Intelligent Anger Management - Take Control, Be Productive
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Learn To Create New Outcomes & Results, Manage Stress, And More Through Intelligent Anger Management Skills
4.3 (6 ratings)
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Created by Thushyanthan A
Last updated 2/2016
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What Will I Learn?
  • Discover the “energy” behind the emotion of anger and the steps you can take to direct it toward outcomes that have meaning, value and satisfaction for you
  • Learn about the 8 rungs of “violence ladder” used by Dr. Ronald Potter-Efron
  • Understand the 3 classifications of anger used by modern psychologists; from “protective” to “linguistic” to “character traits”
  • Learn briefly about the B-E-L models used in Ontological Coaching
  • Learn briefly about the O-A-R models used in Ontological Coaching
  • Downloadable and actionable PDF worksheets to help you work with the emotion of anger
  • ** VERY HELPFUL ** Learn how to “step into” and “step out” of “anger” and its related emotions
  • Explore the variety of emotions that are similar to and opposite of the emotion of angere observer
  • Learn to master anger and take control of its energy
  • Create distinctions of “anger” with 120 different emotions related to anger
  • Learn to manage anger with 30 “opposite” emotions of anger
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  • The invitation is to be gentle with yourself and be open to the learning
  • Learn how to manage anger through a non-judgemental and safe approach of self-reflection and self-enquiry
  • This course material can be easily watched within 2-3 hours BUT the invitation is to set aside a regular time for reflection and learning

Anger is a misunderstood emotion! It is widely assessed to be a destructive emotion with violent tendencies. The invitation in this course is to explore the emotion of anger and notice the energy of it. What possibilities for action exist within the energy of the emotion of anger?

When you learn to harness the power of anger, you can CHOOSE how to show up in conversations and CHOOSE what actions to take to create outcomes and results that have meaning, value and satisfaction for you!

Use the generative power of language and learn to “manage anger” by understanding the story, the body disposition and actions you can take to “step into” and “step out of” anger.

  • Understand the foundation of anger as a story with a predisposition to action.
  • Learn what it means to “be emotional” versus “having emotions”
  • Discover the patterns that set up the path on the “ladder of anger”
  • Learn how you can SHIFT your body, your language into ANOTHER emotion

Discover a 3-Step Framework of working with the emotion of anger and its associated energy. Connect to the whole human being you are by exploring the connections between Body, Emotions and Language!

I want to offer you a framework, a new perspective of the holistic and integrated human being that you are! This perspective may help to incorporate several concepts that you have come across in your quest for managing and working with the emotion of anger.

Anger doesn’t “exist” all by itself. Anger is created, over time, through a variety of situations, events and conversations that lead to it!

Course Contents And Overview

This course contains 40+ lectures and 2.5+ hours of content! It is designed for you if you want to learn to manage anger, annoyance, irritability and more… It is designed for you if you want to move past the potentially “destructive” quality of anger and shift into new possibilities for action.

The material in this course is what I use with my coaching clients so if you are curious about learning to coach yourself from observing your thoughts, ideas and body while exploring anger, this course is for you!

I strongly believe in 3 key ideas: #1) Education - learn about what matters to you; #2) Coaching - practice and embody that learning; and #3) Leadership - show up "fully and in presence" with others.

Every section in this course is connected and invites you to embody the learning. Each section has some “Action Steps” or “Activity” to help you notice what shows up for you as you to interpret and get to the story of the emotions that you experience.

The more you can practice and apply what you learn in the sections determines the results you'll get.

Section #1 – “Welcome To The Course” – Quickly get started in this section with this short introduction to “Anger Management” through a linguistic process via the two foundational models of the O-A-R and the B-E-L. You are the unique observer of your life. And the unique observer you are has a Body, experiences Emotions and interprets those emotions in Language. There is also an invitation to join the private Facebook group called, “Life Coaching And Vedic Counseling”.

Section #2 – “Not Just "Anger" But Annoyance, Irritability, Rage, Fury And More...” – Anger is much more than a single emotion. In fact, a quick browse in the dictionary uncovers 120+ related words to “anger”. The more you increase your vocabulary about anger, the more you are able to work with anger and notice it for yourself. When you notice, then you have the POWER to change.

Section #3 – “Classifying Anger And The ‘Ladder Of Violence’” – Anger can be destructive but it also has potential to be creative. Learn how anger is classified and discover the “ladder of violence” that causes anger to be built up from small infractions all the way up to violent, destructive expressions.

Section #4 – “Invite Anger Into Your Life By Stepping Into AND Out Of Anger...” – In this section we learn to work with anger by IDENTIFYING it as an actor would. We “step into” anger and related emotions and notice “Who/What/When/Where/How” it shows up. Then we “step out”. Step in. Step out. Step in. Step out. It’s a constant practise.

Section #5 – "[BONUS] Guided Visualizations From ‘3 Steps To Improve Communication Skills’" – Here you will learn about the 5 body dispositions and how they cause us to experience certain emotions. Once you learn to move your body in an appropriate way to get satisfactory results, then you have a powerful tool to work with your emotions. The activities in this section invite you to practise moving your body into these dispositions.

Section #6 – “Conclusion To "Anger Management" And Your Next Steps” – We wrap up this course with the invitation to practise. Approach anger through the intelligent, intellectual perspective of a narrative of injustice. Practise noticing and continue to practise stepping into and stepping out of anger and its related emotions. Then you can move into the investigative part of understanding the linguistic foundation of anger and the associated body shapes that will allow you to take control of the situations, events and conversations in your life!

Section #7 – “BONUS Offers And Special Coupon Codes For Students” – I leave you with a special offer to work with me as a leadership life coach. Give me a shout and let’s have a conversation about what creates satisfaction in your life! Also included are coupon codes for my other courses!

Course Bonuses!

Bonus #1 – PDF Worksheet "Getting ‘Ticked Off’" – A 1-page document to help you identify the “Who/What/When/Where/How” you get “ticked off” on the way to “full-blown” anger.

Bonus #2 – PDF Worksheet “Emotions ‘Opposite’ Of Anger” – A 2-page worksheet designed to give you a list of 30 emotions that are “opposite” of anger. When you know that there are other emotions possible, you will have new insight into how these work for you.

Bonus #3 – PDF Worksheet “Synonyms Of Anger” – An 8-page worksheet designed to give you a list of 120 different AND related emotions to anger. Learn to create the distinctions for the “blob” of emotions that anger consists of.

Bonus #4 – PDF Worksheet "Ladder Of Anger" – Use this 1-page document to map out the range of emotions leading to “anger” for you. Make use of the extended vocabulary worksheet to help you out.

Bonus #5 – PDF Worksheet “Stepping Out” – Use this 1-page document and learn how to “Step Out” of any emotion, including anger. Shift your body and shift your mood!

Bonus #6 – MP3 Recordings to practise the 5 Body Dispositions of “Centre, Resolution, Openness, Stability and Flexibility.” Spend time to practise these short 4-8 minute physical activities to embody the body dispositions. You’ll be surprised at what you discover for yourself!

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Click "Take This Course" now and make the commitment to jump straight into “How To Intelligently Manage Anger And Take Control” for yourself. I know that working with the emotion of anger created shifts within me and resulted in a rewarding personal and professional life.

See you on the inside!

Wishing you much success in your journeys,

Who is the target audience?
  • This course is for anyone who wants to work with the emotion of anger, frustration, irritation, annoyance and more…
  • This course is for motivated individuals who are willing to spend time in self-reflection and introspection and learn how to work with the energies of these emotions
  • If you want to experience the emotions of "joy", "contentment", "satisfaction" and more, this course may be for you
  • If you want to learn about how life coaching skills can help you to lead a fuller, more complete life by managing the emotion of anger, then this course may be for you
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Curriculum For This Course
39 Lectures
Welcome To The Course
3 Lectures 13:13
In this course, we’re going to work with the emotion of anger and learn to manage it to create outcomes and results in life’s situations, events and conversations that have meaning, value and satisfaction for you. As a coach, I work with a couple of models of body-emotions-language to ensure that my clients understand the comprehensive way that the body works in conjunction with the linguistic and emotional components of the human experience.
Preview 04:30

Ontological Coaching has two models; the B-E-L Model and the O-A-R Model. B-E-L stands for “Body-Emotions-Language” and O-A-R stands for “Observer-Actions-Results”. You are a unique observer in the world. That unique observer you are has a body which experiences emotions and can only be subjectively described using language. Understanding the observer you are is crucial to ensuring that future actions create hoped-for results. That’s what coaching strives to bring out.
Preview 06:15

Congratulations! Have a pen and a piece of paper handy as you do this quick 30 second (max.!) activity.
Preview 02:28
Not Just "Anger" But Annoyance, Irritability, Rage, Fury And More...
8 Lectures 21:42

Watch this short video to learn about the upcoming lectures in this section. Anger is not a “simple” emotion but is a “blob” of many smaller emotions.

Overview And How To Quickly Manage Anger

Learning to effectively and quickly manage anger means to understand how subtle and varied “anger” really is. We explore the language around “anger” including its synonyms and antonyms.
Explore Anger Through Its Opposite Emotions And Its Synonyms

A 2-page PDF document with 30 different antonyms of the emotion of “anger.” When you get angry and want to manage it, the best way is to know what OPPOSITE emotions are available.

[PDF] 30 Different Emotions - Exploring Anger Through Opposite Emotions
2 pages

An 8-page PDF document with 120 different emotions that are similar to the emotion of anger. We don’t just get angry. We build up to anger to many, many steps of related emotions. What are those emotions? That’s what’s available here in this PDF document.
[PDF] 120 Different Emotions - Expanding The Vocabulary Of Anger
8 pages

Every emotion has an “energy” and anger is no different. This energy of anger is either expressed outwardly, externally to people, situations and events external to the individual. Or it is directed with the same force upon the individual experiencing anger.

2 Ways That Anger Is Expressed - Externally & Internally; Active & Passive

This video describes the “Getting ‘Ticked Off’” worksheet. The invitation is to complete this worksheet in a quiet place where you will not be disturbed so that you can identify the “Who/What/When/Where/How” of what causes you to get “ticked off!”

[Activity] Getting "Ticked Off"

A 1-page PDF document which invites exploration of “Who/What/When/Where/How” of what causes you to get “ticked off!”

[PDF] "Getting 'Ticked Off'" Worksheet
1 page

The emotion of “Anger” is interpreted subjectively by every individual. What you describe as “anger” may be “irritation” to another. This is why it is extremely important to create distinctions around this “blob” of emotion we call “anger.”

Preview 02:44
Classifying Anger And The "Ladder Of Violence"
9 Lectures 32:17

You are the unique “observer” in the world. That “observer” consists of a “body” which experiences “emotions” which are interpreted through “language.”


I want to share a short personal story about “emotions” and my background in IT. Allow curiosity and lightness to help you to explore the emotion of anger. Anger was persistent in my life that had its roots at my place of employment. Over time, these interruptions at work built up to express itself into anger.

Preview 05:45

In my experience, it appears that we don’t talk about emotions a lot because we have opinions, judgements and other moralistic interpretations about them. We confuse the experience of emotions with the interpretation around the resultant actions. “Being emotional” is adding an interpretation to the natural experience of “having emotions.” I invite you to approach emotions from a linguistic perspective.

"Having Emotions" versus "Being Emotional"

In the show, Seinfeld, George Costanza expresses the qualities of anger throughout the 10 seasons of the TV show. The emotion of “anger” is pervasive in mainstream cultures’ narratives. The actions taken in the emotion of anger create certain outcomes. The invitation is to allow anger to visit you and help you notice what your narratives are.

Anger In Mainstream Media - Meet George Costanza, The Angry Bald Man

Anger is a reactive emotion classified by modern psychologists into 3 broad areas: 1) as a reactionary emotion 2) arising out of a perceived injustice to self and others and 3) as part of character traits.

3 Classifications Of Anger By Contemporary Psychology

I share one of Dr. Potter-Efron’s ideas in his book, “Angry All The Time: An Emergency Guide To Anger Control”. It’s about the “ladder of violence” which has 8 rungs beginning with “sneaky anger” and moving up to “barely controlled violence” and/or “rage.” It’s not required reading but may complement your learning.

"Ladder Of Violence"

In this 1-page PDF, we use the “ladder of violence” idea from Dr. Ron Potter-Efron, to create a spectrum of emotions that you personally experience as “anger”. The idea is that “anger” is created over time through subsequent stages of escalating “emotions.”

[PDF] "Ladder Of Anger" Worksheet
1 page

A 2-page PDF document to help you create your own “spectrum” for the emotion of anger in your life and experience. Use this document as a template along with the document of 120 different emotions to create distinctions for yourself.

[PDF] "Ladder Of Anger" - Examples
2 pages

A short 5 min 7 sec video to summarise the learning in this section. Anger is broadly categorized into 3 areas. The invitation in this course is to create distinctions and understanding of how “anger” shows up in your life.

Wrapping Up The Learning In This Section
Invite Anger Into Your Life By Stepping Into AND Out Of Anger...
7 Lectures 22:52

Emotions visit us. Train yourself to “wear” the emotion of anger (and its related emotions) as if you were an actor in your life. “Step into…” and “Step out of…” the emotions of anger, annoyance, irritation and so on.

Overview Of Learning How To “Wear” Anger As If You Were An Actor

Emotions have a definite physiological response. Describe how a person appears to you in the emotion of anger. What are your interpretations about certain emotions?

Learn How All Emotions, Including Anger, Have A Physiological Response

Emotions, including anger, visit us in daily life. Learn 3 ways to “step out of…” an emotion. The more frequently you “step out of…” anger, the better your control of it.
Learning How “Step Out Of…” Emotions And Learn To Manage Anger

This 3-page PDF shares 3 ways to “step out of…” an emotion. Use all 3 methods to SHIFT into and out of the emotion of anger. What do you notice? How easy is it?
[PDF] "Stepping Out" Worksheet
1 page

The emotion of anger has been ingrained into your muscle memory. The invitation is to practise “wearing” anger and noticing how familiar it is to you. The goal is to use the 8-Step “Ladder Of Anger” and wear each of the emotions listed. How comfortable is it for you? How uncomfortable is it for you?

Learn To “Wear” The Emotion Of Anger (And Other Related Emotions)

In the same way as the previous lecture, we “wear” the opposite emotions. First identify which of the “opposite” emotions that you actually want to be part of your life. In this way, you can slowly interrupt patterns of anger to create a life of more meaning and value to you.

Explore Wearing The “Opposite” Emotions To Make A Shift In Dealing With Anger

In my personal experience, it is TREMENDOUSLY important to know HOW the body is SHAPED when experiencing the emotion of anger. When you can notice this for yourself, then you are well on your way to SHIFTING what emotions AND actions become available for your use in your life.

Complete Your Learning Of “Stepping Into…” And “Stepping Out Of…” Anger
[BONUS] Videos From"Master Emotions; Declare Happiness And Satisfaction In Life"
9 Lectures 39:45

We have conversations ALL the time; the most persistent conversations are the ones that we have with ourselves. The invitation is to learn to notice all the noise in your head and stop the “parrots”, the “loros” from yammering on too much. How do you do it? Just “bust a move!”

[BONUS] Overview & Learn How To Stop The Mental Noise Simply By Moving The Body

There are 5 body shapes or dispositions available for your use in conversations. They are: Centre; Resolution; Stability; Flexibility; Openness

[BONUS] The 5 Body Dispositions

In Ontological Coaching the first body disposition is called "Centre." From the disposition of "Centre" each of us is poised and available to move into any other disposition. Centre makes the space of possibility available.

[Activity] [BONUS] Centre

Resolution can be powerful because it is a conscious choice we make. Resolution awakens power within us to take action that aligns us to commitment.

Preview 05:09

The disposition of openness invites possibilities into life. Relax and allow yourself to be the receiver.

[Activity] [BONUS] Openness

In stability, your jaw is relaxed and there is a hint of a smile on your lips. Your spine is straight, your feet are rooted and your breath is deep and even.

[Activity] [BONUS] Stability

When you notice a pattern showing up in your movements notice that and consciously choose to break it. Allow your body to move spontaneously. If any word is appropriate to describe flexibility it is the word spontaneous.

[Activity] [BONUS] Flexibility

I invite you to notice your patterns. That’s the first step. Then use your power of interpretation and assess how satisfactory the results or outcomes are in your life. For those results that you wish to make more meaningful and have more value in your life, learn to make slight changes that interrupt existing patterns.

Learning To Interrupt Patterns That Do Not Create Satisfactory Outcomes

Congratulations on your commitment to learning about emotions! To recap, we learnt that emotions are triggered by events and that moods are persistent emotions. There are as many moods as there are emotions. Breaking the constant chatter in your head is about moving your body. The body influences the emotions and the emotions influence the body. Together they influence what interpretations your unique observer can make.

Wrapping Up - Emotions, Moods And The Body Are Non Verbal Communication Skills
Conclusion To "Anger Management" And Your Next Steps
1 Lecture 04:53

How can you take what you have learnt into your life now? What new approaches can you take toward anger management? How do related emotions help you create distinctions? What interpretations do you have around curiosity and lightness when exploring anger management?

Preview 04:53
BONUS Offers And Special Coupon Codes For Students
2 Lectures 02:02

I’ve worked with clients from all around the world. And every interaction with them is a tremendous joy! I invite you to work with me, as a leadership life coach, to create that life that has meaning and value for you.

[BONUS] An Invitation To Work With Me, Your Leadership Life Coach

As a BONUS for being a student in this course, I have a special discount on my other courses on Udemy! Check it out on the inside...

[BONUS] Secret Discount For Udemy Life Coaching And Vedic Counseling Courses
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About the Instructor
Thushyanthan A
4.1 Average rating
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9,709 Students
8 Courses
Teacher, Leadership Life Coach, Jyotiṣa

Are You Driven By Curiosity?

What new skills do you want to learn?

How do you express your creativity?

How do you become an observer of yourself?

What do you need to do to improve yourself?

What changes do you need to adopt to enliven your spirit?

These are just a few of the questions that I explore with students and learners just like you in my Udemy courses.


I strongly believe in 3 key ideas: #1) Education - learn about what matters to you; #2) Coaching - practice and embody that learning; and #3) Leadership - show up "fully and in presence" with others.

Clifton StrengthsFinder(tm) Top 5: Intellection; Connectedness; Input; Strategic; Learner

MBTI Assessment: INFJ; Foresight, developing, guiding, inspiring

Leadership Life Coach

I am a Leadership Life Coach specializing in Ontological Coaching methods. I work with you to create a fulfilling life and career for yourself.

❖ Foundations For Personal Transformation Coach Training

❖ The Art And Practice Of Coaching

❖ Body And Movement Program - Advanced Coach Training Program

Ontological Coaching is based deeply in embracing a person's individuality. In reaching your goals and desires you have a unique and different approach to life.

Instead of obsessively focusing on developing traits, ontological coaching shows you how to use your existing strengths to achieve your goals.

My Story

Like you, I have many interests and hobbies :) After graduating with a B.Sc. in Computer Science, I worked in IT for two years before moving to Japan. There, I studied Japanese business culture and developed ways to blend Japanese business and corporate practices with the Western corporate environment.

After returning, I continued to hone my IT skills and integrate my learning, communication, teaching and coaching skills: 

❖ Learnt a new language

❖ Started a photography business

❖ Trained in Franklin Covey’s leadership skills

❖ Took coach training from Newfield Network

Using ontological coaching methods and other tools, I offer you a chance to see yourself, fully, through a new lens and a benefit from a fresh perspective. I invite you to join in a conversation to enliven your spirit and connect to purpose in your life.