7 steps to deepen or heal the connection with your parents
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7 steps to deepen or heal the connection with your parents

The potent way to reach inner strength and relaxation
4.8 (4 ratings)
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23 students enrolled
Created by Bertold Ulsamer
Last updated 2/2017
Price: $50
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  • 4.5 hours on-demand video
  • Full lifetime access
  • Access on mobile and TV
  • Certificate of Completion
What Will I Learn?
  • You will establish a relaxed relationship with your parents.
  • You will find peace with your past.
  • You will cast a new light on your parents and see them with different eyes.
  • You will withdraw from tensions between your parents.
  • You will be able to meet your parents with more sympathy and kindness.
  • You will find inner autonomy and still be able to keep in touch.
  • You will find inner peace.
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  • The longing to feel deeply/more thoroughly connected to your parents.
  • The readiness to get to know yourself more deeply.
  • The courage to face your past.
  • Your parents don‘t need to contribute. A reconciliation is possible even if your mother or father have died.

You want to improve the relationship with your parents? Maybe you notice a certain distance or you broke off the contact completely. Maybe you are angry and hurt and expect that your parents take the first step towards asking you forgiveness.

This course is an intensive personal journey which connects you with yourself and with your parents more deeply. For this you do not need the cooperation of your parents, you can do it all by yourself.

You will gain: inner peace, self-confidence, power and joy of life. Meeting your parents will become more relaxed and peaceful.

This journey is worth doing it. If you are aware of it or not - the connection with father and mother has a great impact on your partnership and the relationship with your children. This special connection shapes your life till your death and influences the satisfaction with your life in many ways.

This course provides you with the insights of more than 20 years of working on this topic: The first part contains 7 steps which will help you to find peace with your parents. The second part helps you to deal with barriers which might occur. They often have the roots in your larger system of your family of origin.

You will get the essence of a 5-day seminar. This course is practical and I will lead you through all the necessary steps.

Who is the target audience?
  • This course is for everyone who wants to improve or heal their relationship with their parents.
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Curriculum For This Course
56 Lectures
Finding the hidden love
5 Lectures 15:33
Introduction - Reasons for tensions between parents and children

Statement 1: All parents love their children

Statement 2: All children love their parents

Two different ways to feel more love for your parents

Being a good parent for your own child
Start your journey - The 7 steps to healing
21 Lectures 01:27:26
Introduction: How to inwardly get closer to your parents

Step 1: It’s not a shame to feel hurt

Step 1: Do you have to forgive your parents what they did to you?

Practice Step 1: I stand by my wounds

Practice Step 1: A sincere letter to father or mother

Step 2: Similarity connects – difference separates

Practice Step 2: I name the similarities to father and mother

Step 3: A child looks with needy eyes only

Practice Step 3: I look with the eyes of a grown-up at my father and mother

Step 4: Parents make mistakes and cannot meet their child’s special needs

Step 4: Parents themselves are needy sometimes

Step 4: Children feel guilty when they do not get enough love

Practice Step 4: I realise that the missing love has nothing to do with me as a

Step 5: A good distance to mother and father helps to see them clearly

Practice Step 5: I express my respect for mother and father

Step 6: Children are expensive for parents and take these expenses for granted

Practice Step 6: I am thankful for what I received

Step 7: Is life a burden or a gift?

Practice Step 7: I thank my mother for my life

Practice Step 7: I thank my father for my life

Conclusion: The 7 steps are not a ladder but a spiral
Barriers within the family system
15 Lectures 01:38:33
Getting to know barriers that might impede the 7 steps

Children as surrogates

Practice: I withdraw from tensions between father and mother

Practice: For a daughter who stood too close at the side of the father

Practice: For a son who stood too close at the side of the mother

The meaning of early death in a family

The meaning of outsiders in a family

Practice: I dissolve harmful connections with ancestors

How does the male power reach the man? How does the female power reach the woman

Practice for a man: I find my connection with the male power

Practice for a woman: I find my connection with the female power

What do you know about your ancestors?

Practice: I get in touch with my ancestors

Conclusion: The importance of our roots
Special Questions
4 Lectures 18:33

Adoption and artificial insemination

What if parents hurt their child in an extreme way?

When parents grow old
Last but not least
6 Lectures 31:57

Practice: What if my parents had had all the support they needed?

Practice: What I always wanted to hear from my parents

Practice: I make my way with my parents as support in the back

Outlook: Do not push yourself – trust in your growth

If you are interested in the work I am doing you might want to get information about my new courses and books. Then go to www.ulsamer.com and subscribe for my newsletter! Plus you will get reductions of some courses. 

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About the Instructor
Bertold Ulsamer
4.5 Average rating
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3,686 Students
17 Courses
Therapeut, Trainer und Coach

~* German Version below *~

PhD in law, certified clinical psychologist, NLP-trainer, trauma therapist (Peter Levine), originally from Germany. My strength is: Putting complicated psychological issues in a nutshell. Understandable for everyone - because the essence is simple! Moreover, I want my participants not only to get ahead theoretically, but also practically. Thus I set great value on them making new experiences and gaining new personal insights.

After graduating in law I also studied psychology. I quickly noticed that I way prefer working with humans to working with paragraphs. So I started to practice as a psychologist - initially with individuals, then mainly with groups. Together with a colleague I founded an institute for NLP in management trainin~* German Version below *~g. We developed and held many seminars about leadership, self-management and communication for customers like BMW, Siemens and Lufthansa.

In the 90’s I discovered the great influence of your own family of origin through the method of “family constellations”. Using this instrument I returned to working as a therapist and held seminars and trainings all over the world (e.g. in Australia, India, South Africa, Russia and the US).

Today I integrate everything I have learned working as a coach and therapist, for the last 9 years, oftentimes in China. I am the author of more than 20 books in the field of professional communication, self-management, family constellations and personal growth that have been translated into 10 languages.

If you are interested in the work I am doing then you may want to get information about my new courses and books. Inscribe you for my newsletter! And you will get reductions of some courses. You can do that on my website.

Dr. jur., Dipl.-Psychologe, NLP-Trainer, Traumatherapeut (Peter Levine). Meine Stärke ist: komplizierte psychologische Sachverhalte verständlich auf den Punkt bringen. Denn das Wesentliche ist im Grunde einfach! Und dann ist mir vor allem wichtig, dass Teilnehmerinnen und Teilnehmer eigene Erfahrungen machen und neue Einsichten gewinnen statt nur in der Theorie schlauer zu werden!

Nach dem Jurastudium habe ich noch Psychologie studiert. Schnell habe ich gemerkt, dass mir Menschen lieber sind als Paragraphen. Habe dann mit einer kleinen Praxis angefangen, aber vor allem immer mit Gruppen gearbeitet. Ein Kollege und ich gründeten dann ein Institut für Management-Training, wo ich viele Seminare zu Führung, Kommunikation und Selbst-management durchführte für Kunden wie BMW, Lufthansa und Siemens. Mitte der 90er Jahre entdeckte ich die große Auswirkung der eigenen Familie im Hintergrund über die Methode Familienaufstellungen. Damit ging ich noch einmal in die therapeutische Richtung und führte Seminare und Fortbildungen in der ganzen Welt durchgeführt (z. B. in Australien, Indien, Südafrika, USA, Russland) Heute integriere ich all das, was ich bisher gelernt habe, und arbeite als Seminarleiter, Therapeut und Coach, seit zehn Jahren häufig in China. Ich bin Autor von 24 Büchern zu den Themen Kommunikation, Selbstmanagement und Aufstellungsarbeit, von denen es Übersetzungen in zehn Sprachen gibt.