Premarital Counseling - Create a Marriage That Lasts
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Premarital Counseling - Create a Marriage That Lasts

Great marriages don't just happen, you have to plan for them.
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Created by Hilary Phillips
Last updated 8/2017
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Includes:
  • 4 hours on-demand video
  • Full lifetime access
  • Access on mobile and TV
  • Assignments
  • Certificate of Completion
What Will I Learn?
  • Improve Communication Skills, Improve Conflict Resolution Skills, Be Prepared for Marriage
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Requirements
  • We recommend you have paper and pen ready to take notes. Keep an open mind and a willingness to learn about yourself and your partner.
Description

Are you planning a wedding?  If so, be sure to plan your marriage as well - great marriages don't just happen, you need to plan for them.

Premarital Counseling is an important step in your journey to creating a healthy, fulfilling marriage. You will put a tremendous amount of time, money and love into planning a beautiful wedding day - your marriage is worthy of the same investment.

As a Licensed Professional Counselor I have been providing Premarital Counseling since 2006.  I have worked with hundreds of couples and have refined my curriculum using client feedback and the most current research to create a comprehensive online program to prepare you for life's greatest adventure - marriage!

In this program you will:

  • Identify and Manage Your Expectations for Marriage
  • Understand Personality Styles and Relationship Dynamics
  • Improve Communication & Conflict Management Skills
  • Learn How to Discuss Difficult Topics like Parenting, Money and Sex
  • Create a Shared Vision for Your Life Together

Research shows that 92% of couples who participate in Premarital Counseling report it helped in their first year of marriage.  Get the tools you need to create the marriage you want!





Who is the target audience?
  • Engaged and Newly married couples
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Curriculum For This Course
12 Lectures
03:51:02
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Introduction
12 Lectures 03:33:43

Should we do Premarital Counseling?  What are the benefits?  

These are common questions that dating and engaged couples have.  This video will answer those questions for you! You will:

  1. Get to know the Instructor
  2. Review what this course covers
  3. Discuss the benefits of Premarital Counseling
  4. Review scientific research that proves how effective Premarital Counseling can be



Preview 10:02

Set aside time to watch this video together.  I encourage you to approach this as if you had an appointment for a face to face meeting - turn off your phones, avoid any distractions and focus your attention.  

You will want to grab a piece of paper and pen to take notes and complete the exercises. 

In this video we will:

  • Discuss the Benefits of Premarital Education
  • Review Common Marriage Myths
  • Identify Your Expectations for Marriage
  •  Identify the Silent Rules in Your Life
  • Create the Agreements that Shape Your Marriage

Exercise One: Complete the Roles & Responsibilities Worksheet

Household chores need to be managed and yet they don't have to be a source of on-going stress. Decide your Roles & Responsibilities in advance to set and manage expectations.  

  1. Complete the worksheet separately by completing the first two columns: look at each task and identify who was responsible for this task in the family that you grew up in.  
  2. Next, identify who you anticipate will be responsible for this task in your marriage.  
  3. Finally, come together to discuss your answers.  Discuss openly and compromise to agree on responsibility for all tasks.

Understand that as life changes you may need to revisit this list and establish new Roles & Responsibilities.

Exercise Two: Complete the Our Agreements Worksheet

Openly discuss your expectations for various aspects of your relationship. Do NOT assume that you are on the same page about these topics.  Where you don't see eye to eye, be sure to discuss and compromise to create Agreements.  

These Agreements are part of the commitment that you are making to each other. The benefit of establishing these Agreements is a foundation of trust and safety that you both know what to expect from the other.


Expectations and Agreements
26:58

Household chores need to be managed and yet they don't have to be a source of on-going stress. Decide your Roles & Responsibilities in advance to set and manage expectations.
Complete the Roles & Responsibilities Worksheet
1 question

Openly discuss your expectations for various aspects of your relationship. Do NOT assume that you are on the same page about these topics. Where you don't see eye to eye, be sure to discuss and compromise to create Agreements.
Our Agreements Worksheet
1 question

In this video we will take time to explore the families that you each grew up in.  We will go through the questions briefly in the video and explain the purpose for these questions.  After watching the video please download the questions and take turns answering the questions. 

It is recommended to have partner 1 answer all the questions and then switch roles rather than go back and forth with each question.

This week we will:

  • Explore Influences from Childhood and Family
  • Identify Your Personality Styles
  • Understand how Personality Styles Drive Your Relationship Dynamics


The More You Know, The Better You Understand
25:55

Answer these questions about the family in which you grew up - also known as our Family of Origin.
Understanding Family Influences
1 question

Understanding how your personality styles interact can be extremely helpful to understand how you react and respond to each other. This bonus video was created to further expand your understanding of yourself, your partner and your relationship dynamics.
Understanding Personality Styles
1 question

This week we will be covering Communication skills. If there is one area of your relationship to focus on, it is communication as it permeates every facet of your relationship.  

Our Goal is to improve communication by using skills proven to reduce conflict and improve emotional intimacy. 

We will:

  • Understand how Communication Impacts Conflict and Intimacy
  • Learn Specific Skills to Improve Communication
Communication Skills
32:40

Review the Assertive Communication Worksheet
Assertive Communication
1 question

Take some time to watch this amazing TED Talk by Brene Brown about vulnerability.
The Power of Vulnerability
1 question

A review of the key skills you can use to communicate effectively each and every day.
Key Communication Skills
1 question

In the next three videos we focus on Conflict Management. All marriages will experience times of Conflict.  You will learn what the research shows about Conflict as well as understand what drives Conflict.

We will cover specific skills that you can use to manage through times of disagreement to keep conflict from damaging your emotional connection.

  • Identify the Conflict Patterns in Your Relationship
  • Learn Specific Skills to Effectively Manage Conflict
  • Learn How to Apologize in Love
  • Understand the Role Forgiveness Plays in Conflict Resolution
Managing Conflict in Your Marriage
07:30

To effectively manage Conflict, you first need to understand what is happening for yourself and your partner emotionally.  

In this section we'll discuss the Fight or Flight instinct and give you the tools you need to respond rather than react to each other.

Conflict Management Skills
26:34

Taking a Time Out can be an effective way to prevent difficult conversations from escalating. It is important that you take a Time Out in a way that is productive, not avoiding a tough topic.
Taking Time Outs
1 question

There are 4 interactions that can kill your marriage.  In this section you'll learn about the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" and how to avoid them in your marriage.

While Conflict is unavoidable knowing how to Apologize and how to Forgive are skills that happily married couples have mastered.  You'll learn how to do both!

Apologies and Forgiveness
18:29

Don't let these types of interactions destroy your marriage relationship.
The Four Interactions That Will Kill Your Marriage
1 question

Buckle your seat belts, we have a lot to cover in these next few lectures.  These are the topics that are the most difficult for some couples to discuss: Money, Parenting and Sex.  We will explore key aspects of each topic and prepare you to communicate openly about these sensitive areas of your life together.

We will:

  • Discuss Finances and Your Beliefs and Goals Related to Money
  • Understand Your Goals and Expectations for Children & Parenting
  • Learn how to Communicate Your Needs for Affection & Physical Intimacy
    • Discussing Finances
      14:34

      Reaching financial goals takes planning. Discuss your financial goals as a couple and prioritize important milestones.
      Identifying Your Financial Goals
      1 question

      Money is not just currency, it involves emotion. Take time to complete the worksheet to better understand your beliefs about money and the emotions involved for you and your partner.
      Understanding Your Beliefs About Money
      1 question

      Spirituality is an important part of the human experience. While I would not suppose to tell anyone what they should believe, I do encourage everyone to explore their spiritual beliefs with their partner.
      Spirituality in Marriage
      07:13

      The decision to start a family is life-altering. In this video we will cover important conversations to have as you prepare for the journey to parenthood.

      Children & Parenting
      06:29

      For many people, talking about sex is difficult. This lesson is designed to get you talking and help you build the foundation to discuss intimacy in a healthy, open way.

      We will cover things like:

      • How Often Should a Married Couple Have Sex?
      • Who Should Initiate Sex, and How?
      • What Should We Do If One of Us Doesn't Enjoy Sex?
      Physical Intimacy in Marriage
      19:26

      Review this worksheet to better understand the key elements of a healthy sexual relationship. Use these principles to guide your decisions and your discussions about sex.
      The Principles of a Healthy Sexual Relationship
      1 question

      This is it, the homestretch! This module will bring together everything we have discussed and guide you through created the Shared Vision Statement for your marriage.  Don't put your marriage on auto-pilot and hope for the best, create a shared vision that will guide your life together.

      • Review the Sound Marital House – the Elements of a Strong Marriage
      • Identify Your Core Values
      • Develop Your Shared Vision
      Creating a Shared Vision
      17:53

      What matters to you most? Our Value System is a key driver in what we think, do and say. What are your Core Values?
      Identifying Your Core Values
      1 question

      How well do you know each other? Take at least ten minutes each day to ask and answer questions.
      Love Map Questions
      1 question

      What makes a great marriage? According to the research of Dr. John Gottman, these elements create a Sound Marital House.
      The Sound Marital House
      1 question

      Think of this exercise like creating a Mission Statement for an organization. SSet aside time to discuss this at length.
      Our Shared Vision
      1 question

      Use this Word document to capture your Shared Vision Statement!
      Our Vision Statement
      1 question
      About the Instructor
      Hilary Phillips
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      Licensed Professional Counselor & Certified Sex Therapist

      Hilary Phillips is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Sex Therapist.  In 2006 she founded Connections Counseling Center a private practice in Atlanta, GA that specializes in Couples Counseling and Premarital Counseling.  

      Hilary is passionate about helping couples recognize the full potential of their relationship by creating awareness and understanding - the building blocks for emotional connection.