Are you ready to stop drinking? Are you tired of being hungover and missing out on life? This course goes into all the key drivers of alcoholism. If you understand why you drink in the first place then you will have the knowledge and power to achieve successful, sustainable sobriety. We will look at what blocks people from getting sober and how you can easily overcome these blocks.
In a series of video lectures and assignments you will be able to unravel the mystery of your drink problem. If you have been trying to solve this problem on your own then this course is perfect tool to ensure you meet your goal of sobriety. You can take this course in the privacy of your own home and at your own pace.
Once we have examined the blocks to recovery and how to overcome them, we will then look at what areas you need to focus on to not just stay sober but to live the fulfilling, successful life you have always wanted to live.
I am a recovered alcoholic with over 14 years of continuous sobriety, a former therapist in the UK and recovery coach in the USA. I have over a decades experience working with alcoholics and addicts. What I applied to my life, can turn your life around too.
The main purpose of this course is to help you understand how an alcoholic or problem drinker thinks and feels. By understanding this you will begin to understand their actions and why they do the things they do. Alcoholism is primarily an internal illness, it is driven by our thoughts and feelings. To achieve successful, sustainable, sobriety - these are the factors that need to change.
You may still be having questions about your drinking. You may be asking yourself 'is it really that bad?' Those are common doubts and fears that everyone has when they first think about quitting drinking. In this lecture I will answer all those questions. There is an exercise at the end of the lecture that you can complete that will give you all the information you need to decide how serious your drinking really is.
Learn how you can deal with someone else's drinking. There are some things you can focus on such as boundaries that will help you support your loved one overcome their drinking.
Physical dependence on alcohol is a medical condition, to stop drinking safely you need to see your healthcare provider for the necessary medical intervention.
In this lecture I discuss how the abuse of alcohol has become normalized in our culture. Because binge drinking and alcohol abuse is accepted and encouraged it's often hard to see the problems in our own drinking.
Human behavior is always a manifestation of how someone feels. Therefore destructive drinking is a manifestation of emotional un-wellness. In this lecture we explore how our feelings always lead to our actions therefore we need to find better more productive ways to deal with fear, anxiety, disappointment etc
Fear is probably one of the least talked about experiences of the human condition. Yet we all experience fear to some degree. Learning to cope and deal with fear is an essential lifeskill. With alcoholics, fear become completely disproportionate and takes over their entire existence, alcohol is a simply method of dealing with this fear. Learn how you can deal with your real in a manageable way.
In early sobriety we sometimes feel our emotions are out of control and we don't know how we are going to feel from one moment to the next. Learn why this is and how you can begin to use helpful strategies to gain emotional balance. Alcohol can be a very effective way of dealing with our emotions. Instead of processing them we run from them. When we first get sober we will get in touch with feelings and emotions. This is a good thing and how we become fully functioning human beings. We can learn how to deal with our emotions so we don't need to use alcohol anymore.
It's not alcohol that destroys alcoholics it's the lies they tell themselves. In order to drink destructively we have to tell ourselves lies. We rationalize, minimize and compare our drinking to others as a way of justifying our own self-destruction. It is our dishonesty that has fed a lot of our fears if we can expose our dishonesty we can also free ourselves form fear.
There are several things in the first few weeks of recovery that can be challenging, such as: sleep, exercise, changing our routines and just staying away from alcohol. This lecture will cover those challenges and how to deal with them effectively.
If we had a circle of friends or acquaintances who drank in a similar way to you, then you may find your relationships become uncomfortable when you stop drinking. Learn how to deal with these relationships and create healthy boundaries that keep you safe from peer pressure.
Saying 'no' can be one of the hardest things to do, we are scared of hurting people's feeling but then end up agreeing to do stuff we don't want to. This is called 'people pleasing', discover how saying 'no' can change your life. This handout provides specific instruction on how to apply this to your life.
Learning to master our emotions so they can serve us is key to successful sobriety. There is no point getting sober and being angry and miserable. Very few of us are taught how to deal with our emotions and yet how we feel governs everything. We will learn what our internal navigation systems are and in order to achieve emotional well being we need to use them to guide our decisions and actions.
Most of us carry shame and guilt without even knowing why. Shame and guilt impacts are self-esteem and keeps us tied down. Identify where guilt and shame from past events have chained you and what steps you need to take to be free of them.
Anger is a powerful emotion that can cause destruction in people lives. We will identify what is at the root of you anger and develop effective strategies that help you deal with it.
The key to successful, sustainable sobriety is ensuring we have cleared up any mess from our past and learnt from our mistakes. This is not always the most comfortable of subjects, most of us would prefer to forget all about the stuff we are embarrassed or ashamed about. In this lecture I will guide you through simple and easy steps you can take to deal with past mistakes and live a future free from regret.
We will identify the limiting beliefs that have impacted you the most and challenge whether they are true or not. Once we have weakened the foundation of these beliefs they will quickly begin to crumble. I will show you how you can change your limiting beliefs with more empowering ones.
Romantic relationships are our life's task, they can be rewarding and fulfilling but devastating when they don't work out. They can be particularly challenging to alcoholics who are also insecure, vulnerable and prone to making bad choices. We will explore how you can learn from past relationships and identify patterns you keep repeating. Learn to identify what a healthy relationship is and how you can become the kind of person you want to attract.
Part of the work we need to do for sustainable sobriety is looking at our family of origin and how these relationships have impacted us. Learn to identify the positive things your family gave you and how to let go of the negative things. We will also look at your peer group and a supportive peer group is essential for successful sobriety.
As we get more comfortable in our sobriety we also get complacent. This lecture will go over all the warning signs for relapse so you know what to be aware of and can stop problems before they start. We will particularly look at how important balance is to sustaining our recovery from alcoholism.
We deconstruct exactly what is meant by the term spirituality and how it relates to your personally. Myths and assumptions will be cleared up leaving you with a simple and clear understanding of why spirituality is important and how it can be applied to your own life.
Some simple suggestions on actions that you can start taking to feel more spiritual, such as: meditation, prayer and discipline. This is done in a specific 'non-religious' way.
How we think and speak about ourselves can have a huge impact on how we feel. Negative self talk is one of the ways we feel bad about ourselves. I will show you how you can identify your negative self talk and eliminate it.
This lecture looks at what is meant by the term 'specialness' and how as adults we often push away what is special about us. Owning our 'specialness' is a form of 'self-love.' This is not arrogant but important to meet our self-esteem needs.
There are two paths in life; one is to live our truth and one is to not, both are hard. But only one path leads to the happiness and fulfillment we have been searching for the other is just a dead end. Learn how to listen to the voice deep inside of yourself and identify what is true for you. Discover how living your truth on a daily basis ensures your sobriety is sustainable.
Freedom from alcohol is about having freedom in our minds. When our minds are free of the toxic thoughts that lead to our drinking then we make better choices and experience consequences we want. Alcohol no longer calls to us, we can be immune to it's call and apply ourselves to more fulfilling experiences.
Start shaping your life in the direction you want. Successful, sustainable sobriety is about thriving not surviving. Write out your goals for the next year.
Kristen Johnston, two-time Emmy award winning actress, NYT Best Selling Author and Recovery advocate reviews best selling book 'Why you drink and How to stop':
"Veronica Valli has written one of the clearest, most fascinating & truly helpful books on addiction I've ever read.
To me, it's up there with 'Clean' by David Sheff, except from the viewpoint of someone who's in long term recovery.
Whether you're struggling now & need help, have struggled in the past, or you've ever loved an addict, this book pierces through the confusing and terrifying misinformation that surrounds this disease.
From the first page to the last, I was completely enthralled by this brilliantly researched, refreshingly straightforward & delightfully compelling book."
Sober for 15 years Veronica has worked as a therapist and life coach specializing in addiction for over ten years; her experience includes working with young people in the criminal justice system, primary care adult treatment, outreach services and private practice.
As a recovered alcoholic and drug addict, she has personal experience of what it takes to recover from an addiction. Veronica struggled with alcoholism through most of her twenties. As a binge drinker, she was aware for some time that something was wrong but was unable to define what it was; a chance meeting led to her finally getting help and turning her life around.
At the height of her addiction, Veronica was unable to go to work without the aid of a drink; her life and confidence were in tatters. She got sober in 2000 at the age of twenty-seven. She now uses this experience to help and inspire others. She fully believes that all alcoholics and addicts can recover if they have access to the right kind of help, and that they can then go on to live life to the full.
She is committed to educating and informing the public on problem drinking and addiction and has appeared regularly on BBC Radio Cambridgeshire as a specialist guest. She has also appeared on the Lorraine Kelly show on ITV, and an ITV programme entitled The Truth About Binge Drinking; she has also appeared in national magazines and publications, discussing recovery from alcoholism.
Her book: Why you drink and How to stop: journey to freedom’ has been peer reviewed and is currently available at Amazon and other on line retailers.
She also runs the successful blog: Veronica Valli Recovery Rocks where she writes about addiction and alcoholism issues.