Give Your Best Care: A Caregiver's Survival Guide
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Give Your Best Care: A Caregiver's Survival Guide

Strategies, practical tips, and inspiration for finding joy & gratitude when caregiving for a loved one
4.7 (24 ratings)
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4,246 students enrolled
Created by Symon He
Last updated 4/2017
English
Price: Free
Includes:
  • 1.5 hours on-demand video
  • 13 Articles
  • Full lifetime access
  • Access on mobile and TV
  • Certificate of Completion
What Will I Learn?
  • Create a regret free game plan for you and your loved one
  • Discover strength inside you that you never knew existed
  • Practice compassion, patience, and gratitude daily
  • Minimize medical errors and delays
  • Get the most out of doctor's appointments
  • Be able to recognize important trade offs
  • Confidently seek and ask others for help
  • Maintain motivation and energy
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Requirements
  • Open mind
  • Open heart
Description

"Prognosis? It's about six months. I'm sorry."

Nobody wants to hear words like that from a doctor, especially of your mom.

I remember it like it was yesterday. It was 5:10pm on an early Friday evening.

Although the news was of my mother, hearing those words I felt as though it were my diagnosis.

Immediate thoughts then raced through my mind:

  • What does that mean?
  • How do I tell her?
  • How will she react?
  • Will she die?
  • Will she suffer?
  • What do we do next?
  • What do I do next?
  • etc...

The next few weeks were a dizzy blur of doctors appointments, tests, scans, crying, laughing, and everything in between.

We talked to 9 doctors in the first three weeks. 7 contradicted the other 2 on the best course of action. 8 gave her 6 months. The 9th gave her 6-12 months.

Stats available at the time suggested a 5 year survival rate of <1%.

Happy Update: It's been MORE THAN SIX years since my mom's initial diagnosis with stage 4 lung cancer.

So just because doctors give you six months, it's not written in stone.  But it hasn't been easy. During that time, we've had many downs and many ups. We've learned a lot as a family.

I've learned a lot as a caregiver.

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And I put all of those lessons into this course so that it could possibly help you if you find yourself or family in similar circumstances.

I'm also gathering and documenting the best tips and advice from other individuals who just want to help out and share. 

This course is a work in progress.

As I gather and learn more, I'll share them in this course. 

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Who is the course for?

The caregivers: It's for you if you find yourself (suddenly) thrust into the role of caring for a loved one who is facing serious or terminal illness and want strategies, tips, and best practices to help you give your best care.

The care receivers: It's for those of you who are receiving care from a loved one for your serious illness and want to better understand what they're going through and how you could best support their efforts in caring for you. Help them help you!

The care supporters: It's for those of you who are family, significant others, friends, or colleagues to a caregiver and want to know how best to support them.

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What's not in the course?

Because every ones medical situation or illness is different and I am not a medical doctor, I will not be providing any medical advice (for good reason).

What I will provide are strategies, tips, tools, links to resources, and other daily practices that have helped me as a caregiver. 

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Why did you make this course?

So many things I know now that I wish I knew at the very beginning. I would have felt less lost, less overwhelmed, and less stressed. I would have been able to give my mom even better care.

So I hope I could help others who are at earlier stages of their own journeys.

But I'm still learning and looking for ways to do better. With your feedback, I'm sure I'll also learn from you new ways to improve the care that I could continue to give my mom.

Plus, it would really make my mom smile knowing that our experience might be helping others, even complete strangers.


Who is the target audience?
  • You are or will become a primary caregiver to a loved one suffering from serious or terminal illness
  • Your significant other is a caregiver and you want to how best to be supportive
  • Your friend is a caregiver and you want to know how best to be supportive
  • You have serious or terminal illness and are or will be receiving care from someone
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Curriculum For This Course
67 Lectures
01:45:23
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Why I made this course
5 Lectures 07:05

Here my story and why I decided to create this course.

Why I Made This Course
02:06

This course is for caregivers, care receivers, and care supporters.

Who Should Take This Course?
02:05

Depending whether you're a caregiver, care receiver, or a care supporter, you may want to go through the course in different ways.

How to Take this Course
00:43

Before we dive in, I just want to take a quick moment to clarify on what this course is and isn't going to be about in order to set proper expectations.

What This Course Is and Isn't About
01:32

Tell me where you're from, what role you're playing, and for whom are you taking this course?

Why Are You Here?
00:39
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Your War Chest
10 Lectures 19:41

Having a war chest of mental tools you can rely on a must.

What is the War Chest?
00:58

Have a mantra to guide you on your caregiving journey.

Your Caregiving Mantra
02:11

The only place that matters is here and now.

The Only Place That Matters
02:09

What problems do you "get to have" in your life?

I Get to Have
02:38

Most of your decision making on this journey will involve trade offs.

Trade-Offs
01:56

It's only natural to start looking up statistics on survival rates but here are some things you need to keep in mind first.

How to Look at Statistics
04:04

Find every reason to celebrate each day.

Celebrate
01:18

Ask for help and you may be surprised by what you receive in return.

Ask for Help
02:02

When in doubt, put yourself in their shoes and ask "what would you want?"

What Would You Want?
01:37

If you found it useful, please share or consider leaving feedback. Also, if you have ideas or resources you think will be useful, please go to the lecture below titled "How Can I Help?"

Quick Ask
00:48
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The Game Plan
14 Lectures 23:28

Getting organized and having a game plan is a must.

Why You Need a Game Plan
01:22

Clearing your calendar can clear your mind of distractions so that you can focus on getting the best start for the important task at hand.

Clear Your Calendar
01:22

Of things, resources, and people who can be helpful in any way at all.

Take Inventory - Everyone Who Could Be Helpful
01:29

While the doctors will determine the course of treatment, you and your care receiver can play a very important role in making the body strong and healthy so that it can recover and/or tolerate treatments well.

Body
02:01

Why you can't ignore a healthy mind and spirit on this tough but rewarding journey ahead.

Mind & Spirit
02:12

When times are good, that is when you must build your cushion.

Build Cushion
01:35

https://clinicaltrials.gov/


Clinical trials often have very strict criteria for inclusion and have narrow windows for application. Don't risk missing out on potentially promising studies.


Go to the Other Resources section for more on clinical trials.

Keep Trials in Mind
01:58

How high can you make this ratio?

Positive to Negative Ratio
01:30

Having things to look forward to can focus the attention away from the disease and treatments and onto what truly makes life worth living.

Things to Look Forward To
01:45

Your use of language can set the entire mood of this journey. Use it carefully.

Priming & Use of Language
02:16

Look at the evidence and factor in any potential harm before you start on any complementary or alternative treatments. And definitely do not leave your doctor's in the dark.

Thoughts on "Complementary" & "Alternative" Therapies
03:13

Thoughts on what you can change in your environment.

Environment
01:27

Conversations To Have
00:54

Create a Private Facebook Group
00:24
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Put Your Mask On First
9 Lectures 17:31

You can't give your best care if you're not at your best.

Put Your Mask On First
01:05

Identify the leeches in your life--things and people that leech your time, energy, emotions, money, etc...from you. Be honest with yourself and cut off your leeches.

Identify, Eliminate & Reduce Leeches
02:22

Make it easier on you, the doctors, and everyone else who may be involved by keeping a detailed calendar.

Managing Time
01:35

Why you must factor in your energy and not just your time.

Managing Energy
01:10

My simple way to keep a healthy diet.

Lazy Healthy Diet
02:07

Find and utilize the wait times you have throughout the day to squeeze in a few sets of basic exercises--squats, pushups, planks, etc...

Lazy Fitness
04:08

Get your 5+ minutes of meditation, mindfulness, doodling, whatever you call it--just get it.

Simple Destressing
02:30

Keep close to you anything that rejuvenates you, inspires you, and energizes you. Could be podcasts, quotes, friends, and even complete strangers online, apps for meditation/mindfulness, etc..

Have Your Go To Resources
00:58

You must be selfish to some degree in order to be self less. Get your me time.

Get Your Me Time
01:36
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Doctor's Appointments
8 Lectures 20:25

Know and understand the basics of what you're dealing with by doing your homework first to make it easier for the doctors.

Understanding the Basics
01:24

Some tips and advice on finding good doctors.

Finding Good Doctors
05:22

Be nice to the nurses and receptionists!

Be Nice to Gatekeepers and Expediters
01:43

You can't cover everything at one time--target the most urgent and pressing risks first.

ID and Prioritize Risks
02:13

Beware of contingencies and utilize opportunities to stack requests so you can minimize the delay in getting treatment.

Contingencies & Stacking Requests
03:48

Why you must be ready to follow up.

Follow Up
01:32

Preparation for doctors appointments.

Prep for a Dr's Appointment
01:51

Work with doctors to create a roadmap so if one thing doesn't work, you know what is next.

Treatment Roadmap
02:32
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Message to the Care Supporters
3 Lectures 03:55

Care supporters, ask yourself this simple question.

Simple Question to Ask Yourself
00:58

Be more than "how can I help?"

Don't Say "How Can I Help?"
01:26

Why "green lights" make it easier for everyone.

Get and Give Green Lights
01:31
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Messages for the Care Receiver
5 Lectures 07:16

Care receivers, you do have a choice every day. Choose wisely.

You Choose Everyday
01:48

Why you must initiate the tough talks.

Initiate the Tough Talks
01:18

Could health be declining but treatment still be helping? Yes. Why you need the right benchmarks.

Have the Right Benchmarks
02:10

Fight to Delay Every "Last"
00:40

No one knows more than you how precious and fragile life can be--do not squander what you still have. Savor every moment.

Savor Each Moment
01:20
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Conclusion
4 Lectures 01:53

Concluding note.

Closing
00:48

Want to Chat 1 on 1?
00:06

Have something you want to share with others? Let me know!

How Can You Help?
00:36

No Really, How Do I Help YOU?
00:23
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Bonus Discussion
9 Lectures 04:23

Intro to this section.

Other Resources Overview
00:38

Some places to find inspiration.

For Inspiration
00:26

Resources I found useful for finding medical information.

For Medical Research
00:42

Resources for clinical trials.

For Clinical Trials
00:20

List of my mood booster music--make your own!

Mood Booster Music
00:44

Some tips on cane use.

If Using a Cane
00:15

Other Helpful Things For the House
01:04

Interview with special guest Dori Martini of kindlycare.com.   Check out the great tips and resources for finding the right caregiver for you or your loved ones.  

How to Find Outside Caregivers - Interview with KindlyCare.com
00:04

Here's the donation I made to Lung Cancer Alliance ($100) on 4/3/2017. 

The course generated just $67 in revenues from 1/1/2017 to 3/31/2017.  I've decided to keep it free as a result. 

Donation to Lung Cancer Alliance
00:08
About the Instructor
Symon He
4.6 Average rating
2,070 Reviews
36,094 Students
10 Courses
Stanford MBA | Real Estate and Startup Consultant

Hey, thanks for checking out my courses.  

I am a real estate consultant and startup advisor based out of Los Angeles CA.

I currently help startup founders and small business entrepreneurs build financial models and projections for their businesses and private real estate investors with their acquisitions analysis and deal structuring.  Please message me directly for consulting inquiries.

Previously, I was Head of Marketing Analytics at the Panda Restaurant Group after first serving as a senior financial analyst leading real estate and new store underwriting efforts. 

Prior to that, I worked on over $400M in commercial real estate investments at a private equity real estate fund.  Before that, I worked as a manager in the global M&A unit for a Fortune 80 company. 

I am also a cofounder of LearnAirbnb, a consultancy and research group specializing in the home-sharing economy.  

I graduated Magna Cum Laude in Computer Engineering and Economics from UC Irvine and hold an MBA from Stanford University.