COURSE UPDATED DECEMBER 27TH, 2016
What students are saying ...
"I'm about a quarter of the way through the course and I have to say it has already provided great support during a very difficult personal time. There is an activity or process for me to follow each day and that gives me something to actively engage my mind. I feel like this will set me up for healthy future relationships. I really recommend this gentle approach to healing a broken heart." Lara Yuzwa
"I joined not because I have a broken heart at the moment but because I have experienced pain in the past and not just from a broken heart. I think I still need a bit of healing so that I may stop feeling so anxious and stressed and find peace within." Rosemary Anderson
Hello and thank you for considering this course. Obviously if you've come this far, you are trusting me to deliver some real ways to heal your broken heart.
First of all I thought I'd tell you a little more about me. My name is Paula Moore (aka The Posture Doctor). Right off the bat, let me say I'm not a psychotherapist or counselor and I don't claim to be offering any psychological assessment or advise. This course does not take the place of therapy, so if you think you need help just surviving at this point, you may need to see your doctor for a referral.
All that being said, I am a healthcare practitioner and happen to be very experienced in healing broken hearts, because I've been in love 9 times! I'm exhausted just thinking about all of days I've spent crying over the years.
Up until a few years ago, I thought I was really lousy at
relationships and commitment, until one day on a course about commitment, I realized it wasn't that I couldn't commit, it was that I was so committed; I couldn't leave, even when I knew it was time to go.
Anyway, the upside of being in love 9 times, is that I've created a sort of science out of healing a broken heart. My last relationship was quite wonderful – we were just in different life places. My journey after this most recent breakup has been so profoundly healing, that I just had to
share what helped me get to such a wonderful place, in the hopes that you too can heal your own broken heart and prepare for and invite the next love of your life, into a healthy, open place.
The course is set up like a survival guide of sorts and it will take you through 27 real ways to heal your broken heart. The lectures come in audio, ebook, animation and video format and include tips, suggested behaviours and tasks, things to avoid and exercises and projects for you to take on. This is not a passive course. If you simply want to listen and not do much, this isn't the course for you.
If you really want to start feeling better, you should be prepared to commit to the course for one full month. The first month post breakup is the hardest. It's a time when we all need support. If you take on all the exercises and truly engage in the work, you will begin to heal and come out the other side happier and healthier.
I hope you'll share some of your journey with me and the other students on the course, by opening up conversations and posting questions and comments as you work through the lectures. I'd love this to be a safe place where we all heal our broken hearts together and discover new found happiness and joy and perhaps even love again.
I invite you now to join me – go ahead and click on the green button that says: Take This Course. I look forward to supporting you!
Dr Paula x
Please carefully read the disclaimer before proceeding with the rest of the course.
Meet Paula, posture doctor but also well practiced breakup expert.
If you think your relationship is about to end or have just recently ended a relationship, or your partner ended it or maybe you both decided it was the best thing? ... regardless of the circumstances of how it ended, you probably knew it was coming months and possibly even years before.
In this lecture you will learn there is actually a best time of year to breakup!
Trusting life can be almost spiritual. I'm not a religious person, but I have an inner knowing that I'm being taken care of. Even when rock bottom, trusting that life knows best, means somehow we end up exactly where we need to be and a breakup, is just the messy detour.
In this lecture, you will learn ways to silence your inner critic.
A child who's fallen off their bike has no pre-conceived ideas about how grief should look. They simple feel fear, shock and pain and they release their feelings like a burst dam ejects its water. The tears literally gush out of them - they sob. Sobbing may be just what is needed following a painful breakup.
In this lecture we discuss the benefits of giving yourself permission to fully let go emotionally.
After a relationship ends with break up or divorce or somewhere in between, a natural reaction after a a period of real sadness is anger. If you're like me, you might start to rehash old arguments in your head and remember hurtful words or things you wish you'd said. That is completely normal and part of the healing process.
In this lecture we discuss the difference between anger and hate; the physical dangers of letting hateful feelings go unchecked and how to stop hating someone who has done wrong by you.
I know it's not easy being apart from your ex partner. They've probably been a best friend and sounding board. There is going to be a hole, a missing, a void, and you're going to want to fill it.
In this lecture, we talk about taking a 1-month break from contact, because every text, email, phone conversation and meetup, re-hooks you. This lecture will prepare you for the space you need to take, to heal your broken heart.
In this lecture, we forget the diet, the healthy eating and the super star body. You need to escape, vent, withdraw and indulge. You absolutely aren't meant to have it all together so soon after a breakup.
At this stage in your healing, you need to get some pleasure, somewhere ... even if it is just for a moment. You need something, anything ... to lift you.
Introducing the Healthy Binge ... This is good!
When you are going through a breakup you really need to take care of yourself. Emotions are delicate and grief will drain your energy. It may take everything you've got, just to drag yourself out of bed to get dressed each morning.
That is why in this lecture, we discuss how important it is to 'unplug' and I give you 10 alternative activities you can use during your media-free evenings.
If it doesn't sound too dramatic to say, walking has saved my life and my broken heart many times over. In this lecture, we discuss the healing powers of walking.
There is something about the freedom in walking that makes it so magical. I will introduce you to off-piste walking and play walking - Your body will love you for it and your confidence will grow!
I know it's early days and your friends and family may be encouraging you not to be alone when you are this sad. They are probably worried for you. But there is a real difference between hiding away and just choosing some quiet time on your own to help you heal.
In this lecture we explore the difference between being alone and loneliness and why some real alone time will help you refuel the emotional tank.
Even though listening to sad songs should leave us feeling terrible, we have a tendency to actually kind of like them. Listening to someone else sing about their sadness isn't as distressing as our own sadness.
In this lecture I share my all time favorite cheesy love song from 1980! and 5 of the most moving long songs ever! You'll need a tissue.
Perhaps one of the biggest temptations soon after a breakup, is to do something big. Something big enough to distract from the deep pain. In today's lecture I'll share with you the big mistake I almost made soon after my breakup and we will look at why it's best to make no radical changes for at least 6 months!
In this lecture, I'm going to talk about noticing emotions in our physical body. Emotions, that we often call feelings, include experiences such as love, hate, anger, trust, joy, panic, fear, and grief. I will take you through a very helpful exercise where you learn to notice emotions in your physical body. Don't worry; this isn't some namby-pamby fluffy exercise; it's the real deal!
Everyone of us is unique and deals with love loss in different ways. A broken heart is a kind of trauma to the body, and our body will try to heal itself so it can be whole again. Some of us choose to stay busy, some need to be alone, some pretend everything is great, and others throw themselves into dating other people - sometimes the very day things break off.
In this lecture, we look at why online dating sites are possibly the worst place you can spend your time following a breakup. Don't worry, it's not a permanent thing!
Very rarely do perfect relationships breakup. You may have been sideswiped and perhaps found out your other half was cheating – that is horrible to experience but it almost always signifies there wasn't something off in the relationship. Not always but usually.
I imagine most of you are like me; you'd like to mend your broken heart and you'd like a chance for a happy healthy relationship at some point in the future. In this lecture I will take you through a very valuable exercise that will allow you to answer two questions:
“We might have the idea that meditation is about seeing into past lives, reading people's minds, making the mind go off into some sort of blissful state or inhabit some kind of wonderful esoteric realm while we take a break from our busy lives … Perhaps we have come to believe that meditation will enable us to lose weight or make a lot of money, give us healing powers, or, at least, make us into a wonderfully glorious interesting attractive who can dazzle people at cocktail parties … Meditation is not really about those kinds of effects.”
I have always struggled with meditatation, but during my breakup my mind was having such trouble being quiet and still, I went searching for an everyday approach to meditation that I might find easier. I found such an approach and share it with you in this lecture.
What is it about baking that is so unbelievably wholesome. I think for a lot of us, baking brings back happy childhood memories – licking the spoon, dipping our fingers in the mixing bowl, fighting over the corner piece of cake … and the smells - is there ANYTHING more divine?
Roll up your sleeves, today's lecture is all about baking. If you've never baked – not to worry – for you this will be even more fun and yummy!
There is a reason animal therapy has been successful in helping all kinds of people with depression, including children and ex-military. Our bodies actually go through physical changes when we spend time with animals.
There are a lot of ways you could be spending time healing your broken heart, but in this lecture we will see one of the best ways!
Spend Quality Time with a Child
'Adults are obsolete children.' Dr Seuss
'Children make you want to start life over.' Muhammed Ali
'A child can teach an adult three things ... To be happy for no reason. To always be busy with something. And to know how to demand with all his might that which he desires.' Paulo Coelho
'The soul is healed by being with children.' Fyodor Dostoevsky Russian Novelist
'Let the children's laughter remind us how we used to be.' Whitney Houston
'When I was a child, I spoke like a child. When I was an adult, I no longer spoke like a child. When I became old and wise, I spoke again like a child. I wish I had spoken all my life like a child.' Robert Muller - philosopher of the United Nations
'Every child is an artist. The problem is how to remain an artist once we grow up.' Pablo Picasso
'If you ask children in the west where's God, they'd point to the sky. If you ask children in India, they point at themselves.' Mother Teresa
'See the world with the innocence of children. Approach the world with the daring of children. Love the world with the readiness of children. Heal the world with the purity of children. Change the world with the wisdom of children.'
Neale Donald Walsch Best selling author
Before I began putting this course together, I had been thinking about all the different activities that I had taken on that really helped me during my breakup. I then decided – hey why not make a course!
So this course? This course WAS my project. I can't tell you how much it has helped me putting this together for you – I truly hope it's a comfort to you. In this lecture, you will find 10 examples of cool projects you could take on to really help heal your heart.
Psychotherapy is often called the “talking cure." Over the past few decades the therapeutic power of writing has also been discovered. The writing task can require serious contemplation: an attempt to make sense of the past.
This lecture is an experience of writing - my writing. Writing about experiences, events and people often have things become clear and help us solve our problems. Here I share a poem I wrote during my last breakup. I wrote this during a 6-week Slam Poetry course I enrolled on as a way to express all the pain and hurt I was experiencing.
I encourage all of you to put pen to paper and just write your feelings - daily if you can.
Learning Something New is a fun lecture! Most of us have one or two areas of knowledge that we endeavor to know very well — usually things related to our jobs, or maybe a hobby. But while it’s important to develop a deep understanding of the things that matter most to us – like our jobs, it's just as important to develop new knowledge and skills.
Learning something knew at a time when we're emotionally vulnerable helps us more easily adapt to our new life circumstances. In this lecture there are 20 learning activities that are challenging enough to help rebuild lost confidence and boost self-esteem.
I'm pleased to introduce Rachel Papworth of Green and Tidy (mygreenandtidylife.co.uk). Rachel is an international professional organizer and I'm thrilled to have her as our guest!
If you've never thought about decluttering before, it can be confusing to think that the things we keep with us physically and mentally can have an impact on our emotional lives.
If you're serious about manifesting and welcoming emotional prosperity into your life this year - especially during such a challenging sensitive time - Rachel will talk you through some ways you can physically and mentally declutter your life.
Thank you Rachel!
Now that we're are in the final stretch of the course, it would be a good time to talk about finances. Hey - no rolled eyes! Why am I talking about money in a course about breakup survival? Because money can be one of life's biggest worries, and the last thing you need on top of everything you are already going through, is to stress about money.
In this lecture I share with you my 3 Golden Rules when it comes to money - warning - they are fun! I'll also show you how to play The Money Game and introduce you to a fabulous app. I love this lecture!
Do you know the difference between grief and mourning? By the end of this lecture you will be able to recognize what stage you are at and I will show you how to mark the end of grieving with a rather dramatic purge!
Following the exercise in this lecture, you should feel much lighter; helping the ghosts of past loves disappear, so you are free to begin the next crucial phase of healing.
As we come to the end of our time together, and the beginning of a new life phase for most of you, its important to mark your transition. Using a living organism can be a magical way to symbolize this next phase of healing and transformation. This is a beautifully simple lecture. I can't wait to meet your leafy companion!
Welcome to our final lecture together. You have come a long way and yes, there is still some challenging road ahead. This lecture will help you navigate your way forward.
In this final lecture, I provide one final Survival Tip to help support you on your journey, so that you can re-establish your sense of self and ultimately discover a healthy happy fulfilling life from this moment forward.
I Fell In Love With Posture
I've been teaching Udemy courses since September 2014, and in that short period of time, I've created 10 courses (6 are best sellers), over 8 thousand happy students have enrolled, with hundreds of 5* reviews - smiling!
People often ask me why I left a successful chiropractic career, and I tell them that I was frustrated by the quick fix approach to health I found in private practice. I wanted to hand back control, and that is exactly what I did. I took my posture tips and health advice online and began making posture videos. Never did I imagine my posture videos would go viral, and receive millions of views - but they did!
I fell in love with posture and now, I'm a full-time online Posture Doctor!
Best Selling Author
Paula is the best-selling author of The Posture Doctor and creator of a popular video blog on posture; and with over 8 million Youtube views, she is fast becoming the next big thing in online digital healthcare. Paula is a very popular keynote speaker who presents, Talks That Move You and has received international attention with interviews by the BBC and Breakfast Television, and is the 2012 winner of The Business Profile of the Year - London, UK.