Are you planning a wedding? If so, be sure to plan your marriage as well - great marriages don't just happen, you need to plan for them.
Premarital Counseling is an important step in your journey to creating a healthy, fulfilling marriage. You will put a tremendous amount of time, money and love into planning a beautiful wedding day - your marriage is worthy of the same investment.
As a Licensed Professional Counselor I have been providing Premarital Counseling since 2006. I have worked with hundreds of couples and have refined my curriculum using client feedback and the most current research to create a comprehensive online program to prepare you for life's greatest adventure - marriage!
In this program you will:
Research shows that 92% of couples who participate in Premarital Counseling report it helped in their first year of marriage. Get the tools you need to create the marriage you want!
Should we do Premarital Counseling? What are the benefits?
These are common questions that dating and engaged couples have. This video will answer those questions for you! You will:
Set aside time to watch this video together. I encourage you to approach this as if you had an appointment for a face to face meeting - turn off your phones, avoid any distractions and focus your attention.
You will want to grab a piece of paper and pen to take notes and complete the exercises.
In this video we will:
Exercise One: Complete the Roles & Responsibilities Worksheet
Household chores need to be managed and yet they don't have to be a source of on-going stress. Decide your Roles & Responsibilities in advance to set and manage expectations.
Understand that as life changes you may need to revisit this list and establish new Roles & Responsibilities.
Exercise Two: Complete the Our Agreements Worksheet
Openly discuss your expectations for various aspects of your relationship. Do NOT assume that you are on the same page about these topics. Where you don't see eye to eye, be sure to discuss and compromise to create Agreements.
These Agreements are part of the commitment that you are making to each other. The benefit of establishing these Agreements is a foundation of trust and safety that you both know what to expect from the other.
In this video we will take time to explore the families that you each grew up in. We will go through the questions briefly in the video and explain the purpose for these questions. After watching the video please download the questions and take turns answering the questions.
It is recommended to have partner 1 answer all the questions and then switch roles rather than go back and forth with each question.
This week we will:
This week we will be covering Communication skills. If there is one area of your relationship to focus on, it is communication as it permeates every facet of your relationship.
Our Goal is to improve communication by using skills proven to reduce conflict and improve emotional intimacy.
In the next three videos we focus on Conflict Management. All marriages will experience times of Conflict. You will learn what the research shows about Conflict as well as understand what drives Conflict.
We will cover specific skills that you can use to manage through times of disagreement to keep conflict from damaging your emotional connection.
To effectively manage Conflict, you first need to understand what is happening for yourself and your partner emotionally.
In this section we'll discuss the Fight or Flight instinct and give you the tools you need to respond rather than react to each other.
There are 4 interactions that can kill your marriage. In this section you'll learn about the "Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse" and how to avoid them in your marriage.
While Conflict is unavoidable knowing how to Apologize and how to Forgive are skills that happily married couples have mastered. You'll learn how to do both!
Buckle your seat belts, we have a lot to cover in these next few lectures. These are the topics that are the most difficult for some couples to discuss: Money, Parenting and Sex. We will explore key aspects of each topic and prepare you to communicate openly about these sensitive areas of your life together.
The decision to start a family is life-altering. In this video we will cover important conversations to have as you prepare for the journey to parenthood.
For many people, talking about sex is difficult. This lesson is designed to get you talking and help you build the foundation to discuss intimacy in a healthy, open way.
We will cover things like:
This is it, the homestretch! This module will bring together everything we have discussed and guide you through created the Shared Vision Statement for your marriage. Don't put your marriage on auto-pilot and hope for the best, create a shared vision that will guide your life together.
Hilary Phillips is a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Sex Therapist. In 2006 she founded Connections Counseling Center a private practice in Atlanta, GA that specializes in Couples Counseling and Premarital Counseling.
Hilary is passionate about helping couples recognize the full potential of their relationship by creating awareness and understanding - the building blocks for emotional connection.