When society is dysfunctional and parents are shame bound they display unhealthy boundaries and project their shame onto their children. This creates unhealthy boundaries in the children and makes it exceedingly difficult to set healthy boundaries and stop abuse.
The first section of this course teaches what healthy and unhealthy boundaries are, how they develop, how shame warps them and impairs an individual’s ability to defend against abusive behavior of self and others.
We are able to become intimate and resolve problems to the degree that we are able to communicate effectively. Most of the problems associated with society can be traced to faulty communication and conflict resolution. This video addresses the art of communication.
The second section teaches effective communication and assertiveness principles and identifies aggressive and passive-aggressive patterns. It will help you identify emotions and teach paraphrasing and validating.
Definition of healthy and unhealthy boundaries.
Definition of boundaries and how they develop in either a healthy or unhealthy manner.
When shame is internalized, unhealthy boundaries result. This happens in dysfunctional families and cultures.
When unhealthy boundaries are modeled children become unable to distinguish or defend against abusive behavior. This section teaches what abuse is and how to defend against it.
Learn what healthy boundaries are and how they can help relationships. This part of the lecture also contains a conclusion to this course.
This section describes how feelings build within the system and describes the difference between primary and secondary feelings.
The details of what constitutes Aggressive Communication, Passive-Aggressive Communication and Assertiveness Communication are presented.
Paraphrasing and validating are discussed in detail. Appropriate and inappropriate role-playing is presented.
This lesson contains a role playing exercise with a couple having the same argument twice with two different outcomes. The only difference was that in one example the couple was able to communicate better using paraphrasing and validating, and on the other one they didn't.
Script text for the Boundaries Section.
Communication and Assertiveness Training complementary script booklet.
Try to take this short test after watching the videos and downloading the booklet to proof your knowledge on Boundaries.
Try to take this short test after watching the videos and downloading the booklet to proof your knowledge on Communication and Assertiveness.
Jef Gazley, M.S., LMFT, DCC, D.CEP has practiced psychotherapy for over thirty years and is the owner operator of www.asktheinternettherapist.com since 1998 and www.hypnosisCDsandMP3s.com . He has been practicing energy psychology since 1975. He is trained and certified in both traditional and Ericksonian hypnosis. He is a member in good standing in the American Society For Clinical Hypnosis, National Board For Certified Clinical Hypnotherapists, The International Society For Hypnosis, The American Psychotherapy And Medical Hypnosis Association, and The International Registry Of Professional Hypnotherapists.
He is fully trained in EMDR Level Two, TFT Level Two, EFT, and is certified in both Neuro Emotional Technique™, and Touch For Health. He is a member of the Energy Kinesiology Association, and the Association For Comprehensive Energy Psychology. He has written extensively about Energy Psychology for years and is in the process of writing a book on Energy Psychology. He is also the developer of the TriBrain Trauma Theory. Although adept at all forms of energy psychology Jef believes strongly that NET™ or Neuro Emotional Technique™ is the most powerful energy technique available. He was in the third Neuro Emotional Technique™ certification graduating class.
He is the author of eight mental health educational videos, numerous hypnosis CDs and MP3s and is currently writing a book on distance counseling. Jef is State Licensed in General Counseling, Marriage/Family, and Substance Abuse in Arizona. He is a member in good standing with NBCC, AAMFT, ISMHO, and ACA. He is dedicated to guiding individuals to achieving a life long commitment to mental health and relationship mastery. In his private practice in Scottsdale, Arizona, Jef specializes in ADD, love addiction, hypnotherapy, dysfunctional families, codependency, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and trauma. Jef received his B.A. in Psychology, History, and Teaching from the University of Washington, and his Masters in Counseling from the University of Oregon.