an effort can never lead to confidence since healthy relationships are not built upon coercion, but upon freedom. In this lecture, you will discover a strategies that promote core values over mandatory regulations in such a way that nurture genuine recovery.

Section 7: Addressing Insecurity

The partner having the affair was looking outwardly for affirmation, implying inner neediness. The partner who was cheated on has reason to question if he or she is labeled as undesirable. In either case, this lecture provides a framework for working through the nature and focus of self-esteem which is essential to moving forward with healing as well as including an effectual back-to-the-basics exploration of deep personal values.

Section 8: Uncovering Anger

An affair almost always reveals conflicts and tensions that have not been successfully addressed. Certainly when the affair is out in the open, anger (indeed, rage and bitterness) can take center stage. This lecture provides the individual parties with the infrastructure to honestly display a healthy versus unhealthy anger that is quite beneficial, as well as addressing their needs constructively and respectfully.

Section 9: Committing to Humility

Affairs inevitably have a component of egotism. The offending partner usually possesses such a self focus that it overrules common sense, while the offended partner may struggle with a demanding attitude driven by the thought, “now you owe me.” This lecture provides solutions that allow each person to respond to the depth of their hurt with a sound and reasonable mindset as opposed to one of self-centeredness.

Section 10: What about the Kids?

The actions of parents have major repercussions upon their children whether they are aware of the affair or not. Understanding that it is unfair for them to pay a debilitating price for a poor decision by a parent, this lecture lays out a plan while promoting discussion regarding the importance of meeting a child's needs following an affair.

Section 11: The Question of Divorce

In a very high percentage of case studies, an affair prompts questions about the survivability of the marriage. In this lecture we explore the potential for marital restoration, as well as the impact divorce would have upon each various elements within their environment. There are many aspects that a couple must consider before making life altering decisions and this lecture will provide an essential map for navigating diverse settings and hazardous situations within an easy to understand framework.

Section 12: Resuming Sex

After an affair, marital sexuality can become a matter of serious tension and anxiety. Normally, sex has the wonderful potential for bonding. Because infidelity can shatter that bond, this lecture will provide couples with a simple system to promote genuine communication – removing self-denial and misunderstanding regarding sex so that you can experience an enduring healthy intimacy.

Section 13: Wrap Up

Dr. Les Carter provides a wrap-up of The Affair Crisis Plan, provides directions for continuing their healing, as well as bonus resources.

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Instructor Biography

Les Carter, Ph. D., Professional Relationship Specialist, Therapist, and Author

With 35+ years experience and over 60,000 counseling sessions, Dr. Les Carter speaks with the practical wisdom of one who truly understands what it takes to elevate individuals to relationship success.

Dr. Carter maintains an active counseling practice in Southlake, Texas and is the best selling author of 20 books including the Anger Trap and Enough About You, Let’s Talk About Me that have been translated into 10 languages. 

Dr. Carter is the host of MarriagePath Radio, a weekly national podcast that moves individuals and couples beyond the teaching of simple skills to utilizing emotions and behaviors in such a way that powerfully shapes life habits so that real change happens.

Dr. Carter is well known for his nationally renowned seminars and workshops.

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