End the suffering in your love relationship!
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End the suffering in your love relationship!

Discovering the deeper roots of your frustration, anger, fear and pain
4.7 (20 ratings)
Instead of using a simple lifetime average, Udemy calculates a course's star rating by considering a number of different factors such as the number of ratings, the age of ratings, and the likelihood of fraudulent ratings.
114 students enrolled
Created by Bertold Ulsamer
Last updated 7/2017
Price: $30
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  • 1.5 hours on-demand video
  • 1 Supplemental Resource
  • Full lifetime access
  • Access on mobile and TV
  • Certificate of Completion
What Will I Learn?
  • You will understand...
  • ...why frustration is a natural part of growth in a relationship
  • ...why, sometimes, you react very angry
  • ...why, sometimes, little incidents cause such a pain
  • ...why, sometimes, you are afraid oft he separation and feel totally lost
  • You will find new ways to change these emotions and reactions!
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  • The readiness to face some of your wounds

This course teaches you ways to finish the perpetual inner and outer quarrels with your beloved one. If you understand the deeper roots of your emotions, then your actual emotional reactions change by themselves.

It is simple - but not easy. A lot of suffering in a relationship is caused by old wounds. We all try to avoid and to escape them. But when you allow somebody to come closer to your heart – it is inevitable that your old hurts come up. Because they want to be seen and recognized.

You need to distinguish the actual reality from the negative energy of the past. So the art is to separate past and presence. Sure, they will be situations with your beloved where you feel frustrated, angry or hurt. But, if you discover the distinction, you are no more overwhelmed and you can react in an adequate way. As a grown up!  You show your boundaries and engage yourself for what you want. You meet the other as a powerful and loving adult – not as a helpless child.

This course contains essential insights of my seminars of the last 25 years. Two basic exercises show you how to realize these insights.

Try and see! The following lessons will give you deep understanding of your relationship and of your own personality. So you will nourish yourself and your love!

Who is the target audience?
  • Everyone who is in a relationship in which he or she does not feel fully satisfied
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Curriculum For This Course
21 Lectures
The longing for love and its consequences
10 Lectures 41:20

Partnership touches us deep in our heart

How love is changing from bliss towards disappointment

A part of the emotional energy comes from the past

Why do you react emotionally so intense?

How both are connected

Longing for love - old wounds

The stronger the longing, the stronger the later frustration

Preview 02:05

Practice: The effort not to feel the hidden pain

Practice: You separate presence and past in an emotional situation

Evaluation of the practice: possibilities and barriers

What if you did not discover anything in the practice?

The image of the good and the bad father and mother 

The basic confusion we all carry

Practice for women: See your man more clearly!

Practice for men: See your woman more clearly!
Understanding the emotions more deeply
6 Lectures 21:49
Introduction: Looking towards the negative emotions

This fear has its roots in the childhood

What happens when the other may leave you?

Do not play too nice - The anger which often is covered

The pain we all share

The burden that every human being carries in its depth

Children are overwhelmed, grown ups can learn to contain strong emotions!

If you want gain a deeper understanding of how to deal emotions I recommend the following e-book:

Christian Meyer "Towards Awakening "  http://www.zeitundraum-shop.org/epages/63778448.sf/de_DE/?ObjectPath=/Shops/63778448/Products/Towards_Awakening_ebook 

How to deal with these strong emotions?

Practice: Exploring emotions
Final Practice and Remark
2 Lectures 05:36
Final practice: Connect with your beloved

If you are interested in the work I am doing you might want to get information about my new courses and books. Then go to www.ulsamer.com and subscribe for my newsletter! Plus you will get reductions of some courses. 

How to nourish the insights you got through this course
About the Instructor
Bertold Ulsamer
4.5 Average rating
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3,691 Students
17 Courses
Therapeut, Trainer und Coach

~* German Version below *~

PhD in law, certified clinical psychologist, NLP-trainer, trauma therapist (Peter Levine), originally from Germany. My strength is: Putting complicated psychological issues in a nutshell. Understandable for everyone - because the essence is simple! Moreover, I want my participants not only to get ahead theoretically, but also practically. Thus I set great value on them making new experiences and gaining new personal insights.

After graduating in law I also studied psychology. I quickly noticed that I way prefer working with humans to working with paragraphs. So I started to practice as a psychologist - initially with individuals, then mainly with groups. Together with a colleague I founded an institute for NLP in management trainin~* German Version below *~g. We developed and held many seminars about leadership, self-management and communication for customers like BMW, Siemens and Lufthansa.

In the 90’s I discovered the great influence of your own family of origin through the method of “family constellations”. Using this instrument I returned to working as a therapist and held seminars and trainings all over the world (e.g. in Australia, India, South Africa, Russia and the US).

Today I integrate everything I have learned working as a coach and therapist, for the last 9 years, oftentimes in China. I am the author of more than 20 books in the field of professional communication, self-management, family constellations and personal growth that have been translated into 10 languages.

If you are interested in the work I am doing then you may want to get information about my new courses and books. Inscribe you for my newsletter! And you will get reductions of some courses. You can do that on my website.

Dr. jur., Dipl.-Psychologe, NLP-Trainer, Traumatherapeut (Peter Levine). Meine Stärke ist: komplizierte psychologische Sachverhalte verständlich auf den Punkt bringen. Denn das Wesentliche ist im Grunde einfach! Und dann ist mir vor allem wichtig, dass Teilnehmerinnen und Teilnehmer eigene Erfahrungen machen und neue Einsichten gewinnen statt nur in der Theorie schlauer zu werden!

Nach dem Jurastudium habe ich noch Psychologie studiert. Schnell habe ich gemerkt, dass mir Menschen lieber sind als Paragraphen. Habe dann mit einer kleinen Praxis angefangen, aber vor allem immer mit Gruppen gearbeitet. Ein Kollege und ich gründeten dann ein Institut für Management-Training, wo ich viele Seminare zu Führung, Kommunikation und Selbst-management durchführte für Kunden wie BMW, Lufthansa und Siemens. Mitte der 90er Jahre entdeckte ich die große Auswirkung der eigenen Familie im Hintergrund über die Methode Familienaufstellungen. Damit ging ich noch einmal in die therapeutische Richtung und führte Seminare und Fortbildungen in der ganzen Welt durchgeführt (z. B. in Australien, Indien, Südafrika, USA, Russland) Heute integriere ich all das, was ich bisher gelernt habe, und arbeite als Seminarleiter, Therapeut und Coach, seit zehn Jahren häufig in China. Ich bin Autor von 24 Büchern zu den Themen Kommunikation, Selbstmanagement und Aufstellungsarbeit, von denen es Übersetzungen in zehn Sprachen gibt.