Perfect Relating: 3 Easy Steps to Get what You Want

Learn this simple method to maximize what you get from every relationship, whether family, friends, or professionally.
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  • Lectures 14
  • Length 1 hour
  • Skill Level Beginner Level
  • Languages English
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About This Course

Published 9/2014 English

Course Description

This was the training you should have had in elementary school about 'playing well with others'.

I've lost marriages, business deals, and friends because of not having the skills that I needed to express clearly what I wanted from others.

Even worse, I lost some opportunities before they ever began. Does this sound familiar?

This course is guaranteed to maximize the chances of you getting what you want in any interaction with others.

It brings communication and relating down to the very basics.

1. What do I want?

The key to knowing what you want is to be in connection with your 'feelings'. Unfortunately, our feelings are repressed from a very early age. This course helps you get in touch with them (through a simple daily practice), so that you can know exactly what it is you want. (Curing: "I don't know what I want"-itis)

2. How can I ask for it? (Easily and without fear)

We are trained from childhood NOT to directly ask for what we want. "Why are you so selfish?" "Don't you see we aren't made out of money?" Yada yada yada.

What results? We seldom ask directly for what we want. And what happens then? We don't get it, of course! So we result to subterfuge. This course heals that process.

3. And how can I easily help others move from a 'No!' to a 'Yes!"?

Through showing empathy with the other person, helping them get what they want...just giving naturally, you encourage others to give back to you. I show you in this course how to drop the negative emotion connected with the past and simply, deeply connect to your communication partner. This dramatically increases the chances of you getting what you want.

A relationship is a continuous flow of actions back and forth between two people. It can only thrive as long as there is mutual benefit.

Through the presentation and included worksheets, discover a process as natural as breathing for getting your needs met.

If you have ever found yourself 'giving without getting' in a relationship, not knowing what you want or how to get it, or been labeled 'codependent', this course will help you know exactly what you want and communicate to get it.

One participant writes:

“I went into the course work thinking it would simply enhance my communication skills and improve my relationships. ... The exercises helped me see how much my needs were not getting met.

“Now I experience a growing ease in knowing what my needs are and have effective strategies for asking that those needs be met.", Sunny, 44 from California.

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What are the requirements?

  • You must be willing to focus and get honest about how you are really feeling
  • You must want to see real change in your relationships in the very near future
  • Be willing to consider completely new ways of communicating

What am I going to get from this course?

  • Find out what you really want
  • Learn to ask for what you want in a relaxed, nonthreatening way
  • Learn to negotiate to maximize the chances of getting what you want

Who is the target audience?

  • "Helpers", "Rescuers" and people who often get stuck in relationships
  • People who respond with, "But I don't know what I want!" when they are asked
  • People who are shy, afraid, or scared to ask for what they want
  • People who are afraid of hearing "No!" to their requests in relationships
  • People who want to learn how to take a "No" and turn it into something that gets everyone's needs met in relationship

What you get with this course?

Not for you? No problem.
30 day money back guarantee.

Forever yours.
Lifetime access.

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Desktop, iOS and Android.

Get rewarded.
Certificate of completion.


Section 1: Introduction
7 questions

A short quiz before you start perfect relating...what do *you* think?


I talk about some of the benefits to perfect relating: what people have gotten out of it in their lives and what it can do for you.


Learn three easy things you can do to get the most out of this course. One of which is to get a buddy. Another is to get a journal to write in about your progress.

Section 2: Part One: Knowing what you want
What is Perfect Relating?
Why do people do things for us?
Bonus: How did we get here in the first place?
What is 'Natural' vs 'Normal' Relating?
How do our feelings tell us what we need?
Self-Empathy Practice
1 page
Section 3: Part Two: Asking for what you want
What are the Nine Categories of Needs?
5 pages

If you need this as a doc file, it is available under 'Supplementary Downloads' on the left.

How do you Ask for what you Want?
Section 4: Learning to Negotiate
How to Negotiate
Section 5: Bonus Content: Labels, Concepts, and Beliefs
How Labels, Concepts, and Beliefs get in the way of Relating
Free coupons for live course
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Instructor Biography

Ryan Orrock, Relating and Sexuality Author, Mentor, Guide, and Trainer

In 2008, I put my professional obligations on hold and spent the equivalent of a college education in time and money (my do-it-yourself MBA) studying the secrets of male-female interaction.

I spent a small fortune and five years learning from true gurus, teachers, and mentors about tantra, sexual energy, seduction, love, sex and sexuality around the world.

I have digested their secrets mixed with my own experience of lots of fumbling around, making mistakes, until I 'cracked the code' for myself and now share what I know to help men and women erase the seemingly-impassable chasm between them and connect deeply and meaningfully in ways that very very few people even know are possible.

Enjoy my courses! And then enjoy your relating and sexuality in a whole new and deeper way!

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