Emotional Unavailability & Neediness
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Emotional Unavailability & Neediness

Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin
4.8 (45 ratings)
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118 students enrolled
Created by Gabriella Kortsch
Last updated 4/2017
Price: $100
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  • 6 hours on-demand video
  • 8 Supplemental Resources
  • Full lifetime access
  • Access on mobile and TV
  • Certificate of Completion
What Will I Learn?
  • Understand what emotional unavailability & neediness actually mean
  • Recognize some of the major reasons why (and how) emotional unavailability & neediness appear in people’s early lives
  • Understand what triggers emotional unavailability & neediness in adult relationships
  • Re-frame the way you think about your relationships, while also understanding how you can begin to transform this challenge in your life
  • Be able to change how it impacts you in order to live a life of greater inner well-being & freedom
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  • You simply need to know that this is a subject which interests or concerns you

This course is for you. It’s designed for anybody who has ever run into somebody who is either emotionally unavailable, or needy, particularly in love relationships, but also in friendships, and even in their own family. And it’s caused problems. For you, or for the other person, or for both. It may have also repeated in a number of different situations in your life, even if you are quite young. This course is also designed for you if you aren’t sure whether you’re emotionally unavailable or needy, but you suspect that you might be and want to understand yourself better, and learn how you can move forward to live your life in greater freedom. And – the course is also meant for counselors, therapists, and healers who simply want to enrich their practice.


In this course, you will be given a clear understanding of what emotional unavailability and neediness entails. You will be taken through the typical background or childhood events that have resulted in emotional unavailability and/or neediness, so that you have a thorough comprehension of these causes.

You will learn what you need to incorporate into your life so that you will be able to transform the way you think when you are in situations that trigger your emotional unavailability or neediness. This new way of thinking and talking to yourself will then enable you to react differently in your relationships, both the ones that currently form part of your life, as well as the ones that will appear in the future.

This course has been developed and is delivered by a psychotherapist, life coach, and relationship coach with a doctoral degree in psychology, and with over 27 years’ experience in international counseling, training, teaching, and speaking.

Dr. Gabriella Kortsch has worked with a wide range of people from all over the world in her private practice, her workshops, her discussion group, and her radio shows. In this course you will be presented with practical step-by-step information and methodologies to begin to transform yourself, so that you can carry this new knowledge and self-understanding into your life from here on in, for greater well-being and inner freedom.

Gabriella’s foundational book - her fourth - “Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin” was published in 2014 and was written precisely in order to address the central theme of this course.

You will be provided with over 50 tutorial videos that will ensure your entire curriculum plan and content is paced in a way that is engaging and comprehensive so that it brings you forward in your life and you will have clearly seen that changing the way these challenges have hampered you in the past, lies in your own hands.

This is a thoughtful, yet practical workshop-style course where you will actually be able to TRANSFORM your own way of understanding and thinking about these challenges by the end.

Don’t wait any longer. You DESERVE to free yourself of emotional unavailability and/or neediness. You can get started today. Let me hold your hand and take you through the process!

Who is the target audience?
  • Anybody who has ever had a relationship with an emotionally unavailable person
  • Anybody who has ever had a relationship with an emotionally needy person
  • Anybody who isn’t sure whether they're emotionally unavailable or needy, but suspect that they might be
  • Anybody who wants to heal their relationship patterns
  • Anybody who wants to understand themselves better
  • Anybody who wants to learn how to move forward in these relationship issues
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Curriculum For This Course
53 Lectures
What is Emotional Unavailability?
4 Lectures 21:07


Defining Emotional Unavailability Part 1

Defining Emotional Unavailability Part 2
The Partner of an Emotionally Unavailable Person
1 Lecture 10:56
Who Typically Has a Relationship with an Emotionally Unavailable Person?
What is Neediness?
4 Lectures 24:36

Typical Scenarios of Neediness

Defining Neediness 1

Defining Neediness 2
The Partner of a Needy Person
1 Lecture 05:51
Who Typically Has a Relationship with a Needy Person?
Why “Two Sides of the Same Coin”?
1 Lecture 03:35
It Goes Both Ways
Compassion for Our Parents
3 Lectures 15:12

The Skills Our Parents Often Lack Part 1

The Skills Our Parents Often Lack Part 2
Origins of Emotional Unavailability & Neediness
8 Lectures 52:56

Attachment: Introduction

Attachment: Types

Issues with Parental Presence & Love


Another Type of Separation & Abandonment

Further Childhood Dilemmas
Case Studies of Relationships with Emotionally Unavailable or Needy Partners
2 Lectures 14:44
Specific Case Studies A

Specific Case Studies B
Sex, Neediness & Emotional Unavailability
3 Lectures 22:29

When You Learn that Love Means Getting Hurt
Relationship Patterns
3 Lectures 16:02

Discovering Your Relationship Patterns Part 1

Discovering Your Relationship Patterns Part 2
4 More Sections
About the Instructor
Gabriella Kortsch
4.9 Average rating
69 Reviews
178 Students
3 Courses
Bestselling Author, Psychotherapist, Relationship Coach

Because of my work for over 25 years with clients from nearly 30 countries and all walks of life, teaching and helping them to find greater inner well-being, peace & joy in their lives, I am so very thrilled and honored to now be able to present Udemy students with much of the same in this easily accessible on-line course format, even if we're not sitting across from each other on two sofas in my office.

My work is in private practice as an integral (holistic) psychotherapist and life coach, clinical hypnotherapist, relationship coach, dream worker, EFT practitioner, and professional speaker. I also do past life regression work.

My first book Rewiring the Soul: Finding the Possible Self, was published in 2011, followed by my next three books: The Tao of Spiritual Partnership in 2012, The Power of Your Heart: Loving the Self in 2013, and Emotional Unavailability & Neediness: Two Sides of the Same Coin in 2014, all of which are available globally via Amazon, Barnes & Noble, and all fine online booksellers in print and e-book format. Rewiring the Soul was also published in German (Deine Seele und Du) in 2015 and in Spanish (Reconectar con el Alma) in 2016.

From here in southern Spain, I broadcast a live weekly show from 2003 - 2011, now available as archived audio files on my Advanced Personal Therapy website.

I work with clients locally in person and internationally via phone or SKYPE (in English, Spanish, and German) to move them towards greater personal, professional, and relationship success with an integral and human potential raising approach to life. See the site under my name Gabriella Kortsch for more information.

My clients and I work on the resolution of many problems related to the stresses of modern life in careers, relationships, sexuality, parents, children, health, goals, acculturation, spirituality, and life in general. More than anything else, I focus with my clients on sharing with them what I consider most important of all:  assuming absolute and total responsibility for the self.

In 2003 I participated in a symposium on human development at Harvard University in Boston and was galvanized in so many ways due to what the key note speaker there was discussing from an empirical point of view - something that the metaphysical world had already known for so long: everything we think, feel, say and do has an effect on our cells and our very DNA. I thought to myself then that we finally had something in hand for all those who used to reject so much simply because there had been no empirical proof.

I received my Ph.D. in Psychology from Florida International University (FIU) in Miami, Florida, where I also lectured for four years on a diversity of subjects in the psychology department. I'm also certified as a clinical hypnotherapist and have worked with abused children for the Guardian ad Litem program with the State of Florida, as well as with at risk adolescents (substance abuse, anger management, children of alcoholics, abused children, alternative life styles, dysfunctional families, etc.) through the Changing Lives Program with FIU. I have also worked extensively with terminal AIDS and cancer patients in hospice care in Mexico, USA, and Spain, and have been effective in bereavement counseling.

For the past 34 years I've studied a variety of clinical therapies and alternative healing modalities, including advanced psycho-energetic techniques, and I always attempt to maintain my toolbox well stocked with up-to-date information and techniques. I also studied Liberal Arts at the University of Waterloo in Canada, and Sociology & Political Science at the Complutense University in Madrid.

Born in Germany, raised in Canada and Switzerland, I also lived extensively in Mexico, Spain and the USA. I have three wonderful sons that make me so proud that I can hardly contain myself, and two beautiful grandchildren.

Long interested in Jungian analytic psychology, integral psychology, and dream interpretation, I have studied these together with mythology, compared religions, symbolism and related fields since 1969. In my private practice in Mexico, my clinical work in the USA, and my practice here in Marbella, both with individuals and groups, in my work with adults, adolescents and children, I strongly emphasize the holistic or integral (physical, psycho-emotional, and spiritual) human being.

My series of 12 workshops "The Conscious Journey Within” is offered locally and elsewhere by request.

Sign up for my cutting-edge monthly newsletter in English, Spanish or German, or browse through the articles my Advanced Personal Therapy website with well over 100 articles (no cost) about life, love, pain, consciousness, personal transformation and growth, or read more than 1000 posts on my blog Rewiring the Soul about similar subjects. I also have a blog in Spanish (Reconectar con el Alma) and another in German (Deine Seele und Du).